I have a question for you and my fellow readers, please.
I’ve recently started working for a cemetery as an arrangement coordinator and, odd as it sounds, the job is incredible. Most of the people I meet with are making arrangements for elderly parents and grandparents and, while very sad, it’s an honour to be able to help them.
In most cases, the funeral home looks after the service and I handle everything specifically related to the actual cemetery (reserving and preparing the space, arranging for a grave marker, and supervising the burial/entombment). Sometimes however, families don’t want a service and, when someone has been cremated without a service, it’s my job to place the deceased’s ashes in their space before the grounds crew closes it.
So that’s the background/context for my situation.
Next week I have to handle my first infant burial. The parents are completely lost and don’t speak English so they’ve been relying on friends to translate. These parents hand picked their space and have put so much love and thought into the process and my heart just hurts for them. They’ve opted for cremation without a service and they want to place some toys in the grave with the little urn.
I want so badly to do something for them on top of just doing my job well. The table that the urn is placed on before it’s buried is a boring, white plastic. Would it be out of line for me to make a small baby blanket to either cover the table or line the grave with? I don’t want to make a big production but I want to do something special. Would this be seen as hijacking their grief or being intrusive? They’ve asked for my input on their marker so I think it might be ok but I absolutely do not want to overstep here. Any advice or other ideas anyone has would be greatly appreciated. 0511-16