This isn’t really an etiquette hell story, but I’m not sure that I replied correctly.
Dear Son (turning 6) is having a birthday party. We sent an evite to all the kids in his class — it’s only 8 kids. One mom asked on the evite (so all can see it), “Please — need gift ideas!”
I would LOVE to put “no gifts please” on invitations, but I know we’re not supposed to do that, so I don’t. I replied (on the evite, so all can see it), “We never open gifts during the party, so it’s certainly not at all necessary! He loves art and Lego, though. But please don’t feel obligated!”
What should I have said? 0321-14
You did fine with what you responded. The guest “pulled” that information from you with a question as opposed to you taking the initiative to push it on them and there is nothing wrong with a little pulling.