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General Etiquette => Techno-quette => Topic started by: zyrs on July 11, 2012, 02:36:45 PM

Title: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: zyrs on July 11, 2012, 02:36:45 PM
I have a confession to make.  If I find something funny, interesting, a biting commentary on the state of society in general or it's a cat picture - I will share it on facebook.  People are more than welcome to block my feed, it does not offend me.

There is one person who about once a week posts comments about how they hate Facebook stuff that is shared. 

Am I being rude for continuing to share things that I like and think most of my friends would like?  Kittens, how can you not like kittens?
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Betelnut on July 11, 2012, 02:41:39 PM
No, not rude.  I would say that 90% of the posts that I get from friends on Facebook are reposts of videos, articles, etc. usually of a political nature.  That is what Facebook is used for by a lot of people.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: penelope2017 on July 11, 2012, 02:42:14 PM
They post that on their own wall as a general status? or they post on your wall specifically targeting yours?

If they post it on their own wall, it's a general statement and not directed at you at all.  I'm not sure why you'd think they were.

If it is on your own wall about your specific shares, then it goes a little beyond PA. I'd block the person.

Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Amava on July 11, 2012, 03:00:36 PM
Absolutely not. They can hate and huff all they want, but you post what you want.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: O'Dell on July 11, 2012, 03:10:10 PM
Why are they on facebook then? ???

I think sometimes comments like that are PA comments directed at someone else...someone who goes overboard on whatever they are complaining about. I take it as an opportunity to check myself: Does she mean me? Am I "sharing" excessively? Any gross or annoying things I'm putting out there? Am I doing whatever more than the people around me? Nope, she must mean someone else!

As long as *I* know that I'm being reasonable in my behavior I ignore it.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Judah on July 11, 2012, 03:23:01 PM

There is one person who about once a week posts comments about how they hate Facebook stuff that is shared. 


They obviously don't "get" Facebook.   :o
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Twik on July 11, 2012, 03:47:33 PM
I'm not even ON FaceBook, and I think they're being very strange.

"Here, I'll join this site so I can connect with everything my friends are thinking about at each moment. OH NO! They're telling me everything they're thinking about at each moment!"
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: zyrs on July 11, 2012, 04:05:27 PM
They post that on their own wall as a general status? or they post on your wall specifically targeting yours?

If they post it on their own wall, it's a general statement and not directed at you at all.  I'm not sure why you'd think they were.

If it is on your own wall about your specific shares, then it goes a little beyond PA. I'd block the person.

It's not so much that I think they are directed at me per se, but if they are really upset at people sharing stuff, I know I am a contributor, because https://www.facebook.com/henrilechatnoir (https://www.facebook.com/henrilechatnoir) and kittens!
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: bansidhe on July 11, 2012, 07:01:08 PM
It's not so much that I think they are directed at me per se, but if they are really upset at people sharing stuff, I know I am a contributor, because https://www.facebook.com/henrilechatnoir (https://www.facebook.com/henrilechatnoir) and kittens!

Henri and kittens make up a pretty substantial percentage of my Facebook posts. Your friend would hate me.  :D

As others have said, it sounds like this person doesn't really understand what Facebook is all about. No, you aren't rude for sharing stuff (especially kitten pictures). Perhaps she (or he) is annoyed because she receives the same stuff in her feed more than once, but that's just the way Facebook works.

I would say you're free to continue to share kitten pictures as you see fit and ignore the whining.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Iris on July 11, 2012, 07:29:15 PM
I don't like the kitten pictures, or the soppy stuff about what 'true love' is and so on. I LOVE the stuff other people share with geeky jokes and pictures. Those are my personal preferences entirely, and my fb friends don't need to know about them. I have a couple of fb friends who go reeeaaaally over the top on the sappy (to me) stuff and I just hid their 'likes and shares' from my feed. It's that easy. I can still catch up on their news but I don't have my feed filled with stuff I don't personally enjoy.

WHY this person is making such heavy work out of such a simply process I really don't understand. Ignore them at will.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: thedudeabides on July 11, 2012, 08:49:59 PM
No.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: TheVapors on July 12, 2012, 02:17:32 AM
You can do whatever pleases you with your Facebook page.
They can do whatever pleases them with their Facebook page.

If either you or the friend don't like what the other person is doing with their Facebook page there are plenty of options available to block or filter content.

Enjoy sharing kittens! May it bring you much Facebook joy!
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Margo on July 12, 2012, 08:05:51 AM
POD to all the above. Ignoring her comments is fine.

If she comments to you specifically about sharing too many kittens, then you could, if you wished, respond with something like "friend, did you know you can 'hide' people's updates so they don't show in your timeline" but I don't think ignoring the comments completely is remotely rude and it's your facebook page, youcan post whatever you like.

I personally don't like game requests and so I have set up to ignore them. I'm not very interested in 'cute' pictures of people/animals I don't know, but the friends I have who pos those things *also* post other things,so I just scroll past the bits I'm not interested in, without commenting. It's not difficult.

Of course, if I could only convince **facebook** to display my newsfeed as 'recent items' not 'ramdon stories we have unilaterally decided are top stories' I would probaly see a lot fewer 'cute' posts, but I can't. It won't believe me when I tell it that is what I want...
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: pearls n purls on July 15, 2012, 11:55:59 AM
You can post what you like, but if you know someone is annoyed by the pictures, you can always post it so that person can't see it.  (friends only, except for xxx)

But of course the onus is really on the complainer.  They can unfollow your feed or just ignore the postings they don't like.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: jaxsue on July 16, 2012, 10:38:50 AM
I have a confession to make.  If I find something funny, interesting, a biting commentary on the state of society in general or it's a cat picture - I will share it on facebook.  People are more than welcome to block my feed, it does not offend me.

There is one person who about once a week posts comments about how they hate Facebook stuff that is shared. 

Am I being rude for continuing to share things that I like and think most of my friends would like?  Kittens, how can you not like kittens?

I consider this "vague-booking," a trend I truly dislike.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Giggity on July 16, 2012, 10:56:57 AM
Am I being rude for continuing to share things that I like and think most of my friends would like?

Why would that be rude?
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Moray on July 16, 2012, 07:56:25 PM
Of course it's not rude. Nor would it be rude to hide or defriend the person making the comments.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: amylouky on July 20, 2012, 09:26:27 AM
If there's one thing this world does not need, it is LESS KITTENS.
Post away, and ignore the comments. If your friend is bothered, it's on them to figure out how to hide/block posts they don't want to see. Or, just don't look.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: zyrs on July 23, 2012, 12:46:00 AM
Thanks everyone.  I have been posting a few less things the last week or so, but it's because family was visiting.

If you haven't seen it http://www.buzzfeed.com/expresident/the-cutest-things-that-ever-happened (http://www.buzzfeed.com/expresident/the-cutest-things-that-ever-happened)
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Bethalize on July 23, 2012, 02:17:40 AM
Thanks everyone.  I have been posting a few less things the last week or so, but it's because family was visiting.

If you haven't seen it http://www.buzzfeed.com/expresident/the-cutest-things-that-ever-happened (http://www.buzzfeed.com/expresident/the-cutest-things-that-ever-happened)

Well, I for one am grateful for that link today. Thank you.
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Jones on July 23, 2012, 12:58:05 PM
OH MY GOSH Cuteness overload!! Thank you!
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: siamesecat2965 on July 24, 2012, 09:00:14 AM
I share all kinds of stuff on MY FB wall.  Stuff I find funny, and know others might as well.  I will once in a blue moom share something on a friend's wall, but only if I know it will be well received, which is it, and I've had a couple times wher I had to stop and think hmm...should I post or share this?  In those cases, i figure if I have to stop and think, then probalby not a good idea.

IF someone objects to what you post on your wall, that's their problem, and I'd just ignore them
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: Bees on August 06, 2012, 11:52:03 PM
I'm not even ON FaceBook, and I think they're being very strange.

"Here, I'll join this site so I can connect with everything my friends are thinking about at each moment. OH NO! They're telling me everything they're thinking about at each moment!"

This makes me laugh-exactly how I feel. :)
Title: Re: Am I rude for ignoring the PA comments?
Post by: ettiquit on August 07, 2012, 03:23:53 PM
People who complain so much about how others use FB always confuses me.  There are many people who for some reason loathe when people use pictures of their kids as their profile pic.  I don't get it.  I actually saw someone comment about this a few days ago and she said something along the lines of "people who use their babies as profile pics and then post adult things (language) are unbalanced".

I ignore them all and post whatever I want.