I invited an uncle, an aunt, a cousin, and the cousin’s son plus his girlfriend for a Christmas Eve family dinner. I had never met Sonny or Girlfriend, but, since he was past 21, I figured he’d be an adult.
In the midst of our repast, Uncle mentioned a lady (in her 80’s) to whom he was once engaged and who is still aunt’s best friend. Sonny growled, “I wish she was dead, with a stake through her heart!” He has never met or spoken to the lady. As he was a guest in my home, I said nothing.
Later, we were opening Christmas gifts and I gave my uncle a hat with my university’s logo on it. As my school is nationally known and my uncle collects baseball caps, I thought this a good gift. Sonny did not. He yelled, “Get another one and you’ll have one to s**t on and one to cover it up!” He did not know I had the exact same gift for him, but at least I knew what he thought of my kindness.
Cousin was shocked, amazed, and highly insulted when she invited Sonny to Thanksgiving dinner at my home and I told her I did not intend to invite him back. I am a Southern lady and our first rule of hospitality is that we do not allow anyone to insult a guest under our roof. We certainly don’t allow anyone to insult us under our own roof. I expected she would phone her son, explain that his rudeness was unacceptable, and that, as a man, he would apologize for his behavior. I would then have invited him.
I have not heard from her or from him again. 0817-08
And some people wonder why they are lonely and left out of family celebrations.