I have a bit of a confusing situation. I have been diagnosed with OCD and it has gone untreated since the diagnosis because we were looking for a doctor who would not just put me on meds and leave it at that. We finally found one and I have begun treatment. That is part of the background and it is important. Now, to the story.
My in-laws are due to move in with us in September. They have no money and their business has failed. They do have three other adult children where they currently live; but they want to move to the state we live in because they love the state. Though we have been planning this for months they have nothing ready to move out here. Nothing. They have not packed, they have not given notice on their leases, nothing. My therapist is highly concerned about my in-laws moving in with us even for a short period of time because I am really in a very bad place. My home is currently my safe place and she is worried such a tremendous disruption would cause me too much anxiety and stress. Is there a polite way to rescind the invitation; and, if not, is there a polite way to enforce my rules (because let’s be honest they are not my husband’s) considering they are long and intrusive?
I really need a polite way to handle everything because my in-laws are the type of people who can get offended easily. 0623-14
Where is your husband and why doesn’t he have your back on this? Is he not in agreement with the doctor that his parents moving into your home would be disruptive to your therapy and recovery? Have you communicated any of this to your husband? This doesn’t appear to be an in-laws problem as much as it is a marriage problem. Your letter went from “we were looking…we finally found…” to “my home…my rules” so something happened in between that changed from a team approach to a singular approach. I think before you can address the issues of your in-laws coming to stay with you, there needs to be some in-depth communication with your husband as to how this will impact your health.