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Pajamas And Low Rise Jeans

Allow me to vent…
    This past holiday weekend I had the pleasure to stay at a family resort, and the amount of people wearing pajamas in public places was mortifying . The hotel lobby is not your living room. The coffee shop is not your bedroom. It literally takes two seconds to put on pants and shoes and take off that robe.
Rant over…. 1124-18

I’d rather see people in pajamas than wearing their bluejeans so low on the hips that nothing is left to the imagination.


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  • pennywit February 5, 2019, 3:02 pm

    I saw pajama pants in the hotel lobby. Jeeves, GET MY FAINTING COUCH!!

    • Miss-E February 5, 2019, 4:23 pm

      Yeah, really. Maybe if it was church or the opera or something but walking around in pajamas on your vacation at a resort seems totally fine to me. I’ve been to beach resorts where everyone walks around in a bathing suit. It’s vacation!

    • Secret Sauce February 6, 2019, 6:37 pm

      Don’t you just love the anonymity of the internet? I mean where else can you mock someone (likely a total stranger) for voicing an opinion?

      • Miss-E February 7, 2019, 3:48 pm

        Or where you can complain about the appearance of others while they are minding their own business and enjoying their vacation

        • Secret Sauce February 7, 2019, 7:02 pm

          My husband and I were at an upscale resort a few years ago and went to one of the fancier restaurants. We both took care to be dressed well to go along with the ambiance of the establishment. The experience was slightly marred by several other patrons who’s idea of dressing up did not go any further than a pair of track pants with the word “JUICY” emblazoned across their rear end or shorts so short they would have been sent home from school to change. TACKY TACKY TACKY

          • EOM February 8, 2019, 1:10 pm

            If a total stranger not living up to your standards in your presence can mar your meal, perhaps you should consider eating in more often. Obviously, the establishment was not as upscale as you believed it to be or at least didn’t feel the need to enforce your idea of a proper”ambiance”.

  • kingsrings February 5, 2019, 3:35 pm

    I think it looks tacky to wear sleepwear in public. Have some pride in your appearance! Sleepwear is for inside your house, not out in public. And that includes hotel lobbies and planes. Those are still public places even if one engages in sleeping in certain areas of them. Yes, there are worse things than this, but this is an etiquette forum, remember, so it will be talked about about. But I’d rather see someone in sleepwear than an exposed butt crack. How can anyone think that’s okay?

    • T February 5, 2019, 3:43 pm

      Not only would I not want to be seen in public wearing pyjamas, the idea of getting in bed later wearing clothes I had worn outside is just disgusting. No, I don’t believe all of these people are washing their pyjamas after wearing them outside.

      • kingsrings February 6, 2019, 3:32 pm

        Excellent point – I didn’t think about that! Plus, slippers aren’t made to be worn outside, so that will ruin a perfectly good pair fast.

      • Nialla February 8, 2019, 12:20 am

        So if I wander outside to get the mail, or walk my dog around the block, then lie down to take a nap I’m disgusting? Just what do you think is in the air? The only possible thing I could think of as “disgusting” would be shoes, but I never wear those in the house. I do have my screen doors and windows open, weather permitting, so is that disgusting too?

  • AS February 5, 2019, 3:43 pm

    My husband changes his sleepwear to jeans/pants before leaving his bedroom at his parent’s house – parents who have seen him from the time he was born! (His siblings aren’t that way though, so something about hubby).

    I do think that wearing sleepwear in public is uncouth. But that said, it is not affecting my quality of life in any way. And hence, it is not my concern. If I don’t like seeing people in sleepwear, I avoid looking at them. That’s it. It is like any other piece of clothing.
    (And if they wear sleepwear to an interview, it could affect their job prospect. Again not my concern. If you or I are the interviewer, we are welcome to judge them as we wish)

  • Michelle February 5, 2019, 3:48 pm

    I see people in pajama pants everywhere now- the post office, grocery store, even in a museum. I also don’t care for the low rise jeans, “daisy dukes” shorts and skirts that show everything if they bend a millimeter at the waist. But I also know that many people just don’t care. They want to be comfortable and/or look cute/sexy, etc. I just think to myself “Nope, I’d never wear that in public” and go on about my business.

    Pajama pants in a hotel lobby? I wouldn’t blink twice at that. What if they got locked out of their room on the way to ice machine or vending area? Or maybe they need one of the complimentary toothbrushes, or ran out of soap, or needed something from their car. I might feel differently in they were in a negligee/lingerie/boxer/briefs, but hey, maybe they got locked out of their room, too.

    • Michelle February 5, 2019, 3:51 pm

      Just to be clear- I don’t think wearing pajama pants to the post office, grocery store or museum is ok but, again, some people just don’t care. If you are going to the museum, can’t you put on some pants?

      • Kogarashi February 5, 2019, 8:17 pm

        I think a lot depends on where you’re wearing them, and what context you could be wearing them in. Grocery store, post office, hotel lobby, I’d see those as fine. Whatever. Maybe it’s an emergency run, maybe it’s a quick errand right after dropping kids off at school or something. If they cover more than your underwear, we’re off to a good start.

        Places where you should probably make yourself more presentable, though, like a museum or something? I think you can manage proper everyday clothes.

        Of course, a lot probably also depends on what your sleepwear is. I tend to wear yoga pants as sleepwear and as everyday wear, so my sleepwear might not be identifiable beyond the lack of a bra under the shirt.

    • Devin February 5, 2019, 8:17 pm

      Currently staying in a very touristy area for a work conference, and the hotel has several different options for dinning in the lobby. Pajama pants in the morning at the coffeebar? I feel like that is appropriate, most people are grabbing a coffe and their paper before going back to their room to get ready for the day. Skimpy clothes or just swimwear at the pool bar, yup that’s fine too. Slinky dresses and club wear at the late night bar, sounds right. And at the 24/7 dinner, heck anything goes. Places that want a certain look in their patrons will set a dress code, otherwise mind to your own self and let others dress however they wish to be viewed.

    • LKB February 6, 2019, 6:23 am

      Pajamas in a hotel lobby (i.e., the ones that look like sweatpants/yoga pants and do not resemble lingerie) are absolutely fine. When we travel, I often wear them in the lobby because I’m a morning person who wakes up hours before my spouse and children. I’ll go down to the lobby to grab the continental breakfast and free paper without rummaging around the hotel room to find my “real clothes.” They have a right to sleep in.

      Of course, I’m covered on top too, wearing a very modest sweatshirt/jacket etc.

      Wearing pajamas in the grocery store or the movie theatre is not something I would do but whatever… I don’t know the person’s story. Maybe they’ve been sick or just coming off a long shift at work. Maybe their kids are sick or the person has mobility issues. You live your life and I’ll live mine. You probably don’t like my messy hair, my lack of makeup or something else.

      I’d look askance if I saw them at church, but it wouldn’t be my place to say anything.

      • A February 6, 2019, 7:52 am

        Thank you for noting the mobility issues. That’s a real issue in my house.

      • Liz February 6, 2019, 9:05 am

        I have been known to wander down to the lobby or lobby coffee shop in my jammies. BUT i’m talking long pj pants, shoes, and a top, and sweatshirt or jacket over it. so do i look a bit sloppy? probably, but i’m not lingering. I’m going down, getting my coffee, and coming back up to MY room, to lounge and wake up. I am NOT a morning person and don’t function well wihtout my coffee and morning “routine” but i’m always covered and nothing showing.

  • Jennifer February 5, 2019, 4:12 pm

    As someone who works in a hotel, I’d much rather see a guest in pajamas. I’ve had guests who came to breakfast in only their boxers.

  • L. February 5, 2019, 4:30 pm

    I grew up in an era where you were mortified if your slip or bra strap showed. Now anything is acceptable and everything hangs out.

    • Dominic February 6, 2019, 7:37 am

      “In olden days a glimpse of stocking was looked on as something shocking. Now, goodness knows, anything goes!”

      • Lerah99 February 6, 2019, 5:41 pm

        @Dominic, I love your musical theater reference! So appropriate!

    • Kirsten February 6, 2019, 1:47 pm

      And it’s so much better now. Who wants to spend their life feeling mortified because someone else saw a bra strap?

      • at work February 8, 2019, 4:24 pm

        Because in 1972 when I was 12 years old, it was a signal to the creepy boys in school that you now wore a bra, and they would come up behind us and snap the band. We felt embarrassed and humiliated. I’m pretty sure my parents would have blamed me somehow if I had told them how awful it was. The reason I think I would have been blamed is that I was blamed when someone saw a window peeker peeking in my bedroom window. Yes, it is so much better now. But I still can’t abide having my underwear show at all. Thanks, society!

  • deddeddie February 5, 2019, 4:33 pm

    They are on vacation, and are doing nothing to impede your enjoyment. Go about your business, as this is none of yours.

  • Rebecca M. February 5, 2019, 4:46 pm

    Wearing pyjamas in public is silly and reflects poorly on anybody who does it, but is it really an etiquette violation? It doesn’t (or shouldn’t) inconvenience anyone or make them feel uncomfortable.

    Exposing inappropriate body parts, on the other hand, is definitely an etiquette violation, but I don’t think ultra low-rise pants have been in style for quite some time. We might as well complain about somebody’s codpiece being offensively large. While vulgar, that time has thankfully passed.

  • Jill February 5, 2019, 5:07 pm

    I moved a few years ago from Rochester, New York to Maryland. Let me say that wearing flannel PJs and SLIPPERS is apparently the thing to do, in Rochester. You see it all the time! Since I moved to Maryland, I have yet to see anyone out in public, in their PJs. So it may be a regional thing.

    • flora February 6, 2019, 7:30 am

      Are you near DC? DC culture is more formal and fast paced than other parts of MD.

  • Bea February 5, 2019, 5:27 pm

    Yikes, are we going to go back to wearing formal wear on airplanes? Will we now need to wear our Sunday best to the grocery store because who knows who will see us! No thanks. I don’t care what others wear unless they’re going to get my furniture dirty or something like that. You cross into snobbery when you start judging others because they’re out in what you deem only acceptable as “sleep wear”. Are they warm? Are they comfortable? Are they showing you anything that’s unacceptable? Find something better to fixate on!

    I’ve gone to work in pajamas before after surgery. Yeah I did. My coworkers have the same luxury if they want to, we’re not formal around these parts. Do you sign my checks? Are you going to give me a job and give me lots of money? Are you giving me a pony if I look pretty enough? No? Then why am I trying to look nice for you again?

    • Meggatronia February 18, 2019, 10:04 am

      I once managed to lock myself out of my house in my pajamas before work. I had my phone with me but nothing else.
      I called my landlord and he came over to unlock the house with his key. While I was waiting I called my boss to let him know I would be late. He said “You can come to work in your PJs if you want!” I thanked him for the offer but said that as my purse was inside as well as my medication, I couldnt take him up on the offer (needed to take my meds, needed my purse to pay to get to work).
      He honestly wouldn’t have cared if I did come in my pajamas though. We had a very loose neat casual dress code but there was no customer face time and one day of me in my pjs would not have made a difference.

      As for hotel lobby’s and attached cafes, I’ve been in those in my pajamas many many times. If I have to sort out a quick issue or grab some morning caffeine, I’m going to want to get that done before getting ready for the day. Or I may be planning on spending the day in my pajamas and relaxing in my room.
      My day clothes are usually jeans and a nerdy tshirt. My pajamas are usually a nerdy tshirt and nerdy lounge pants. Not seeing a big difference here.

  • lakey February 5, 2019, 6:14 pm

    There’s a difference between what you think and what you say. The way a person dresses does have an effect on how people will view them. So if they wear pajama bottoms in public, I think it makes them look lazy and sloppy, but that’s their choice. I keep it to myself. Same with if someone is wearing lowslung pants that show the infamous buttcrack. If there is too much of that at a particular grocery store, I might choose to shop at a different grocery store. That’s my choice, but I wouldn’t say anything about it.
    I do think that many of us choose restaurants, resorts, cruises, and hotels based on the atmosphere they provide. If I were paying hundreds of dollars per night to stay in what is supposed to be a nice hotel, and patrons are wandering down to the lobby or coffee shop in pajamas, I probably wouldn’t go back to that hotel, but that is the hotel’s problem to deal with.

  • Harry's Mom February 5, 2019, 6:49 pm

    I must agree, it is a bit sad. I was at Target and saw a woman wearing pajamas and slippers and it made me think how much the dress code has changed over the years.
    When I was growing up we didn’t leave the house until we were fully dressed and hair combed. Be it going to school, church, a restaurant, or riding on a plane, we dressed accordingly. Not so much now. I suppose the white gloves were a bit overkill but it was nice to know that I looked my best, even if I was just a kid.

    • jazzgirl205 February 9, 2019, 7:30 am

      I grew up as a politician’s child. It was drummed into me from toddlerhood to look my best where ever I went. I’m in my fifties and I still can’t leave the house without makeup and a girdle. If you see my husband in a t-shirt and cargo shorts, he’s either working on his car or kayaking. We pack dressy clothes even on a hiking trip (it feels wonderful to shower, dress up, and go out to a nice restaurant after a good hike). Looking nice is fun. It just seems boring to dress the same way everywhere you go. I like more formal vacations.

  • Jelly_Rose February 5, 2019, 7:12 pm

    I wouldn’t bat an eyelash at people wearing pajama pants at a hotel, plenty of reasons of why they would be doing it. Funniest place I had seen it was at the movies, when Happy Death Day was out, I was waiting with my husband to see a movie and a group of teens walked past us, all in pajamas, carrying blankets and pillows… Apparently the theater was the place for a sleepover?

    • kingsrings February 6, 2019, 3:36 pm

      My brother and I saw The Last Jedi at an 8:30AM showing. A family was there all decked out in their sleepwear. They were just having fun and dressing in “costume” since it was such an early showing.

      • Jelly_Rose February 6, 2019, 7:06 pm

        Early morning I can totally see, but my experience was at 1pm on a Tuesday, I guess that’s why it stuck out.

  • Sunnydi February 5, 2019, 7:40 pm

    I always change into pj pants for long, overseas flights. I will wear pants to the airport and then change. I think it’s fine for an airplane. Who wants to be uncomfortable for 8+ hours just so people won’t think badly of them? It also doesn’t bother me at a hotel. People are on vacation! Be comfortable! I guess I just don’t see them out in public much around where I live.
    But don’t get me started on yoga pants……..ahhhhhhhhhh

  • Sarah B. February 5, 2019, 7:57 pm

    In general, I don’t think wearing pajama pants or sweat pants in public is rude or inappropriate in many places, if they’re clean, have no stains or holes, are of sufficient thickness to not be actually or effectively see through, and sufficiently cover what needs to be covered. Pajama pants/sweats are a heck of a lot better than a lot of what I see that passes as “fashion”, especially for women! I’ve seen a lot of “proper clothes” that make me feel like I should offer to buy dinner for just walking past minding my own business.

    No, outside a few things, you shouldn’t wear them to work. Definitely shouldn’t wear them to church. (I don’t practice or believe in organized religion, but the few times I’ve had to be in one for one reason or another, you’d better believe I was wearing the best clothes I had and was using the best manners I knew. No excuses for anything less.) Probably shouldn’t wear them to school (outside maybe gym class), though college is slightly different. Definitely shouldn’t wear them to a wedding or a funeral (unless requested to – I know somebody who wants people to come to their funeral in the most comfortable, colorful clothes they own because they don’t want anyone to feel forced to suffer heatstroke or being strangled in too tight formal outfits they only wear for funerals and weddings). But unless it’s an event or location with a clearly understood reasonably dressy dress code or a clearly stated dress code that forbids them, I think pajama pants or sweats in public are perfectly fine.

    In the spirit of full disclosure, I’m one of those people who often wear sweats in public for many reasons. I have many old injuries and medical conditions (also been unable to afford medical insurance for all but a couple years of my adult life and have a strong aversion to running up bills I know I’ll never be able to pay, so nothing has been properly treated since largely right after diagnosis) that some days make dealing with a button, zipper, and belt too difficult to deal with, or real pants just too uncomfortable to wear unless I absolutely have to. Going to the grocery store is not an “absolutely have to wear real pants”, but is an “absolutely have to eat”. Some days I just don’t have the energy due to pain or depression (usually both) to deal with changing into real pants *and* whatever else I absolutely have to get done that day. I’d rather handle my business and get food in sweats than be too exhausted or in too much pain to even deal with leaving the house. Just seems more practical that way, but I do try to manage both.

    • Michelle February 6, 2019, 4:02 pm

      I think sweats in public are fine, with exceptions you mentioned above (church, funeral, wedding).

  • Kry February 5, 2019, 8:41 pm

    I dislike people dressing like that bit I remember what I was taught growing up “If you don’t like it don’t look!”.

  • gramma dishes February 5, 2019, 8:53 pm

    There are some absolutely adorable fleece pants out there often called pajama pants which are really nothing much different from what we used to call jogging pants (or sometimes just plain sweat pants). Some are really cute and are actually meant to be worn publicly. They’re almost always quite modest and nothing can beat them for comfort.
    No, they’d probably not be suitable to wear to your cousin’s black tie wedding, but for a breakfast bar or lunch on the patio, why not?

  • Ask Kim February 5, 2019, 9:09 pm

    Oh my. Another discussion on clothes. Everyone here should know by now that this is a sacred subject and one which will get you slammed everytime when you choose to be judgy about clothes. Why this discussion draws the most hate I dont know, it seems for me to be par on course with other etiquette issues. That said, I noticed this trend many years ago when the girls on my daughters basketball team would wear pjs to practise early in the a.m. made sense at the time. Then it turned in to more and more often. But now, I really dont notice it much anymore. I think itll die off. Which leads me to my conclusions on most things — this too shall ( most likely) pass.

    • Miss-E February 7, 2019, 3:52 pm

      I think it draws hate because it isn’t really an issue of etiquette. The OP isn’t talking about people poorly dressed at a wedding or a funeral or something. They’re talking about total strangers on vacation. It’s not up to them to decide if it’s rude and it really just boils down to getting into someone else’s business. Some say it’s tacky to go out in sweatpants, my grandmother would have said it’s tacky to go out without a full face of makeup. People shouldn’t be judging someone else’s appearance when it’s none of their business.

  • Dawn February 6, 2019, 12:31 am

    I saw a man wearing pajama pants at the grocery store. Probably in his late thirties, nice looking. The store was in a pretty nice part of town. I could easily imagine this man in business suit over jeans and a t-shirt. I was looking at him with a “huh?” expression when he leaned over to get get a tomato and I was treated to the full Monty. So, yeah, pajamas are bad enough, but please put on some drawers!!


  • Cassandra February 6, 2019, 2:18 am

    I’m one of those that frequently wears pajama bottoms out in public for a quick errands- gas station mostly. I’m not embarrassed and I know people judge me. Yes I can put on jeans and go out, however, the reason I do it is simple: I work 60-80 hours a week often in 14-28 day, yes day, stretches with out a break. So on my very few days off, I have absolutely no desire to put on “regular” clothes for a 10 minute trip. I often also run out while all of my
    “other” clothing is in the laundry. I relish my days off and want to relax and be comfortable, regardless of what judgements might be coming my way.

    • LKB February 6, 2019, 6:27 am

      Wow! I just wanted to tell you Cassandra that I admire your stamina and perseverance. I’ve tried 12-hour midnight shifts before and it nearly killed me within a month. You go girl! But please take care of yourself.

  • Gina tonic February 6, 2019, 4:42 am

    Are you sure it’s sleepwear. Cause my mother has an outfit that she insists is not pyjamas. But they are definitely pyjamas.

    • TP February 6, 2019, 1:47 pm

      Palazzo pants where a big fashion trend around here for a while. All of them just look like PJ’s to me.

  • Shoegal February 6, 2019, 7:47 am

    I’m one of those people that mourns the loss of formality. I’ve seen a grown man wear shorts and flip flops to my nephew’s wedding. It wasn’t a back yard barbecue wedding – it was formal. He couldn’t be bothered? I’m just saying aren’t we a little better than sleepwear out to the grocery store? I mean, it was just way too much to throw on a pair of pants? And are your regular pants that uncomfortable? I think it’s ok to have some standards. If you are on vacation and get up to go to the continental breakfast – get dressed. It is absolutely not too much to ask. It is something you should be doing anyway.

    • LKB February 6, 2019, 9:49 am

      I get what you’re saying Shoegal and somewhat agree, but as stated by other posters, there are cases in which yes, “it was way too much to throw on a pair of pants”: The run to the store because you are flat out of milk but your kid has been sick all night. Or you’ve worked a long shift, slept but are still tired but there’s nothing in the house for the family to eat. Or, one has arthritis or another similar condition and has woken up to a flair and regular pants are just too much effort.

      As to the continental breakfast — so I have to go rummaging in the dark to try to find my clothes and risk waking up my family while I go grab my breakfast? Or stay stock still in my bed for several hours until they are ready to get up? No thanks. It’s my vacation too — if I want to enjoy my paper in peace while fully covered up (no one could possibly see my bikini area (as another poster put it)) in the hotel’s breakfast area, it’s nobody’s business but mine. Give me my coffee, dangnabbit. 😀

      Weddings and formal occasions? That’s something else entirely.

    • Kirsten February 6, 2019, 1:53 pm

      Why “should” I? There’s nothing morally superior about one type of clothes over another, and if I’m staying in the privacy of my own room/residence I might not get dressed at all.

      • Shoegal February 7, 2019, 8:27 am

        Because you have “standards.” But I guess you don’t. I’m all for never getting dressed in your room or residence. It’s private – there are some Saturdays I stay home and never take off my pjs.

        • Kirsten February 7, 2019, 2:01 pm

          The fact that some people’s standards are different from yours doesn’t mean they don’t have standards, and it doesn’t mean your standards are higher.

          • Nialla February 8, 2019, 12:46 am

            I would say it means your standards are different, not higher. People can wear a tuxedo or evening gown to the coffee shop if they want. I don’t consider that a higher standard. It’s a personal choice and certainly no one else’s business.

          • Shoegal February 8, 2019, 7:48 am

            Ok – different “standards.” But if we relax and say it’s ok not to bother getting dressed- what’s next? We walk out in our underwear because it was easier and more comfortable than putting on my pjs? Next it’s a funeral – I didn’t want to be bothered putting on a suit – it’s so uncomfortable and constrictive – I’ll just wear these pjs – I’m covered. I should be fine – no one will care. It’s about how you present yourself to the world. If you’d like to present yourself as a sloth who couldn’t bother to dress than I suppose that’s your choice.

    • Annie February 11, 2019, 2:28 pm

      The wedding thing gets me; I would never say anything to people, but I have to wonder if some people don’t care or if they don’t realize what is appropriate. I went to a wedding where a woman wore a flimsy beach cover as a dress. The following week at a 4th of July barbecue, my cousin had the exact same cover on – over her swimsuit. I told about the wedding, and she laughed and said that this was definitely a cover for the pool and beach and not a dress for regular use.

      I did once go out in public in my PJs. I was released from the hospital at 8 AM after being rushed to the ER earlier that morning, and I had to go to the pharmacy to get my medication. (And no, the meds couldn’t wait!)

  • Lerah99 February 6, 2019, 9:01 am

    It’s not my body, why should I care what other people use to cover theirs?

    Sure, there are formal events that have specific dress codes.
    But mostly, I can’t find it in myself to care what people are wearing.

    This whole “Yoga pants aren’t pants!” “Leggings aren’t pants!” “How dare you wear pj’s to the coffee shop in the hotel lobby!” “Dress your age!” “Women over 30 shouldn’t wear…!” “Fat people shouldn’t wear…!” etc… feels a little judgmental and classist to me.

    So long as bathing suit areas are covered, wear what makes you happy.
    If you love being impeccably dressed, great! Live it up!
    If you want to wear your fuzzy pj pants and a soft tank top to Starbucks, great! You do you!

  • NicoleK February 6, 2019, 9:39 am

    I have been to a lot of hotels but never have I seen people in their pajamas. Swim suits, yes, but pajamas?

  • Livvy17 February 6, 2019, 10:05 am

    To me, this is 95% a style issue (how one chooses to present oneself to the world) and 5% an etiquette issue. If you’re violating a stated dress code, then it’s etiquette. Everything else is style, and expectations. I’ve always found it weird that we find short-shorts perfectly acceptable, whereas being covered head to toe in fleece is inappropriate (to some). I would greatly prefer to see fuzzy bunnies over 2 inches of lower buttock, myself, but it’s not my business to dictate fashion. What’s appropriate is changing, and often we don’t know the background of people’s wardrobe choices. For example, I still feel it’s rude to wear jeans to a funeral, but some people own nothing but jeans, or sweats… and I don’t know that what they’re wearing isn’t the best they have/can afford, or that someone even taught them what was “appropriate” for the situation.

  • JD February 6, 2019, 10:39 am

    The pj’s in public thing seems to be a fad in some areas, reminding me of the practice of wearing two pairs of socks of contrasting colors, which girls did when my kids were small (with side ponytails put up in scrunchies). My question is, if the pajamas are for comfort, are ALL of these people’s other clothes uncomfortable? I wear leggings with a tunic that covers me quite well, or light fabric pants with a stretchy waist, or even a longer skirt that has a stretch waist, out in public when I’m being really casual, and I find them very comfortable. If one is buying an assortment of pajamas to wear out in public — I assume the same set isn’t worn all the time– couldn’t one purchase some really comfy street wear instead? I buy almost all of my comfy-yet-not-pajamas clothing second hand, so I pay less for them than I would pajamas (I don’t buy second-hand sleepwear, for the record).
    A side note: our local schools have a fun day each year that is “pajama day” and the kids love it. They must wear pajamas that are modest, of course, but they get a real kick out of it. If pajamas are being worn anywhere for anything, then wearing pajamas in public becomes just another everyday outfit. That would take some fun out of pajama day, for sure.
    I’m not about to slam someone for wearing pajamas in public, although it still looks a little odd to me; pajamas always struck me as a sort of “intimate wear” like a slip or long underwear. I have to admit, though, I don’t care for the idea of “whatever is comfortable should be allowed.” Some people might claim that passing gas in a crowded elevator makes them much more comfortable than holding it in, but the other occupants might well say they were quite offended. Clearly, some people are offended at the sight of pajamas in public. I don’t think holding “comfort” as king in our public appearance and behavior is always the best idea; however, I don’t think OP or anyone else intends to become the pajama police and start confronting and publicly criticizing people wearing them.
    Another side note: it used to bug me that Hugh Hefner, at some point in time, abandoned his undoubtedly expensive suits for what was, I’m sure, equally expensive pajamas, and was photographed wearing pajamas everywhere. Considering the empire he built, I viewed his pajama-wearing to be rather sexist.

  • Jennifer February 6, 2019, 10:51 am

    I’m curious as to the actual atmosphere of the resort. The OP refers to it as a “family resort” which to me would be a place like Great Wolf Lodge. GWL presents various activities in the main lobby including a story time, during which guests are encouraged to wear their pajamas. Lots of families wear their PJs for the story time at 8, then head down to the arcade, bowling alley, or some of the other amenities open after the waterpark closes. So I wouldn’t even bat an eyelash at seeing people in their PJs in the lobby there, but if I was at a more formal, adults-only type of resort, I wouldn’t expect it.

  • kingsrings February 6, 2019, 3:41 pm

    As far as hotels, I think it’s okay to go outside of your room in items such as sweats or yoga pants. But something like a bathrobe and slippers is slovenly.
    Anyone ever see sleepwear worn in the casino at casino/hotels? I have. Ugh.

  • mother of cats February 6, 2019, 4:04 pm

    I have no issues with people wearing pajama pants to the store or at the coffee shop in a hotel. they are still pants. I am not sure about others but i have pajama pants that i dont actually sleep in. i just wear them around my house so really they are just pants.

  • AM February 6, 2019, 5:39 pm

    Who on earth is still wearing low-rise pants?

  • Catherine St Clair February 6, 2019, 7:27 pm

    I don’t have a strong opinion for or against the public wearing of jp’s, but I do recall a lady who, clad only in her pj’s, took her daughter to school, dropped her off, and, on the way home, happened upon an accident in which a car had gone into a canal. The mother was trying to get her children out of their safety seats, but her infant was under water and had stopped breathing. The pj lady stopped, jumped into the water, rescued the infant, performed CPR, handed her to her mother, jumped back in the car and roared off. The mother had not had time to thank her and the police wanted to speak to her. The lady returned, this time wearing jeans and a tee shirt. She had not realized that her pj’s were transparent when wet and was too embarrassed to stand that way on the side of a highway and talk to anyone. She had gone home, changed, and come back. I think I’d check to see how my pj’s look when soaked before I venture out, just in case I get caught in the rain.

  • Lanes February 6, 2019, 7:56 pm

    Y’know, some people might not even realise they’re wearing PJ’s.

    My mother, in her 50’s so not elderly, was out shopping. She found a lovely pink floral top & short set and was happy with her find.
    I then pointed out that they were pyjamas before she bought them and she was mortified that she would have purchased and worn them in public had I not been there.

    Just another possible angle to all of this.

    • EchoGirl February 9, 2019, 11:14 pm

      I had that happen once. I was away at summer camp over my birthday and my mom sent me a present which appeared to be a pair of capris and a matching top. It was within the scope of things I would wear, so I wore them once or twice during the session, and decided to wear them when she came to pick me up to show her how much I had liked them. At which point she asked me if there was a reason I decided to wear pajamas that day. She had made a comment in the card to that effect, but it was cryptic enough that I didn’t catch on. Score one for unclear communication.

  • BagLady February 6, 2019, 9:17 pm

    I’m old enough to remember when adults considered it scandalous, and children considered it humiliating, to wear PJs in public. Anyone else remember going to the drive-in movie theater as a child in PJs? Being expected to play on the swings while waiting for it to get dark enough for the movie to start … in PJs? That was for babies!

    Since then the lines have blurred between what is considered sleepwear and what is OK to wear in public. I often sleep in sweatpants and wouldn’t think twice about dashing out of the house in them to grab breakfast fixings at the store, or coffee in the hotel lobby. Many of those fanciful print fleece or plaid flannel pants are sold as “casual pants” rather than pajama bottoms, even though many people wear them as PJs.

    I guess my interpretation of what is considered acceptable or unacceptable nightwear/casual wear in public aligns with Justice Potter Stewart’s famous definition of porn: “I know it when I see it.”

  • nicole February 7, 2019, 11:54 am

    You have no right to force your dress code on others in public. If you wish to not see the current state of fashion, go to places with a dress code that is more old fashioned.

    To put it in to context using me: I am not fond of small children as I have sound induced migraines and the wailing can set them off if I am too close to the source. To accommodate this I make a point to not go to child friendly places and pay extra to sit in the exit row on airplanes and take other precautions to avoid things that make me uncomfortable because it is my issue, not theirs. It is your responsibility to handle your own issues, you can’t push your morale or ethical ideals or dress codes on others.

    As for the ‘women used to wear dresses and men used to wear slacks’ comments. Yes, and before that men wore tights and women wore corsets. Time continues to march on and fashion continues to change. To rail against it is a practice in futility. We no longer throw rocks at people wearing straw hats in winter or require a woman’s ankle to be covered. Change what you are saying from ‘I don’t want to see —-, it is nasty’ to say ‘I don’t want to see a woman’s ankle, it is obscene’ and you are now over a hundred years in the past. You must realize it is just another shift in the world, imagine how the hippies looked to the 50s house wife. They got over it. You can either keep fighting against change and upsetting yourself or learn to adjust and tolerate. No one is forcing you to wear any of it, so no harm is being done to you. You don’t get to dictate to others. Just don’t look or go places with a dress code you prefer.

    • Miss-E February 7, 2019, 4:02 pm

      Back in my day we just wrapped ourselves in furs and skins.

      • at work February 19, 2019, 11:55 am

        Huh. My generation had to use fig leaves and mud.

  • Kitty February 7, 2019, 6:05 pm

    I wouldn’t walk around in the ‘public’ areas of a hotel in pajamas or crash out clothes. But I am not above wearing my crash out pants when going outside to throw the garbage away or even to the pharmacy across the way. As long as the pants don’t have noticeably large rips or holes in them, I don’t mind being ‘indecent’ in crash outs for approximately five minutes.

  • Reaver February 11, 2019, 1:22 pm

    The proper and polite thing to do, when in a hotel lobby and seeing someone in pajamas, or loungewear is, I believe..

    “Mind your own business” Unless it is infact YOUR hotel lobby, as in you own it, then you can dictate the dress code as you wish.

    Goodness, I hardly see how other people wearing clothes you don’t approve of (save for at a funeral or wedding which are hosted events) is any form of an etiquette issue at all.

  • redwitch February 23, 2019, 5:59 am

    I’ve always seen wearing something like PJ’s in public show a lack of respect. Respect for others and respect for yourself. I’ve seen it both ways. “I’m far more important than you, so I don’t have to dress up for you”. “People should respect that I have so much money/worth that I’m being trendy/ironic.” “I’m not worth nice things, just a rat and all I need is ratty cloths, why should anyone look at me?” People WILL judge, it’s the way of things. I mentally shake my head and sigh at the “fashion” I see on the street, most look like they raided the rag-bin. You will be seen, are you fit to be seen? Remember, always wear clean underwear, in case you’re hit by a bus.