We have family friends living about 200 miles away, and with small children in the mix, we don’t see them often. We missed them at Christmas, so we all agreed in January that they’d visit us for the Easter break.
My mental health has deteriorated since then. I am prone to bouts of depression, but it’s not something I talk about. Our friends certainly don’t know about it, and I don’t want to share.
Upshot is, I don’t think I can cope with this family visiting us at Easter. My DH thinks I should press on, it would do me good to see friends. I’m not sure and its making me worse. I just don’t know how to take back an invitation – any advice on that? 0324-17
Life doesn’t always go according to plan and things pop up that can change the calendar. If you were to get the flu days prior to the friends’ visit or your husband was diagnosed with cancer, all plans for hosting visiting guests would change by necessity.
You can retract the offer of hospitality by saying, “I’m so sorry but an unforeseen health issue will make it difficult for us to host you at this time. We really want to see you, maybe Memorial Day instead?” I will caution you to retract invitations with careful consideration because you cannot do this twice in a row without arousing suspicions that you and your husband may be manufacturing reasons why you back out of getting together with old friends.