My adult son and his two daughters and myself recently visited with my son’s father, and his third wife (I’m the first wife) at their summer home. We were there for 5 days and enjoyed ourselves immensely and were welcomed and made to feel appreciated. We ate their food, used their linens and used the amenities of their gated community swimming pools. When we left, my son and I each contributed $50.00 to a thank you card saying we appreciated the hospitality, and left the card, with their names clearly written on the envelope in a conspicuous place in their home for them to see after we left.Is it unreasonable for either of us to expect an acknowledgement that they received the card and enclosed money? Of course we don’t expect a thankyou for having thanked them. Surely though, a polite acknowledgement is in order. It leaves us wondering if they got it at all. Maybe the cleaning lady threw it out by mistake? Or many other scenarios go through my mind. What are your thoughts please. 0523-14
My thoughts are that I would not have left a note and money in the hopes of it being discovered by accident. And I probably would not have given cash as a hostess gift since that implies payment for services rendered. Next time bring a gift such as foods local to your area, several bottles of nice wine, or offer to take them to dinner while there, and for heaven’s sake, make sure you help around the house, keep the guest room and bathroom tidy, etc.
If I were you, I would write another glowing, deeply appreciative thank you note and mail it, sans any cash, to your kind hosts. Include the phrase, “I just wanted to thank you again for the lovely week at your summer home. Words cannot express how blessed we were by your exceedingly kind hospitality.”