I was a BM in the wedding of two very close friends. The ceremony was beautiful, and very personal, suiting the couple to a tee. The reception was lovely, with great food and more than adequate provisions for all guests. It was probably the best wedding I have ever been to.
What I discovered when talking to people after the wedding is that one guest, Cathy (name changed to protect the guilty), decided that the wedding did not meet her standards. She complained throughout the whole ceremony about the venue, that being married in a garden was ‘stupid’ and that the venue itself (a very pretty historic home converted to reception was ‘tacky’.
She also regaled several guests with how different she would do things at her own wedding. She would have X venue, Y entertainment etc., and it would be ‘much classier’ than the wedding she was at. (It should be noted that Cathy is NOT engaged, and her BF is trying to avoid her unsubtle hints.) Her tablemates told me that she complained loudly about the food and the drink. I caught the bouquet, which caused Cathy to snark to several people that the tossing was ‘rigged’ (it wasn’t, I’m tall and was in a good spot). You can see her pulling faces in the post-toss photos.
When the bride was walking around speaking to her guests, Bride asked Guestzilla if she was having a good time. Cathy replied that no, she wasn’t, the wedding was probably the worst she’d been to. Bride chose to completely ignore Cathy and speak to other guests instead of dignifying her comment with a response. The very worst part of all of this was that Cathy wasn’t originally invited – only her BF was. But both BF and Cathy threw a fit and demanded that she come, or the BF wouldn’t. Bride and Groom graciously allowed Cathy to invite herself, only to have her act like the worst kind of troll. 0623-09