This is more of a question than it is a story. Some of my co-workers who are a couple of years younger than I am, and single, socialize outside of work. I have socialized with some of the individuals during dinner or small evening outings but they have large parties and go on weekend trips together. I have never been invited to these, which I don’t mind since I am married and drinking is not really fun to me anymore. The problem I have, however, is when they get back to work after the party or trip and ramble on about how much fun they had to myself and others who were not included. It has become quite annoying and I need advice on how to handle the situation. 0619-18
Is there something about their ramblings of how much fun they had that makes you wish you could have been there? Otherwise I’m not sure what is annoying other than it can be boring.
When I was in college, it was quite common on Monday mornings to hear fellow classmates describe their “awesome” weekend, which began on Thursday afternoons, which consisted of parties and getting profoundly drunk. Getting wasted, being passed out and vomiting repeatedly were presented as the most fun people can have in this life. No thank you. If you are confident about your life choices, what other people do for fun doesn’t really shake the foundations of your soul or irritate it. It’s boring more than annoying, imo.
How does one deal with a person or persons who talks incessantly about boring things? You change the subject of the discussion. Or you say, “What an interesting weekend you had,” and leave it at that.
Or you can corral all the other married fuddy duddies who never get invited to these single adult parties and host your own party or outings that are more suitable to your tastes in fun. Then on Monday when the talk starts of what the young, single crowd did for fun that weekend, you smile mysteriously and say, “Yes, we had a load of fun, too,” and say no more.