I used to work for a company owned by Lloyd. One year I got invited to his son’s bar mitzvah. Money was tight (Lloyd didn’t pay all that well), but I managed to cough up $100 to give as a bar mitzvah gift.
Two months later, I received a “thank you” note from the kid. Or, at least I presumed it was a “thank you” until I opened it up. I’ve long since thrown away the note, but it asked something to the extent “Thank you for the $100 check, but did I make a mistake in the amount? Most guests gave considerably more money and should he be looking for a supplementary check?”
I got steamed and showed the note to Lloyd. (He was a divorced dad, and I thought that maybe he wasn’t even aware of the note). But he told me the “minimum” bar mitzvah gift is customarily $250 in his circles and if I couldn’t afford that, I shouldn’t have attended. I told him, “Based on how much you pay me, you should know I couldn’t afford $250 and so exactly why did he invite me?”
He really couldn’t come up with a good answer. And no, I didn’t send a “supplementary” check. 1217-09
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