I have never witnessed such atrocious behavior as this. The woman involved is either incredible crass, or incredibly oblivious.
A couple that I know lost their small child suddenly. The day of the visitation (which is held the day before the funeral), the couple realized that they were just not up to seeing small children. So the funeral home arranged a child’s area, complete with dedicated babysitters. There were over 500 people at the visitation, and the line to see the grieving parents was quite long, so this helped the parents as well as they didn’t have to try to manage their children in such circumstances.
So, enter Mrs Special. Who gets in line with her child, the same age as the deceased. Relative of the grieving mother sees her, the following conversation ensued:
Relative: Thank you so much for coming. The children’s room is right over there. I’ll hold your place in line while you take little Dudley.
Mrs Special – Oh no. This child does not leave my side. I can’t possibly to that.
Relative – Well, I believe he knows both the babysitters, and also there are several other children in there he knows. Grieving parents are not up to seeing children today, so I’m going to have to insist.
Mrs Special leaves in a huff. But so far, nothing really egregious has taken place.
The next day was the funeral. Again, children’s room provided.
Mrs Special arrives and is about to enter the chapel, with little Dudley once again in tow. Different relative sees her.
Relative – You cannot take him in there. Either take him to the children’s room or leave.
Mrs. Special – well, I’m NOT trying to be disrespectful.
Relative – Oh, but you are.
So, my question is, what on earth could that woman have been thinking? I realize the visitation was a case of she just didn’t realize, but showing up again the next day? 0618-18
I have met and know of people who have a belief of “love me, love my child”. If you invite the adults to an adults only function, you should expect them to bring the children as well since, in their mind, the parents and children are one social unit that cannot be separated. As a host it makes it difficult to deal with that situation.
Kudos to the relatives who had the spine to address the issue in the name of protecting the grieving parents from more heartache at a vulnerable time.