This has happened a couple of times, and I haven’t said anything to my friends because I honestly just don’t know how to respond.
I’m a bit of an orgniser. So if I see an event/class/talk I think I might enjoy, I will invite my friends to come along. Not everyone every time, but people who I think would also be interested in whatever I was going to share.
Now, it hasn’t happened too often, but it’s happened enough to be a pattern. I will send out a message saying, “HI, I’m going to x event/activity, would people like to join me?” I’ll have a bit of response to message and others will ignore. Then a few weeks later I’ll see they’ve all gone to whatever it was that I shared and haven’t deigned to include me.
I’m not a crazy person, I don’t expect to be invited to everything. But if I send out a message saying, “Does anyone want to see x movie with me” and then they all go and see that movie in a group without me, I’m going to be really annoyed. And while at first I ignored it, or thought it was a coincidence, it’s starting to make me angrier every time it happens.
It happened last weekend. I posted about a gallery doing art workshops over various weekends. Two friends went to two different workshops (including one person who ignored my message). And I’m just left wondering what on earth I’ve done and why I’m being left out. Is this rude or am I reading too much into it? 0304-18
I always think it’s a good idea to do a self examination to see if there is something that would inhibit people from wanting to be with oneself. Am I interrupting too much? Is my conversation about me all the time? Am I being a drama queen? Too political?
And then there’s the other side of the hand….you can be the nicest person in the world but are shunned because you are being viewed as a killjoy. One of my daughters had the same thing happen to her several times and it really boiled down to the fact that the other “friends” were heavy drinkers and she isn’t so she was excluded solely on that basis. Good riddance, imo.