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One Class-say Wedding Invitation

The secretary at my office, I’ll call her Cindy, is getting married in a few weeks. She has been engaged for the past 9 months  and I have listened to all of her wedding woes and basically know most of her wedding details. She has insisted I/we “save the date” and attend her wedding. Much time went by and we never received an invitation, even when it surpassed the normal timeframe in which invites should be sent out. We are “close enough” for coworkers that I finally asked her if I still needed to save the date and if she had decided to not invite coworkers or something along those lines, no big deal. Apparently at least one other coworker had been invited but I was trying to not embarrass her and give her an out. She said that she had invited me but the invitation must have been “lost in the mail.” Cindy proceeded to give me an invitation written with a red Sharpie on a post-it note. Needless to say, I’ve stopped saving the date.    1121-09

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  • Ginna December 12, 2009, 2:35 pm

    I had at least one wedding invitation returned to me and one save the date (to a different person) that never got where it was supposed to go. And that’s just those that I know about. Sometimes the post office does make mistakes.

  • Izzy February 7, 2010, 2:09 am

    @ Ginna Pretty sure it’s more common to use that as an excuse
    If they were returned and/or lost in the mail, wouldn’t you do something prettier than a red sharpie?
    Bleah I’ve heard of this twice, once was probably because someone didn’t want to invite my parents to a wedding by discussed it a lot in front of them and felt obligated to hand an invite out, and a second time was probably so that my parents won’t have time to show up, but they could still say “But we invited them!”
    @ submitter: Meh, look on the bright side, save yourself the money (that would have been spent on their gift/s)

  • jenna February 14, 2010, 7:59 am

    OK, don’t most people end up with at least 5-10 or even more wedding invitations than they actually need? If her invitation had been truly lost in the mail, the gracious thing would have been to tell her she’d bring a new invitation the next day. Then grab an extra from home and bring it. Yes, things get lost in the post. But writing the info on a red sharpie is not the way to rectify it.

    Though it probably was just an excuse.

  • Angel August 30, 2010, 7:14 pm

    I know this is months after the last post but I’d just like to put in my two cents. My cousin got married about three years ago and when I first found out after the fact I was rather upset because she’d been begging me to keep the time open since we’re rather close, but I had never received an invitation. It came to light months after the fact that half of her family missed the wedding, somehow almost all of the invitations had gotten misplaced in the mail. Mine showed up six months after the wedding, postmarked for two months before that, go figure.

  • Megan November 2, 2010, 11:33 am

    This is why RSVPs were so important for us! We didn’t receive RSVPs for a few people, and upon inquiry found that one of them hadn’t received their invitation. We were able to fix that. (Although the others had no excuse…)

  • CuAllaidh November 11, 2010, 2:30 pm

    Ok, so she showed a little tackiness in her choice of solutions, but not sure where the assumption that the lost in the mail is an excuse. Nothing in the story indicates that it is anything other than this, in my mine the OP is demonstrating a greater faux pas by assuming her friend is trying to diss her.

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