I have been in a long-distance relationship for several years, both of us in separate countries. We both have careers and children from previous marriages, so we only see each other a few times a year. As such, we do a lot of celebrating “holidays” at random times throughout the year, which suits us perfectly well. Our next visit is in the late spring, and we decided to celebrate Valentine’s Day and our birthdays together then, though several months late.
Today at work, I got a call from the front desk that I had a delivery. I was expecting a work-related sample to come via post, and went to grab it. Much to my surprise, it was not catheters, but a large, beautiful flower arrangement from the boyfriend. They were entirely unexpected, but I was thrilled.
As I was walking back to my desk with the flowers, I passed by the kitchen, where two women were exiting. Though we are a relatively small company, our two departments have almost no interaction, and I don’t know them much more than to say hello if we pass in the hallway.
One of the women asked to see the flowers. “Oh, they’re so beautiful,” she said, and before I could thank her, she continued. “I saw them delivered and I came right up because I was positive they were from my husband. Aren’t you lucky?”
Before I could answer, she continued, how OF COURSE she was being silly because her husband knows what REALLY MATTERS and she’d SO MUCH RATHER that they spend their money having a REALLY GOOD TIME at a nice restaurant than something that will just DIE IN TWO DAYS and SHE HOPED that my significant other hadn’t spent ALL HIS MONEY just on that because flowers aren’t REALLY A PRESENT by themselves.
At that point, I cut her off with something like, “Well, I like them very much”, and edged past her. Really, I don’t know this woman at all, and it is my place of work so I wanted to avoid any unnecessary drama at the time, but I feel like I could have handled it better. Any suggestions? 0213-15
This is beginning to look like “Suffer Fools Gladly” Week on Ehell. This is a case of overactive blather mouth. Your co-worker would have been fine had she left it at “They are so beautiful” but noooo, she keeps right on blathering revealing her own expectation that they were from her husband but realizes they were not so she keeps blathering to save face. I think she was more uncomfortable than you were. I would ignore her foolish blather and relish the extravagant gift from your boyfriend by displaying it prominently in your office.