Social Media Begging

by admin on June 28, 2016

I have a “friend” on Facebook who I met through my boyfriend. She is a notorious Facebook gimme pig. Every third post of hers is a shared link for some product and a caption that goes something like “omg get this for meeee” or “I need thisss”. Her posts encompass everything from nail polish to clothing to collectible pins to toys. She is a grown woman begging for people to buy her Disney toys on Facebook. She regularly “likes” my statuses, et cetera, and I know that un-friending her might cause some kind of drama, so for the most part I just snort and keep scrolling whenever I see her begging.

She and her boyfriend recently got engaged. They’ve been together for a long time and are both very immature. Of course, she issued invitations to her wedding through Facebook. Anyone who is friends with her could send her an RSVP and they would be added to the guest list. They are also renting a beach house for people to stay in, splitting the cost between everyone who wants to stay in it, so of course she posted a million, “Hey if you are staying in the beach house you need to let me know and send me your part of the payment… thanks,” ads.

You’d think that it would be pretty apparent what to get her for her wedding considering how much she e-begs, but apparently not. A few days after the engagement announcement, she declared that if anyone wanted to get her a wedding gift, they could buy her something from Website A. A couple months later, she started posting about how if anyone wanted to get her a wedding gift, they could buy her something from Website B, her “FAVORITE” website EVER. All while continuing to share links to random products that she wants people to buy her.

About a week ago, she changed her tune. She started posting links to one of those god-awful “fund my honeymoon” websites. She hadn’t even bothered to take the five seconds to personalize the text fields, it was all the generic stuff that comes pre-loaded with one of those sites. The caption of her posts is alway,s “We didn’t register or ask for anything, if you want to help us PLEASE donate and share this post!!! We want to go to Hawaii!!”

I think it’s time to un-friend. Crowdfunding and e-begging drive me absolutely insane. 0625-16


Missed Salon Appointments

by admin on June 27, 2016

Asking admin and e-hellions for etiquette advice.

I’ve been going to the same hairdresser for more than 20 years. I usually tip 25%-30% and at my appointment nearest Christmas I double whatever the cost of that day’s service as a gift.

I was scheduled for a cut and color, usually a two-hour service that costs about twice as much as just a cut. A few hours beforehand, having belatedly decided that I would rather wait until closer to the holidays, I called and asked him if I could get just a cut that day.

“Not a problem,” he said.

While he was cutting, I asked if he had been able to fill the sudden gap on his schedule that I had caused. He said that he had and regaled me with the tale of a customer who had been begging for a last-minute fit-in.

So all was well. I’m wondering, though: If he had not been able to fill that space in his schedule, should I have written a check to cover the services I would otherwise have received?

I’m inclined to think so, because he set that time aside for me, and by not making that time available to someone else until the last minute, I “cost” him an hour’s service time. 0903-14

My daughter is a professional stylist and her opinion is that she has clients who are more than just customers who obtain a service for the exchange of money.   She’ll bend over backwards for those clients and if one needed to cancel or change the service on short notice, she would not expect nor charge the client for lost services.   If you have had the same stylist for the past 20 years,  I can bet he views you as one of his valued clients and wouldn’t dream of assuming or expecting you to pay for a change in your appointment as long as you don’t make it a routine habit.

However, I walked into a salon yesterday and I noticed that that they had posted an announcement to their customers noting a mandatory charge if they cancelled their appointment less than 24 hours prior to the scheduled time.  But this salon has problems with keeping stylists and is poorly managed.   I view the notice, taped everywhere in the salon, to be a desperation move to stop the hemorrhage of cash and clients.


Girls Spa Night With A Pricetag

by admin on June 23, 2016

I adore anything spa related and, since I’m both frugal and picky about what I use, I’ve gotten very good at making my own products and doing my own stuff at home with good results.
A friend of mine knew this and so I was thrilled to be invited via Facebook to a spa night at her place. I asked what I could bring and looked forward to the evening.

The day of the party was pretty rough. It was cold and the rain was pouring. I had had a rough day at work and my crazed alcoholic roommate was finally moving out (that’s another story). By the time the evening rolled around all I wanted to do was take a hot bath and maybe cry a little from sheer exhaustion.  But I rallied. I put on upbeat music, drank a lot of coffee, and walked the block to my friend’s place.

When I got there I was greeted by a stranger who handed me a washcloth and a tube of facial cleanser and told me to go and wash my face. Erm ok? She followed me into the bathroom and instructed me to use product after product. I’ve got extremely sensitive skin that’s prone to as severe as second degree rosacea if I’m not careful and so I declined a few of the harsher looking products to her chagrin.

I finally was able to join everyone in the living room and I realized that the pushy product girl was there to host a skincare home party. We weren’t just going to sit around doing face masks and chattering. We were there to buy things.  The pressure to buy was absurd. I do sales for a living and I would never dream of being so pushy. One girl managed to say no and the product pusher actually encouraged the rest of us to help talk her into buying “at least something”.  I bought a jar of moisturizer because I was assured that it was great for sensitive skin and that I’d notice my rosacea clearing up and because I didn’t have the energy to muster my polite spine. It actually made it worse and I realized later that it actually had a lot of irritants.   Now I’m pretty reserved when it comes to party invites because I’d like to feel like I’m wanted for my company instead of my money. 0902-14

About 15 years I hosted a true “spa party” for my friends which consisted of an evening of us “girls” enjoying some finger foods, drinks, and helping each other with updating our make-up.   It was billed as a low key, “have fun” evening together.  One friend asked if she could invite two of her friends to come with her and being a “more is merrier” kind of person, I said, “Yes”.    It turns out her “friends” were two salespeople with a major home party sales company for cosmetics.   The first hint was they arrived far too nicely dressed for my very casual affair and while I was distracted in the kitchen prepping food, I discovered they had set up shop in my living room.   The tension level among my guests was high because it appeared I had invited them under false pretenses to attend a high pressure sales party for make-up.   I had to inform the sales people that they had been invited to come into my house as guests to *my* party and not to sell their products.   They were welcome to stay and enjoy the hospitality but their products needed to be packed up.    Yes, it was an awkward scene because I have no doubt they were told by our mutual “friend” that this was a product sales party.



I have a story about someone who is, in fact, a good friend, but I would think twice about inviting them over as a guest again.  Not because they are needy or greedy: rather the opposite. It was quite uncomfortable, and I am curious what my e-hell peers have to say about the matter.

See, I am from Europe, and my boyfriend lives abroad – which is a good 300 km away. When he comes over, he sometimes brings a friend because we do share a social circle. This was the case on this occasion. My boyfriend and the friend arrived, and we had a fabulous day in the city.

Naturally, as they came from afar, they were both going to stay the night. Since we are all students, I let house guests sleep on the couch in my own room usually. This friend did not feel comfortable with that, however, and insisted he’d find a bed and breakfast.   I fully respect his wish not to share a room with me and my boyfriend: I can see that someone would want to sleep alone. However, I did not want to push the costs of a bed and breakfast on his narrow student budget when this lad has traveled so far to see me. So I made sure he could stay in the room of a housemate who was away, and, since he did not want to sleep in their bed and threatened me with sleeping on a bench in the park, I put up an air bed in the room for him.  The blankets and pillows we had to put there secretly since he not only refused those,  he told me I was being patronizing for giving him bedding. Naturally, he declined any food from my kitchen.  In the end he did sleep in our house, but made no use of the blankets and slept under his own coat.

I like to think that, with the means I have on hands, I am a respectable hostess. And I am sure he only wanted to be polite; but his declining all my hospitality really gave me a lot more work than a “yes, please” would have. I would have loved to entertain this mutual friend of me and my partner’s but I felt very unable and I think I won’t invite him over again soon. 0817-14


I went to Germany and Prague for my Political Science class. There was person on the trip who seemed pleasant until we got to Frankfurt. I had bought Kinder surprise chocolate eggs. They are not available in the states so I had to try them. I had a bunch of them in a shopping bag and the bag was next to me. I was using my tablet when I noticed out of the corner of my eye the thief was helping herself to an egg. I told her to put it back and ask. She did put it back. Later at the hotel we were going to be rooming together. So the whole time we were in that city she was taking my things. Toothpaste, shampoo, conditioner and body wash were always being taken. The final straw was 20 euros went missing from my jacket pocket. I asked her if she saw it and she confessed to taking it. The next day we were leaving so I told the guide I can’t room with the thief and I did not share a room with her for the rest of the trip. She had to give me the money back. 0802-14

I’m surprised she admitted to taking the 20 Euros.


Typical Guy Thing. Doing something stupid and trying to be the “best” at it.


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