My husband works at a small nonprofit. One of his colleagues recently lost his mother to an illness she’d been battling for about a year. Of course he was devastated, and all of his co-workers, including the organization’s director, gave him the time and space he needed to deal both with practical matters and the early stages of grief.
Yesterday, at the weekly staff meeting, he announced that as a thank-you to all of his co-workers, who had been so supportive, he had organized a wine-tasting for everybody at 4:30 that afternoon in the conference room. This was news to everyone, including the director. The short notice was just sort of accepted by everyone since he was just trying to be nice, and he’s still grieving.
My husband had a lot of work to do, so he privately told the co-worker that he probably wouldn’t be able to come, but appreciated the gesture and hoped everyone would have fun. (He’s not much of a drinker anyway). At 5:00, he’s ready to leave and pops his head in the conference room where the wine-tasting is – to find that it’s not so much a wine-tasting as a wine-selling party. You know, like Tupperware parties? Co-worker had invited his friend with this wine-selling business to come and shill his wares as a “thank you” to his co-workers.
My husband was shocked but didn’t say anything, just a cheery “see you tomorrow!” and then came home and told me about it. I don’t think any of the co-workers are going to say anything about the unbelievable rudeness, but I’m pretty sure the director is planning to have some words with him about having a wine-selling party in a non-profit’s conference room on work time. 0226-16