Have recently come across an incident of etiquette hell I would like to share and I think a lot of people who don’t have a lot of free time might be able to relate to it. I earmarked a specific time to spend with a friend – meaning naturally that I had to give doing up at least three other things I need to do at this point in time. Was ready to go out and meet him when I was told in a quick email and SMS with just minutes to go that friends from out of town had dropped by and he wouldn’t be able to meet me. I don’t of course blame my friend for this as he is a very gregarious and hospitable person who does 100 per cent respect the time of others. That’s why he’s my friend!
Yet surely I cannot be the only person who thinks that it’s rude to unexpectedly turn up somebody’s house? It is an imposition not only for the person who lives there but other people that they may have made arrangements with! Because it impacts on them too! Also – if you are prepared to do this – who knows what situation you might find round at the house? Is it not a breach of privacy too? I should point out that this was at 10 o clock in the morning – on a Sunday! Come on. That’s rude! 1105-17
It’s not a breach of privacy unless they peek into your windows, try to open the door or when the door is opened, push past you to gain access into the house. You don’t have to answer the door. I ignore the door bell/knocks when needed.
For people who drop by, a text warning of your impending arrival would be nice. There shouldn’t be any expectation of being received either. That’s the risk of just “dropping by”. And if the door is opened and you are invited inside, stay for just a few minutes before making movements towards the door. Then if your host wants to play the game of asking you to stay and you demur a few times to make sure they really meant it, stay only a little longer.