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Feel Good Friday – What is stopping you from achieving your goals

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  • Angel January 30, 2015, 9:17 am

    This man is amazing! And I must say he drives a lot better than most people I know with both hands. Thanks for this inspirational video.

  • Lady Anne January 30, 2015, 9:36 am

    What an inspiration this man is! We just don’t appreciate how fortunate we are if all we have is asthma or allergies or a broken arm what have you. (And kudos to the Hendricks Company for giving him the chance to prove himself.)

  • Andi January 30, 2015, 10:27 am

    Amazing. Attitude is everything. His and his parents.

  • Dee January 30, 2015, 1:28 pm

    This man is amazing and so are the people in his life. They decided to give him what he needed to do for himself, and no more. He could easily have been handicapped by parents who did everything for him, but instead they stepped back and allowed him to develop his own skills, despite what I’m sure were a lot of misgivings and fears. Kudos to all in this story.

  • yokozbornak January 30, 2015, 2:49 pm

    Both he and his parents have amazing attitudes. Thanks for sharing this!

  • EchoGirl January 30, 2015, 10:57 pm

    Sorry, but I have to disagree with the majority here. This video falls pretty squarely into the category of what many people with disabilities call “inspiration porn”; basically, reducing the lives of people with disabilities to inspirations for abled people. It comes off as patronizing (that poor disabled person, if they can do it, those of us who don’t have these hoooooooooooorible conditions can too!) and it reinforces the idea that people with disabilities are only valuable for their impact on abled people. Check out this link for more: http://www.xojane.com/issues/disabled-people-are-not-your-inspiration

    (Before anyone asks or comments, yes, I do know what it’s like to have a disability — I was born with one. If my life were reduced to a meme or my completion of one task that abled people do every day, I’d be pretty upset.)

    • admin January 31, 2015, 5:33 am

      I jusst knew someone would bring up the “inspiration porn” perspective.

      Well, EchoGirl, if you don’t want to be viewed as an inspiration, one would presume you would not allow yourself to be the subject of a video or blog post or any other media medium. But obviously the guy and his family agreed to do the video and having done so does not make him an inspiration porn star. It’s rather insulting you would even imply that his involvement in the creation of the video is degrading.

      The author of the article you linked to is pictured shoveling out a septic tank….not something I can do which tells me she may not be as disabled as she thinks she is. And Iread the comments to her article and clearly there is no consensus that agrees with her completely, indicating to me that not all disabled people have the same perspective as she does.

      One particular comment stood out and reflects exactly how I feel:

      “Wait, are you saing it’s wrong for me to think that not having my legs would be truly terrible? Because honestly, imagining an accident resulting in the loss of my legs is unsettling and scary. I don’t know how I’d survive that, I don’t know how I’d continue doing the things I love, I don’t know how I’d learn to be happy again. The fact that people DO lose their limbs, for example, and they DO go on to be happy again — and not just happy, successful and accomplished — is, frankly, reassuring to me. It’s reassuring because it inspires me and makes me believe in my own deep-down fortitude, whether it really exists or not.” Rionator

      Considering that I myself own 2 canes, a walker and a wheelchair that I need to use on occasion depending on how things are going (and right now, due to PT, I’m not needing any of them), I will not feel guilty for being inspired by others to believe I will be happy, successful and accomplished if I end up permanently disabled.

      • Sarah January 31, 2015, 2:01 pm

        I can see both sides – yes it is an inspiration when people overcome disabilities, but if someone with a disability says that it is “inspiration porn” then we have to accept that that is how they feel. I am not talking about EchoGirl because my opinion dates from the day I read an article to which I have lost the link – in which the woman talks about being told how inspiring, brilliant etc she is when all she wishes to do is live her life doing what she can do as well as she can do it, For me “inspiration porn” is combined with some kind of “how awful to be them” and I agree that that is not necessarily the message of a film like the one above.

        • EchoGirl January 31, 2015, 4:34 pm

          The “overcoming” disability thing is a problem too — it suggests that everything good a person with a disability does is *in spite of* their disability. It’s a little different for people who started life abled and developed a disability later in life (from accident or disease or because some conditions, including most mental illnesses, don’t manifest right away) but people who are born with disabilities or develop them very early in life learn to navigate the world with the body they have, so what looks like “overcoming” a disability is the equivalent of humans stacking coffee cups on top of each other because we don’t have three hands. It’s just more noticeable because it’s different. Also, some people with disabilities, especially mental or neurological disabilities like I have, find unusual strengths within themselves that they often consider a part of the disability. I’m not good at the things I do because I force my brain to work “normally”; I found the places where I am abnormally strong and then developed those. I work *with* my disability to accomplish the things I have, not against it.

  • NostalgicGal January 31, 2015, 1:20 am

    (deleted) good story. Hat off!

  • Callalilly January 31, 2015, 4:21 am

    Thank God he has the parents he has, and that he was born with the attitude he has.