I am from a Hindu family, and was going to be getting married at a Mandir (Temple) in a fairly traditional ceremony. However, although I enjoy my culture and traditions, I also wanted my wedding to reflect my aesthetics. So, after much search and research, we had a custom outfit made that was traditional enough for my mother (traditional fabric, and customary bead work etc, and also conservative in cut/shape while being fitted and flattering) while expressing my tastes as well. What it translated to was a less traditional/cumbersome version of a bridal outfit, except that it was a beautiful aqua (Indian brides always wear red at the ceremony). Surprisingly, after the initial hesitation, everyone loved my outfit. So much so, that when best friend/bridesmaid got to my final fitting before me, she decided to try on my wedding outfit (we have similar figures). I walked into the fitting area to see her standing there in my wedding lehenga, telling me that she just ‘HAD’ to borrow it for huge wedding that she had been invited to attend (my wedding was fairly small and a destination wedding, so no one would have seen it).
Now, I realize that she never even would have thought to ask if my outfit had been red (it would’ve been like wearing white to a church wedding), and by being unconventional in my color choice, it might have made it seem more of an elaborate party dress – but it WAS my wedding outfit.
I was so shocked that I couldn’t even respond. Thankfully the designer walked in behind me and told her that it was rude to try on someone elses wedding attire. Am I totally wrong to be upset that she not only tried on my outfit, but that she wanted to borrow it for a party? At the very least, isn’t this just tacky? 0728-08