I was wondering if you and your readers could offer your opinions for me. I was perusing a wedding site, and there was an article about “What to do if someone dies on your wedding day”. Essentially, the poster’s grandma had passed the morning of her wedding, and the FOB called her to tell her. She now says that she wished she’d been told the next day, or lied to about what happened.
What would be the etiquette on this? I feel as though you should be told, but that is just me? 0318-17
In this age of social media, the bride would have known about her grandmother’s death by reading about it from friend’s and family’s Facebook post or tweet. Far better and more appropriate to learn of the news from her father early in the day.
A similar situation happened in my family many years ago. The son of longtime family friends was getting married. A week before the wedding, on a Saturday, the groom’s father had a fatal heart attack. It was shocking and unexpected. There were discussions as to whether to postpone the wedding but the decision was made to continue with the plans. It was a large wedding and many guests were traveling from out of state to attend, all deposits had been made and were not refundable. While a tragedy for the groom’s side of the family, the bride’s family and guests were not emotionally impacted by the death other than being sympathetic to the grief of the groom and his family.
The funeral was held on the following Wednesday and the wedding events commenced on Friday with the rehearsal and dinner and wedding and reception on Saturday. Usual wedding antics like a bachelor party were subdued and there was some solemnity on the wedding day. I’m certain Doug would have wanted his son to not postpone the long awaited wedding.