Your Verdict On Chris Brown’s Apology?

by admin on August 10, 2009

I found this link to singer Chris Brown’s apology for his abusive assault on his girlfriend, singer Rhihanna, last February. 

http://www.tmz.com/videos?autoplay=true&mediaKey=44b397df-cddb-48b7-970a-f1271464115c

What I found interesting was the reaction to this publicized video apology.   Women, in particular, were scathingly skeptical and rejected it.  I found that intriquing since nothing popped up as a red flag despite my watching it three times.   Brown takes ownership of his actions, he does not diminish the severity of what he did, he does not blameshift to Rhihanna as somehow culpable for creating the situation to which he wrongfully responded and he lists a series of actions he is taking to prevent any future occurences.  So, what is wrong with this apology?

Could it be that women won’t forgive an abusive man no matter how low he grovels in apology? While habitual abusers are notorious for giving that “new world speech” promising all kinds of vaccuous changes,  I don’t have any evidence at this point that Chris Brown is a habitual abuser with a pattern of issuing forth with empty apologies and broken promises of repentance and reform.    So, I’m much more inclined to believe and accept his apology at face value. This time.

But woe to you, Chris Brown,  if you ever haul off and assault another human being in anger again.  No one will believe a word you say.

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Amber August 10, 2009 at 11:57 am

I think it is a combination of Brown’s flippant remarks on the incident said before the video was posted — for instance, showing up at an event with a large, expensive chain around his neck that said “oops” — the sameness of perfectly groomed celebrity apologies, and the nature of where the apology was posted that added to the incredulity of the comments. I guess many people don’t expect a sincere apology to be posted in the same venue as funny cat videos.

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whylime13 August 10, 2009 at 11:07 pm

I think what I most dislike about the apology is that he doesnt really say what he is apologizing for. By saying ‘the incident’ or being very vague I think he is downplaying the reality of what happened.

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Raluca August 11, 2009 at 12:00 am

As ba sociology student, I had the chance to study a bit also about family violence- and it appears that RARELY such apologies can be trusted.

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Alexis August 11, 2009 at 1:01 pm

That’s my issue too. His unscripted remarks were a lot more honest. Essentially, he doesn’t really think it’s his fault. His handlers knew he at least had to pretend that he does, and that’s what that scripted video is about. He doesn’t what he did was wrong, he just wants the public to think he does. Women are right not to trust a groveling abuser. They all turn out to be liars without any intentions of changing.

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HonorH August 16, 2009 at 7:49 pm

Problem is, we don’t really know the history here. There are reports that he’d abused Rihanna before, but only got “caught” this time. Who knows how often he’s promised her it would never happen again? Not to mention that most women will very sensibly believe that someone who’d beat a woman once will beat her again. So call me skeptical, too. No, I don’t know that he abused her before, but it would not surprise me. Not at all.

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Cyndi August 16, 2009 at 8:18 pm

That apology is no more real than my dyed purple hair. He just wants to look good so people keep buying his merchandise.

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Alexis September 9, 2009 at 12:48 pm

Here’s a couple of very recent articles on it:

http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1620772/20090903/brown__chris__18_.jhtml

http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1620754/20090903/brown__chris__18_.jhtml

http://www.eurweb.com/story/eur55892.cfm

Essentially, he thinks HE’S the victim, at least based upon what he said about Oprah’s comments about the incident. He also mischaractarizes this as an ‘anger problem’. His problem isn’t anger, his problem is using violence as a means of controlling one person-Rihanna. ‘Anger problems” would be an issue across the board, with everyone he knows. This is specific to one person. He doesn’t talk as if he’s remorseful about what he did, only that the incident became public and he wound up in legal trouble because of it.

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MrsAdorkable March 26, 2010 at 11:02 pm

I am inclined to think that in any situation, especially this one, actions speak louder then words. The fact that he is a celebrity should make it clear that someone would almost undoubtedly have written his apology for him. Since it has been some time now since the apology, his actions have made it clear that he feels no real remorse for what he did.

I never liked him in the first place, but I really just can’t stand a single thing about him now.

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Enna November 16, 2010 at 1:13 pm

I remember reading an agony aunt letter once: it was in the Sunday Telegraph’s Stella Magazine and there is a mother and daugther agony aunt pair where both make suggetions for the writer’s problems. One problem was sent in by a reader who I presume was a teenager as she was living at home with her parents and sibling.

Basically the Dad would loose his temper and the Mum, Writer an=p

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Enna November 16, 2010 at 1:19 pm

For some reason my computer is really playing up: sorry if my post appears in a garbled messy way!

In the Sunday Telegraph’s Stella Magazine there is a mum and dauthgter agony aunt page. One of the problems was about domestic violence. The solution for the teenager who wrote in was to go to teachers for help if the mother was too scared too. They also said that if the father was sorry and remorseful after loosing his temper then go the anger management route, if not then they need to get out quick.

If Chris Brown showed true remourse for his actions, served his time for his actions and got help so he reformed and NEVER did it again then possibly he could be forgiven. However as its been said before men who abuse women and women who abuse men often lie.

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