I have a question about etiquette at work. I found out Monday that my husband had his position cut in half for the next school year. (We are both teachers). After hearing about this I was frustrated and upset.
I started talking about how upset I was with two coworkers. To be honest, I have no idea what I said in the conversation. I can’t remember if I mentioned the reason his position was cut or how mad I was with his principal.
My question is this: not remembering what I said, should I ask my co-workers if I was out of line, or just ignore it unless something is said to me.
Given we both work in the same, very large district I don’t want this to come back to haunt me or him. I honestly don’t remember what was said, which scares me!!
What should I do? 0430-14
You signed yourself “Troubled” so that appears to be an indication that you intuitively know that what you said to your work peers was probably not wise to have said. I would suggest going back and apologizing to them for the emotional outburst as follows:
“After the conversation we had last week I have realized I was too emotional and dumped a lot of my frustration on you inappropriately. I regret burdening you with the details of a situation you are neither part of the problem nor solution and hope you will accept my apology. ”
Taking back words already spoken is nearly impossible but you can mitigate the damage with a heaping application of humility and regret. Focus on the other person as being the aggrieved party and apologize for having placed them in an awkward position of hearing ugly opinions.