I have been friends with Amy for 5 years now. We met in college and she lived nearby my house. She has now moved to another town 2 hours away. We are still very close and see each other often. She has not finished graduate school so she has to come once a week in town. I gracefully invited her to my house once a week because I have a guest bedroom and own my house. She accepted and went on and on about how she would pay me back in buying a bit of groceries or bringing me baked goods because she would be eating three meals at my home. Each week, I would make her dinner, breakfast and give her a homemade lunch, so the cost of having her over is not anything.
The weeks went on and she never brought anything. I understand that money may be tight for her and that all of that traveling every week is costing her money. However, she is always going to restaurants and is planning several international trips for the next few years.
I’m not asking for a lot but a hostess gift at the beginning would have been nice and well as a few baked goods once or twice.
Come Christmas, she had me believe that I would have a bigger gift than my other friends because of my generosity. However, it was maybe worth $5 more than my other friends’ gift.
How do I bring it up without seeming greedy? We are in our twenties, and money doesn’t grow on trees for either of us. However, I am more frugal than her, rarely go out, and am watching my spending carefully so travel is out of the equation. I don’t want money retroactively but her treating me to lunch would be more than enough.
Thank you in advance for your input. 0109-17