I recently read one of the best articles of what not to say to those grieving the loss of a loved one that I’ve read in a long time but because it is copyrighted, I cannot reproduce it in its entirety here.
The premise of the author, Nancy Guthrie, is that asking the question, “How are you?”, while good intentioned, is not a question grieving people like to hear. It’s as if those asking want a progress report on your grief, to see if you are getting better. But as Guthrie’s husband points out, “In the midst of my own pain and confusion, I suddenly also felt responsible to others to give an account for my progress. As the words of my reply came measured through my lips, I wondered if my report would be acceptable.”
So as you interact with someone going through the lonely adjustment of grief, Nancy Guthrie offers a half dozen other questions you should you ask in place of “How are you?”
Well worth reading HERE.