Forever As A Viral Video

by admin on July 27, 2009

Outrageously fun and definitely sets the mood for the ceremony. However, it would be a cold day in Hades before the pastors of my church would ever allow something like this. Something about entering into marriage with solemnity and dignity befitting the committment being made before God, friends and family. I understand and obviously agree with the premise behind the etiquette but dang, sometimes I feel like I’m sucking lemons. Nearly all of my young, single acquaintances in real life thought the video was fun but would not do it for their own wedding ceremonies. For their grand entrance into the reception, however, it was a highly doable dance. I wonder if I can convince one of my daughters to do this at her reception. (shaking my booty out of this post….)

Drats, they disabled embedding of the video. Go see it at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0

{ 25 comments… read them below or add one }

Obi-Wandreas July 27, 2009 at 9:09 am

I saw this the other day. I didn’t find it funny or clever; just stupid. The premise of putting some theatrics into the procession is something I find amusing. Maybe if there had been some real choreography instead of random dancing. Maybe if they had chosen a piece of music with some real drama, or emotion, or melody instead of some monotone electronic dreck. As it was, it was apparent that everyone had a good time. I’m sure a memorable time was had by all, and I wish the couple all the best. Personally, though, I found the whole thing annoying.

Of course, I was also turned off by the horribly borked-up aspect ratio on the upload. That’s one of my major pet peeves, and a sign of real sloppiness.

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Dorrie July 27, 2009 at 10:41 am

I’m 43 – and i don’t see a problem with it. I thought it was sweet, and clearly the minister was fine with it, she was swaying with the music and enjoying this celebration of faith and love. I’d rather church be a joy rather than a lock-step of everyone else’s expectations. Rejoicing in the day that the Lord has made shouldn’t be unexpected at a house of faith – or the very start of a marriage. Yes, it’s ‘expected’ for couples to do that at the reception, so I applaud them doing the unexpected. I don’t see how this made their marriage less sacred – just less solemn. Surely God knows this couple, and understands them far better than we do !

Only critique I could offer was that the ‘falling’ around the altar was a bit much – I’d have edited the song a bit so that their time doing that was shorter. Other than that, kudos to the bride, groom, their attendants and their minister. It’s so rare to see such happiness anywhere these days.

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Merrilee July 27, 2009 at 11:08 am

Wow… just…wow. I sat here with my mouth gaping open the entire time. I actually could see it as a reception entrance, but not in a CHURCH for crying out loud. It’s not a disco dance party, people, it’s a wedding!

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flora July 27, 2009 at 1:55 pm

I’m of mixed feelings. I just hope it’s something everyone agreed on and the bride/groom didn’t presure anyone into doing. As much fun as it is to watch, I don’t know if it’s something I’d want to particapate in and I know my husband nor would my father actually do it. Not to mention the people in the back of the pews much of had a poor view. I think all around it’s something better saved for the reception. But I don’t think it’s bad enough to warrent e-hell.

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Kai July 27, 2009 at 4:18 pm

Merrilee, are you concerned that God would be offended by people DANCING and having FUN at their wedding? Lighten up.

I thought it was awesome and very memorable – but my favourite part was that the groom came back to take the arm of the bride and walk her the last few steps. It was so classy and I love the symbolism of them entering into the marriage TOGETHER, instead of the bride approaching a passive groom. Really beautiful.

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Dani July 27, 2009 at 4:30 pm

For what it’s worth, I’m a young 20-something and I thought it was horribly tacky. The reception is the celebration part of the wedding, so cutting a rug then isn’t inappropriate. But the ceremony? You’re just about to pledge your life to another person. Let’s take it just a LITTLE seriously, please?

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Amber July 27, 2009 at 10:20 pm

One cannot be both serious about a commitment and joyfully celebrating their joining at the same time? Silly, silly denouncers. In a time when people marry as Klingons, wed while SCUBA diving, have Elvis as the officiant, and say their vows before taking the literal plunge from a plane, this display is on the upper side of so-called wedding “stunts.” Also, I think it’s a bit crass to look one’s nose down at a couple and pooh-pooh them for dancing down the aisle when 1.) The guests were happily surprised 2.) The church obviously approved 3.) The wedding party no doubt was willing to go along with it. Aren’t they lucky no such guests were there to dampen their joy?

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Merrilee July 28, 2009 at 3:42 pm

This reply is for Kai and I don’t mean it to become incendiary, but just so you know, this has nothing to do with God being offended. I’m not religious, actually, at all.

No, I just don’t think this behavior was appropriate in a church. I was raised to believe that the church was a place where solemn occasions were held and to dance down the aisles like this would be a sign of disrespect.

I get it, the couple was happy, etc. and the pastor/priest/deacon didn’t have an issue with it, but I still maintain the dance would have been better performed at the reception. I don’t have an issue with the dance itself, but it is not something I would have done in a church.

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Chocobo July 31, 2009 at 11:31 am

I dunno, I don’t think God is so stuffy and as people make Him out to be. Joy is joy!

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Alida August 8, 2009 at 7:59 pm

While I did think it was a bit long, I feel it’s important that even the Bible notes that people should dance, sing and play loud crashing cymbals. Even David danced in his joy. Dance, to me, is as important a part of joy and worship as anything else.

They just looked so happy to be there. I admit, I teared up a little bit!

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Jennifer August 27, 2009 at 1:55 am

First and foremost, I think that this is their wedding and if they want their bridal court as well as themselves to walk the aisle in that “dancing” manner, then so be it. Personally, I wouldn’t do that because I still believe in tradition and upholding some level of respect when you enter the church. They did seem to have fun and enjoyed themselves. It could have been a more organized routine/walk. Also, bad song considering you are walking down to a Chris Brown song.

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Sarah September 28, 2009 at 12:36 am

Just because a person dislikes something doesn’t mean that thing is unmannerly or a breach of etiquette. I personally hate pastel purple and most country music, and think a wedding abundant in either would be hideous and difficult to bear. But rude or disrespectful?

What would be unmannerly and disrespectful would be for me to disparage the choices made by the bride and groom in celebrating their wedding. As long as those choices aren’t hurting anyone or forcing a guest to do something at odds with his own beliefs, where is the harm?

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Kitty November 3, 2009 at 4:03 pm

I loved this and think it’s a fantastic way to get everyone in the mood for a celebration for, after all, this was their wedding. If they and their minister were happy with the arrangement, I certainly have no problems with it. We danced all the time at my old church and no-one found it disrespectful! God is love and joy, so I don’t think dancing in church is any more disrespectful than singing.

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Leah March 4, 2010 at 3:51 pm

My cousin is friends with the couple (they all went to college together) and she said it was very in keeping with their personalities. No harm done, in my opinion. A wedding should be a joyous occasion, and they certainly looked and acted joyful.

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kingshearte April 21, 2010 at 9:20 am

I’m at work, so I can’t actually watch this video right now, but if it’s what I think it is, I’ve seen it, and I loved it. As a lifelong dancer who feels like it’s such a huge part of who I am, I think it’s fantastic. If this is who this couple is, why shouldn’t they celebrate the way they want to? I did think it was a little long, but I saw nothing in that video but smiling faces, and I think that’s great. So many people seem to believe that if you don’t look somber for the whole ceremony, you’re not taking it seriously, and that, I don’t know, all smiles and fun should be reserved for the reception, but I think that’s ridiculous. Yes, getting married is a serious commitment that should not be taken lightly, but it’s still a celebration, and I think it’s fantastic when couples choose to celebrate in a manner that is consistent with who they are and what they want, rather than kowtowing to the traditionalists who seem to be under the impression that if things aren’t done a certain, rigid, “proper” way, they’re being done wrong.

I bet this reception was a blast too.

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livvy April 28, 2010 at 3:26 pm

Make a joyful noise, I say. I haven’t read anything in the Bible to the tune of “thou shalt not progress up the aisle at more than 10 inches/second.”
Pick your own church based on your personal preferences for dignity vs joyful exuberance – but respect that at a wedding, you’re witness to someone else’s preferences, and be respectful. (the same way I would hope everyone would be in witnessing a ceremony totally outside their own cultural experience, etc.)

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Thea May 6, 2010 at 3:34 pm

Obi-wandreas, I’m going to have to disagree with you about this statement:

“Maybe if they had chosen a piece of music with some real drama, or emotion, or melody instead of some monotone electronic dreck”

This song may have been written for a gum commercial and is made to be a catchy pop tune, but I think the lyrics are spot on: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/chrisbrown/forever.html

And I hear a melody, and drama, and real emotion when I hear this song. It might not be your taste in music, but that doesn’t make it dreck.

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Jane May 30, 2010 at 11:17 am

I think a good reminder for this video is this principle:
Not my taste =/= bad etiquette

The part I thought was kind of tacky was the slow motion falling part. It just looked kind of silly to me, but that’s more a critique of the style and falls into the not my taste category.

Someone made a comment about preferring a choreographed dance. I’m pretty sure that one was! You could tell there was at least some planning, because if they’d just told everyone “dance however you want” it would have been much more chaotic than this…there would have been some people who got stage fright and didn’t really dance at all, there would have been some who totally upstaged everyone else. I also noticed that at the end everyone who had just danced down the aisle went back to the back and the entire wedding party danced down together. The fact that they were that together makes me thing that this definitely was choreographed.

Overall, I don’t see anything wrong with this at all. I thought it was a hoot! I even got a little misty at then end when the bride and groom slowed down to walk/dance up to the minister.

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Broomstick88 June 18, 2010 at 10:54 am

this video is on my bookmark list and has been for the past 6 months. i’m planning my own wedding and every time i think about the stress or get hung up on the little details i watch this. it’ makes me so happy to see two people so comfortable with each other and with so many friends there to support them. if my friends, myself and our family had some awesome dance moves hidden away we would consider doing this.

I don’t understand how some people can say this would offend God? Two people joyfully committing to one another in his house. They have so much love and happiness. how could that offend anyone?

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icebag August 28, 2010 at 12:06 am

That was wonderful! Talk about a joyous celebration, I’m in awe. I should be so lucky as to have one of my boys want to show the world his love for his woman in that fashion. Weddings are supposed to be happy, and most time the groom looks like he’d rather be anywhere else, and someone shot the bride’s dog. The nervousness is palpable. Not here. Blessings upon blessings to them, they seem to be a real match made in heaven. Solemnity is way overrated.

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lkb August 28, 2010 at 5:52 am

I had heard about this video for a while but only just now got around to watching it. (Or maybe it’s a different wedding because I think I did see a clip of a similar procession but not the same wedding.) At any rate: I get it that the wedding party, and most especially the bride and groom, are expressing their joy at this happy occasion and yes it is the couple’s choice to celebrate their wedding their way, in a way I was sad they chose this style of dancing to do it. A church is God’s house, a place to worship him and ask His blessings on the marriage. This particular style of dance is not meant to honor God (or even to honor the couple). It’s all about “hey, look at me!” Do you really think any of these people actually gave one thought to God as they did this?
(On another point, it sure looked like the bride’s thong was visible through her gown.)
Okay, I’m a prude but I agree that this would have been better at the reception.
May God continue to bless the couple and their loved ones.

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TheBardess August 28, 2010 at 4:30 pm

Why does everybody seem to think that not dancing like lunatics down the aisle means that the couple are obviously having some super-solemn, super-serious, completely non-joyous wedding? Joy and happiness can be decorous. At my wedding, my husband and I did not flail down the aisle to hip hop music, but I defy anyone to say that our wedding was not joyous. The smile on my husband’s face when he saw me first come down the aisle (to the strains of the Pachelbel Canon- we chose all beautiful baroque pieces for our music) remains etched in my memory to this day as one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen, and I could feel the smile on my own face just as big. The joy and happiness in the church on that day was palpable, in spite of the rain pouring outside, as were the good wishes and love of all our guests. People still tell me how beautiful they thought the ceremony was, and how much fun they had. Our wedding was traditional, decorous- and one of the most deeply joyous events I have ever experienced.

And there was LOTS of dancing at the reception! ;)

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Princesssimmi August 29, 2010 at 8:39 am

Look… I know a lot of people disagree, but… It’s their wedding. We don’t know their lives, personalities or preferences. For all we know, they could own a dance studio or be musicians. They’re showing love and happiness on one of the most important days of their lives. I’m sure that God (whichever you believe in) would be delighted that there is a little more happiness in the world. I know I’m delighted.

Good luck and congratulations to them.

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TheBardess August 29, 2010 at 11:37 am

If people don’t want to have a “traditional” wedding, or want to dance down the aisle, or whatever, fine, more power to them. It’s their day and their ceremony. What I’m objecting to is the attitude on this thread that if you aren’t jumping up and down and dancing in the pews and turning cartwheels down the aisle on your wedding day, you’re somehow having some super-somber, grim affair, with no smiling or laughter and everyone morose and dire and no joy or happiness and the couple more in a state of mourning than gladness. Believe it or not, you CAN have an overwhelmingly, palpably joyful and happy event, full of smiles and laughter and joy, that also has a certain amount of decorum.

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lkb September 1, 2010 at 5:15 am

I realize I came to this discussion way late — it was first posted more than a year ago after all, but I only saw it this past week. It must have struck a nerve and after mulling it over off and on, I think I’ve figured out why.
Again, yes I do get it that this is the bridal couple’s wedding and thus their choice. I get it that they may have had their reasons to do this — a family of dancers perhaps (it took a lot of work and rehearsal to get this down, especially the unison part at the end). I also get it that this was meant to express the joy everyone in the bridal party felt on this day of days.
That’s all very well and good and I wish them all well. However, by doing this, they made the entrance into the church more important and memorable than the reason they entered the church in the first place. I agree with TheBardess, a traditional church wedding is not necessarily (and indeed rarely) somber or solemn — I don’t remember ever having been to one that was. I remember reverently joyous events and a hush coming over the congregation as we witnessed a blissfully happy but reverent couple make vows to each other before God in His house. Isnt that the part that should be remembered?
That’s my take on it. Again, I wish the couple and their loved ones well.

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