On very occasions in my decades of being an adult I have known of impending weddings that involved either an abusive male or female. The red flags are all there but no amount of warnings and pleadings changed any minds and as expected, the marriages deteriorated into often brutal abuse and divorce. I have refused to have anything to do with such weddings and in one case I was a bridesmaid until I heard enough evidence to convince me that I could not, in good conscience, stand as a witness to the wedding. A call to the officiant and within 24 hours the wedding was called off….whew!
The recent news of a celebrity engagement caught my eye:
Danry Vasquez the baseball player who punched and beat his girlfriend multiple times in a stadium stairwell PROPOSED to her after his arrest … and she said, “Yes.”
You can read more HERE. Danry’s fiancee claims the attack was an “isolated incident”. Isolated or not the savagery of the attack left no doubt that Danry is an abusive menace. A security camera in the stairwell caught the entire “incident” seen HERE.
To Danry’s fiancee, RUN AWAY. He will not change, you cannot change him. The abuse will get worse and he will likely abuse any children you have. RUN. Quickly. He’s not worth it.
To women everywhere…the second your boyfriend or fiance or husband or your partner raises a hand and strikes you, the deal is off entirely. An immediate end to the relationship with no hope of resurrecting it. You cannot change or fix people who have no inhibition about hitting you. They do not love you despite claiming they do but they lie because real love seeks the best for the other person at all times and wouldn’t dream of harming the one it loves. Abusive people are very good at appearing trite and apologetic, begging for another chance, but there is no substantive change to their character in those apologies and you will get hit, punched, slammed against the wall, etc. again.
Do not marry these creeps.