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Wedding Wednesday – Booted Out As Maid of Honor

From the same OP who submitted Monday and Tuesday’s stories.

There are about 8 more submitted stories in my Inbox from this individual that I won’t be publishing. Most of them detail her self-imposed alienation from family, friends, neighbors, her ex-husband. Reading them collectively isn’t pretty.

I think the take away from this series of stories is that there is very often far more to the story than we have been told and if we were to hear from the others who have been demonized, we might reach different conclusions.


Ok, so my sister wasn’t a total Bridezilla but pulled a nasty thing the day before her wedding. Sister shall be named Steph , her other bridesmaids Jess (our sister-in- law)and her (ugh, shudder) slutty friend Amy. I was deemed maid of honor but because we lived too far away from each other I couldn’t throw a shower or anything, just show up for wedding. So me, my mom and my son, drive 1200 miles to be there for the wedding in upstate NY. We arrive the day before but a few hours late. Late to what I’m not sure, everyone was just hanging out eating.

My sister was absolutely furious and a total b$&@%. She booted me from my maid of honor status and appointed Jess as maid of honor. I was stunned and incredibly hurt. We just drove for two days to get there.

Fast forward to day of wedding. Jess was all too happy to accept moh and was up my sister’s booty all day, flaunting and sassy and hoity toity in every way possible. Just an annoying b&@$. Her stupid slutty friend Amy was just as bad, completely ignoring me and going out of her way to be nasty and snotty. She wore no underwear and showed her bare butt to everyone at the reception of about 100 people, dancing and laughing like it was no biggie. Yes, yes that’s a biggie flaunting your bare butt and your crotch to a bunch of people. I felt totally unwanted and ignored.

The only good thing was the photo of me, my sister and my brother (who was in the wedding as best man) was absolutely beautiful and we all looked amazing. My sister was truly beautiful bride and our dresses were beautiful too. 1210-18

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  • Shoegal January 9, 2019, 7:41 am

    Tell me – how old is this person? Sounds like a spoiled brat. Not really an etiquette question here. She should learn that nobody is required to be attentive and nice to her. Tell her maybe to submit another story when she grows up. So happy everyone in wedding was gorgeous. Things ended well.

    • ladyv21454 January 9, 2019, 8:38 am

      Since she mentioned in Tuesday’s story that she had an 8 year old, and didn’t mention children at all in Monday’s story (which I’m sure she would have done if she’d needed the car for her child’s sake), she is at LEAST 29-30 years old – and that’s assuming yesterday’s story involved current events.

    • Sarugani January 9, 2019, 1:13 pm

      Well, if the car fiasco from Monday‘s story happened when she was 21 and she then didn‘t talk to her dad for 2 years, she‘s at least 23. However, if she‘s still that age now and has an 8-year-old kid (Tuesday‘s story), she doesn‘t have much ground to stand on calling all the other women in her stories by all those sexist slurs – not that I‘d approve of those in any case.
      She needs to get over herself, grow up and realize that the world doesn‘t revolve around her. Holding grudges is exhausting, I know, I‘ve had to let go of a big one, but I‘ve felt so much better ever since. It doesn‘t mean you have to let people walk all over you, but I keep that thing in the past and any interaction with that particular family member is kept at a strictly superficial level. No more talk than necessary, definitely no private information and no more sleeping under their roof or having them sleep under mine. That person doesn’t get why, but I‘m done discussing that with them.

      My late grandmother was the type of person to never forget a perceived personal slight and she‘d tell those stories even 90 years after the fact and even including what everyone else would have concluded was a happy resolution in some of her „poor me“ stories.

      • NicoleK January 17, 2019, 8:45 am

        If she is 23 and has an eight year old, she was 15 when she had her and 14 when she got pregnant. Most girls that young who have babies do so with men who are in their twenties, and are victims of abuse.

        I am sure you don’t mean imply molested kids are slutty. Something to think about.

  • Pep January 9, 2019, 7:42 am

    If you were a few hours late, there presumably was a time that you were supposed to have arrived. You should have phoned to say you were going to be late. Isn’t that the polite thing to do? (I am not saying that demoting you from MOH was correct; she may have had valid reasons but I am not privy to them.) As for b!tc!y sister, slutty Amy and sassy Jess, they may not be your favorite people but the name calling is immature and rude.

  • ladyv21454 January 9, 2019, 8:41 am

    Does this horrible person call EVERY woman she doesn’t like “slutty”? It sure seems like it.

    Having now read three stories from this person, I’ve come to the conclusion that SHE is the problem, not her relatives. She seems to love playing the victim.

    • Constance January 12, 2019, 2:13 pm

      Agreed 100%. With all these slutty women in her circle it’s a good thing their slutty ways didn’t rub off on her.

  • AFST January 9, 2019, 8:43 am

    OP really does love the word “slutty,” doesn’t she? The only time I’ve actually seen or heard “slut” used in the past 10 years is in pretentious food writing/branding, e.g. the L.A.-based breakfast chain Eggslut, or in exhibit A right here: http://www.grubstreet.com/bestofnewyork/absolute-best-pancakes-in-nyc.html

  • Maggie January 9, 2019, 8:46 am

    Anyone else here think there’s a lot more going on here the OP’s leaving out? I notice a pattern of everyone going nuclear over nothing. I can’t believe it’s everyone else. Here’s a tip OP – if you really think everyone’s being mean and unfair, it’s usually you, not everyone else. Look in the mirror and rethink some of your actions and attitude.

    And stop being so judgemental – not everyone’s a “slut” as you keep putting it.

    • Calli Arcale January 14, 2019, 6:59 pm

      This kind of reminds me of the old doctor’s joke.

      Man goes into to see the doctor and says he’s in pain. The doctor asks him where it hurts. The man starts poking himself all over the body with his index finger, saying, “it hurts when I press here, here, here . . . everywhere! What’s wrong with me, doc?” Doctor nods and says, “you have a broken finger.”

      This is the etiquette version of that, I think.

  • DGS January 9, 2019, 8:53 am

    Here we go… Everyone is slutty, b*tchy, sassy, hoity toity (is that still a thing people say? Kind of like geewillikers), snotty… It’s like a collection of mean girl dwarfs and Snow White…Instead of sleepy and happy, we have Slutty, Sassy, Hoity Toity, etc.

    It sounds as though OP and family could all use a lesson in communication. First and foremost, if you are the MOH, you figure out a way to coordinate a shower. Amazingly, OP’s sister’s wedding is about her sister, not about OP. Secondly, unless you were dealing with extenuating circumstances, you arrive on time for various events. It sounds as though OP was late to the rehearsal dinner, which is pretty thoughtless and careless. Thirdly, it’s not your wedding, so people are not supposed to pay attention to you. The attention is supposed to be on the bride and groom. And if you are mean to the other girls in the wedding party, then, there is no reason for them to be nice to you. I am sure Jess and Amy picked up on how you felt about them and wanted to have nothing to do with you.

    OP (and her whole family, it sounds like), need to grow up. The entitlement, rudeness and vapid emotional immaturity are astounding. OP has a bad case of the “me, me, me”‘s!

    • Pep January 9, 2019, 9:15 am

      Golly, some people do still say hoity toity, by cracky!

      • DGS January 9, 2019, 2:41 pm

        🙂

    • AttackKitten January 12, 2019, 1:03 pm

      @DGS, your first paragraph had me howling with laughter. Now I want to write a parody short story of No Klass and the Seven Sluts!

    • Constance January 12, 2019, 2:15 pm

      “It’s like a collection of mean girl dwarfs and Snow White…Instead of sleepy and happy, we have Slutty, Sassy, Hoity Toity, etc.”

      This gave me my first belly laugh of the day. Thank you!

  • Abby January 9, 2019, 8:55 am

    Admin, is this perhaps a high school student, bored at home while on holiday break, and sent 8 over the top submissions to you in the hopes you would publish at least one?

    Wonder who else on the family roster is slutty and sassy and annoys the OP.

    • admin January 9, 2019, 1:49 pm

      Who knows? It could be. There is a consistency of data threaded through all of the submissions.

      Personally I think the OP is an entitled, angry person who used the submission function of the site to offload more anger. It’s sad.

      • AttackKitten January 12, 2019, 1:10 pm

        I can understand and definitely support not wanting to give this person more of a stage than what we’ve already witnessed. That being said, from a bystander of the train wreck point of view, I am dying to hear the other five submissions. That is my own personal failing, that I will do my best to get over shortly by going and doing something productive.

        I notice she drives quite a distance in stories two and three. I wonder if it is still the same car from story one? If so, that was a really good car!

  • OldMom January 9, 2019, 9:08 am

    Etiquette mistakes by LW: accepting the role of MOH but not being available to do any of the normal MOH “duties,” apparently extending into not knowing what was planned for the night before the wedding. “hanging around eating” could have been a rehearsal dinner which normally includes a rehearsal for which the MOH should be present. Calling other members of the wedding party “sluts” which is perhaps a reflection of LW’s own insecurities. (she’s the mother of two children and there is no mention of their father….could it be that she has done “slutty” things in her past… at least twice?) calling her SIL “hoity toity” for doing what a MOH usually does, I.e. attending closely to the bride. Other weird things… LW’s brother is the best man which indicates that her sister and brother and their mates are all good friends. LW is not among this close circle of family and friends so I can see that she might feel ignored. But she lives far away, she comes late to the party, has done nothing (except, it seems, find a fabulous dress) to prepare for the weekend, and she’s not central to the proceedings, so, yes, she might have been somewhat ignored. Attending other people’s weddings can feel like that, sometimes. But unless the sister/bride told her “we’re just hanging out the night before, come whenever you can,” it was probably the right call to take LW out of the wedding party. More likely the instructions were “rehearsal dinner starts at 7, I need you here by 5 to help me blah blah blah,” and when LW showed up late with no apology or remorse and with no intention of doing any MOH duties, bride benched her. Poor communication and some family disfunction but the on,y etiquette violations I see here are LW’s.

    • GreenThing January 9, 2019, 5:42 pm

      “Etiquette mistakes by LW: accepting the role of MOH but not being available to do any of the normal MOH “duties,””

      I agree with the rest, but here I’ll defend her. My MOH was accepted into a fantastic graduate program that took her out of the country when I was getting married. So she was there on for the rehearsal dinner and wedding, but didn’t do any of the others and that was fine. It was more important to me that she be there. The sister presumably knew that the LW was in a different state and wouldn’t be able to through a shower or what have you before offering the role.

    • EchoGirl January 10, 2019, 1:06 am

      Admin mentioned an ex-husband who was brought up in some of the unpublished posts. But I agree that, whatever her reason, either this is OP’s go-to insult or she uses it for anyone who does anything vaguely “sexual”, like wearing revealing clothing or living with a boyfriend she’s not married to or what have you.

  • Devin January 9, 2019, 9:30 am

    So you didn’t do any MOH activities, showed up late to the rehearsal dinner (hanging out eating the day before the wedding), possibly missing the rehearsal too, and you wonder why you were demoted?!? I can see why your sister would not be happy with you! It seems like all was forgiven after the wedding was over, so I’m not sure why you carried this grudge along.
    You have a victim mentality and a very negative option of people who you seem to barely interact with. I mean is everyone but you, your mother, and you sister a slut?
    I now totally understand the Admins vitriol from the first post!

  • Michelle January 9, 2019, 9:47 am

    Most of the people in this OP’s stories seems to really, really dislike each other and I’m having trouble figuring out why they continue to inflict themselves upon each other.

    OP has used slutty, bitchy, materialistic, asshole, bastard, selfish, sassy, stupid and hoity totiy to describe her stepmother, stepsister, stepsister’s son, sister and sister’s friends. She has complained that she wasn’t paid attention to, her father didn’t spend enough money on her, her father expected her to take care of her car items and various other complaints.

    If OP’s family and stepfamily are really this horrible to her, then I truly have sympathy for her. But there are often two sides to every story and the language and tone of her submissions suggest she is spoiled and used to getting her way and when that doesn’t happen everyone is deemed “slutty, bitchy, selfish, stupid”, etc. Perhaps OP needs to speak to a therapist of some sort just for her own mental health because this sounds exhausting.

    • pennywit January 9, 2019, 12:02 pm

      That’s what makes these messages so difficult. If OP had written with less vitriol and perhaps a touch more self-awareness, we might have a better picture of things … or at least more sympathy for OP’s viewpoint. For example (and I realize I’m taking some liberties with facts both in evidence and not in evidence):

      1) “I’m in my early 20s. It’s tough starting out, My father promised that he would help me buy a car. We made a deal on how we would handle the car payments over time. My father recently remarried. For the past months, my father has been trying to get me to take over full ownership of the car, and make all the payments. My stepmother and I really don’t like each other, so I think she’s pressuring my father to change our deal. This has put a lot of strain on my finances and on my relationship with my father.”
      2) “As you know, my stepmother and I don’t get along, and I don’t like the influence she has on my father. He used to welcome us into his home when my kids and I come to visit. But since my stepmother moved in, they’ve remodeled his place to get rid of the guest bedroom, and that’s made it really hard to visit him. Last time we went there, we ended up staying with my stepmother’s daughter. It was a really small space, and my stepmother’s daughter and I don’t get along, and my kids and my stepmother’s daughter’s teen really don’t get along. I said some things that I shouldn’t (and if I’m honest, I have to own up to it), but I really felt like she wasn’t a good host. There was no place, really, for me to change my 2-year-old, and she had a lot of harsh words about my children and about me.”

      • Kc_24 January 10, 2019, 2:28 pm

        These posts paint a picture (to me) of someone who has completely missed the point of this site and comes here to read people’s complaints about others in their life and thought to herself “I should definitely write in about all the slutty/sassy/cheap/hoity toity people in my life”.

        I’d hate to see her passive aggressive, attention seeking Facebook feed. One can only imagine…..

  • pennywit January 9, 2019, 9:49 am

    OP’s stories remind me of some personal drama I dealt with a little over a year ago. I did my best to be the adult in the situation, and the other person involved, um … did not. I certainly complained to a few close friends and family members and to a therapist about the situation, but I mostly did my best not to engage. A couple times, I did lose my cool and engage, but I tried to hold my tongue. I found it was very, very frustrating and (in some ways) to hold my tongue … and my id certainly wasn’t happy. (Though my therapist occasionally got an earful of all the things I would have liked to say publicly)

    And then I read things like our friend here, and I’m suddenly glad I didn’t give in to my id as much as I would have liked to.

  • VickyJoJo January 9, 2019, 10:04 am

    I have read all 3 stories and am calling troll on all of them including the ones our dear admin is not publishing. Certainly, the description of the family dynamic may be real/accurate but as we all know there are 3 sides to every story: Side 1, Side 2 and somewhere in the middle of that lies the truth.

    If this is real, the OP is clearly immature and narcissistic. If due to the distance, she is not able to fulfill the duties of MoH, then she shouldn’t have accepted and been happy with a bridesmaid position instead. If you hold a position in the wedding, you move heaven and earth to make sure you are there on time. This event is about your sister, not you. And name calling other members or friends of the family will not make for a good relationship with anyone. This isn’t an etiquette issue – this is an issue of the OP needing to grow up.

    • Queen of Putrescence January 9, 2019, 2:25 pm

      I’m not standing up for this submitter because she does not sound like a nice person. But really there are no “maid of honor duties” happen before the rehearsal. A maid of honor can throw a shower, but does not have to and in this case shouldn’t anyway because she is immediate family. Yes they can throw a bachelorette party but that doesn’t always happen. The main duties for the maid of honor are to buy a dress (she accomplished that) show up at the rehearsal (which apparently this submitter did not do!), attend the rehearsal dinner (was late for that also) and the day of the wedding help the bride in whatever way they can, hold the bouquet, adjust the train and help the bride with any minor details the rest of the day.

      If someone else holds a shower or this is a gift opening, the maid of honor is usually the one writing down who gave what so that the couple has a list in order to do thank you notes.

      When I got married, I didn’t expect my sister to do anything for me beyond these things.

      However, the OP didn’t seem to have her act together enough to fulfill these basic duties.

  • Annon January 9, 2019, 10:41 am

    I would love to hear the “other sides” versions of events……
    But how it got to this point that she is so alienated from everyone…..which side(s) are to blame?
    I’m sure the other 8 stories are interesting as well.
    If things are truly bad, she should distance herself, unless she already has and these are old stories and she is just venting.

    Good luck.

  • JD January 9, 2019, 10:51 am

    How many of these vitriolic submissions did Admin have to read? Ten or so? I can’t imagine having to read all of those! Dear Admin, you should brew a nice cup of tea, put your feet up, and rest your eyes. They are surely in need of it after reading the anger, selfishness and name-calling in these posts. You have definitely taken one for the team this time!
    This poster, if not making this up, has to be truly spoiled. And this family needs to learn to communicate — nicely.

  • dippy January 9, 2019, 11:02 am

    This can’t be real! It’s like an script from an episode of Bridezillas.

    • staceyizme January 9, 2019, 8:54 pm

      Agreed.

  • Marie January 9, 2019, 12:31 pm

    I’m just getting annoyed with all her name calling. If someone throws several stories your way saying what a b**ch this person is and what a b**ch that person is, slutshaming others and whatnot… yeah.
    That person needs to take a long look in the mirror and read the site better.

  • Kelly T January 9, 2019, 1:17 pm

    OP writes “I was deemed maid of honor but because we lived too far away from each other I couldn’t throw a shower or anything, just show up for wedding.”

    Or, you could plan a long-distance party. There are any number of gatherings or activities that OP could have organized, even if she wasn’t physically present. A tea. A gathering with games. Even go with the “can’t physically be there” idea full-on, and have a Skype party video chat with games, everyone taking a moment to say something about the bride, and a picture slide-show presentation. A teeny bit of thought could go a long way.

    • AS January 9, 2019, 7:46 pm

      I cannot condone “Skype/online showers”, especially that gifts are involved for those parties. Anyway, a shower is not mandatory for a party (and the bride in fact sounded nice that she didn’t mind her sister not doing anything until the wedding).
      But I liked your last few ideas of putting together a video, or a slide show. Or even a scrapbook with printouts of photos, or things that people’s love for the bride.

      • Bea January 9, 2019, 11:41 pm

        Thumbs down to the full on Skype shower. But I do think the sister could have planned something long distance and video chatted for a slideshow or speech!

        • AttackKitten January 12, 2019, 1:21 pm

          Agreed. Back in the dark ages before Skype (so this was around 2006 LOL), I hosted a baby shower for a friend who had moved to my area from Chicago. It was a regular, normal small shower, but the guest of honor’s beloved Mom and Sister were still in Chicago, so I got their contact information from the father to be and arranged to have them call during the shower. Back then, the height of technology was that the caller ID would show up on my TV screen when a call was coming in, and on the TV I had a slide show of events from the mother to be’s life that others had contributed. She happened to look at the TV just as the phone rang and saw her sister’s name on the screen and screamed with joy. It was super adorable.

      • Kelly T January 10, 2019, 2:45 pm

        I certainly didn’t mean a “Skype shower” like we’ve seen here before, with the inviting 20 people who won’t be at the wedding, and let them see a video chat of the bride opening their gift. I was thinking with a little innovation, OP/a MOH could make the Skype thing work in fun ways: 10 people do a group video chat from their homes, in pajamas, with sheet masks and nail polish, and take turns sharing a story about the bride. No gifts. Set up a social media event Group Chat with trivia and other bride-related games. No gifts. Everyone records a video message, or a snippet of them dancing to Bride’s favorite song, and it all gets edited together and shown at the beginning of a video chat. No gifts.

        Or, OP and the other BMs take up a collection, and buy a bigger-ticket item from the registry instead of a “shower” of smaller gifts.

        Or, since OP/MOH is the one who can’t make it, she virtually-hosts the party and Skypes in for a half-hour, and has one of the other BMs set up an iPad for her to appear on and top it with a fascinator and a swath of fancy cloth to look like a dressy outfit.

        Or, like I said, organize something even if you can’t be there. It’s not difficult to book a tea at the local library, or even most restaurants, with a planned-ahead menu, and many are reasonable. Invites: “As you know, I’m in [another state] but I’ll be long-distance hosting a bridal shower tea for Bride at Local Hotel. I’ve covered the cost of everyone’s tea, scones, and selection of three sandwiches, plus a gratuity. [Other Bridesmaid], I’m going to record a video message and a toast for you to play when the tea is first served, and there may just be a surprise bottle of champagne arriving at the table for this!”

        Or heck, any number of creative possibilities! Considering how many families and wedding parties are scattered across the globe, the idea that a shower HAS to be gifts and cake in someone’s living room is short sighted.

  • Danielle January 9, 2019, 2:07 pm

    If the person writing the submissions is real, I really worry and feel sorry for the children. It can’t be good for them growing up with a parent like this. She mentions only taking her son to the wedding, so maybe there’s another parent in the picture, since her other child didn’t go.

  • Lady Catford January 9, 2019, 3:31 pm

    I am so glad that Admin has refused to publish any more letters from this poster. They have gone from bad to worse and I firmly believe that the OP is seeing the worst of everyone and is actually the cause of her own troubles.

    • staceyizme January 9, 2019, 8:53 pm

      If eight entries were sitting there, it seems likely that the OP wanted to be published. It’s doubtful that any of these events occurred and more likely, in my view, that the writer chose to take a gamble that one or more of these entries would be published. Perhaps the comments of the site’s readers amused her? (Or him…) Or perhaps they haven’t anything more pressing to focus on than contriving to pass a series of absurd fibs off as fact.

  • Elisabeth January 9, 2019, 4:28 pm

    “I felt so unwanted”

    …”but at least I looked beautiful, my dress was so beautiful and the photos of me were beautiful”

    Ladies and gentlemen, we have a narcissist! No wonder she gets her nose all bent out of shape when people do not cater to her every whim and anticipate her every need, and no wonder she feels the urge to use degrading language about other women.

  • AS January 9, 2019, 5:09 pm

    I had mixed feelings about the admin‘s comment after the first story about the car. But after reading two more days worth of stories, I am starting to arrive at the same conclusions. (I am not even sure the stories are true, because they sound too ridiculous to be real. But some people can be ridiculous without realizing that they are!)

    Here are some common factors that I see/

    1) She seems to leave out a LOT of information- like what was the agreement/status of the car (in Monday’s story), what was agreed upon when she showed up at dad and step-mom’s home or where the dirty diaper was when she was just “sliding” a clean diaper (Tuesday’s), or why was she demoted from being the MOH.

    2) Incessant name calling! Without any evidence why they are being called so!

    3) Expecting dad to pay for her, just because he is rich!

    4) Hating practically everyone in her life, but expecting everyone to still love her, and wait upon her.

    5) Total lack of communication between LW and the parties involved.

    In today’s story, why did she get demoted? Let me take a guess- LW being the only sister of the bride, the bride thought that she should be the MOH. But then she realized that SIL was more of a sister to her emotionally than the LW. The LW’s distasteful attitude towards Amy and Jess was probably evident (and yet she wanted to be liked and included by them!). Add to that, the LW has absolutely zero regard for the bride-to-be’s wishes, or the wedding, and arrives whenever she pleases, misses events (for no reason stated), and want to be the center of attention. She got demoted due to her negativity.

    What were people “just hanging or and eating”? Was it the rehearsal dinner? Given LW’s attitude, and her penchant for leaving our critical details, I’d not be surprised if it was. And there was probably a rehearsal before that, where the wedding party is actually told what to do!

    • Gena January 10, 2019, 4:26 pm

      Just as a point – she says her dad makes 150K (in the 2nd post I think). That is not rich.

  • Catherine St Clair January 9, 2019, 6:32 pm

    I know that there are some people who will make up lies about a relative. Some of the readers may recall my infamous brother who tells everyone that I cruelly would not allow him to attend his daddy’s funeral when, in reality, he chose to take a month’s vacation when Dad was very ill. I asked what he wanted me to do if Dad died while Bro was gone big game hunting. He said, “Have the funeral! I’m not giving up a day of my vacation for any funeral!” Dad died June 15th and I held off having the funeral until the 23rd in spite of Dad’s sisters being very upset about the long wait. Bro did not find out Dad had died until June 30th, when he stopped at his wife’s relatives and they told him. So-I know that people can be hateful and lie about you when you are innocent. However, when you label so many women with so many hateful names, I have to wonder if the problem lies with those women or with the one who is calling them those names. If you spread hate and discontent wherever you go, people will avoid you and see no need to accommodate you. Either you mix with the wrong sort of people or you are the wrong sort of person to mix with people.

  • Kay_L January 9, 2019, 8:36 pm

    So she misses the rehearsal, something the MOH really needs to be there for, and gets booted by her sister the Bride.

    Given the generally nasty tone of this person, sounds like a good decision.

  • staceyizme January 9, 2019, 8:49 pm

    I don’t believe a single word of these entries. How can you breeze in several hours late to a wedding where you are supposed to be the Matron of Honor? Also, what’s up with the excessive materialism and focus on looks? And on everyone else’s supposedly immoral conduct? She doesn’t mention apologizing to her sister for her tardiness. She doesn’t mention mom’s reaction to being several hours late and she doesn’t seem to care about anything that most other people would find somewhat more central to the series of events we’ve been presented with. It can’t be simple immaturity, it’s too lacking in nuance. A troll? I think so.

    • Mechtilde January 12, 2019, 2:22 pm

      I’ve had a couple turn up so late they had to be moved to the end of the day and still ask if we could delay the postponed wedding because the mother of the bride hadn’t arrived. Two hours after the wedding was suppposed to start.

  • Bea January 9, 2019, 11:38 pm

    Her family is so lucky to have a thousand miles between them and this name calling mess.

  • Livvy17 January 11, 2019, 4:29 pm

    Dear OP – If these stories are true, and you are reading this, I hope you will take a little time to examine your life and your own actions for the future. It is only when we take full responsibility for ourselves, including our own actions and feelings, do we get control over our lives. If take a little time to examine / stop seeing everyone’s actions as attacks, you might find that you are the victim a lot less in your life.

  • Lady Phoenix January 11, 2019, 6:29 pm

    It sounds like everyone OP knows hates OP. And there are 2 possible scenarios as to why:
    A) Everyone is toxic.
    B) OP is toxic and many people on both sides are done with her toxicity.

    And I think the situation is B. Op calls pretty much every woman every sexist, vitrolic word any person could say, minus the c-word. (And who is to say OP doesn’t call women that and either didn’t write it down or Etiquette Hell edited it).

    Or the even likely conclusion, OP is a troll and Etiquette Hell posted it for the lulz.

    • Kat January 12, 2019, 7:25 pm

      Troll or not, I hope Admin doesn’t post any more stories like this. This was over the top obnoxious.

  • AttackKitten January 12, 2019, 12:58 pm

    WOW! After reading all three of these (should have clued in on the first one when she said she had so many stories about relatives), I’m gobsmacked. Quite the entitled and judgmental piece of work, isn’t she? Reminds me of the old saying “You meet a jerk in the morning, you met a jerk. If everyone you meet is a jerk? Then, you’re the jerk.”

  • Kitty January 12, 2019, 7:43 pm

    And you didn’t decide to not attend the wedding at all… why? After being thrown out as maid of honor because of being late (traffic? general unpredictable things happening when driving with kids?), I would’ve just not attened the wedding. You felt unwanted and ignored? Because that’s exactly what was going on. You were not wanted. Why submit yourself (and your kid, I suppose) to something you aren’t supposed to be at anymore? It’s like walking into an open knife, you can’t really express surprise about the resulting stab wound.

  • Hannah January 12, 2019, 11:16 pm

    I haven’t been able to read any of these stories in full. Perhaps I’m, dare I say, too sensitive or too politically correct, but any use of the word “slutty” to describe another person in earnest utterly turns me away. It’s worse than immature– its degrading (not to mention irrelevant). Also, no one on this site speaks like this; did OP really think this way going to fly here? Did she really believe we’d all take pity on her and scold her family for their behavior when her own is so scathing? Maybe she’s just a troll and we’re all wasting our time.

  • Phitius January 14, 2019, 3:21 pm

    “Yes, yes that’s a biggie flaunting your bare butt and your crotch to a bunch of people. I felt totally unwanted and ignored.”

    I’m confused…did you feel unwanted and ignored because other people were paying attention to the crotch & butt, or was it because you were not graced as often as others with a view of said crotch and butt?

    Count me among those who felt some sympathy for the OP with the first story, but have now joined the chorus of ‘the problem might be the OP’.

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