I just wondered, do you have any guidance on what constitutes a reasonable request, versus begging? Below is the second email I’ve received via the school email list, asking for donations for this family, who recently had a house fire. When I received the first email, I clicked the link, thinking I could surely come up with some blankets, or cookware, or something to help them, and found that all the donation options are for cash amounts.
As some background, this is quite a well-to-do school district. Every house on the street where the fire was has an estimated value on Zillow of over $650k. While it’s possible that the family owned the house outright and/or carried minimal insurance, I very seriously doubt that’s the case (the donation site even mentioned that they were looking for donations to help them while they waited for insuance items to be sorted out.)
As I said, my first instinct was charitable – to help them though the first few days before insurance kicked in with food or goods, but when I saw the only donation format possible was cash (while I know that cash is certainly helpful) my feelings changed. Personally, I’d be thankful for unsolicited gifts from family and friends, but I’d be horrified if I found the school district was begging for cash on my behalf. Am I being unreasonable in feeling like asking for cash for this family is over-the-top? 0124-19
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