Thought I would post this and see what others think.
Last weekend I went to my Uncle Jack and Aunt Linda’s house for my cousin’s 18th birthday party. There was a load of grilled food, we had cake, everything was fun. My parents and I were the last ones to leave, even birthday boy having driven off with a girl I strongly suspect is his girlfriend. On our way out everyone was chatting and inevitably we wound up lingering. Everyone went through several subjects, commiserating about issues with elderly parents and such, and Uncle Jack and Aunt Linda unloaded about another irritating issue they were having.
Uncle Jack’s two sibling are Aunt Tilda and Aunt Mandy, who had also attended the party. Aunt Tilda’s son is in the military and living out of state, though he and his family will be visiting in a few weeks for the holidays. His child, Aunt Tilda’s 2nd grandchild, just had her 1st birthday a few weeks ago as of the party. So Aunt Tilda decides she wants to have a birthday party for that baby granddaughter.
Everything’s cool. Then she decides when the party will be, which is on the Sunday that Uncle Jack’s youngest, little Stan, is turning 7. Uncle Jack and Aunt Linda had already planned to celebrate it that day as it so conveniently fell on a weekend. Now I’m a little fuzzy on when the drama happened (at this point or after the events of the next paragraph), but Aunt Tilda was absolutely adamant that that is THE ONLY DAY that the party can be. And it’s not like the son and grandchild will only be there for that weekend or anything. My understanding is that they will be here for at least a couple of weeks and Aunt Tilda has never come up with any reason for why that day is the only option.
Well, Uncle Jack and Aunt Linda are still cool about things and basically say, “Sure. We can do a double party. It’ll be great.” (My own note here, barring maybe two or three friends from little Stan’s Preschool, the guest lists would be identical anyway.) OH NO, her grandchild cannot possibly share her birthday party. How could Jack and Linda suggest that the 1 year old SHARE!!! Apparently she threw a whole fit and forbid them to merge the parties. I believe she straight told them he couldn’t have his birthday party that day.
Now let’s be honest. 1st birthday parties are for the parents/grandparents. The baby neither understands the concept of a birthday nor cares if it is celebrated. And by the date of said party the kid will be about 14-15 months anyway. Whereas the 7 year old very much knows when his birthday is and cares about the celebration. As my Aunt Linda said, his feeling ARE going to be hurt that he can’t have a party (or must have a delayed party) because the 1 year old can’t share. Never mind that he’s expected AT said party. They could do it the Saturday before, but they don’t want to make Aunt Mandy, who lives several hours away, make the drive two days in a row. Not that they would force her, but she would feel obligated to do so no matter how many assurances were given.
So the way that Uncle Jack and Aunt Linda are dealing with it is this. Aunt Tilda has dictated that the baby’s party will be that Sunday at 2pm. Little Stan’s party will be earlier that day at 10am, after which they’ll go to the baby’s. And Aunt Tilda can just stew about her grandchild not having the whole day.
To give a little context, Aunt Tilda is kinda immature. Stunts like this aren’t out of character, nor is pouting to get her way. And she’s already showed a strong tendency to spoil grandchildren at the birthday party with her oldest grandchild (her daughter’s child). Got front row seats to the four year old having a melt down because he couldn’t take Little Stan’s dinosaur toy, that he was nicely sharing with him, home while Aunt Tilda is promising that she’ll run and buy him one. (Kid wasn’t absolutely horrible for the whole party, but was definitely very whiney and would not listen to adults). And at the birthday party she was asking Uncle Jack and Aunt Linda if she could have their tables for the baby’s party-that-is-displacing-their-son’s (Doesn’t yet know about the earlier party).
Personally, I’m with Uncle Jack and Aunt Linda. But I though I would see what the rest of EHell thought about the situation. 1102-16
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