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Wedding Wednesday – Fork Over $1500 Or You Are Not Invited To My Exclusive Wedding

This story hit Twitter, Reddit, Facebook and then the news outlets late last week.   I screenshot the Facebook posts but it’s probably easier to simply direct everyone to read one of the news media stories.  So trot on over to this URL:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6101095/Canadian-Susan-cancels-extravagant-60-000-wedding-guests-refused-fork-1-500.html

And then come back here to discuss….

Is this a real story?   We’ve read of some pretty horrific bridezillas on Ehell over the years.   It falls in the realm of being plausible given that extreme entitlement is not a new phenomenon.

The question I have pertains to the groom. He clearly knew of this scheme. There’s a lot of “we wanted…we toured…we dreamed…we asked” written in that Facebook status and culminate with the groom’s family pledging $3K for the wedding.    And yet in the comment sections on sites where this appears, many people write that the groom “dodged a bullet”, as if the guy was an unwitting victim only just now realizing what a bridezilla he nearly married.   Say what?   He’s just as guilty as she is of trying to milk friends and family of a LOT of cash to fund an overly extravagant wedding.

In a turn of events, someone claiming to be Susan’s cousin said the Facebook status was only up for 15 minutes before it was deleted.

‘Clearly she has entitlement issues, but I have never known her to be this obnoxious. Honestly, over the years she’s been nice and overall sweet. No red flags come to mind,’ the cousin said.

‘On a final note, I understand everyone’s valid concern about her leaving her son for two months to go backpacking. However nobody believes she’s actually going to South America. This woman has never been outside the US.

‘We all think she’s saying that to be dramatic. I also have a feeling she may have been drinking while writing this status, it’s especially vulgar and incredibly embarrassing. It was only up for maybe 15 minutes before she took it down.’

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  • Marozia August 29, 2018, 12:29 am

    When i read this I was appalled! Greedy, vulgar brides…just what Miss Jeanne loves.

  • Lorna Mae August 29, 2018, 12:49 am

    I thought it was fake when I first read it, on account of none of the news articles had a personal quote from the bride, groom, or anyone else. Having heard from this alleged cousin does not change my mind. I’d believe her if she’d contacted a news site, even the Daily Fail, and offered some proof of their connection. Anyone can post on social media.

    • Amy August 29, 2018, 11:35 am

      It’s fake, or at least the cousin thing is. The money is all in Canadian dollars, but the comment says she’s never left the US.

      • Anonymous August 29, 2018, 8:22 pm

        Good catch. Also, the photo of the bride and groom looked like a stock photo to me. It showed a perfect-looking couple riding in a red convertible, with the man talking on a blocky flip phone from the late 90’s or so, back when cell phones were still a status symbol. So, funny joke, but not a great hoax, because the perps made it too obvious.

        • Louise August 30, 2018, 2:06 am

          The photo is a stock photo because it’s a terrible newspaper – it’s not part of the original Facebook post. Also no idea why the Daily Fail says she’s Canadian, when that wasn’t mentioned anywhere in the original post either.

          This was initially posted in a secret facebook group by the cousin of the bride (who has since had to deactivate her facebook account because of the way the story blew up). It’s a small fb group just meant for sharing bad wedding stories, so there was no reason for the cousin to lie.

        • kgg August 30, 2018, 8:02 am

          Also, in the story the couple didn’t end up getting married. I think it’s fake.

  • AJ August 29, 2018, 1:10 am

    Susan will go down in history, well until the next horror-of-a-Bridezilla comes along. And there will no doubt be one worse than her.

    When did weddings change from being a celebration of a union to an It’s-MY-day-so-I-get-whatever-I-want-and-others-must pay-for-it-and-I’m-gonna-put-the-hate-on-you-if-you-don’t-acquiesce- entitlement fest?

    Sigh.

  • shm August 29, 2018, 1:33 am

    The story I read yesterday was that this was a Canadian woman?

    • Calli Arcale August 29, 2018, 11:28 am

      The interesting thing is there’s nothing on the original Facebook post (which apparently has since been deleted, along with the private group it was being shared in — another red flag) to indicate nationality, and some of the text implied strongly that it was an American. Yet the Daily Mail decided to post the dollar amount as Canadian dollars, which appears to be where the connection to Canada got started.

      Honestly, I really don’t think it’s a true story.

      • Ange August 29, 2018, 8:42 pm

        The group still exists, it just battened down the hatches.

  • AS August 29, 2018, 2:19 am

    I had just come across this story, and I am not sure that I totally believe it, though it is written in first person. Maybe someone was just playing an elaborate joke from a fake account that they promptly deleted. We have no way of verifying if it was a fake account or not given that the account is discontinued now.

    Assuming that it is true (and I am still collecting my jaw that had hit the floor) , Admin (or OP for this post) brings up a good point- what was the groom’s role in all this? Maybe he was just as greedy as her, and was trying to see if he could milk the situation too. He (and his family) pulled off as soon as they felt the wrath of the guests invited, and played innocent, letting the BTB to take all the blame. I can’t believe someone says that $1,500 is not a big amount, and that they deserve it for all the sacrifices that they had made- whatever those sacrifices are! I always get newer ideas from a lot of these stories about how I can milk my family and friends. My life choices led to sacrifices too, and I am so entitled to their money!

    Maybe they should have taken some lessons from the very successful “Project Precious” couple, and asked for “services” in return for “product placements” and “shoutouts”! 😉

    • AM August 29, 2018, 3:36 pm

      It doesn’t even have to be a fake account. It’s very easy to spoof Facebook screenshots without ever actually posting on Facebook; there are a number of websites for this.

  • staceyizme August 29, 2018, 5:39 am

    It doesn’t have the ring of truth. A wedding shaming social media group on Facebook reels in a conveniently epic tale. More like the “fish that got away”. Revenge porn, don’t they call it?

    • Anonymous August 29, 2018, 7:12 am

      That was my thought too–I think this story is fake. Also, at some point in the incredibly long Facebook status, the Bridezilla says, “we resent our invites.” She meant “re-sent,” as in, “sent again,” but…..holy Freudian slip, Batman. Also, this isn’t rude exactly, but it kind of bugs me that they named their son Declyn. DECLAN is a perfectly nice name for a little boy, or even a grown man, but I wish they’d stuck to the traditional spelling.

      • barb August 29, 2018, 7:27 am

        They were quite prescient in naming the kid after what their guests did – Decline.

      • Huh August 29, 2018, 8:02 am

        The very fact that the son’s name is Declyn kinda makes me believe it’s real even more. I see a lot of kids’ names at my place of work and creative spelling is so common now and has been for the past 10 years or so, at least in our area.

      • Miss-E August 29, 2018, 8:42 am

        If you think that’s bad check out these names: https://mobile.twitter.com/petit_elefant/status/999404443345993728?lang=en

        Apparently the trend these days is to put “y”s and “we”s in everything!

        • Lola August 30, 2018, 11:21 am

          Way back in the late 90s in my graduating class we had several “Amy”. All spelled differently. There was Amy, Ami, Amee, and my favorite (and probably the nicest of the Amy’s) Aymiee. It’s like her mom wanted all the varieties in one supername.

          • staceyizme August 30, 2018, 11:39 pm

            “Supername”…! I am SO stealing that, if you don’t mind. Some names (like mine) can create difficulties for people who are taking a reservation or trying to call the class attendance roll. For mine, there is “stacey”/”stacy”/”stacie” and probably one or two I haven’t seen. I must say, though, that “Aymiee” takes the cake for unorthodox spelling.

        • Stinkycheese September 1, 2018, 5:30 pm

          I met a youngster named Kyler the other day.

      • EchoGirl September 4, 2018, 12:07 am

        Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t really understand this mentality. Every spelling was made up at some point along the way, and many names have more than one recognized spelling (like Rebecca vs. Rebekah, or Catherine/Katherine/Kathryn) — some, like my own (relatively rare) name, don’t even have a “primary” spelling. I do think that people who choose unusual spellings do need to accept that errors will be more frequent (in the same way they would be if the name wasn’t common) and not pitch a fit if someone misspells it, but I don’t see an inherent problem in using a non-traditional spelling. To my mind, someone made up the “traditional” spelling too, just longer ago.

    • Michelle August 29, 2018, 9:24 am

      My thought as well. Especially when the BTB is referred to as “Canadian Susan” and then later the “cousin” says “She has never been outside the US”.

    • Devin August 29, 2018, 10:54 am

      The ‘news’ article claims Susan is Canadian but then the cousin says ‘she’s never even left the US’. I don’t doubt that their is a Susan like person out there, or that maybe this fake post was put up by an ex maid of honor who’s friend tried to guilt her and the rest of her guests out of thousands of dollars.
      I also don’t think that about 45k gets you a fairy tail wedding. I posted recently about average wedding costs and that figure is only slightly higher than average.

  • Vic August 29, 2018, 8:00 am

    I’m pretty sure this fake. Two reasons:
    1. One commenter on the linked site pointed out that the screenshots show “Canadian Susan” has a Verizon plan. Verizon is a U.S. provider that he said doesn’t do business in Canada.
    2. According to a cousin of the bride, “Canadian Susan” has never been outside of the U.S. I think whoever set this up mixed up a couple of tiny details, like country of origin.

    • Cat2 August 29, 2018, 11:10 am

      While I do believe it’s fake, the Verizon thing makes no sense as proof. Whoever screencapped the posts had a Verizon plan. Nothing to do with whoever made the posts.

    • AM August 29, 2018, 3:38 pm

      Where did the Canadian thing even come from? I see no references to Canada in the screenshots.

  • NicoleK August 29, 2018, 8:05 am

    I think it’s fake. People who marry their high school sweethearts, have kids out of wedlock, and go to community college rarely belong to social circles where 1500 is petty change. It feels like a joke making fun of poor people. “Ha ha ha look at those crazy trashy people” type thing.

  • Annon August 29, 2018, 8:19 am

    I read it, thought it was fake as well, but hey you never know.
    However, if you “cancel” your wedding 4 days prior, you still would have paid for the majority of expenses anyway – so she would now be out ALL MONEY and with no wedding, then not gifts to “help her cover the cost of her dream wedding.”
    As as pointed out above, when I read it, woman was from Canada, post from “supposed” cousin said she never left the US. Something isn’t right……

    • Mom'sAlwaysRight! August 29, 2018, 3:08 pm

      That was my thought as well. Somehow they would have had to pay most, if not all, of the wedding expenses long before the one-week-till-extravaganza date. Something doesn’t sound right.

  • KarenK August 29, 2018, 8:41 am

    Not that this confirms the truth of this, but this story was reported on the local news this morning. One would hope that the story would have been vetted before actually airing it.

    • Calli Arcale August 29, 2018, 11:31 am

      “A lie can go around the world before the truth has got its boots on.”

      Alas, local news media is often the worst at vetting stories, although even major international news sources have been guilty of this too. First outlet to run this was the Daily Mail, and that’s always call for a bit of skepticism.

    • lakey August 29, 2018, 2:36 pm

      Local news shows often repeat what was reported on other news sources.

  • Lisa August 29, 2018, 9:09 am

    My husband sent me the link to this story yesterday. I was suspicious that it was fake but now I’m not so sure. How awful that this bridezilla feels so entitled. I can’t imagine asking my friends and family to contribute toward my wedding, and I certainly could not afford to contribute $1500 toward anyone else’s wedding. Although I’ve spent more than that being a bridesmaid, maid of honor, etc.!!! But that was voluntary and I didn’t have to say yes to being in the wedding.

  • Liz August 29, 2018, 9:12 am

    I saw this as well and am also a tad suspicious as to whether or not its actually real. While I certainly believe there are people (and brides) out there who take take take, and think everyone owes them everything, and so on, the story is just a bit too embellished to ring true. But sadly, it is possible this actually did happen.

    I agree the groom, IF this is indeed true, shares some of the blame. Because it wouldn’t have gotten to the point it did if he was against it. But wow. I know the first time any bride mentioned they need me to give them $1500 for the wedding they deserve, my response would be a very polite, “oh I’m so sorry but I won’t be able to attend”

  • ladyv21454 August 29, 2018, 9:12 am

    I’ve seen this story several times over the last couple of days (and even submitted it here), and it appalls me more every time. I don’t know what kind of friends she THINKS she has that CAD$1500 would be “within budget”, but she’s completely delusional. I don’t necessarily fault her for wanting to have a lavish wedding – but don’t expect other people to pay for it. And don’t make it such a high priority that you would CALL OFF THE WEDDING and disown all of your friends because they refuse to cater to YOUR over-the-top demands.

    For the record: I have seen some lovely Vegas weddings – so her whole rant about THAT rubbed me the wrong way.

    • MzLiz August 29, 2018, 4:49 pm

      I got married in Vegas. It was fantastic, no regrets!

      Honestly, if you’re someone who wants to be guaranteed (as much as it’s possible in this life) that your wedding will proceed perfectly & with little-to-no hiccups & hassles, Las Vegas is your best bet (pun intended). They are wedding EXPERTS & have everything down to a science, while still treating you like unique individuals. (At least that was our experience). There’s practically no request they haven’t heard of or dealt with before, no service they cannot provide & since all the wedding outlets are competing with each other, you can get a lotta bang for your buck; a wedding that would cost 10Gs anywhere else will be about half that in Vegas. You can have it fun & tacky or high-end & posh or highly personal or anything in-between; there’s loads of options. Whatever you want, they’ll work with you. And it’s a city with TONS to do, even for little ones, so you don’t have to worry too much about keeping any guests entertained during their stay.

      I don’t get anybody who’s snobby about a Vegas wedding. If it’s only for ‘hookers’, then I guess I’m the worst hooker on the block cos I’ve stuck with my one John since we got hitched there. Hahaha.

      • EchoGirl August 30, 2018, 3:07 am

        The only thing about Vegas that can be a hassle is if you want an officiant of your own choosing. I knew a woman who got married in Nevada (not sure if it was Vegas or somewhere else) and she said that the rules to get an officiant certified are ridiculous (likely related to lobbying from the wedding industry and full-time officiants worried about losing their livelihoods); she and her fiance had a close friend who was a pastor and they wanted him to do their wedding, but they actually reached a point where they had to consider the possibility that it wasn’t going to happen because the red tape was so excessive. (In the end, it did.) However, by her description that was pretty much the only hassle of the entire process, so if you don’t care about that, the rest is pretty straightforward.

      • at work August 30, 2018, 6:53 am

        You make some really good points! Thank you for this. Though I have been to Vegas quite a few times to visit relatives and just to have fun, I did not realize all of this, though it’s right there to see.

  • Coraline August 29, 2018, 9:42 am

    Eh… IF it is real, I could believe that the groom had no idea what was going on. Simply because in my circle of family and friends I have seen several couples where the groom-to-be completely checked out and totally disengaged from the planning process, which the bride-to-be took as an excuse to run wild with planning her childhood barbie dream wedding (but always couching things as “what ‘we’ want…” or “what ‘we’ have been dreaming of…”). It never got as bad as in the story, but I do remember one occasion listening to a bride-to-be gush about how she and the groom-to-be (my cousin Sam) had always dreamed of a beach wedding in the Caribbean, while thinking “Sam hates the beach and can sunburn on a cloudy day, so this dream is 100% you, sweetie….” (I advised Sam to get more involved in the wedding planning after that conversation. And no, they did not marry on a Caribbean beach. They got married in the woods in Vermont.)

  • AddieSue August 29, 2018, 10:40 am

    The whole thing reads so outrageously that I want say it’s almost a satire piece…..then again our culture almost applauds this behavior nowadays so who knows. I found this on Snopes.com: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/susan-bride-wedding/

    • Lillie82 September 2, 2018, 9:28 pm

      The thought about satire definitely crossed my mind too. Partly because the woman is SO up-front with her expectations. Lines like “I wanted to be a Kardashian for a day,” remind me of the Titanic Bride story, where we thought it was fake because (among other reasons), the bride actually confessed, “I wasn’t pregnant. I said I was to get a rich, hot guy to marry me.” The implausible thing wasn’t someone telling that lie, it was her ADMITTING to it.

  • Lerah99 August 29, 2018, 10:41 am

    I had an ex girlfriend, who broke up with me via text message, turn around 10 months later to invite me to:

    – 2 engagement parties
    – 3 wedding showers
    – the “hen’s weekend” in Vegas w/ spa day
    – the local bachelorette party
    – A few of her bridesmaids dropped out and I was on a group message on Facebook inviting me to be a bridesmaid.
    – The wedding ceremony, NOT to the reception, but did get the invite to the after party at a local bar.

    My only response was to rsvp no to everything.

    Each invite included registry info and made it clear that gifts were expected.
    Had I attended all those events and brought gifts, it easily could have cost the $1,500 cash this lady requested.

    Maybe we should find it refreshing that this lady just straight up sent a bill with the invite rather than try to milk all that money by throwing tons of pre-wedding events and demanding gifts at each one.

    • lakey August 29, 2018, 2:42 pm

      When I read about something like your friend’s behavior, I always wonder if the woman doesn’t have a mother, and perhaps aunts and grandmothers to tell her to rein it in.

    • staceyizme August 30, 2018, 11:45 pm

      Maybe it would be even more refreshing if some overly entitled couples would plan a wedding they actually plan to PAY for? Good for you for not falling back into this the orbit of this “friend”.

  • Barbarian August 29, 2018, 11:09 am

    If this disgruntled woman is for real, she needs therapy more than 2 months backpacking in South America.

  • WendyB August 29, 2018, 11:28 am

    It may be fake…but it’s something a young woman I know would do if she thought of it…

  • EB August 29, 2018, 11:47 am

    I think the Daily Mail got bad information about the Canadian part of this story since the “cousin” said she hadn’t been outside the U.S. and Verizon is a US service provider. That having been said, I tend to believe this is real based on experiences I’ve had. In some parts of the US it’s a religious/cultural thing that you can will things into being if you simply “put it out there” or make the request. I didn’t realize how powerful that conviction was with a friend of mine until there was a standoff between her and her bridesmaids over the cost of dresses– turns out she genuinely thought it was God’s will that everyone wear a designer dress!

  • Bea August 29, 2018, 11:57 am

    I dream of a world where we all have extra $1500 to “donate” to someone’s extravagance. Let’s go ask the homeless folks in the over crowded city for their $1500 contribution! Then our elderly aunties on their fixed incomes. The college grads working for just above minimum wages. Families with kids, health issues or even just a car payment.Everyone can afford to chip in.

    Its not a fairytale when you’re the evil stepsister and your prince is a spineless flop.

  • Gena August 29, 2018, 1:56 pm

    I’m not surprised – it’s the wedding industry and this whole “you deserve your special day”. when my DD got married we went to a particular store to register, and the clerk followed us around the whole time trying to upsell us. My DD refused to register for a $500 coffee maker, and he said “People WANT to buy you expensive presents! You must register for them!”

    • EchoGirl August 30, 2018, 3:10 am

      This is one of the reasons I’m trying to convince my BF that we can do the registry with an online store (probably Amazon) so that we don’t have to deal with salespeople in our faces.

  • Livvy17 August 29, 2018, 1:56 pm

    I too, think this story isn’t real, but I want to thank Ms. Jeanne for the note about the groom’s responsibility. FAR, FAR too often it’s only the woman who gets lambasted for things that are supposed to be JOINT responsibilities in a marriage, such as:
    1. the wedding, and planning/financing/greedy behavior included therein
    2. ANY social interactions undertaken as a family / couple – planning, responding, taking care of gifts or other responsibilities tied to these parties/weddings/get-togethers/birthdays
    3. Parenting – both are supposed to be equal partners, but men will be praised for doing 10% of the work, while women will be critiqued for not doing 110%
    4. Any failure of the family unit – even where the guy has cheated, the wife is often expected to hold the family together and forgive whereas in the reverse, no one blames the guy if he opts for divorce. They often cast aspersions on the wife’s failure to keep him happy and interested.

    I know there are exceptions, but mostly, this is the bias I see all the time, like the guy only gets credit for the good stuff, and never takes the blame for the bad. Sorry for my possibly sexist rant, but it does drive me crazy.

    • Lerah99 August 29, 2018, 2:27 pm

      @Livvy17, you make several very good points.

      Most of them boil down to the fact our society still expects women to pull 100% of the emotional effort in relationships.

    • JD August 29, 2018, 2:50 pm

      It was probably rude of me to say it, but I once snapped at a co-worker who said he had to “babysit the kids tonight, ” for his wife; I told him he couldn’t babysit his own children — he would be parenting them. I then asked him if his wife ever “babysat” their kids. He just really rubbed me the wrong way with that remark.
      Of course, he was the same guy who would wait until the morning of our work holiday potluck to let us know if he was coming, just in case a better offer came along.

      • at work August 30, 2018, 6:57 am

        Ugh. Just yesterday we had a pot luck. One of the few men in the building brought a nice food item. After lunch he breezed out of the building and on his way said “Hey, would you take care of that food for me, thanks!” as though we were waitresses.

        • staceyizme August 30, 2018, 11:50 pm

          “Sure thing- as soon as you show up with casts on both arms and a doctor’s note saying that you’re not to lift anything heavier than a water glass.”

      • Lerah99 August 30, 2018, 10:22 am

        @JD, YES!
        The whole “babysit” when referring to watching one’s own children ALWAYS rubs me the wrong way.

        Also, the enormous praise men get for the very minimum amount of work when it comes to their own children is always stunning.
        “Wow! What a good daddy! He:
        – changed a diaper
        – chaperoned on the class field trip
        – drove the carpool to work when his wife had the flu
        – cooked dinner one night
        – loaded the dishwasher

        Like something that should be considered normal or even the bare minimum of care and we all line up to applaud any dad for doing it.

        Personally, I have no use for these type of men that I call “King Baby”.

        The ones who will make sure to screw up anything you ask them to do so you won’t ask them to ever do it again.

        You ask him to pick the kid up from soccer practice and he shows up 90 minutes late because oops, he wrote down the wrong time.

        You ask him to do some laundry and he packs so many clothes into the machine that it burns out the motor.

        You give him a grocery list asking him to get food and he gets half the things on the list plus $300 of other stuff not on the list.

        You ask him to load the dishwasher and he stacks the dishes two in each place so there’s now dried crusty food welding the dishes together.

        You ask him to mow the lawn and he “accidentally” also mows over your flower and herb beds.

        It’s exhausting and effective. It quickly trains you not to ask him to ever do anything to help out because it is far easier to just do it yourself.

        • JD August 30, 2018, 10:45 am

          Perfect! You only left off one thing —
          He goes around telling people that he just can’t please his wife, because every time he tries to help her, she just criticizes the way he does it.
          I see we must know some of the same men…..

          • Livvy17 August 30, 2018, 2:25 pm

            Exactly!! I know a couple of these guys too.

        • staceyizme August 31, 2018, 12:02 am

          I’m not sure how we turned from debating a tale of bad “bridezillaness” to generalizing about how some men don’t do things correctly or don’t do them with sufficient frequency. It’s true that some men are this way. But some women are like the bride described in this story, and it would be very bad form to criticize women in general rather than the one bride specifically. In the same way that Ms. Jeanne has a few choice words for the groom in this story, most women would have a few choice words for someone who would tolerate a lazy, deceptive, husband or boyfriend who couldn’t be bothered to be a full partner. It just seems over the top, to me. (Unless I misunderstood, and you’re speaking of a specific person who was ninety minutes late to pick up his own child, did not load a dishwasher without sabotaging it, and mowed over ornamental flowers and plants out of spite?)
          As for picking up extra things at the grocery store, I suppose that anyone who is doing the shopping may decide what to pick up. You say you don’t care for men who are infantile but you speak of sending a list with a man to the store and would consider it beyond his purview to deviate significantly from the list. Does that mean that $300 would wreck the budget? Or that he wanted to shop once for the month and be done with it? Women (rightfully) complain of men who don’t pull their weight. I do think that part of the problem is sometimes the idea that women are in full charge in the home, the kitchen and with the children. If men are to be expected to step up, women must move over and make room.

    • MzLiz August 29, 2018, 3:42 pm

      You’re absolutely right. There is a casual sexism (goes both ways, tbh) that exists where women are supposed to keep the social & familial wheels turning, while the men are encouraged to be ignorant. In this day & age, it’s an antiquated mentality. That may not be the case here though.

      What struck me about this story though (if it’s true) is:
      A) They have a kid together which possibly ups the urgency to make a relationship/marriage work. Traits that you wouldn’t put up with in a friend or girlfriend/boyfriend you might convince yourself are more acceptable with a baby mama/daddy, for the child’s sake.

      B) Groom suggested a cheaper option on the heels of the unsuccessful begging; if he was down with this $45G extortion plan, shouldn’t he be just as put out that people didn’t want to fund his ‘dream wedding’? I don’t see why he would go straight from a ‘Kardashian Lite Extravaganza’ to the bargain options (I say ‘Lite’ cos I don’t think $60G would even cover the centerpieces for a Kardashian wedding) if he was so certain he ‘deserved’ this. Some people are like a brush fire & the only thing you can do once they have an idea in their heads is to let them burn out – “Okay, she’ll make this insane request & when no-body contributes, she’ll see she’s delusional, come to her senses & I’ll swoop in with the Vegas/courthouse idea”. A little cowardly, sure & one can argue he should have stopped her but that’s kinda sexist too – She’s a grown woman who’s responsible for her own actions. Yes, his family apparently pledged 3 grand but nothing indicates that it wasn’t voluntary on their part. It’s not unusual for parents to contribute to the cost of a wedding.

      C) He may not have known the full details until it blew up with their friends & family. My husband doesn’t read my private emails or texts, he would have no clue if I was writing to solicit money from them. A lot of couples use the royal ‘We’, it doesn’t always necessarily mean both people know exactly what’s going on!

      D) According to the post, they broke up before she wrote this tirade on social media so he was obviously upset with her behaviour enough to call off not only the wedding but a long-term relationship with the mother of his child. That’s a pretty clear indicator he doesn’t sanction what she did. I’m sure dealing with this woman is bad at the best of times but now that she’s been dumped???! I hope this guy takes some of that $15G & hires an excellent custody lawyer.

      If this post was written from the both of them, I’d hang the groom out to dry right alongside his bride, absolutely. But, given the information, that doesn’t seem to be what happened.

      • MzLiz August 29, 2018, 4:03 pm

        *I should say ‘Kardashian-STYLE wedding’. That girl has a lot to learn if she thinks any of the Kardashians actually PAY for any of the stuff on their Twitter & Insta or in magazine spreads. Their clothing, make-up, travel & events, inc weddings, are sponsored by companies who want access to their loyal band of followers, who WOULD have to pay-to-play at being a Kardashian for a day (oooh, rhyming!).

        You don’t get to be the youngest ever billionaire by spending money.

      • ladyv21454 August 30, 2018, 5:25 pm

        It seems like I’m the only person who assumed that the BRIDE was the one who initiated the break-up – due to the groom’s “hooker” wedding suggestions, his discussing her with the bridesmaids, and his possible cheating.

    • AM August 29, 2018, 3:43 pm

      Not to mention:
      5. Any etiquette failure on the part of a female relative, as evidenced by lakey’s post above. Mothers, aunts, and grandmothers are responsible for reining in Bridezilla; fathers, uncles, grandfathers, and husbands-to-be are off the hook.

      • Livvy17 August 30, 2018, 2:17 pm

        Yes! Great point – plus, I’d add that when a man makes an etiquette gaffe, it’s generally interpreted as deliberate / greedy/ self-centered, whereas if a man makes a similar gaffe, he’s clueless, but folks don’t attribute malice to it the way they do for women.

  • dippy August 29, 2018, 2:19 pm

    just because the wedding was canceled, the marriage was off too? why? I don’t think it says why.

    I think the whole thing is fake.

  • Kimberly August 29, 2018, 5:38 pm

    Snopes has it labeled as unproven https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/susan-bride-wedding/

  • Anonymous August 29, 2018, 8:28 pm

    I just thought of something, though. Even if this story is fake (and I think we all agree that it must be), it might actually do some good, in finally dispelling the “cover your plate at weddings” myth. I have a friend who believes that–she’s turned down wedding invitations because she hasn’t had enough money to give the couple a “good enough” gift, which I think is kind of sad, because now the couple has to celebrate their wedding with at least one friend missing, because of a misconception that money matters more than people. So, maybe now that that story is out there, people will start realizing that true friends will value presence over presents.

  • Lanes August 29, 2018, 8:31 pm

    You know what annoys me most about this? The fact that a storm has brewed about a couple expecting guests to pay $1500 just to attend their wedding… but there’s generally little more than stiff breeze for people who hold ‘destination weddings’, which essentially lays the same burden on the guests.

    The story itself looks to be fake. The thing that tipped me off most was that ‘Susan’ has a very similar writing style to ‘cousin’. I’m pretty sure it’s the same person trying to get their 15minutes of fame… or infamy.

    • Lillie82 September 2, 2018, 9:25 pm

      I actually had the same thought about the incident / story of the bride whose “kicking out” of a bridesmaid went viral…that maybe they were setting up the whole thing to get on a reality show, or something.

  • Lara August 29, 2018, 10:43 pm

    I was waiting to see if this story made it here. I doubt the veracity of it myself. There may well be brides capable of doing all this, but I doubt they would write about it in such a way (all those references to “MY money”). Plus, consider the numbers here. She says the wedding total was $60,000, and they had $15,000 already saved. Then family and the maid of honor promised a combined $8,000. And yet, they say each guest had to pay $1500. What, did they invite 25 people? Even if you assume that they decided to keep their own money for themselves and ignore the other contributions, that still means they were expecting a grand total of 40 paying guests. How does that constitute a “blowout” wedding? Is $60,000 even enough for a blowout wedding these days? I mean, I got married on $4,000, so it’s not like I know anything about it, but if Kardashian-level extravagance is what she had in mind, I doubt $60,000 would even pay for the flowers.

    • BellyJean August 31, 2018, 10:07 am

      And when did they pay for their vendors, who would have required payment far before the day of.
      Also – totaling up all of the vendors’ cancellation policies will demand way more money than this couple had supposedly saved up.

  • Jennifer Wilson Boozer August 30, 2018, 12:36 pm

    My question did this include the attendees flight and hotel?

  • Hannah August 31, 2018, 1:03 pm

    I work in the wedding industry, and sure, it could be fake, but it could also be absolutely real. I’m certainly not shocked by this woman. I’ve seen too much like this.

    You have no idea the wild and incredulous crap that goes down at or around weddings. It’s an industry of both dreams and pure nightmare.

    • at work September 2, 2018, 7:11 am

      If ever there were an industry where top-notch customer service is needed and demanded while those being served are basically powder kegs, it’s yours.

  • Mabel August 31, 2018, 7:48 pm

    Never Facebook while drinking, LOL.

    (I learned that one the hard way.)

  • Ashley M September 4, 2018, 10:17 pm

    I hadn’t read anything about this woman being Canadian until I read it here, so that’s new info to me. Not saying I’m the source or whatever, just interesting how we all seem to have found different variations on the story.

    I’m split on whether I think it is real or not. I’ve heard people say some really dumb things and act REALLY entitled, like, thinking the whole world will bend over backwards for them. So I wouldn’t immediately write it off as fake.

    But, the more embellished and elaborate a story sounds, the more it automatically reads as fake. It goes on and on and on and there’s so many just…frilly details. Why? Just get to the point. The more you try to make it into a “woe is me, everyone else is awful” sort of situation, the less real it sounds.

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