I found your website after wondering if other people ever experienced the same thing I had to go through during preparations for my wedding.
My fiance proposed to me just before I was leaving for a year abroad to do a Master’s degree (we happily set the wedding date for the year after my degree’s completion). The ring was beautiful, and his romantic proposal was beyond anything I could ever imagine.
While taking my degree I met a girl named “Kayla” who was six years older than me, and just moved there with her serious boyfriend. She initially fawned at my ring and the story of my engagement and was incredibly friendly with me. About a week into the degree program, she broke up with her boyfriend, sending him packing back to where they came from. From that point on, she made it her ABSOLUTE mission to break my engagement. She would claim that marriage itself was for idiots, she pestered me trying to find negative details about my fiance, and on the one occasion she met him, she pretended he didn’t exist (this included ignoring his extended handshake and repeated ‘hello-how-are-you’s’). At a party with colleagues, she continuously handed me alcohol as a “nice gesture” and then, when I was extremely drunk, asked in front of everyone if I “actually” wanted to get married, if my ring was “real,” and if I ever think that my fiance was back home cheating on me. I gave the most polite answers possible (Yes I want to get married, Yes my ring is real but that isn’t an important factor anyway, and, no there’s not a worry in my head since I trust my fiance and he trusts me). This didn’t settle with her, so she began spreading rumors to our colleagues and would bully other people to stop talking to me, many of them didn’t take her seriously, but some damage had obviously been done. The absolute kicker was at one of our last farewell parties, she tackled me to the ground for whatever reason I will never know! Several colleagues had to pull her off me.
A good friend of mine chalked her behavior up to “extreme engagement jealousy,” but I found that this level of assault isn’t something I could ever understand. 0907-14
Just as a note, no one can make you “extremely drunk” handing you alcoholic beverages. You thank the person and then set the drink aside somewhere. You chose to lift the glass to your lips, drink and swallow…repeatedly apparently.
Note 2: You are under no obligation to explain anything to rude people.
As for people who believe ugly gossip without fact checking the other side of the story, good riddance to them. You will do well in the world avoiding small minded, tiny hearted people who enjoy juicy gossip.