Hello Ms. Jeanne,
Today’s gimme pig story got me thinking about something that popped up on my Facebook feed last week. My husband and I know a couple who has been struggling to conceive a child for several years. They decided about 3 years ago that they would most likely adopt. I guess they decided the time is right, because just last week the wife of the couple posted on Facebook about how they’re ready to adopt with a link to a donation page to help them raise the $28,000 it will cost them to adopt a baby.
What are your thoughts on this?
Personally, it rubs me the wrong way, because not only have they had several years to save up this money, but they also are asking us to pay for their choice to have a child. Expectant mothers who are having a rough financial time don’t go around asking friends and family to pay their delivery bills for their birth. Additionally, she has posted the same link several times since then. Not many people have donated, and they have collected only a few hundred dollars. Seems like other people agree with me.
Of course, it would be terribly rude to say anything, but I sure do hope that they get the hint when they realize that they don’t have anywhere near enough donations to proceed without saving money themselves. 1014-16
It’s a crying shame that adoption costs so much money. Children desperately in need of a family should not have such a high price tag. That said, kids are expensive regardless of how they arrive in the family. My last c-section was 28 years ago and cost $8,000 and I’m sure it’s even more expensive now. While insurance did cover a lot of the expense, there was still a sizeable co-pay required from us. We did not go fundraising among friends and family to pay the delivery bills.
Anything worth having is worth working hard to get. Often gratification is delayed because the necessary means are not available to achieve what we want so time is invested to work towards that goal. The desired thing is all the more precious and sweeter when it comes about as the result of sacrifice and hard work.