A friend of my sister’s got married on New Year’s Eve a couple of years ago. As was expected, everybody there had a really nice time, stayed up very late and drank far too much. My sister and her friends all had rooms at the hotel and were planning on staying the night. The sister of the groom, Lilly was there, of course, with her young son, Jack (about 4 or 5) and husband – they also had a room.
It was about 2 am and the guests were still at the hotel ballroom partying including Lilly and Jack. Jack, at this point, was dead on his feet and was whining to leave but Lilly wasn’t finished partying and ignored him until . . . one of the guests, Billy, was joking around (beer in hand) telling a rip roaring good story with a string of expletives that clearly wasn’t meant for Jack’s young ears. At this point, Lilly sprang into action, ripped Billy apart for swearing in front of her young son. Billy felt absolutely terrible about it and apologized up one side and down the other but Lilly would have none of it. She continued to berate and humiliate Billy in front of everyone and then stomped off with Jack in hand. After that, Billy and companions all left as well, that clearly ended the party.
My sister felt that Billy really didn’t intend for Jack to hear what he said – and at this point (2 in the morning) didn’t think his story was being told in the vicinity of young children who should have been in bed. Lilly should have dutifully put Jack to bed at a more appropriate time (perhaps midnight since it was New Year’s Eve and his uncle’s wedding) or sent Jack home early with family (like her husband’s parents) or at least, told Billy quietly and nicely that Jack was still there listening instead of humiliating him. 0117-18
Lily had an obligation to provide care for her pre-school-aged son, Jack, who clearly needed to be in bed asleep at 2 a.m. It sounds to me that Lilly has internal anger or guilt at having this conundrum (enjoy the party while Jack whines to go to bed or be the parent and retire to the hotel room so that Jack can sleep) so she lashes out at Billy. In a sense it is easier to make Billy the bad guy who forces Lilly to leave the party in the name of defending Jack’s ears from hearing expletives rather than Lilly leaving to take care of her son.
Regardless, it’s boorish behavior that cast a pall over the other wedding guests.