Call me crazy, but I always thought birthdays of children should be about the parents and a few close relatives relishing a few gifts (if they choose to!), some cards and some cake.
Well, figure me shocked when I saw this come up on my Facebook feed from a woman I know this morning:
“Well im done giving a s**t about anybody in this world! The only person in this world to make an effort and send something to our daughter for her birthday was her uncle [blank] & he is locked up in prison! We appreciate it and she certainly loves it! As for everyone else thats ever been apart of [blank]’s life feel free to hit the unfriend button!”
Since when did it become OK to openly be such a gimme pig on Facebook about your child’s birthday (with blackmail about unfriending and exclusion included)? It’s pretty rich to assume that her 200 friends and acquaintances (most who have never even met her daughter) will be sending gifts. I myself do not even know of the date of her daughter’s birthday and she did not post anything about it, otherwise I probably would have wished her a happy birthday on the post.
For some background, this woman is famed for gimme pig behaviour (threatening to sue competition runners because her daughter didn’t win, openly embroiled in a spat on Facebook with a cleaner who she didn’t pay, moaning about how she never has money constantly but wants to take her child to this and that and sitting back and waiting for someone to offer to her).
I would love some advice on what I could say to this woman about her gimme pig behaviour before I do unfriend her. I am choosing not to be a part of her gimme lifestyle any longer, but I feel it needs to be pointed out to her why I feel that way. 0212-15
I had a similar situation last year. I reconnected on Facebook with a person I had known from early childhood but had lost contact after we went to college. She posted a similar guilt manipulative rant that no one had acknowledged her eldest son’s graduation or wished her a “Happy Birthday”. Friends rushed in to remedy this deficit in her life, not realizing that by doing so they were enablers of future such rants. I quietly unfriended her from Facebook.
What is the point of saying anything to this person other than to get a load off your chest? She won’t listen to you and you will have started a conflict you cannot end well. Better to just quietly ease her completely out of your life.