This past week I was part of the volunteer staff for an annual summer camp for teens that I have been on for three years now. A number of other young adults are on the staff too.
On the last night of the camp, all the staff went out to dinner. As things were winding down and people were beginning to leave, one young woman decides to invite people to her place for drinks. Except, she only invites specific people. She goes around the different conversation groups that had formed, saying to certain people “Hey, come over to my place after”. She does not say anything to me.
Then, she talks about what drinks she had and what they were going to do. I felt a bit awkward and at first I thought, maybe she just skipped me accidentally and will say something when I say goodbye to her, but she doesn’t. When she invited the people around me and not me, I almost said, “Hey, am I invited?”
I later found out that there were about 3 people in that group of around 12 that she did not invite.
Am I right in thinking that what she did was rude? And what would be the best way to handle such a situation in future? 0621-14
There is nothing proactive you can do since it would then appear you were fishing for an invitation. You suck it up, say nothing and then thank your deity of choice that you were saved from forming a substantive association with someone so crass and shallow. Honestly, who would really want to socialize with people like this or the sheeple who accepted her invitation without caring that others were rudely and publicly snubbed? I wouldn’t. You cannot depend on other people to make you happy or feel accepted or to have fun. In life there are these defining moments when you realize the people around you are aliens from the Planet Booron and you would be better off finding different (and normal) people to hang with. Or you realize that he/she who takes the initiative gets to call the shots..meaning the next time you be the one who invites people to go somewhere/do something rather than leaving that to the Boorons to do.