I’ve attended 4 weddings in the past 12 months. All were extremely expensive affairs.
Now, my own daughter got married a few years ago, and I informed her of the behavior I expected during the reception – namely, that she attempt to visit every table and speak to every guest. Not only that, but my DH and I also visited and spoke to as many guest as possible – including those we did not know.
Am I in the wrong – because at none of these 4 weddings did I witness any of this. At each of these weddings I was never approached by the bride, groom or the hosts. In some cases I did go to the bride and groom and offer my greetings, but in others there was never a good time to approach them as they were dancing or socializing with the wedding party.
This last wedding took the cake. It was an outdoor wedding. Temperature at time of wedding was over 90 degrees, and only seemed to get hotter as the night went on. As soon as the ceremony was over and the cake cut, special dances and speeches over – the bride and her bridesmaids disappeared into the air-conditioned facility (where no guests were allowed) and I did not seen them again.
The groom did circulate some, but the parents of the bride did not.
I used to love weddings, but now they just really upset me with this type of behavior. I’m sure brides and groom will say – there were too many people, we couldn’t possibly speak to all!! Well, my answer to that is to have a smaller wedding.
Am I unrealistic in my expectations? 0806-18
No, you are not unrealistic in your expectations of how hosts and guests of honor have an obligation to , at minimum, greet their guests and thank them for coming. Receiving lines used to be the standard way in which this was accomplished but the practice has fallen by the wayside as too formal and time consuming.
But, honestly, what do you expect when the wedding industry pushes the idea that this is the bride’s day, family and friends must cater to her every whim, and huge guest lists go hand in hand with invitations that clearly state a preference for money? Guests are simply a means of acquiring more assets and once that exchange has occurred, the guests’ usefulness has been fulfilled.