I have a friend who, many years ago, moved across the country. We were out of touch for a while but now remain in sort of contact through Facebook. We’ll message each other, the rare phone call here and there, etc., messages of support, “remember when” calls/messages. That type of thing. I saw that she had set up a funding plan for a used truck. Good for her but I didn’t click on anything. Late last night I got a personal message asking if I could help. I was taken aback. I didn’t like someone pressuring me to send money for a truck. This morning, I went back, clicked on the”story” and read more about it. I felt that her story had merit, so I donated a small amount. Am I wrong to still resent the pressure tactic? After all, it prompted me to check her story further and it seemed a worthy enough cause. I also have no problem with people making an appeal via Facebook at large. 0215-15
It’s begging regardless of how it is packaged. It’s one thing when friends take the initiative to combine their resources to financially assist another friend in trouble. It’s entirely another thing when someone goes begging from friend to friend to acquire material assets or money they should be working for themselves. The question that comes to mind is, have I been befriended for the worth of my character and friendship or the worth of my bank account ? It’s hard to ascertain which is which when a begging hand is extended in your direction. If you did not donate, would that end the relationship or seriously restrain it? (In many cases, yes, it will.)
Just prepare yourself because I very much doubt this will be the last time your friend hits you up for money.