Bride Times Two

by admin on August 5, 2009

As a customer service rep in the equivalent of a bridal supermarket, I saw many, many horrifying and hilarious things.  The worst one by far came in my first summer on the job, when a woman walked in looking for something to wear to her daughter’s wedding.  She explained to a consultant that she wanted something “young” and “fresh” and “not matronly”.  Apparently what she meant was that she didn’t want to be outshone by her daughter, THE BRIDE.  After trying on a few of our more classy MOB selections, she found THE dress.  It was floor-length, silk charmeuse, beaded, and sleeveless.  It was also ivory.  And had a train.  That’s right, she had wandered into our “destination wedding” section and chosen A WEDDING GOWN.  Her consultant and our assistant manager desperately tried to talk her out of buying the dress, but after seeing herself in the mirror and parading along our platform in it for twenty minutes, she could not be dissuaded.  She bought a $350 wedding gown to wear to her daughter’s wedding.

 Luckily the story has a somewhat happy ending, because while our staff was not able to keep her from wearing the dress to the wedding, the bride was!  So the mom called back a few days later asking if she could return the dress for a refund.  Generally this is against store policy but our manager was very nice and allowed her to exchange the wedding gown for merchandise of equal or greater value.  This time the bride came in with her, and while she still left with a slightly inappropriate dress (a chiffon ruffled ivory number), at least it was from the special occasion section and not the destination wedding collection.  And it didn’t have a train!    07-28-09

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Alexis August 5, 2009 at 3:50 pm

This makes me think of that ‘Say Yes To the Dress’ show. Amazing the family dynamics you see. This reminds me of the mother who kept saying: Well, it’s not what *I* would wear.’ What is it with women who deliberately compete with the bride? What is it with mothers (or mothers-in-law) who compete with the bride?!?!


rebekah August 10, 2009 at 2:10 pm

i think they’re all just attention hogs, plain and simple.


chatnoir March 19, 2010 at 12:27 am

I don’t remember which wedding show it was, but in one episode a mother wore a bright red slinky silk number to a wedding, despite the whole family begging her not to. I believe the bride even bought her a more appropriate dress but she refused to wear it. She even whispered to the camera that she wanted to pretend she was the bride herself.


catvickie March 26, 2010 at 9:12 am

When my SIL had her first wedding, her aunt wore a floor length WHITE dress with little girly puffed sleeves, and a pink bow with long streamers around the waist. It looked like a flower girl’s dress on a woman in her forties–sooo tacky!!

Wish I’d had a camera. . .


Leah April 14, 2010 at 1:50 pm

I’ve witnessed two incredibly tacky mothers of the groom (two different weddings):
MOG #1 wore a strapless, floor-length, slit-to-there BLACK evening gown to her son’s 11 am wedding.
MOG #2 wore an ivory beaded evening gown to her son’s 11 am wedding.
Both had tried to get approval for their choices from the respective bride and groom, both had been refused, and both wore them anyway… sigh…


alexis April 20, 2010 at 6:02 pm

say NO to the dress!!!


Jude November 21, 2010 at 11:52 pm

When my sister in law got married she wore a white satin gown, and her mother showed up in white satin.
When my 1st brother in law got married his bride wore Ivory lace – and his mother showed up in Ivory lace
When my 2nd brother in law got married his wife wore a pink suit (2nd marriage) and MIL showed up in a pink suit.
When I got married at the courthouse I wore a pink flowered suit, with a pink hat that had been my mothers. MIL never saw the suit but she did see the hat before the wedding, and since this was sort of an elopement she wasn’t invited, but she showed up anyway in a suit that matched my hat.
When 5 years later we repeated our vows in Church she kept trying and trying to find out what color I was going to wear — with the excuse that my 2nd SIL was making a cake and she wanted to know what color to make the flowers. Since my SIL already knew what color to make the cake decorations, my husband told her red.
My gown was burgundy, and you guessed it, MIL shows up in a chinese red gown.


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