We just got home from a week long vacation and I wanted to get this story down while it was still fresh.
My husband, daughter and I spent a week with his best friend and his family. In total, there were four adults, two girls just under two years old, and a newborn. We’ll call the other couple John and Hillary, and their daughters, Katie and Lily. We were staying at a condo that belongs to someone John and Hillary know. It was a fun, but exhausting, trip and I’m glad to be back in my own home with just my child to look after. The kids got along with minimal toddler fights, which was nice.
My problem is with how they looked after Katie. Every time she was given something to eat, she was essentially unattended. This resulted in food being left practically everywhere. Half eaten doughnuts, cookies left on the floor, silverware in random places, crackers thrown from the bag, you name it, she probably dropped it somewhere and just left it. This in itself was irritating me because of how wasteful it was and all the crumbs everywhere. I don’t let my own daughter wander around with food because who knows where she’ll leave it, and especially not when we’re not in our own home. However, John and Hillary just let Katie do her thing with no regard to the mess she was creating. I spent a good portion of the week cleaning up after her because seeing cookies ground up on the rug was driving me crazy. My own daughter was even picking food up and bringing it to me or my husband to throw away. I made a few attempts to comment about it and say things like, “Hey Katie, let’s not throw food on the floor, please,” or, “Is she going to eat this?” to casually point out the mess. They didn’t get the hint. I swept the floors a few times and kept tidying up toys and kitchen supplies because I wanted to make at least a small effort to keep the place clean. It made it easier to keep track of belongings so something didn’t get lost. I watched Katie’s dinner plate the last night to see how long it would take to be cleaned up. Three hours later, I took care of it myself. I am by no means a neat freak, my daughter is also a toddler and makes plenty of her own messes. I just feel like maybe our friends should have shown at least a smidgen of concern for the tornado that is their daughter. (Though the number of times I threw out THEIR random trash is also alarming.) I’m well aware they have a newborn to also take care of now, but these habits don’t happen overnight.
Am I wrong to be annoyed and frustrated at this? Should I have just said, “Hey, your kid keeps leaving food on the floor and that’s gross”? I feel like when you’re staying outside of your own home, you should make an extra effort to be tidy, even if a housekeeper will be coming in behind you. 0918-16