I’m not sure if this even qualifies as an etiquette breach, but it’s certainly strange.
My SIL used to be a relatively normal, fun lady. We were close. Over the years, she’s become more and more like my MIL, which means that her brother (my husband) and I find less and less that we have in common.
DH called her a few nights ago to wish her happy Chanukkah. He’s been working horrible hours and called her from the car after a 14 hour day.
She proceeds to berate him for not calling often enough lately, not calling fast enough to hear about her new job and being very negative in general. Then comes the kicker. She’s upset that we don’t have enough pictures of her family in our house. He, being way nicer than I am, tells her that there are pictures of her family in my daughters’ bedrooms. However, she said that there weren’t any downstairs, which shows that we don’t really care about her. He was shocked into silence. She was last here in August, which means that she’s been stewing about this for four months and that she looked for the pictures while she was here.
What’s worse is that we really don’t have many family pictures in the house. My computer is set to do a slide show of all of my photographs, and it can be seen from most of the downstairs. Pictures of all of our friends and family regularly appear on my computer screen and we often find ourselves standing by the computer to watch the photos change.
I’m not nearly as nice as DH so I’m just not going to call her for a while. I didn’t realize that there were rules about how many pictures needed to be displayed of family downstairs versus upstairs. 1206-2010
I’m in trouble because in my entire house there is only one montage of photos on the wall.