My wedding is in three months time, and while this is my fiancee’s first trip down the aisle, it is my second, and therefore I am not having a traditional wedding gown. After many hours looking at pictures and patterns on the internet, I decided on a cocktail outfit of a soft gold straight dress with a tailored coat in a beautiful teal blue/green with embroidery in several shades of gold, bronze and deep teal green. Rather than a veil, I planned to wear a small fascinator with stripped feathers with just the tips left on. The whole outfit will look classy, simple and elegant.
As my mother is elderly and I have no sisters, and MOL passed away before I met my beloved, the planning is left to me which gives me freedom to have exactly what I want.
Just as I was congratulating myself on how smoothly the plans were going, my SIL, who even my fiance acknowledges is “strange”, rang me to say that she had bought my Christmas present, and it was something for me to wear on my wedding day, and it was just beautiful, she hoped I’d like it etc etc.! This is not a person who takes no for an answer. Needless to say, I was upset and waited with baited breath for Christmas day to see what she had bought.
Christmas lunch rolls around with the in-laws and the present opening starts. Yep, you guessed it, she bought me a tiara! According to SIL it’s real 22 carat gold, with real pearls and garnets and cost a lot of money. Actually it turned out to be dull gold spray paint on copper, in a vine leaf style with three big fake pearls and maroon glass beads stuck to it. You can even see the glue where the beads are stuck on! It’s not even possible to attach it using bobby pins due to the vine leaf style. To attach it to my head, a veil has to be sewn to the vines with a comb attached.
Needless to say I choked back tears and anger for the rest of the day. I will not be wearing the horrid thing on my wedding day, even though I know my SIL will never forgive me and will hold the grudge for the rest of our lives. What possessed her to even think that she had the right to choose what I would wear on my head for my wedding, without even asking? And why did SIL 2, who hates it, the tiara idea, and told my fiance that she wasn’t involved in any way, not tell her sister that it might not be appropriate? Looks like there will be at least one scene on our wedding day when SIL sees that I’m NOT wearing her present!. 1228-08
It’s been a few years since this story was submitted but personally I would have worn the tiara at the rehearsal and any bachelorette parties and made sure it became a family icon to be used for all future weddings, including sister-in-law’s.