My husband and I hosted a game night recently. We invited 6 couples for an evening of food, drinks and fun. We were coming out of a very busy season in our life and hadn’t been able to socialize much. We were excited to see our friends and have a great time.
The day of the event didn’t go well. I had to deal with several unexpected issues that came up in my business and we also had an issue with an extended family member we had to deal with. When I looked at my watch and it was 3:00 I realized with a sinking feeling because I hadn’t even cooked or cleaned. I tend to get overwhelmed and my husband, always the calm in the storm, encouraged me and said with some teamwork we could do it. We raced home, cleaned the house, did the cooking and voila! We were done with 90 minutes left to spare for me to clean myself up and do last minute prep.
I raced to the shower and afterwards while brushing my teeth I thought I heard voices but then just thought it must be the tv. I wrapped a towel around my head, put my robe on and exited our bedroom to do some other last minute prep things while my hair dried a bit.
Imagine my absolute SHOCK when I walked into my living room in this state to find a couple we had invited to game night sitting there chatting with my husband – who hadn’t cleaned up yet himself. They turned and saw me and probably the look of shock on my face and said, “We know you said 7 but we thought we would come early”. It was 5:55!!!!
To make it worse, these are our NEIGHBORS. Neighbors we don’t know well, I might add, because we are new to the neighborhood. They live 2 seconds away from us and they arrived over an HOUR early. Thank GOD I didn’t walk out with a towel wrapped around me like I usually do!
I did my best to recover and told them I would go get dressed and then my husband could go shower while I finished setting up for the party. I think it was obvious I was highly annoyed and flustered because at some point the neighbor said, “I’m sorry if us coming so early threw you off”. Mind you, they didn’t offer to help, not that I expected them to but it would have been a nice gesture since they had arrived so early.
I want people to realize that it is equally rude to show up early as it is to show up late! It puts the hostess in the awkward position of hosting before she is ready. Any particular strategy you would have used in this situation? 0730-18
I know that awkward position well. I just continue to get prepared.