My BIL, John, is getting married to his fiancee Amy in two weeks. The festivities leading up to this wedding have been cringe-worthy to say the least. They include:
– Wedding invitations requesting an 8/27 RSVP response for a 10/10 wedding. We discovered after the fact that the John and Amy have an “A list” and a “B list.” I assume we’re supposed to be happy that we’re at least considered A list and didn’t need to wait for members of the A list to decline John and Amy’s kind invitation to receive one of our own.
– Wedding invitations that included the verbiage “We are registered at X and Y, if you wish to bring a gift.” This verbiage was not included in an insert or on a wedding website. This verbiage was centered in the middle of the invitation when one opened it. It was literally the first thing one saw – even before the wedding location.
– Wedding registries at X and Y included potato chips; Excedrin; a Batman piggy bank; and several kinds of candy.
On to the shower…
I offered to throw Amy a small bridal shower in my home for John’s side of the family. At first, my offer was accepted. It was then declined with the request that I assist Amy’s sister Stephanie with the shower Stephanie was already planning for Amy’s side of the family. When I discovered the guest list for Stephanie’s shower had 120+ people on it, I declined but reiterated my offer to throw a smaller shower for just John’s side of the family in my home. My offer was accepted the second time, and we had a lovely bridal shower with 20 guests, no games and plenty of food for all.
This past Saturday, I attended the shower Stephanie threw in Amy’s honor. Of the 120+ invitations that went out, approximately 40 guests accepted. We arrived and everyone was provided lunch and cake. We then sat for approximately 40 minutes waiting for the hostesses to clean up lunch and cake before Amy was allowed to open gifts. During this 40 minute wait, one of the bridesmaids walked the room with a bucket and raffle tickets. I wish this bridesmaid was selling raffle tickets for a child’s school fundraiser. Instead, this bridesmaid was informing guests that they had elected not to play games for prizes at the shower. Instead, guests were invited to PURCHASE raffle tickets for a prize drawing. Tickets were $2 ea or 3 for $5. All funds raised from ticket sales would go to Amy to offset wedding costs. When asked, I politely demurred by stating I had no cash on me. I did hear another guest state, “Oh. If Amy needs money, I can give her money but I have no interest in raffle tickets.” That guest literally became my new hero.
After we left the shower, my MIL thanked me for throwing Amy a shower for John’s side of the family as she “would never have lived it down with FIL’s sisters had they attended a shower where raffle tickets were sold.”
I almost can’t wait to see what kind of shenanigans occur at the actual wedding! 0930-15