Have A Little Jam With That Toast

by admin on September 30, 2009

My Mother’s best friend since high school was like a second Mum to me. I called her Aunty from the age of one. She lived with us for most of my childhood and I loved her dearly. She never had any boyfriends and hence, never married. She started a new job when she was about 38 and was working with a lot of Philippians. They became her very close friends and as a teenager I spent a lot of time with these big families having bbq’s and festivals. My Aunty also started travelling with her friends back to the Philippines for their yearly trips.

After one of the trips my Aunty announces that she has found the love of her life, he is 10 years younger than her and that he will be coming to visit next month. Of course, this sounds a little sad because there are so many people from the Philippines who try to get married to move to Australia but I was happy for my Aunty none the less. We met N and he was really lovely, and while there was very little contact between him and my Aunty, he seemed to think she was wonderful. They decided to get married (my Aunty was in her 40’s now) so that N could stay with my Aunty in Australia. I was asked to be the MOH and I was very proud of the role.

The wedding went off beautifully; it was small and in a beautiful garden near N’s sister’s house in sunny Perth. Everyone cooked up these beautiful Philippine banquet dishes which were amazing. My Aunty looked beautiful and was having a lovely time. My speech was apparently very sweet and made a few people cry, we all love Aunty very much and were so happy to see her so happy.

Then, speaking on behalf of the groom’s family was his older sister. Her speech went something like this:

“We really like C (my Aunty) and we are just glad she agreed to marry N so I can finally have all my family in Australia.” This was followed by a nasty laugh!!!!!

My Aunty’s face dropped… everyone was stunned silent. Noticing the effect she had caused didn’t make her change her tact. She simply looked at everyone and said “We all know it’s true!” I have never wanted to punch anyone so much…. Ever!

I am very happy to say that almost 10 years later, my Aunty and N are still blissfully happy together. Despite how it may have looked to some judgemental people to start with!    0924-09

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Francesca January 30, 2010 at 5:49 pm

People from the Philipines are called Filipinos, not “Phillipians,” who are people who used to live in the ancient city Philippi in the northern part of Greece.


Bink February 16, 2010 at 9:48 am

I used to wonder how fights started at weddings. Not anymore.


Judy in SATX March 9, 2010 at 8:24 pm

What a lovely lady your Aunty is. I’m so glad she’s happy!


Kippers March 11, 2010 at 12:43 am

Thank you, Francesca – I was going to make the same comment too. Sadly, it’s true that many Filipinos marry only for papers, whether it be Australia or here in the States. It’s not really something to announce at a wedding reception tho… Rude.


Kat June 2, 2010 at 12:52 pm

I don’t suppose it occurred to the toast-giver that most people get married for more than one reason?


KittyToes October 9, 2010 at 1:24 am

I have a close friend in her 50s who married a slightly younger (40s) man from Mexico four years ago. Since they married he has obtained citizenship and many other benefits associated with being a US citizen…and he treats her like a Goddess. She is deeply in love and extremely happy (and speaks Spanish fluently now), so even if he was partly motivated by what she could “do” for him, he has certainly held up his end of the “bargain”. Who are any of us to judge these things?


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