This week’s theme of moocher week, and some of the comments, had me wanting to get opinions on a situation I was just in. I don’t honestly think I was a moocher, but maybe I was.
Backstory. I am good friends with a lady I will call Sara. Sara and I have sons around the same age, who are also good friends. As Sara does not have family in the area, and doesn’t trust baby sitters, I often watch her son for her. This does not go both ways, as I am lucky enough to have two sets of eager grandparents nearby. This past summer I also picked up her son along with my son from camp every day, and watched him for a few hours until Sara got off work. I did not receive payment or any show of appreciation other then verbal thanks for this, and I was okay with that.
But a couple months ago, on a Saturday, Sara called me and told me that her husband and she had a project they needed to work on, and could my son come over to play with their son and keep him occupied as they would be housebound all day. As we had no plans, I said sure and brought him over. Then, a few hours later, I received a text from Sara saying that they had decided they needed a break and were out to lunch. They wanted to know if they could take my son miniature golfing after. I said if they didn’t mind having him for longer that would be great, and thank you so much!
When Sara dropped my son off after she informed me that I owed her $30 for the outing. I was totally taken by surprise. She had invited my son to her house for the day, then taken him to lunch without asking/telling me till after the fact. She had asked about the miniature golf, but since I have never charged her for things I have done for/with her son when he is with me, I just assumed she was covering my son the same wrong. But you know what they say about assuming. 🙂
I admit I am soured against my friend after this experience, as I can’t believe that after all I have done for her and her son she can’t treat my son to one outing. I have also come up with excuses on the few occasions she has asked to have my son since then, as I don’t want to be hit by a surprise invoice if she decides to change plans while having him.
Am I wrong? Was I actually trying to mooch off my friend? Or was my son an invited guest? If I had asked her to take my son that day, versus her asking for him, I definitely would have offered money.
Thanks EHellions! 0111-17
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