Hello! I never thought I’d have this issue but I believe I have a greedy SIL. She isn’t really my SIL, more my brother’s girlfriend but they’ve been together so long and have a family together we just call her my SIL now.
My issue is as followed: For her birthday neither my sister or I gave her anything for her birthday and she has been bitching about it to my brother who in turn bitched to our mum about it and it’s gotten back to me. She was in another state with my brother when it was her birthday, brother’s birthday occurred at the same time and, of course, we got something for him. When they got back it was my son’s birthday and they arrived with presents for all the family from their trip. We presented my brother with his gift of $30 from my husband and I and my sister gave him the same from her husband and her.
Now apparently her issue is that we didn’t get her anything and everyone in the family had a gift to open but her. Before she came along my brother used to give me and my husband $30 each for our birthdays and now she has come along its $30 from both her and my brother. i think that if she wants something for her birthday then she should give us $30 each as well, after all she isn’t family. So I don’t think she deserves anything for her birthday unless she is willing to give us the $30 she owes us for our birthdays otherwise she has no right to bitch. Am I right in thinking she is just being greedy?
She often talks of this website so I’m hoping she sees this. 0813-14
She’s your brother’s common law wife and therefore your common law sister-in-law which you recognize by referring to her as “sister-in-law”. You have little nieces or nephews by her and your brother. The only thing not making her a member of your family is a marriage license and your pathetically petty little heart.
She OWES you and your sister a birthday gift? Newsflash OP…..no one owes you anything for your birthday. I can’t believe you actually used the word “deserves” to describe an obligation to give a birthday gift. And I’m giving your SIL a pass because 1) the family custom is for family member and spouse (you, your sister and your husbands) to give a combined monetary gift of $30 from each couple and your SIL was simply following family custom when you received $30 from your brother and SIL on your birthdays; and 2) your SIL and brother showed up with presents for everyone which tells me they invested some time on their trip thinking of each family member and buying a gift. You insult their kindness with a petty demand for an extra $30 on your birthday and a miserly heart about giving.
And the worst part of this is that family unity and harmony have been sacrificed on the altar of money….a mere $30.00. Is the bitterness, animosity, hard feelings, estrangement from your brother, divisiveness, family drama all worth$30.00?