I have a story about a guest who just couldn’t sort out his obligations. We’ll call him “Jim.”
It was the day of the grand opening of a new Chinese restaurant just down the street from where I live, and my husband and I were excited to check it out. We called up Jim a week prior and asked if he wanted to come. I knew Jim was having a bit of trouble financially and had been complaining about being sick and tired of eating nothing but Mac and Cheese, so I figured that taking him out to a Chinese restaurant would be a nice change of pace for him. I even made it explicitly clear that we would be paying for his dinner (even though he doesn’t seem to be able to return the same favor to us, but that’s a story for another time). The plan was he’d come over, we’d go have dinner at the restaurant, and then come back home to hang out, watch a movie, and play cards.
I called him up the day he was to come over, and he said he’d be over right after work. Jim gets off work at 5pm, so we were expecting him at around 5:30pm. At 6, there’s no sign of Jim. We call him, since normally he’s very prompt, and he replies “Oh, something came up and I’m running a little late. I’ll be there at 7.” He refused to tell us exactly what was keeping him, however, which I found odd.
So we continue to wait, and we’re starting to get hungry. At 7:15, there’s still no sign of Jim. So we call him again. This time he tells us “Sorry guys, I can’t make it, I’m moving today and am still packing things up.”
What? MOVING? Yes, he was moving into a new apartment that day after work, and instead of telling us that he couldn’t make it, he acted like he was still going to be able to come over. He’d known when he was moving for several days (it wasn’t something that just “came up”), and never once thought call us and try and reschedule our dinner. He never once said, “Sorry, I forgot when we made plans that I was moving today and I can’t make it tonight.” No, he acted like he was still coming over, and he made us wait for two hours before he cancelled. I was baffled!
And the icing on the cake? The next day, he calls us and asks if we can bring our truck to help him move his couch! Even if my husband and I weren’t both at work that day, we were too upset with him at that time to help him move anything. 1101-08
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