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Title: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on September 29, 2012, 04:59:02 PM
So my flatmate resigned from his part time job because apparently doing your job properly upsets other employees. This has left them completely in the poo as all their staff are dropping like flies and they are too useless to manage the situation. He has done everything he is required to with regards to working out his notice and they are fully aware his last day is today. Apparently they are snippy with him because he won't work next weekend. Even if he felt so inclined, he can't because he has his BIL's wedding to go to. The GM actually asked him to miss the wedding to "help them out".

Yeah. Right. Can't see that happening. Do people really think these requests are reasonable when they ask them?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kaypeep on September 29, 2012, 05:21:14 PM
When I was in college there was a terrible NorEaster that slammed our city.  My entire block was flooded.  There were literally boats floating in front of my house in the street.  I called my boss to tell him I coudn't come to work as the front of my house was the ocean and it wasn't even high tide yet!  I moved my car into the lawn in the backyard and off the street and was worried it was going to be carried off if the water got any higher.  My boss said I "had to" come in and he'd send his brother with a diesel truck to come get me, if I could climb the wall in my backyard and get to the next block over.

 ::)

Yeah, I'm going to leave my home to float away so I can go work at the convenience store.  NOT!

I told them absolutely not.  Not only were we watching our house but we were helping neighbors as well. We lived on the shore so there's a whole hurricane protocol the whole neighborhood pitches in to follow and help others out.  This was an emergency and neither I nor my brother (he worked at the same place) would be in that day.

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: diesel_darlin on September 29, 2012, 05:39:36 PM
Kaypeep, my mom had a boss similar to yours. We didnt live near the ocean, but we had the remnants of a hurricane that passed through. Our little creek became a raging river. While we lived up on a hill high enough where our home wasnt damaged, our neighbors werent so lucky. The water was up so high that no one could get in, and no one could get out. When my mom called her boss and told him that she wasnt going to make it to work that day, he raged at her saying that he better see her within the hour. She got the local department of highways to call him and tell him that there was no way she was going to make it to work.  ;D
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: HorseFreak on September 29, 2012, 05:48:38 PM
When I was in college I took a class that involved several weekly shifts at the dairy farm caring for and milking the cows three times per day. In case of emergency or lots of snow three students lived above the barn for no rent in exchange for labor. I lived 8 miles from the farm down some pretty narrow, rural roads and drove a compact car. One evening we got 3' of snow, the transportation was shut down and the roads weren't plowed. I called the student leader in charge to let him know I wouldn't be able to make it in and to please ask the live-ins to cover (not that big a deal for them, an extra 30 minutes of work). I got quite the lecture about what responsibility meant and how I made a commitment and those cows needed to be taken care of no matter what, blah blah blah. I told him that was all well and good, but that's why those students LIVED ABOVE THE BARN and I literally could not make it to the barn! He told me to walk and said it wasn't his problem when I reminded him that I lived 8 miles away while he was an RA on campus. 

He didn't get it and he gave me a poor grade on my peer evaluation at the end of the semester.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on September 29, 2012, 06:18:11 PM
I was on my way to work when a woman turned left in front of me; a collision was inevitable. (She just didn't look carefully). My left had flew off the wheel, hit the door, and broke. Both cars were disabled. While we were waiting for the sheriff to arrive, I went to a nearby store and phoned my boss, because I was scheduled to give an in-service for a school at 1 pm that day. I told the boss that my car couldn't be driven, I was injured, and law enforcement hadn't arrived yet. It was 8:15 am.
She asked, 'Don't you think you can be there by 1?'
I told her the only way I could get there by 1 would be if I skipped the step of 'go to ER, have Xrays and have the hand casted'. She seriously expected me to make the police report, ride the wrecker back to Home City with my car in tow, and then to go directly to Hertz, rent a car, and then go do my in-service as scheduled...waiting about 8 hours before going to the ER. I didn't think so.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Thipu1 on September 30, 2012, 09:24:44 AM
I had one years ago at work.

We had arranged a once in a lifetime vacation almost a year in advance.  My bosses knew about our plans and the leave was approved.  During that year, my immediate boss left and a job search was initiated for a new one.  One was hired and, wouldn't you know it?  He was scheduled to start a week before the vacation.

There was extreme pressure from the uber-boss to cancel the vacation or reschedule.  This was impossible.  You can't reschedule the last crossing of an historic ship.  Even if we could we wouldn't because the uber-boss knew our plans before this new hire was even interviewed.

The vacation went off as planned but relations between the uber-boss and me were strained from that point on.     

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: CrochetFanatic on September 30, 2012, 10:05:54 AM
This probably isn't as severe as the other stories on here, but I occasionally get stress-related migraines.  Sometimes--most of the time, even--I can soldier through it and get things done.  If I feel it beginning to come on, I can take something for it, and it's not that bad.  If I wake up with one?  Well, that's another matter entirely.

One morning, I woke up to a feeling that my head was trying to hatch, and I couldn't see out of my left eye.  I had been to the doctor for it, and I know it's a harmless (if you have nowhere to drive!) effect called an "aura", though I sometimes call them "floaters" because they're blind spots that pass diagonally across my field of vision over the course of about an hour or so.  Sometimes this is my warning sign, because it can arrive before any pain.  That morning, the migraine also affected my stomach, as is often the case.  Unable to see well enough to drive safely, unable to walk without weaving, and unable to stray far from the bathroom because of the nausea, I called out sick.

The place where I used to work was a 24/7 gas station and convenience store, and it is almost always busy.  The call-out policy is as follows; arrange with someone to switch with you at least a day before you're going to be out, or you better come in.  This isn't always possible, and people would come in to work (and handle FOOD!) whether they were sick or not.  Also, 99% of the time a request to switch would be met with, "Sorry, I have plans."

I was told, "Well, we need you here, so I'll see you at such-and-such."  I don't remember exactly how the exchange went, but I didn't go in, got written up, and ended up having to bring in a doctor's note.  I do understand that they were short-staffed that day, but I doubt they would have appreciated having a customer complain to them that the cashier got sick in front of them.  And I was not going to risk driving when I could hardly see.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Adelaide on September 30, 2012, 11:45:06 AM
My Civil Procedure professor found out that everyone in my CivPro class has the exact same schedule. He flew off to speak at an event and gave us two days notice that he would miss class, then said that we would have a three and a half hour class the next day to make up for it, that attendance was mandatory because he knew we weren't in class during the allotted time. Luckily the Dean stepped in.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: NyaChan on September 30, 2012, 11:52:34 AM
My Civil Procedure professor found out that everyone in my CivPro class has the exact same schedule. He flew off to speak at an event and gave us two days notice that he would miss class, then said that we would have a three and a half hour class the next day to make up for it, that attendance was mandatory because he knew we weren't in class during the allotted time. Luckily the Dean stepped in.

One of the few things our school does right is that it makes clear to everyone that if a makeup is scheduled, they will videotape it & we aren't going to be docked for not being there. 

This prof. seems to have gone on a bit of a power trip - 3.5 hours on a non-class day with only 2 days notice? lol yeah that's not going to work.  Great job on the dean's part!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: kherbert05 on September 30, 2012, 12:02:35 PM
Kaypeep, my mom had a boss similar to yours. We didnt live near the ocean, but we had the remnants of a hurricane that passed through. Our little creek became a raging river. While we lived up on a hill high enough where our home wasnt damaged, our neighbors werent so lucky. The water was up so high that no one could get in, and no one could get out. When my mom called her boss and told him that she wasnt going to make it to work that day, he raged at her saying that he better see her within the hour. She got the local department of highways to call him and tell him that there was no way she was going to make it to work.  ;D
When I was living in West Texas there was an ice storm. Now San Angelo has an arora or dry creek that goes through the town. In some places the road just goes down in the arora and you have a flood gauge next to it so you can tell if it is flooded during rains. In other areas there are low water bridges. There are also bridges over the Concho River. All of these ice over in an ice storm. The low water bridges are especially dangerous because you don't think bridge when you see them.


So the highway department declares an emergency - all roads are closed to traffic except 1st responders.  The new superintendent calls us all a bunch of wimps and declares the schools open and threatens parents who don't send their kids with truancy charges. This same guy tried to cancel FOOTBALL practice in August and September because it was in the High 90's in West Texas.   :o  The board, Texas DPS, and him had a come to deity meeting about West Texas weather safety Vs Minnesota  weather safety.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kaora on September 30, 2012, 02:16:51 PM
Not as severe, but a real wallbanger.

Got permission from my parents to go to a concert with BF and his family last night.  Gorgeous outdoor concert by a local orchestra society, honoring all sorts of movie themes and show tunes.  It was a blast to be there.

My mum, who immediately decided that I needed to wear a dress (and every example she brought out would have been 20-30 years too old for my short-of-25 year old me), makeup, and have my hair up in a bun.  Umm... maybe if it were more formal.  But not then, especially when BF was insisting I come casual, just as long as I look nice.  I still get stuck in a 90 dollar pair of jeans, which I promptly crawled around the grass in for a picnic at the concert.

I was better dressed than his mom as well, and that made me nervous.

And yes, I was this close to going to a concert with a bun and makeup, if BF hadn't just decided to drop in and get me aand rush me out.  Thank you BF for doing that, or else I really would have been overdressed. :-[
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on September 30, 2012, 04:09:16 PM
This was put to me as more of a "Hey don't you think this would be a great idea?!" when I couldn't actually think of anything more absurd and less likely to happen.

I used to work in a sales role for the worst company in NZ. Lets call it Telecom seeing that is it's name. Each year our team would be assigned a set amount for bonuses and our manager, not HR would determine how it was split. Our manager P was a nice guy but a hard out Christian and he had funny ideas about all sorts of things. I worked with a guy M who was the most useless, lazy, sneaky, vile person. He never made his targets and created all sorts of drama for the rest of us. I loathed him and everyone knew it. M was also somehow on the periphery of P's church

At my performance review my manager told me I had well exceeded all targets and that my bonus if worked out on percentages would be X amount which was several thousand dollars. He then went on to say that he had prayed about the matter and decided we were all only going to get half our bonus and M the worst employee in the world was going to get the other half. His reasoning for this was M had 7 children and I had none.

After a long silence I told him exactly what I thought of this plan in no uncertain words and he could expect my written resignation on his desk in 2 minutes. He was stunned. He truly believed it was a wonderful idea and that I would be delighted with it. He then turned it round to a "What about the children?" thing and I had to tell him I did not like M's children (They were as vile as their father), I did not care 2 hoots about them and if M needed money to bring up his brood maybe he could think about actually doing his job for a change.

I went straight to our GM and told him and he was appalled. P got a 'please explain' phone call. M hated me even more as P had told him all about this madness beforehand so he thought he was getting lots of lovely money and I had put a stop to it.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on September 30, 2012, 05:39:07 PM
This was put to me as more of a "Hey don't you think this would be a great idea?!" when I couldn't actually think of anything more absurd and less likely to happen.

I used to work in a sales role for the worst company in NZ. Lets call it Telecom seeing that is it's name. Each year our team would be assigned a set amount for bonuses and our manager, not HR would determine how it was split. Our manager P was a nice guy but a hard out Christian and he had funny ideas about all sorts of things. I worked with a guy M who was the most useless, lazy, sneaky, vile person. He never made his targets and created all sorts of drama for the rest of us. I loathed him and everyone knew it. M was also somehow on the periphery of P's church

At my performance review my manager told me I had well exceeded all targets and that my bonus if worked out on percentages would be X amount which was several thousand dollars. He then went on to say that he had prayed about the matter and decided we were all only going to get half our bonus and M the worst employee in the world was going to get the other half. His reasoning for this was M had 7 children and I had none.

After a long silence I told him exactly what I thought of this plan in no uncertain words and he could expect my written resignation on his desk in 2 minutes. He was stunned. He truly believed it was a wonderful idea and that I would be delighted with it. He then turned it round to a "What about the children?" thing and I had to tell him I did not like M's children (They were as vile as their father), I did not care 2 hoots about them and if M needed money to bring up his brood maybe he could think about actually doing his job for a change.

I went straight to our GM and told him and he was appalled. P got a 'please explain' phone call. M hated me even more as P had told him all about this madness beforehand so he thought he was getting lots of lovely money and I had put a stop to it.

I heard about a similar situation at my company, but not quite as bad. we also get bonuses each year, and then there used to be a "pot" of money which could be given to employees, at the manager's discretion, although now that I think about it, this might have been salary increases.  In any event, one CW had done a lot of work on one project, above and beyond, adn her boss went to my director, and said, hey, please consider her for this extra as she did, this, this, and this.  Not a demand, but more of an FYI.

My director, who is also an attorney, so should KNOW better, told her that well, that's all well and good, but someone else, who happened to be MY boss, had a family, so he was thinking of giving him more.  I don't know what ever came of that, but last time I checked, having a family is NOT a good excuse to do something for one employee over another.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on September 30, 2012, 05:46:44 PM
Not as severe, but a real wallbanger.

Got permission from my parents to go to a concert with BF and his family last night.  Gorgeous outdoor concert by a local orchestra society, honoring all sorts of movie themes and show tunes.  It was a blast to be there.

My mum, who immediately decided that I needed to wear a dress (and every example she brought out would have been 20-30 years too old for my short-of-25 year old me), makeup, and have my hair up in a bun.  Umm... maybe if it were more formal.  But not then, especially when BF was insisting I come casual, just as long as I look nice.  I still get stuck in a 90 dollar pair of jeans, which I promptly crawled around the grass in for a picnic at the concert.

I was better dressed than his mom as well, and that made me nervous.

And yes, I was this close to going to a concert with a bun and makeup, if BF hadn't just decided to drop in and get me aand rush me out.  Thank you BF for doing that, or else I really would have been overdressed. :-[

I had something similar happen going to my HS reunion.  I was going with a friend, and staying at her house.  Got there, got ready, and we were ready to go.  Friend has had some health issues, and has had certain treatments, and as a result, doesn't always pick up on subtle social clues and norms.  Friend also prefers women to men, which is fine as we've been friends since we were twelve. I could care less about that.

However, friend thought it would be nice to get us both corsages to wear.   While the thought was lovely, there was no way I could walk in there wearing a matching corsage, as everyone would think we were a couple.  So thinking quickly, I fibbed and said while it was lovely, I was allergic and therefore wasn't able to wear it. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on September 30, 2012, 05:46:52 PM
I was asked, "Why do you have to get married the day of the town-wide yard sale?"  I felt like saying, "If you'd rather go to a yard sale than come to my wedding, be my guest," but I didn't, especially since we'd planned our wedding for that particular dates months before the yard sale was announced.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Dazi on September 30, 2012, 06:01:36 PM
A few work related ones...

I had approved scheduled leave for three weeks for my wedding and honeymoon.  My time was approved nearly a year in advance.  The week before I'm scheduled to be out, my boss blows a gasket and tells me I can only be off for a week and then I have to be back for an unscheduled inventory as no one else knows how to do what I do.  He was not impressed when I called to GM to complain about this madness, especially since the GM sided with me.  I had arranged a sub for me for the time I was gone and had already done all the schedules.  When I got back, the sub asked me how I could work for that madman.


I accepted a position with the understanding that I would be allowed off because I was already contracted to work in another state for a week long event.  The uber boss hired me knowing this ahead of time...I offered to start afterward if it was a problem, but he said it was fine, I could do my few weeks of training, fullfill my contract, go on regular employee schedule.  The day before I'm set to go, I realised I was on the schedule for the following week.  I went to talk to my immediate supervisor, to let her know it was a mistake.  She started screaming at me that no one was allowed off during this time and if I wasn't there the following day, not to come back.  I hunted down uber boss and he tries to back pedal and even offers to pay me what I would make on contract, if I would skip out on them.  When I informed him I made $6K last year for the same event, he suddenly had no problem with me going.  Funny that.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on September 30, 2012, 06:50:24 PM
Not mine, but a friend's.  She used to work in Cedar Rapids and lives about 1/2 hour from there.   As anyone who lives in Iowa, or really any other area prone to major cold, snow storms and "white outs", as well as being rural and having long stretches of highway between towns, you'll understand this. Oh and she worked a very early shift so was getting in before the sun even came up.

It snowed a few years ago and it really was unsafe for her to drive from her town to CR, so she called in and explained to the manager she couldn't make it in. He insisted the roads were fine and she needed to come in. Mind you, he lived in CR, or at least on the very edges so that he didn't have to drive on the highways. Plus he went in later, after the sun had come up. 

My friend kept working there for a while but quit a few months later when another opportunity presented itself.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: SamiHami on September 30, 2012, 07:13:12 PM
My father works at a campground. He's had lots of characters come through there over the years, but this one especially popped into my mind when I read the title of this thread.

We are in the deep south. The muggy, humid, swampy, hot south. One day a female camper approached him, furious. You see, there were mosquitoes. She didn't like them and couldn't understand why the campground managers didn't just get rid of them. Dad tried to explain that in this part of the country mosquitos are everywhere at certain times of year and that the best you could do is get some repellant or Skin So Soft. He offered to show her the selection they had for sale at the campground store, but oh no. The furious woman was adamant that they just need to get rid of the mosquitoes, now! Dad tried to reason with her, but it was no use. He finally just said something along the lines of camping perhaps not being a good activity for her and walked away.

Oh, and another one from Dad! The campground gets a LOT of elderly people coming through; you know, older retired folks who finally have the time to see the country. As a result, there are often medical emergencies that occur, even including deaths. So, when the attendants on duty hear that there is an emergency, they respond very quickly.

Dad got the word one day that there was a ME at one of the campsites, so rushed over there to see what was going on and to determine if 911 needed to be called. He found a couple relaxing in their camper. When he asked about the emergency, they tried to hand him their prescriptions so that he could go get them filled for them. They were quite irate when he, of course, refused to do this. He was happy to give them directions to any of several differnt pharmacies nearby, but that wasnt good enough. They wanted HIM to go so to not interrupt their camping vacation.

They were so angry that he wouldn't do it that they packed up their stuff and left!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: CakeBeret on September 30, 2012, 07:36:41 PM
When DH and I got married, we had an afternoon wedding. DH normally works Thursday through Monday, and so had to take off work Saturday (for the wedding) and the following few days for the honeymoon.

DH's boss is a miserable man who doesn't care if you're dying, if he wants you to work you WILL work, dang it all.

So DH scheduled time off months in advance. The week before the wedding, DH's boss cornered him and informed him he HAD to work Saturday, the day of our wedding. DH said no way. Boss said "But you can come in at 4am and leave at 1:30, plenty of time to get to your wedding on time." [Note that the wedding was at either 3 or 4 o'clock, DH worked 45 minutes away, and he works a dirty job and would need a thorough cleaning after work.] DH again said no, and Boss proceeded to berate him for being such a lazy, useless employee.

Unfortunately DH still works there, and his boss is still a miserable, angry lunatic.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kaora on September 30, 2012, 07:43:14 PM
They were so angry that he wouldn't do it that they packed up their stuff and left!

Good riddance? ;D
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on September 30, 2012, 08:51:25 PM
When DH and I got married, we had an afternoon wedding. DH normally works Thursday through Monday, and so had to take off work Saturday (for the wedding) and the following few days for the honeymoon.

DH's boss is a miserable man who doesn't care if you're dying, if he wants you to work you WILL work, dang it all.

So DH scheduled time off months in advance. The week before the wedding, DH's boss cornered him and informed him he HAD to work Saturday, the day of our wedding. DH said no way. Boss said "But you can come in at 4am and leave at 1:30, plenty of time to get to your wedding on time." [Note that the wedding was at either 3 or 4 o'clock, DH worked 45 minutes away, and he works a dirty job and would need a thorough cleaning after work.] DH again said no, and Boss proceeded to berate him for being such a lazy, useless employee.

Unfortunately DH still works there, and his boss is still a miserable, angry lunatic.

Good grief. I can't imagine having to work for that awful man

When my flatmates got married the husband was still in the air force. He booked leave 9 months out and had it approved. 2 weeks before the wedding they told him there was a compulsory survival training course starting the day after their big day. Bonus for it being at the other end of the island and about a 8 hour drive away. He absolutely had to be there no if's buts or maybes. The poor guy had to leave his wedding reception early, drive to the stupid course and then spend 2 weeks living on bugs. His wife was not well pleased with this new development either.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: JenJay on October 01, 2012, 06:53:42 AM
When DH was in the Marines he was stationed on a base with jets. Having grown up with posters of the Blue Angels on my walls, I was in heaven, but apparently not everyone gets up at 6am to sit on their porch while drinking coffee and watching the pilots start their day.

DH was military police and there was a woman who lived in a nearby neighborhood (which went up long after the base) who would call and complain that the jets were noisy and she wanted their flight path changed. They tried explaining to her that they had no control over such things but she was adamant. I'm not saying I approve of the solution they resorted to, but it worked.

Finally, after this had gone on for awhile, someone (it may have been DH, can't recall) said "Ma'am, I can get the path changed, but i need to know which jet is bothering you. Here's what you need to do: next time you hear the jet coming run outside and look up. There's a number on the bottom of the jet and if you call me back with that number I can call the hangar, tell them which jet is the problem, and have them rerout it." She thanked him profusely but never called back. Those suckers are kinda fast!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on October 01, 2012, 07:06:16 AM
When DH was in the Marines he was stationed on a base with jets. Having grown up with posters of the Blue Angels on my walls, I was in heaven, but apparently not everyone gets up at 6am to sit on their porch while drinking coffee and watching the pilots start their day.

DH was military police and there was a woman who lived in a nearby neighborhood (which went up long after the base) who would call and complain that the jets were noisy and she wanted their flight path changed. They tried explaining to her that they had no control over such things but she was adamant. I'm not saying I approve of the solution they resorted to, but it worked.

Finally, after this had gone on for awhile, someone (it may have been DH, can't recall) said "Ma'am, I can get the path changed, but i need to know which jet is bothering you. Here's what you need to do: next time you hear the jet coming run outside and look up. There's a number on the bottom of the jet and if you call me back with that number I can call the hangar, tell them which jet is the problem, and have them rerout it." She thanked him profusely but never called back. Those suckers are kinda fast!

LOL!!! That's good!

My IL's live near a busy highway, have a lot of air traffic going over their house, since they're not far from BWI, and they also have train tracks not even a mile from their house, so it can be noisy.  They've never expected anyone to change any of this, but MIL has joked that when they move after FIL retires, she wants a place where they won't have to deal with planes, trains and automobiles.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: norrina on October 01, 2012, 07:47:07 AM
When DH was in the Marines he was stationed on a base with jets. Having grown up with posters of the Blue Angels on my walls, I was in heaven, but apparently not everyone gets up at 6am to sit on their porch while drinking coffee and watching the pilots start their day.

DH was military police and there was a woman who lived in a nearby neighborhood (which went up long after the base) who would call and complain that the jets were noisy and she wanted their flight path changed. They tried explaining to her that they had no control over such things but she was adamant. I'm not saying I approve of the solution they resorted to, but it worked.

Finally, after this had gone on for awhile, someone (it may have been DH, can't recall) said "Ma'am, I can get the path changed, but i need to know which jet is bothering you. Here's what you need to do: next time you hear the jet coming run outside and look up. There's a number on the bottom of the jet and if you call me back with that number I can call the hangar, tell them which jet is the problem, and have them rerout it." She thanked him profusely but never called back. Those suckers are kinda fast!

I was watching My Fair Wedding yesterday (My name is Norrina, and I am addicted to Reality TV Shows. I really need a FT job stat. Anyhow....), which for those unfamiliar is a show where this guy, David Tutura, comes in and remakes the bride's fairy tale wedding. The couple in this instance was getting married in an airplance hangar, and David actually sent his assistant to ask the air traffic control tower to divert traffic during the ceremony because the planes were too loud. And it was done!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: artk2002 on October 01, 2012, 01:58:06 PM
DH was military police and there was a woman who lived in a nearby neighborhood (which went up long after the base) who would call and complain that the jets were noisy and she wanted their flight path changed. They tried explaining to her that they had no control over such things but she was adamant. I'm not saying I approve of the solution they resorted to, but it worked.

Our townhome complex is below the northern approach to LAX. When the planes go over us they're still quite high, but if you listen for them, you can hear them on occasion. Our property manager tells us about a woman who moved in and wanted the manager to call LAX to get the flight path changed because of the noise.

BTW, you're far, far more likely to hear fire trucks and police since the street we're on is a major thoroughfare; my guess is that we hear sirens an average of 6 times a week. I *might* hear a plane once a month.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Minmom3 on October 01, 2012, 02:26:33 PM
2 places I used to live:

1) a block away from a busy fire station.  I knew I was acclimated to the neighborhood when I started sleeping through the sirens, because I generally don't sleep through ANYTHING.

2) 100 yards (at most) from a busy 4 lane highway (2 each direction), that had cross traffic on it on the side opposite us.  Horrible stretch of road, many accidents over the years, state and county ALWAYS looking for funds to reroute around and build overpasses, etc..  It was loud, no doubt about it.  But it droned and you could pretty much ignore it.  We were on 2 or 3 acres, we had hawks that flew low over the cars on our way in and out the driveway,  we had goats and geese, and it was generally a nice place to live.  You always knew when there was an accident down on the road, even if it was a few miles away, because you'd realize that road noise was no longer a drone, it was idling, RIGHT THERE....  The best accidents (from the lookie loo perspective) were the ones that happened right down on the road.  There was a delivery truck (15 ft long?) that tried to turn left off the highway and onto the side road and it fell over.  Didn't get hit, just over balanced and went flop on the road.  That was Very Loud and shook the house.

3) When we first got married, we lived right over the sound barrier from a very busy freeway (3 or 4 lanes each direction, MAJOR artery).  It was endless.  Late one night, I heard an accident out on the freeway - screeching brakes, the metallic crumple of the actual collision, and then some guy got out of a car and starting screaming "O M G over and over again".  I called 911 and reported an accident and the dispatcher got angry with me when I couldn't tell him which side of the freeway it was on because I couldn't see it.  "Well, HOW do you know there's an accident then?"  It was nuts, and I hung up really not knowing if he believed me and planned to do anything about it, because at the very least, they had glass to get off the roadway...

The thing is, when you move next to/on top of/within a certain distance from a noise hazard, YOU KNOW IT GOING IN.  You have no call to fuss when you bought or rented knowing full well that the loud thing exists, it's ridiculous to pitch a fit after.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on October 01, 2012, 02:36:48 PM
I used to live very close to both a small municipal airport, which handles a lot of corporate flights, as well as other minor bigwigs's flights.  I was also on the flight path For the local regional trauma center, where helicopters came and went on a regular basis, rattling my windows in the process (old house, crappy windows).  Right after 9/11, when all flights were halted, it was eerily quiet Ė actually kind of scary!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: 2littlemonkeys on October 01, 2012, 02:44:51 PM
I have two work ones, both from the same place.

1) We were granted 2 weeks of vacation per year.  However, lots of luck actually taking them.  I can't count how many times I'd have a day off scheduled only to be told it wasn't possible and that I'd have to reschedule.  One year, I actually, miraculously got a whole week off.  The very first day, I got a call on my cell.  It was my boss and he was insisting I come in because his pet employee really messed something up and "I was the only one who could fix it." (Whatever.  His pet just didn't want to do it because it was grunt work and Pet didn't DO grunt work.)  Since I was a state away, I had to tell him this wasn't possible.  He was very angry that I wasn't willing to jump into my car and drive hundreds of miles back so I could collate mailers correctly.  I got stink eye for quite some time after that.  And heaven help me, I actually considered it.  My mom talked me down.

2) After too many time of dealing with scenarios such as the above, I finally decided to find a different job.  I finally landed one and gave notice. On my last day, my old boss told me that I'd need to make myself available to help out until they could find a replacement.  He wasn't very happy when I told him that I'd be at work and wouldn't be able to come in.   ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on October 01, 2012, 04:05:03 PM
One of the smarter things a town where I used to live did was institute a "no build" zone around the flight line of the local Air Force base.  Hey, I lived 25 miles from the base, but the flight plan of most of the really large planes that landed at that base went directly over my home, noise included.  So moving farther away was no guarantee that there'd be no plane noise. 

Another issue in that town:  While I could sympathize (sort of) with the woman who got highly upset when the hot air balloons went over her house while she was sunbathing in the nude, it's not that hot air balloons can really govern where they drift (and if this is wrong, feel free to correct me).  Plus, it wasn't exactly a secret that there were frequently hot air balloons in that area.  In fact, that's one of the few things I miss about living there - the frequent hot air balloons. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Wulfie on October 01, 2012, 04:16:05 PM
Sometimes it is not an absurd request for plane noise/problems.

An acquaintance of ours got the US Air Force to correct some issues with their air traffic. Everyone in his neighborhood had been complaining about low flying aircraft buzzing houses in their neighborhood. They were NOT at the end of the runway, nor were they in an area where they should expect low flying aircraft. The Air Force denied that they were doing it and blew them off when they called with the ďthatís what you get for living near a baseĒ excuse.

Acquaintance called them up one day and asked for the base commander. He proceeded to inform him that the correct tire air pressure of a (type of cargo plane) was ( I forget the number). The base commander, or someone pretending to be him, was confused and asked how he knew this and why was he calling.  Our acquaintance told him that he thought he would like to know as he had just read the numbers off the tire of the plane that nearly hit his house. 

Planes stopped buzzing the neighborhood.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: audhs on October 01, 2012, 05:04:41 PM
A relative recently handed in his resignation at his second job.  His boss told him that they needed him and he wouldn't accept his resignation.  :o   Apparently he wasn't allowed to quit.  Didn't stop him though. ;)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jones on October 01, 2012, 05:31:28 PM
A relative recently handed in his resignation at his second job.  His boss told him that they needed him and he wouldn't accept his resignation.  :o   Apparently he wasn't allowed to quit.  Didn't stop him though. ;)

My ex boss actually tried that. I turned in my three week notice, he tried to talk me out of it; a week later I gave my two week notice, then it was Thanksgiving break, then he took a week off. He said I had to keep working because it wasn't a "real" two week notice. Sorry, but my new job wasn't going to wait for me forever, and he was lucky I was finishing one more hellish end of month for him...
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jaelle on October 01, 2012, 05:47:33 PM
We have a issue at a local board. Fellow is going to meetings to complain about all the train noise near his house, and wants the board to do something to stop it. Of course, the trains have been going through there long before he bought the house (earlier this year, I think).

He presented the board with some possible solutions, all of which require significant spending on the part of the town, of course.

 ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Winterlight on October 01, 2012, 07:16:17 PM
Another issue in that town:  While I could sympathize (sort of) with the woman who got highly upset when the hot air balloons went over her house while she was sunbathing in the nude, it's not that hot air balloons can really govern where they drift (and if this is wrong, feel free to correct me).  Plus, it wasn't exactly a secret that there were frequently hot air balloons in that area.  In fact, that's one of the few things I miss about living there - the frequent hot air balloons.

You can make the balloon go up and down, and that will affect which windstream you're in. So while the wind at one level is blowing east, the next level up might be northeast.  However, you don't have the fine control of a plane or helicopter.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: nutraxfornerves on October 01, 2012, 07:16:55 PM
I was a manager in an organization where most employees were covered by a union contract. The contract allowed employees to take time off for medical care for specified family members.

One of my employees took time off when his wife had major surgery. His claim was denied by some bean counter in personnel, because the contract said that the employee was needed for "attendance upon"the family member. The wife was obviously being cared for by the hospital, so her husband's attendance was not necessary. (Never mind the part where her recovery would be enhanced by her husband's "attendance" and that her husband would be useless as an employee if he were frantic about his wife.)

I had him change the reason to "illness of wife" and thereafter cautioned staff to never mention hospitalization of family members.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Elfmama on October 01, 2012, 08:26:19 PM
last time I checked, having a family is NOT a good excuse to do something for one employee over another.
That was the reason, many decades ago, why it was acceptable to pay a man more than a woman for exactly the same job.  He was supporting his family.  She just spent her income on fripperies like clothes and makeup and magazines. ::)  Or else she just worked to "have something to do" instead of lying on the sofa eating bon-bons and watching soap operas.  Because some man was really supporting her, you know, either her husband or her father.  Self-supporting single women were myths. ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Elfmama on October 01, 2012, 08:41:10 PM

The thing is, when you move next to/on top of/within a certain distance from a noise hazard, YOU KNOW IT GOING IN.  You have no call to fuss when you bought or rented knowing full well that the loud thing exists, it's ridiculous to pitch a fit after.
Several years ago, a pilot flying a small private plane going into BWI had a heart attack at the controls and died.  The plane crashed onto a house and killed a child inside. :( The neighbors all signed a petition demanding that the planes cease flying over their neighborhood because "It could happen again!  They hadn't ought to be allowed to fly planes over where people live!"  ::) Yep, another neighborhood built long after the airport went in.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Slartibartfast on October 01, 2012, 09:13:32 PM
We get black helicopters at all hours on a fairly regular basis - we're a few miles from the base, and this particular army base is really more for research than active training, but there is some traffic.  Haiku, the sheltie in my avatar, frequently demands I let him outside to chase the big mean nasty helicopters away, even if it's 2 AM when they fly over.  As far as he's concerned, he's doing a fantastic job - no helicopters have landed in our yard yet!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: MommyPenguin on October 01, 2012, 10:27:47 PM

The thing is, when you move next to/on top of/within a certain distance from a noise hazard, YOU KNOW IT GOING IN.  You have no call to fuss when you bought or rented knowing full well that the loud thing exists, it's ridiculous to pitch a fit after.
Several years ago, a pilot flying a small private plane going into BWI had a heart attack at the controls and died.  The plane crashed onto a house and killed a child inside. :( The neighbors all signed a petition demanding that the planes cease flying over their neighborhood because "It could happen again!  They hadn't ought to be allowed to fly planes over where people live!"  ::) Yep, another neighborhood built long after the airport went in.

Elfmama, was that the one where the family had a large number of kids (like 9 or something?) and they got all of them out except the 9-month-old or so baby?  If so, my in-laws were friends with that family.  They told me the story once, and I tried to look up news articles but couldn't find anything on it.  I think in Linthicum or Linthicum Heights?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Bluenomi on October 01, 2012, 11:04:30 PM

The thing is, when you move next to/on top of/within a certain distance from a noise hazard, YOU KNOW IT GOING IN.  You have no call to fuss when you bought or rented knowing full well that the loud thing exists, it's ridiculous to pitch a fit after.

Near me a developer is trying to build a new estate. The land he wants is right under an airport flight path. The council has said no because of aircraft noise, the state government has said the same and even the airport has poined out how noisy it will be and the reason the flight path is there is because there are no houses underneath. The developer wants the flight paths changed so they go over other suburbs so they can build their development but not surprisingly that isn't happening. The matter is still in the courts but I bet if they ever build it the residents will complain about the plane noise  ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: MaryMy on October 02, 2012, 12:02:03 AM
I use to be a store manager for a pay day advance company. In January 2011 (I believe) most of the midwest was going to be hit with a 'huge major snow storm' Our DDO demanded we stay late the night before for a conference call. She let us know there was no excuse for being late the next day. We knew a storm was coming and we should plan to leave early from home and open our stores on time. My husband and daughter work in the automotive industry and both were told to stay home.

SO I leave my house 2 1/2 hours early for a normal 25 minute ride to work. I work near a major airport so I thought those routes would be a bit clearer. Took me an hour to get to my store only to find the parking lot was not plowed. I went to the only restaurant open (I was amazed it was open) to sit with many others who were told the HAD to be on the job and private/company lots had not be plowed. I go back by my store 30 minutes before I should be there and still not plowed. I let the DDO know. When I should be clocking in I called the DDO and let her know I could not get into the parking lot and the landlord who scheduled plowing had not yet arrived. She thought I should use my car as a plow! I asked her if she or the company would pay for towing or my deductible if damage was caused to my car. She said NO. Come to find out the company did not demand us to open on time, that DDO just wanted to impress/boost herself.

This was the same DDO who told me I wasn't allowed bereavement days when my son died.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Iris on October 02, 2012, 12:54:27 AM

This was the same DDO who told me I wasn't allowed bereavement days when my son died.

 :o Just when I think I've heard it all...  >:( :'( >:( :'(
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Zen on October 02, 2012, 02:04:11 AM
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This was the same DDO who told me I wasn't allowed bereavement days when my son died.
I've read many horrifying things on this website and others. This may be the worst thing I've read in quite a long time. My sympathies for your loss.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: MariaE on October 02, 2012, 03:37:58 AM
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This was the same DDO who told me I wasn't allowed bereavement days when my son died.
I've read many horrifying things on this website and others. This may be the worst thing I've read in quite a long time. My sympathies for your loss.

Agreed! I hope you quit after that! Or went above her and got the days off anyway.  >:( :( :'(
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: MaryMy on October 02, 2012, 08:38:43 AM
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This was the same DDO who told me I wasn't allowed bereavement days when my son died.
I've read many horrifying things on this website and others. This may be the worst thing I've read in quite a long time. My sympathies for your loss.

Agreed! I hope you quit after that! Or went above her and got the days off anyway.  >:( :( :'(

I went to HR and did get time off. However when I did go back I found out most of my co workers had no idea why I was gone for 3 weeks. She told the one other manager I had spoken to that if she spread the word about my son she would be fired. I worked for 3 more weeks then was on FMLA while I had knee replacement. After that I quit. I couldn't go back.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Outdoor Girl on October 02, 2012, 08:40:48 AM
Reading these stories, I've never been so grateful that I have a reasonable supervisor!

Maybe I should write him a Thank You card!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BatCity on October 02, 2012, 08:59:23 AM
Slight threadjack.

In June, when we moved across the country, we found a rental house that was perfect except for one thing...it is right next to the railroad tracks, and the subdivision deflects the noise of the train with a giant wall (I'm guessing 30 feet high) that looms over the neighborhood.  It's the weirdest thing, but the house is otherwise perfect, so we took it, thinking that we'll only be here a year or so before we buy something.

Turns out the wall works...the train sounds like it's miles away, and we're walking distance from the charming downtown of an extremely expensive town.  We're thinking of asking our landlady if we can just buy the house.

End threadjack, thank you for your patience.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Luci on October 02, 2012, 09:12:13 AM
I had heard this several years ago and just saw something in a magazine about a similar thing.

A woman who had moved into a small, rural town after being in the Big City all of her life wrote a letter to the editor about two things.

1. There are no street lights in the countryside and it is dangerously dark, so they should be installed.

2. Some deer crossing signs are on tricky curves or near busy intersections so should be placed where one can see better and where there is less trafiic.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jones on October 02, 2012, 09:18:28 AM
Absurd demands...The local hospital is a good hospital, but somewhat rural. There are a lot of things they can't do, and people who need specialists have to make a 3+ hour drive to a city with those specialists. Sometimes things happen in the middle of nowhere (oilfield accidents, hiking accidents, ranch related accidents, etc.), where a helicopter must be dispatched, bring the victim to the hospital's ER, be stabilized but too much of an emergency for our local hospital and life-flighted to a hospital in another city. Sometimes an ambulance is adequate to get a victim to the local hospital, but the helicopter is still needed for the emergency flight to another city. Three hours driving, I'm not sure how fast flying but significantly faster.

So, recently, someone who lives near the hospital complained about it to the FAA. They complained about the noise and said that the launch pad was inadequate for a helicopter's needs. The FAA sent out an inspector and issued a strongly worded warning that the medical 'copter had to be kept at and launched from the local airport until further inspecting could be done. This meant that in situations where minutes mattered, an ambulance was rushing back and forth from the helicopter to the hospital, adding an extra 15-20 minutes in a potentially life threatening situation. Plus, as the helicopter's trained crew live in a house across the street from the hospital and its launch pad, the extra minutes to get the crew to the airport and doing their flight checks.

Once the FAA had a more experienced inspector come out the edict was reversed and the helicopter is kept at the hospital again with a big stamp of approval. The complainer has been kept anonymous as an awful lot of folks in our community have expressed a desire to let him/her experience the necessity of life flight first hand. There are a bunch of apartment buildings across the street from the hospital full of very vocal citizens who were upset about the delay of medical assistance. No one can predict if they are going to be the next person in need of that service. Meanwhile, several flight paths in and out of the area have been charted to reduce the chance that one person will feel the need to complain about noise in the near future.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jaelle on October 02, 2012, 09:22:42 AM
I'm posted this one before, but it bears repeating.

When DH's last company let him go, one of the things they cited was that he took a week off (it had been approved long in advance) when it "just wasn't a good time for the company."

It was the week our 5-month-old son had serious open-heart surgery in an out-of-state hospital.  ::)

Another friend was forced to quit from the same company after a manager (someone technically the same rank as her, but in better with the big boss) informed her she had to hire his wife as her assistant. And, oh yeah, his wife would be working friend's schedule so that friend had to take the (admittedly lousy)  hours of the assistant job.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Cami on October 02, 2012, 09:45:31 AM
My workplace includes a small "conference center", i.e. two meeting rooms that can seat (at best) 70 people total. A former boss used to require that one of the admin assistants come in on weekends or during the evenings to start a pot of coffee for those rooms because "that's beneath me." One weekend, the admin assistant couldn't come in to start the coffee because she was out of town dealing with her elderly father's hospitalization. Boss pitched a fit and when the woman wasn't answering her cell phone, called the hospital to be connected to the  man's room to reach her. All over starting a pot of coffee.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Really? on October 02, 2012, 10:22:11 AM
"We get black helicopters at all hours on a fairly regular basis - we're a few miles from the base, and this particular army base is really more for research than active training, but there is some traffic.  Haiku, the sheltie in my avatar, frequently demands I let him outside to chase the big mean nasty helicopters away, even if it's 2 AM when they fly over.  As far as he's concerned, he's doing a fantastic job - no helicopters have landed in our yard yet!"

Stariblast, this made my laugh. One of my old dogs did this everytime a helicopter flew over the house, or the train went by.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Slartibartfast on October 02, 2012, 10:31:39 AM
SIL got fired from her job after a long and frustrating string of harassment from her boss.  Boss insisted SIL "dress more appropriately" (i.e. more girly) - I should note that SIL is lesbian and generally on the more "butch" end of the spectrum.  SIL was wearing khakis and collared shirts - not feminine at all, but not inappropriate for work (even on a woman) and would have been perfectly professional if she were male.  Her job was helping mentally disabled adults find and train for jobs - which means she spent a lot of her day at on-site training with them, such as around the fryers at fast-food places or around industrial chemicals for cleaning companies.  Not really places where high heels, skirts, and perfectly coiffed hair would have helped!  (According to SIL, high heels were something her boss specifically demanded she wear, and the would have been a real safety hazard at some of the job sites.)

So the boss started writing SIL up for a) not wearing makeup to work, b) not wearing dresses/skirts, and c) not wearing high heels.  Also revealed through several comments and conversations that she was targeting SIL specifically because of her sexual orientation, but when SIL went to HR it was brushed off because her boss's best friend (who also worked at their company) was also lesbian and the boss was nice to her, so that couldn't possibly have anything to do with it!  (The boss's friend is at the other end of the spectrum when it comes to hair/makeup/girly clothes, though.)

SIL was ultimately fired because she wasn't placing enough people in jobs.  However, the boss got to choose which clients were assigned to who.  She assigned all the clients with less severe handicaps to her friend and all the clients with extremely disabling handicaps to SIL.  Not surprisingly, it's much easier to find jobs for someone who is capable of making change, chatting with customers, doing simple tasks unsupervised, etc. than someone who will need constant co-worker supervision for even repetitive tasks.  Voila, boss's friend has good placement numbers and SIL doesn't.  The company demanded SIL place as many people as her boss and boss's friend did, which SIL was just not able to do, so she was fired.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: hermanne on October 02, 2012, 10:34:08 AM
^ That stinks. Was there anyone higher up she could've gone to?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Slartibartfast on October 02, 2012, 10:35:59 AM
^ That stinks. Was there anyone higher up she could've gone to?

Not really.  She actually talked with a lawyer about suing for discrimination and started putting together a case, but when it came down to it she would have had to stay in that toxic environment even if they had taken her back, so she ended up dropping the suit.  The confrontational part of me wanted to see her fight the firing, but since it was really more of a "we'll let you quit" kind of thing, she wasn't even particularly assured she'd win if she took them to court  :-\
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Elfmama on October 02, 2012, 11:13:44 AM

The thing is, when you move next to/on top of/within a certain distance from a noise hazard, YOU KNOW IT GOING IN.  You have no call to fuss when you bought or rented knowing full well that the loud thing exists, it's ridiculous to pitch a fit after.
Several years ago, a pilot flying a small private plane going into BWI had a heart attack at the controls and died.  The plane crashed onto a house and killed a child inside. :( The neighbors all signed a petition demanding that the planes cease flying over their neighborhood because "It could happen again!  They hadn't ought to be allowed to fly planes over where people live!"  ::) Yep, another neighborhood built long after the airport went in.

Elfmama, was that the one where the family had a large number of kids (like 9 or something?) and they got all of them out except the 9-month-old or so baby?  If so, my in-laws were friends with that family.  They told me the story once, and I tried to look up news articles but couldn't find anything on it.  I think in Linthicum or Linthicum Heights?
I don't remember any more kids, since the events happened so long ago, but the child killed was an infant.  It was definitely in the Ferndale/Linthicum area. Very sad, but stuff happens that no one intends.  The airport, when it was built, was surrounded by nothing more than farm fields.  I'm sure that when those neighborhoods were built after WWII, no one thought "I know!  I'll build this subdivision near the airport, so that planes can crash on people's houses!"
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: gmatoy on October 02, 2012, 11:15:52 AM
last time I checked, having a family is NOT a good excuse to do something for one employee over another.
That was the reason, many decades ago, why it was acceptable to pay a man more than a woman for exactly the same job.  He was supporting his family.  She just spent her income on fripperies like clothes and makeup and magazines. ::)  Or else she just worked to "have something to do" instead of lying on the sofa eating bon-bons and watching soap operas.  Because some man was really supporting her, you know, either her husband or her father.  Self-supporting single women were myths. ::)

My grandmother was picking cottom, when she realized that the man ahead of her was paid more than she was. She protested and was told that "HE had a family to support!" She retorted, "What are my three daughters? Cabbages??!!" The man in charge told her to find a man and try to keep him.
Ah, the good old days!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kari on October 02, 2012, 11:41:16 AM
One winter day it snowed so much, it reached to my waist. I took public transportation and knew that no buses would be running in those conditions. And even if the buses spontaneously became hovercrafts and were running on time, there still was the problem of me being unable to walk to the bus stop in waist-high snow without being an expert in yoga. I called out. My boss got VERY huffy with me and whined, "Can't you tryyyy?" Nope. Can't.

As if to prove a point, she showed up to work that day. And was the only one. Her normally 20-minute commute took two-and-a-half hours. One-way. But she worked that day, stewing and fuming the entire time. I know this because she told us this the next day -- when she informed everyone that we would be coming in that Saturday to make up for taking the day off. To which, everyone replied to her in person or in firmly-worded letters that it would not be possible. She was livid. Someone must have appealed to her boss, the president of the company -- who, incidentally, ALSO didn't make it in that snowy day -- because we soon got an email saying that we were granted a "holiday" for that time and didn't need to make it up. Boss never forgave us, though. She informed me that since she lived near me she would pick me up the next time public transportation was down. Next year, another blizzard whomps down upon the land. I called my boss and asked for a ride. She hemmed and hawed, finally saying she couldn't come get me.

But that's all silliness. I have friends who went through much worse. One was a bartender for a sports bar. His grandmother unexpectedly passed and a funeral was quickly planned for that Saturday. He was told by his boss that if he didn't come in that day, not to come in at all. He no longer works there.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Hillia on October 02, 2012, 12:30:08 PM
One of the smarter things a town where I used to live did was institute a "no build" zone around the flight line of the local Air Force base. 

If this is the same town I'm thinking of, for the past several years the developers have been suing to open the 'no build' area for development.  The city council/mayor were seriously considering it, last I heard, and joining in the suit.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Wulfie on October 02, 2012, 12:37:22 PM
When I was in college, I worked at a pizza joint making the pizza crusts each morning. I told my boss even before he hired me that I needed X date off because my father was getting married.  No problemÖÖ.. yea right!  No, I could not make twice as many crusts as normal on the day before, I had to come in THAT day to make the crusts. No, I could not come in at 4am to do them, I had to come in at 10am so I could also help with the lunch ďrushĒ which was maybe 10 pizzas in a 2 hour period.  It was not like *I* was getting married, my father didnít need me to be there.  Plus, he was divorced once so this marriage would not last and I could go to the next one.  I quit on the spot. Dad and Step-mom have been married for over 20 years.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: StuffedGrapeLeaves on October 02, 2012, 12:50:16 PM
I've never had a crazy request or demand like what other people have stated on this thread, and I'm very thankful for that.  Are these supervisors/bosses/managers crazy, dumb, a combination of both? 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on October 02, 2012, 12:50:36 PM
last time I checked, having a family is NOT a good excuse to do something for one employee over another.
That was the reason, many decades ago, why it was acceptable to pay a man more than a woman for exactly the same job.  He was supporting his family.  She just spent her income on fripperies like clothes and makeup and magazines. ::)  Or else she just worked to "have something to do" instead of lying on the sofa eating bon-bons and watching soap operas.  Because some man was really supporting her, you know, either her husband or her father.  Self-supporting single women were myths. ::)

My great-grandmother worked for years as a secretary after she kicked her abusive husband out (not my great-grandfather, he was deceased) and also had a farm.  I found both her and his original divorce complaints while cleaning my aunt's house and they were very interesting reading.  The date on the documents was 1939.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: hobish on October 02, 2012, 12:55:23 PM
^ That stinks. Was there anyone higher up she could've gone to?

Not really.  She actually talked with a lawyer about suing for discrimination and started putting together a case, but when it came down to it she would have had to stay in that toxic environment even if they had taken her back, so she ended up dropping the suit.  The confrontational part of me wanted to see her fight the firing, but since it was really more of a "we'll let you quit" kind of thing, she wasn't even particularly assured she'd win if she took them to court  :-\

Pretty much the exact same thing just happened to a friend of mine, except instead of being in restaurants and such she spent time on the company's shop floor where work boots and such were required ... by the company...that was telling her to dress more girly ...  ???
Pretty much the same experience with a lawyer, as well.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on October 02, 2012, 01:11:04 PM
One of the smarter things a town where I used to live did was institute a "no build" zone around the flight line of the local Air Force base. 

If this is the same town I'm thinking of, for the past several years the developers have been suing to open the 'no build' area for development.  The city council/mayor were seriously considering it, last I heard, and joining in the suit.

If it's Travis Air Force Base, then what you're describing doesn't surprise me in the least.  Travis is also surrounded by wetlands (Suisun Slough, for instance, home to the very rare Suisun Slough Shrew) so there are environmental concerns to be considered.   
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BB-VA on October 02, 2012, 01:15:47 PM
"We get black helicopters at all hours on a fairly regular basis - we're a few miles from the base, and this particular army base is really more for research than active training, but there is some traffic.  Haiku, the sheltie in my avatar, frequently demands I let him outside to chase the big mean nasty helicopters away, even if it's 2 AM when they fly over.  As far as he's concerned, he's doing a fantastic job - no helicopters have landed in our yard yet!"

Stariblast, this made my laugh. One of my old dogs did this everytime a helicopter flew over the house, or the train went by.

I had one that wanted to chase the planes that sprayed for gypsy moths.  We had to keep him in so he wouldn't get sprayed too.

And you are right - he did a fantastic job.  Not one plane EVER landed!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on October 02, 2012, 01:15:53 PM
My cousin was also told by a former boss that she (Boss) didn't like Cousin looking "old."  Cousin is in her early 50s, and had to dye her hair and dress "young," and Boss was constantly telling her that she "looked old."  For the record, Boss was in her 30s. 

Cousin doesn't work there any more because of health issues.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kari on October 02, 2012, 02:29:22 PM
Remembered more:

After leaving me and immediately taking up with another chick (hmm, nothing suspicious there!), then dumping THAT chick in order to try to get back together with me, an ex-BF asked me for the two movie tickets I had won in a contest so that he could take her out. Um, how 'bout NO?

He later demanded that we get back together because the "scrabble" with the other chick was so good, so I should feel flattered that he would give that up to get back with me. Ladies, how did I let such a gem slip through my fingers?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BabyMama on October 02, 2012, 02:51:19 PM
So my flatmate resigned from his part time job because apparently doing your job properly upsets other employees. This has left them completely in the poo as all their staff are dropping like flies and they are too useless to manage the situation. He has done everything he is required to with regards to working out his notice and they are fully aware his last day is today. Apparently they are snippy with him because he won't work next weekend. Even if he felt so inclined, he can't because he has his BIL's wedding to go to. The GM actually asked him to miss the wedding to "help them out".

Yeah. Right. Can't see that happening. Do people really think these requests are reasonable when they ask them?

I had something similar happen with the job I had in college. It was part-time, 4 hours a day, pretty flexible shifts. After I'd worked there a semester, it turned out that one of my classes I needed to graduate (and it was my last or second to last semester, and the class was only offered every other semester) was held during my shift. I asked my supervisor if I could possibly switch shifts, or even just on those days I had class. He agreed, and I finished registering. Good, right?

A couple weeks later I had my review. I was called out for "not being a team player" and "inflexible" in my schedule, and was asked to "consider what I wanted my future in the company to be." Um, let's see. College degree, or temporary, part-time job...that was a hard one :P
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 02, 2012, 02:53:42 PM
Man alive! You people have had some terrible bosses. How do these people function? What actually goes through their minds. Can you just imagine what it would be like to be married or related to these people.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: CrochetFanatic on October 02, 2012, 03:09:41 PM
I just thought of another one, though not work-related.  Last September, my uncle was having an Autumn get-together, the type of thing where people bring food and so on.  I was asked to bring something, which I was fine with.  I asked what I should bring, and they said "anything is fine", so I decided to make ginger bread cookies. 

The morning of the party, my uncle called and my mom intercepted the call.  I was in the kitchen, rolling chilled ginger bread dough into balls, rolling the balls in some sugar, and putting them on a cookie sheet.  I overheard my mom on the phone, saying, "Well, she's already bringing something.  Yeah, she's making it now. *a pause, then* I'll ask her."  I looked up as my mom stuck her head in the kitchen, and she said that my uncle wanted me to bring a batch of cornbread.  That's not the absurd part; that part came when I expressed reluctance to do more work.

When I said that I was already making the cookies, and it was taking a little longer than I thought it would, I overheard my uncle saying (and he must have overheard me, because my mom hadn't relayed what I said back to him yet), "Ask her to make the cornbread, too.  We'll eat it." and eventually, "Well, I don't see why she can't if she's already baking!"

I made the cornbread to avoid a big "thing".  And maybe five pieces of it got eaten.  The rest of it, I came to learn, went stale and was tossed out for the crows.  >:(  Lesson learned.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 02, 2012, 03:38:05 PM
Here are some others I have had in the past

A woman who wanted my small business to employee 14 special needs adults to pick up tonnes of walnuts and turn them into walnut oil. New govt regulations said any thing that could be classed as work needed to be paid the minimum wage and they just did it because they enjoyed it and it was a nice day out for them. Estimated cost of this madness approx $45,000. Potential to sell any walnut oil. Zero.

A girl who wrote to me wanting my business to sponsor her amateur stock car racing to the tune of $25,000. She couldn't believe this wasn't the best marketing opportunity of all times. Yeah. Pay for your own hobbies.

A customer who wanted me to buy her lounge suite. She was most upset that the second hand dealers had only offered her $300 for it when she had brought it for $12,000 10 years ago. She said she wanted at least $7000 for it and surely I must need a new lounge suite. I didn't and it sound hideous anyway. This is a small gourmet food store not an auction house.

At a charity I volunteered at a woman who would ring up on an almost daily basis wanting description of all the new items that had been donated to see if there was anything she might be interested in. She was told repeatedly she would have to actually come into the shop but she said she couldn't be bothered coming in unless she knew what was going to be there.

The crazy wife of an expat of big oil company who wanted me to arrange for British Airways to fly out, free of charge, 4 tonnes of used children clothes to orphans in Tbilisi that her women group had collected. The same woman also wanted her compost and garage shelving air freighted from the UK to Baku.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on October 02, 2012, 04:23:32 PM
Pippen - You run a gourmet food shop?  Why are these people making such strange requests?  (That's a rhetorical question.) 

Another one from my past:  I was sharing a house with a woman who had a little boy.  She developed bronchitis, and asked me to stay home from work and babysit her son so she could sleep.  I refused - while I did ride herd on him when I was home and I'd been doing all the housework and cooking, nevertheless I needed to keep my job, and I reminded her of this when she started complaining about how I wasn't much of a friend if I wouldn't do was she asked, etc.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kimblee on October 02, 2012, 04:28:01 PM
So my flatmate resigned from his part time job because apparently doing your job properly upsets other employees. This has left them completely in the poo as all their staff are dropping like flies and they are too useless to manage the situation. He has done everything he is required to with regards to working out his notice and they are fully aware his last day is today. Apparently they are snippy with him because he won't work next weekend. Even if he felt so inclined, he can't because he has his BIL's wedding to go to. The GM actually asked him to miss the wedding to "help them out".

Yeah. Right. Can't see that happening. Do people really think these requests are reasonable when they ask them?

I had something similar happen with the job I had in college. It was part-time, 4 hours a day, pretty flexible shifts. After I'd worked there a semester, it turned out that one of my classes I needed to graduate (and it was my last or second to last semester, and the class was only offered every other semester) was held during my shift. I asked my supervisor if I could possibly switch shifts, or even just on those days I had class. He agreed, and I finished registering. Good, right?

A couple weeks later I had my review. I was called out for "not being a team player" and "inflexible" in my schedule, and was asked to "consider what I wanted my future in the company to be." Um, let's see. College degree, or temporary, part-time job...that was a hard one :P

How ever could you give up such a treasure of a job?! And for something as fleeting as a degree? Shame, shame.  :P
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 02, 2012, 04:35:19 PM
Pippen - You run a gourmet food shop?  Why are these people making such strange requests?  (That's a rhetorical question.) 

Another one from my past:  I was sharing a house with a woman who had a little boy.  She developed bronchitis, and asked me to stay home from work and babysit her son so she could sleep.  I refused - while I did ride herd on him when I was home and I'd been doing all the housework and cooking, nevertheless I needed to keep my job, and I reminded her of this when she started complaining about how I wasn't much of a friend if I wouldn't do was she asked, etc.

I sold it a few years back but anytime you are dealing with the public you never know what kind of crazy they can throw at you.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: gingerzing on October 02, 2012, 04:36:43 PM
I had a VP who decided that our hallway should always have at least one admin assistant -of four of us -working (except for the twice yearly All Department meetings). 
Even if all the managers were out (it isn't like we could answer some of the questions) and even if all the managers were in. 
One year, I put in for vacation time of 3 days around my mom's birthday.  One other gal had two of the days off as well.  Then his admin also was going to take two days off as well as the third gal needing the Friday off for an appointment.  I was last hired so he told me that I had to cancel my trip. 

Me- No.
VP- What?
Me- No, I had it planned for over a month.  Asked permission a month ago and my mom has bought tickets.  So no.
VP - We need someone in the hallway.  You need to cancel your plans.
Me- Fine.  You talk to my mom and explain that I have to cancel from her birthday plans, then I will consider it. 

Ah, the power of "I'm Telling MOM!" works every time. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BabyMama on October 02, 2012, 04:43:59 PM
So my flatmate resigned from his part time job because apparently doing your job properly upsets other employees. This has left them completely in the poo as all their staff are dropping like flies and they are too useless to manage the situation. He has done everything he is required to with regards to working out his notice and they are fully aware his last day is today. Apparently they are snippy with him because he won't work next weekend. Even if he felt so inclined, he can't because he has his BIL's wedding to go to. The GM actually asked him to miss the wedding to "help them out".

Yeah. Right. Can't see that happening. Do people really think these requests are reasonable when they ask them?

I had something similar happen with the job I had in college. It was part-time, 4 hours a day, pretty flexible shifts. After I'd worked there a semester, it turned out that one of my classes I needed to graduate (and it was my last or second to last semester, and the class was only offered every other semester) was held during my shift. I asked my supervisor if I could possibly switch shifts, or even just on those days I had class. He agreed, and I finished registering. Good, right?

A couple weeks later I had my review. I was called out for "not being a team player" and "inflexible" in my schedule, and was asked to "consider what I wanted my future in the company to be." Um, let's see. College degree, or temporary, part-time job...that was a hard one :P

How ever could you give up such a treasure of a job?! And for something as fleeting as a degree? Shame, shame.  :P

Why Kimblee, it paid $8/hour AND offered a 401K! (Because I had so much left over after my 20 hour a week paycheck that I could afford to contribute to it...) It also gave paid vacation--that I was later chastised for using.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: HorseFreak on October 02, 2012, 04:54:09 PM
Back when I was in college I had a serious accident (kicked by a horse; shattered my spleen, broke two ribs, spent 3 days in ICU). I had to withdrawal from school for the semester with the understanding I'd be back the next. It's important to know it was a school animal that kicked me (double-barreled in the chest) without provocation and I was an experienced horse person. I took a part time holiday job at Target once I recovered working in the stock room making 5 cents over minimum wage. The job wasn't bad for retail and they kept me on after Christmas, but fired a couple coworkers who did a fine job and really needed the money.

Absurd request 1) The HR manager asked me to quit college and stay on at Target permanently. Part time. At $6.80/hr. How appealing! They asked me to seriously reconsider when I declined. By January I was lucky to get 10-15 hours per week.

Absurd request 2) My university expected me to pay a significant fee and apply for readmittance! My dad raised holy hell with the dean's office. The school had gotten rid of the horse because the assistant dean (a horsewoman) considered him too dangerous after hearing the story while visiting me in the hospital. He really wasn't a bad horse, but too unpredictable and needed someone to consistently work with him which wasn't going to happen there. The school relented and I graduated on time.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BarensMom on October 02, 2012, 05:53:35 PM
Another example of corporate stupidity from my time at Evil Oil Company:

S was the admin for one of the Transport groups and she had the habit of taking one of corporate and company forms and inserting the name of the Transport group.  She would then send the marked form to me requesting I make the change and order 5,000 copies of the "revised" form.  Bear in mind, the only change was the addition of the group name.  This made no sense to me, so I took it to my supervisor, who approved it.

Weeks later, I receive an angry call from Corporate Identity in SF, demanding to know why I changed a corporate form.  "I did what I was told by client and supervisor approved it," I replied.  Much high-level corporate drama ensued and it was established that I was not to revise corporate forms under any circumstances.  S was also informed of this decision.  A few weeks later, I received another "revised" corporate from from S.  I bounced that off to Corporate Identity and let them handle it and her.  I later found out that S was taking credit for "developing" the forms and her supervisors were too out of the loop to realize she was plagarizing corporate forms.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 02, 2012, 06:22:03 PM
Another example of corporate stupidity from my time at Evil Oil Company:

S was the admin for one of the Transport groups and she had the habit of taking one of corporate and company forms and inserting the name of the Transport group.  She would then send the marked form to me requesting I make the change and order 5,000 copies of the "revised" form.  Bear in mind, the only change was the addition of the group name.  This made no sense to me, so I took it to my supervisor, who approved it.

Weeks later, I receive an angry call from Corporate Identity in SF, demanding to know why I changed a corporate form.  "I did what I was told by client and supervisor approved it," I replied.  Much high-level corporate drama ensued and it was established that I was not to revise corporate forms under any circumstances.  S was also informed of this decision.  A few weeks later, I received another "revised" corporate from from S.  I bounced that off to Corporate Identity and let them handle it and her.  I later found out that S was taking credit for "developing" the forms and her supervisors were too out of the loop to realize she was plagarizing corporate forms.

That happens more than you might think. People buggerising around with things they have no business with. Having worked in corp comms I would be reading through the paper and see some numpity would have placed an ad they had made up themselves using the logo, not spell checking it all sorts of errors. They were meant to bring everything to us but they would just go ahead and do it anyway. The IT dept were the absolute worst for this.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LazyDaisy on October 02, 2012, 06:41:50 PM
Another example of corporate stupidity from my time at Evil Oil Company:

S was the admin for one of the Transport groups and she had the habit of taking one of corporate and company forms and inserting the name of the Transport group.  She would then send the marked form to me requesting I make the change and order 5,000 copies of the "revised" form.  Bear in mind, the only change was the addition of the group name.  This made no sense to me, so I took it to my supervisor, who approved it.

Weeks later, I receive an angry call from Corporate Identity in SF, demanding to know why I changed a corporate form.  "I did what I was told by client and supervisor approved it," I replied.  Much high-level corporate drama ensued and it was established that I was not to revise corporate forms under any circumstances.  S was also informed of this decision.  A few weeks later, I received another "revised" corporate from from S.  I bounced that off to Corporate Identity and let them handle it and her.  I later found out that S was taking credit for "developing" the forms and her supervisors were too out of the loop to realize she was plagarizing corporate forms.

That happens more than you might think. People buggerising around with things they have no business with. Having worked in corp comms I would be reading through the paper and see some numpity would have placed an ad they had made up themselves using the logo, not spell checking it all sorts of errors. They were meant to bring everything to us but they would just go ahead and do it anyway. The IT dept were the absolute worst for this.
Off topic I realize but I have a doozie that just happened last week similar to this. I created a little half-page flier for one of our colleges last month for an event. Last week, the entire campus received an email wherein someone over there took a cell phone photo of the flier (yes, it was obvious) and PhotoShop-ed in some text changes for a new event.  I pointed it out to our Public Relations Executive Director -- someone will be getting spoken to. I actually hope someone loses their job because they are doing insane stuff like this all the time.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on October 02, 2012, 06:50:54 PM
Just remembered one. Not too absurd as the woman didn't insist, but it irritated me.

Back in 2003 I worked at a McDonalds on a military base. My eldest was 2 and pirateboy2 was around 9 months, I think.  It was sometime during that summer anyway.  I worked nights, which meant closing around 10:30 but not getting home till after midnight.  Now, DH was an active duty marine (hence why I was working on a base), which meant every once in a while he'd get guard duty, which was 24 hours and involved him sitting up at the barracks all night.  It also meant that I couldn't work those nights.   Our neighbors were sometimes able to sit for us, but not this one night.

So I put in that I would need that day off well in advance and when the schedule was made up I was not on for the night DH had duty.  Cool, right?

Not so much. I went in the day before with DH to get lunch while he was off and the manager asked if I could come in the next day, or "are you babysitting?" Mind you, I had my younger son on my hip and DH was holding the eldest.  She knew they were my children and I told her "I'm not babysitting, I'm staying home with my children."  ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Amara on October 02, 2012, 07:02:38 PM
I just remembered this! Several years ago when I worked in the Adult Education division of our college, an instructor drew up a flier for his class in one of the Adobe programs. He included Adobe's logo right at the top and when I pointed out that this was a huge no-no (and told him why) he got snippy with me. It was his class! He was teaching [program]! So he had the right to use it.

No, no he did not. And I put the kibosh on that immediately. It was shortly after that when the making of fliers for all classes were given to me.

Even then my copyright misadventures were not over. A woman who was a Wilton representative and taught a baking class again brought a flier she had made up to me. Same thing. She had the Wilton logo as big as you please. I told her why we would not use and she began to argue: "I am a representative so I have the right to use it." This time I let my annoyance come out and told her, in a rather blunt but not impolite tone, "You do NOT own the company. You do not own the logo. You do not own any words or pictures or anything that Wilton owns. If you use this you can lose your home and every dingdangity thing you own." It worked. She blanched and backed off immediately.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Luci on October 02, 2012, 07:06:54 PM
I've told this one before.

In 1967, science and math teachers were really needed. We both had teaching degrees in math-science and credentials.

We had been married for about 15 months, our baby was due in late January. Lucas had just graduated as a physics teacher and had accepted a job in northern Illinois. I had already taught a semester. We were inundated with job offers so that we had to turn our phone off at night. I intercepted a phone call for him one afternoon and told the caller from southern Illinois that Lucas was already employed. The caller (high school principal) said that he noticed that I had a degree in math teaching and they could negotiate my salary, too. Well, I could work the first semester 300 miles away and then go back to move in with Lucas in time for that baby.

I chose to live with my husband that fall.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on October 02, 2012, 07:41:01 PM
I've told this story before, but it fits here.

I got a call from another department in the hospital asking for work load figures for a particular time period for my section.  Since I kept those on an Excel spreadsheet and updated them monthly I e-mailed the department a copy. 

Then I got a call back and was told,  "This needs to be typed up on letterhead." 

I said, "Go ahead." 

"We have a short suspense!"  Meaning they needed to do it fast. 

I said, "Then you'd better get started on it."

"You mean you aren't going to do this for us?"

I said, "No, I'm not.  I provided you with my work load figures, as you asked, but I'm not going to do your work for you."

Besides, I knew what would happen:  I'd type it up, and it'd be bounced back to me six times for changes, and the other department would get all the credit for my work.  So I was going to stop it before it got started.

Believe me, I knew what would happen because I had been through it.  I typed up a list of approved abbreviations as a favor to my boss, and I was still getting that paper boomerang back three years later.  Seriously.  People would call me up and demand to know why I had put X abbreviation on there instead of Y abbreviation, and I'd tell them, "Hey, I'm just the typist.  You need to talk to Colonel Painintheneck, who's the project officer."  I did notice, however, that once I started referring people to him I got a lot fewer phone calls.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 02, 2012, 09:28:17 PM
I've told this story before, but it fits here.

I got a call from another department in the hospital asking for work load figures for a particular time period for my section.  Since I kept those on an Excel spreadsheet and updated them monthly I e-mailed the department a copy. 

Then I got a call back and was told,  "This needs to be typed up on letterhead." 

I said, "Go ahead." 

"We have a short suspense!"  Meaning they needed to do it fast. 

I said, "Then you'd better get started on it."

"You mean you aren't going to do this for us?"

I said, "No, I'm not.  I provided you with my work load figures, as you asked, but I'm not going to do your work for you."

Besides, I knew what would happen:  I'd type it up, and it'd be bounced back to me six times for changes, and the other department would get all the credit for my work.  So I was going to stop it before it got started.

Believe me, I knew what would happen because I had been through it.  I typed up a list of approved abbreviations as a favor to my boss, and I was still getting that paper boomerang back three years later.  Seriously.  People would call me up and demand to know why I had put X abbreviation on there instead of Y abbreviation, and I'd tell them, "Hey, I'm just the typist.  You need to talk to Colonel Painintheneck, who's the project officer."  I did notice, however, that once I started referring people to him I got a lot fewer phone calls.

Good for you! I am sure some people only have jobs because they create double handling for all sorts of things that could be way simpler. I call these people 'Marketing Managers' and when Judgement day finally arrives they are first in line and I don't hold out much hope for them.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Reika on October 02, 2012, 10:53:02 PM
I figure this one fits in here.

A little background, I'm a practicing Wiccan, not just the religious aspect, but the witchcraft bits as well.

There'd been a guy that I actually got close enough to that we'd gotten engaged. Then he broke it off, it hurt a lot, but I got over it. Then really got over it when another friend of mine (who didn't realize we'd been engaged or even knew each other) was ready to kill my ex and friend's now ex-girlfriend because the two of them had cheated on him. At the same time I'd been engaged to my now ex.

The ex-girlfriend in question had been an acquaintance of mine. Both her, and my ex, were completely cut out of my life. Both of them got ostracized by our other friends because of their actions. The last I heard, my ex was still going out with the girl he cheated on me with.

Fast forward a few years, ex's little sister contacts me through the chatroom that we both went to, but he stopped going to after the kerfluffle above. The wording seemed a little suspicious, so I confronted "her". It wasn't his sister, it was him. He wanted me to conduct a ritual to make the girl, who had dumped him, to come back him because she was his soul-mate.

Yeah, like I'm going to violate my religious beliefs of do no harm in the attempt to force someone to do something against their will. Doubly so when both parties involved had hurt me pretty badly at one time.

I had some very choice, un-EHellish words to say to him. Fortunately, I haven't heard from either of them since then.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Thipu1 on October 03, 2012, 10:15:54 AM
This one is really mild and could probably go into The SS thread, but it still rankles a bit.

It came from a person who used to frequent the library.  He moved quite far away but was still doing research.

I received a phone call from him.  He had what he thought was a reasonable request.

We were to make photocopies of all the information we had on a certain topic and mail it to him.  He'd then pay us for, 'what he found useful'. 

Please note that 'what we had' would easily fill a ten ream case of copier paper.

You can figure out that we'd be lucky if we'd get any money back for what would be a very large cost in paper, toner, shipping and staff time. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: StuffedGrapeLeaves on October 03, 2012, 10:24:19 AM

Good for you! I am sure some people only have jobs because they create double handling for all sorts of things that could be way simpler. I call these people 'Marketing Managers' and when Judgement day finally arrives they are first in line and I don't hold out much hope for them.

Reminds me of the character in Office Space whose job was just to run paper from one department to another. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kimblee on October 03, 2012, 10:58:29 AM
So my flatmate resigned from his part time job because apparently doing your job properly upsets other employees. This has left them completely in the poo as all their staff are dropping like flies and they are too useless to manage the situation. He has done everything he is required to with regards to working out his notice and they are fully aware his last day is today. Apparently they are snippy with him because he won't work next weekend. Even if he felt so inclined, he can't because he has his BIL's wedding to go to. The GM actually asked him to miss the wedding to "help them out".

Yeah. Right. Can't see that happening. Do people really think these requests are reasonable when they ask them?

I had something similar happen with the job I had in college. It was part-time, 4 hours a day, pretty flexible shifts. After I'd worked there a semester, it turned out that one of my classes I needed to graduate (and it was my last or second to last semester, and the class was only offered every other semester) was held during my shift. I asked my supervisor if I could possibly switch shifts, or even just on those days I had class. He agreed, and I finished registering. Good, right?

A couple weeks later I had my review. I was called out for "not being a team player" and "inflexible" in my schedule, and was asked to "consider what I wanted my future in the company to be." Um, let's see. College degree, or temporary, part-time job...that was a hard one :P

How ever could you give up such a treasure of a job?! And for something as fleeting as a degree? Shame, shame.  :P

Why Kimblee, it paid $8/hour AND offered a 401K! (Because I had so much left over after my 20 hour a week paycheck that I could afford to contribute to it...) It also gave paid vacation--that I was later chastised for using.

Wow... really lost a gem there, eh?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on October 03, 2012, 11:38:49 AM
I've told this story before, but it fits here.

I got a call from another department in the hospital asking for work load figures for a particular time period for my section.  Since I kept those on an Excel spreadsheet and updated them monthly I e-mailed the department a copy. 

Then I got a call back and was told,  "This needs to be typed up on letterhead." 

I said, "Go ahead." 

"We have a short suspense!"  Meaning they needed to do it fast. 

I said, "Then you'd better get started on it."

"You mean you aren't going to do this for us?"

I said, "No, I'm not.  I provided you with my work load figures, as you asked, but I'm not going to do your work for you."

Besides, I knew what would happen:  I'd type it up, and it'd be bounced back to me six times for changes, and the other department would get all the credit for my work.  So I was going to stop it before it got started.

Believe me, I knew what would happen because I had been through it.  I typed up a list of approved abbreviations as a favor to my boss, and I was still getting that paper boomerang back three years later.  Seriously.  People would call me up and demand to know why I had put X abbreviation on there instead of Y abbreviation, and I'd tell them, "Hey, I'm just the typist.  You need to talk to Colonel Painintheneck, who's the project officer."  I did notice, however, that once I started referring people to him I got a lot fewer phone calls.

Sounds a lot like what my CW, Useless likes and tries to do.  He's responsible for putting together something, I think, on a monthly basis for our BOD. A very brief rundown of what's gone on, and what our company has been involved in.  This information is readily available from our weeklly internal pubs, and its just a matter of picking out the most important ones, and putting them in a document.

without fail, he comes over each month to try and ask each of us if we can "put something together" for him for HIS assignment.  And every month we politely tell him no, and that the info he needs CAN be found and he will need to look there.

He is not AS familiar with teh material as we are, however, he puts absolutely no effot into anything, is lazier than anyone I've ever worked for, and seems to think we are all at his beck and call to do his bidding.  Now, had he actually drafted something, and THEN asked if we could give it a once over, no problem, but I and my other CWs are NOT going to do your job for you.

The great mystery is why, after 7 or so years here, and being shuffled around, and having stuff taken away from him due to his (i think) deliberate incompetance, he still has a job.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on October 03, 2012, 11:55:00 AM
What really mystified me was that they were asking me for information that they'd already told me was going to a third party.  I provided them with the information - and then they came back and told me how they needed it submitted to their third party?  Not happening.  I wasn't the one asked for the information - they were. 

Most people who asked for my work load figures were very happy with my spreadsheet.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BabyMama on October 03, 2012, 01:23:01 PM
So my flatmate resigned from his part time job because apparently doing your job properly upsets other employees. This has left them completely in the poo as all their staff are dropping like flies and they are too useless to manage the situation. He has done everything he is required to with regards to working out his notice and they are fully aware his last day is today. Apparently they are snippy with him because he won't work next weekend. Even if he felt so inclined, he can't because he has his BIL's wedding to go to. The GM actually asked him to miss the wedding to "help them out".

Yeah. Right. Can't see that happening. Do people really think these requests are reasonable when they ask them?

I had something similar happen with the job I had in college. It was part-time, 4 hours a day, pretty flexible shifts. After I'd worked there a semester, it turned out that one of my classes I needed to graduate (and it was my last or second to last semester, and the class was only offered every other semester) was held during my shift. I asked my supervisor if I could possibly switch shifts, or even just on those days I had class. He agreed, and I finished registering. Good, right?

A couple weeks later I had my review. I was called out for "not being a team player" and "inflexible" in my schedule, and was asked to "consider what I wanted my future in the company to be." Um, let's see. College degree, or temporary, part-time job...that was a hard one :P

How ever could you give up such a treasure of a job?! And for something as fleeting as a degree? Shame, shame.  :P

Why Kimblee, it paid $8/hour AND offered a 401K! (Because I had so much left over after my 20 hour a week paycheck that I could afford to contribute to it...) It also gave paid vacation--that I was later chastised for using.

Wow... really lost a gem there, eh?

It's hilarious in retrospect. Like when I think of that same review where I was spoken to about "those days I just randomly didn't show up for work." You mean my paid time off that I lose if I don't use? Those days?  ::) Apparently I was expected to cherish those days from afar but never actually touch them.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Miss Misery on October 03, 2012, 01:45:58 PM
I've told this story before, but it fits here.

I got a call from another department in the hospital asking for work load figures for a particular time period for my section.  Since I kept those on an Excel spreadsheet and updated them monthly I e-mailed the department a copy. 

Then I got a call back and was told,  "This needs to be typed up on letterhead." 

I said, "Go ahead." 

"We have a short suspense!"  Meaning they needed to do it fast. 

I said, "Then you'd better get started on it."

"You mean you aren't going to do this for us?"

I said, "No, I'm not.  I provided you with my work load figures, as you asked, but I'm not going to do your work for you."

Besides, I knew what would happen:  I'd type it up, and it'd be bounced back to me six times for changes, and the other department would get all the credit for my work.  So I was going to stop it before it got started.

Believe me, I knew what would happen because I had been through it.  I typed up a list of approved abbreviations as a favor to my boss, and I was still getting that paper boomerang back three years later.  Seriously.  People would call me up and demand to know why I had put X abbreviation on there instead of Y abbreviation, and I'd tell them, "Hey, I'm just the typist.  You need to talk to Colonel Painintheneck, who's the project officer."  I did notice, however, that once I started referring people to him I got a lot fewer phone calls.

Many moons ago I worked as a secretary at a University. A student asked me to type up her homework because she was "slow" at typing.

 :o

Believe me, I nipped that in the bud really quick! It's not my fault or my problem if you can't type.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: alkira6 on October 03, 2012, 02:01:48 PM
Ooooh, I wanna play!

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Queen of Clubs on October 03, 2012, 02:01:55 PM
Many moons ago I worked as a secretary at a University. A student asked me to type up her homework because she was "slow" at typing.

 :o

Believe me, I nipped that in the bud really quick! It's not my fault or my problem if you can't type.

And with practice she'd get quicker.

My absurd request isn't as bad as many of these.  I'd written an 80,000 word fanfic for a friend of mine as a gift for a major milestone she'd just achieved.  I posted it online, and promptly got an email from someone I'd never interracted with at all.

It was titled "Do me a favour" and the body of the email was "Write me a story with this plot [paragraph of plot]".

My first reaction was, "Who are you?"  The reply I sent was very polite, but basically boiled down to "no, and good luck finding someone else".

I'd spent months writing that story for my friend's huge achievement.  I wasn't about to spend that kind of time (or any time at all) writing a story for some random stranger.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: CrochetFanatic on October 03, 2012, 02:31:40 PM
Ah, outrageous fanfic demands...  ::)  I once got one from someone who had already asked me three times to update a story I plainly labeled as being on "semi-permanent hiatus".  I answered the first update request very politely, and ignored the other two.  I got an email from this person threatening, "Update NOW, or I'll try to have your story removed from this site!  It's not FAIR to leave readers on pins and needles!  I'm busy too, but I don't leave my stories unfinished!!"  Bad spellings omitted here.  I replied with, "Okay, go ahead.  I've got your threatening email saved right here, and I've broken no site rules.  If I log in and find my story gone, I'll be emailing them a copy of your threat, along with an explanation.  Do not contact me again."

My story is still up, and I've never heard from her again.  ;D
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Twik on October 03, 2012, 02:36:12 PM
... last time I checked, having a family is NOT a good excuse to do something for one employee over another.

There was a time when "but they have a family" was relevant - when wages were so minimal that people with larger families risked starving to death, if they were paid the same as a single person, and there was no welfare system to serve as a safety net. Ebenezer Scrooge might consider (post reformation) throwing Bob Cratchit a couple more pennies to help support Tiny Tim. However, even our bad economy, this is unlikely these days.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jules1980 on October 03, 2012, 02:39:05 PM
I've gotten plenty of will you write requests.  I used to just turn them down, but now I turn them down with a nice why don't you try to write it statement.  Because truly, if its your plot idea, you likely won't love it when someone else writes it unless you communicate with them a lot on the minor plot points.  The one time I tried, I got lots of 'oh, but I wanted minor characterA to die and minor characterB and C to get together.'
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: laud_shy_girl on October 03, 2012, 02:40:43 PM
I worked in a library as an assistant. So I re shelved books, looked up books, ordered books and did bookish things like issue and return books. etc

I have been asked/told to...
Write some ones CV
Fill in application forms
Find long lost contacts "her name was Jane Smith or Smite or something. what do you mean Google doesn't work like that?!!!!elventy!!!11"
Write a family tree (not mine)
Write a letter and post it, while they dictate over the phone.
Use my personal phone number so people could get g-mail accounts.
Set up hot mail and g-mail accounts for people
Book holidays/buy cars/ apply for job-seekers/get insurance
Pay bills and help people log in to there on line banking.  :o yes they hand me all their log in stuff pass words and everything.
Scan enlarge and clean up 12 word searches, then print and photo copy them. (a good 2 hours work)

All while the patron reads the paper etc.

"I am afraid that is not possible." was my mantra.

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Miss Misery on October 03, 2012, 03:11:50 PM

And with practice she'd get quicker.

My absurd request isn't as bad as many of these.  I'd written an 80,000 word fanfic for a friend of mine as a gift for a major milestone she'd just achieved.  I posted it online, and promptly got an email from someone I'd never interracted with at all.

It was titled "Do me a favour" and the body of the email was "Write me a story with this plot [paragraph of plot]".

My first reaction was, "Who are you?"  The reply I sent was very polite, but basically boiled down to "no, and good luck finding someone else".

I'd spent months writing that story for my friend's huge achievement.  I wasn't about to spend that kind of time (or any time at all) writing a story for some random stranger.


Don't even get me started on the random strangers who seem to think I'll just drop everything and spend hours of my free time and my materials drawing their wife/husband/dog/cat/monkey/houseplant for free just because they're so gosh-darn special.

If you want a drawing from me, my minimum price is $200.00. And no, I will not make an exception for you.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 03, 2012, 03:43:45 PM
On from my insane boss. She had flown British Airways to the States in business class. On the return flight they were out of the nuts she liked and there was a small issue with something on her chair in that it went only back 80 percent of the way. This simply was not good enough and she demanded I speak to someone very senior at BA to voice her extreme displeasure and see what they were going to do about it.

I just flat out refused and told her see was being a drama queen and to let it go as no good could come of it. That did not go down well. If there was a gold medal for holding grudges and getting all bent out of shape over pointless things you couldn't change this woman was world champion.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Dazi on October 03, 2012, 05:55:26 PM
A personal, non work related story...

I had free loading relative beg to move in with me as I had a vacant room.  He agreed to pay XXX towards rent, utilities and food.  All was well for a few months and then I started getting complaints from my landlady...then he stopped paying me.

He got pissed when I kicked him out and went whining to other family members who told me I must let him stay with me for free, feed him for free and basically play maid for free because I made such good money and he was FAMILYYYYYYYYY.  They didn't much like it when I informed them all he made a dollar an hour more than I did and if they insisted that he live with me, they could fork over his room and board money.


Sadly, I did not learn and some years later allowed him to move back in with me.  Yeah, it was almost an exact repeat.  He will NEVER live with me again.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 03, 2012, 06:04:45 PM

Not to disrespect people of faith, but I have found that around 50 percent of the time people say, "I've prayed about this" whatever follows is somewhat insane.


Being a preacher's daughter - I have learned to differentiate between people who are saying "I've prayed about this" who are truly pious enough that I believe them.....and people who I've never seen live a good example but seem to think that if they say "I've prayed about this" that it is along the lines of a "get out of jail free" card of some kind for whatever really off the wall comment is about to come out of them.  That said, I'd go with 60% of the people using it are about to say something either quaintly old fashioned (say, 18th century) or outrageous (you need to do what I tell you because *diety of my choice* told me to tell you to do what I said).  Then maybe forty percent or less will say something that sounds like they might really have thought about it long & hard, prayed about it, and decided that it really is the ethical, moral, or philosophically proper thing for them to advocate doing (or not doing). 

Like the people who refuse to give electric shocks during an experiment (when the real test is whether or not the person who thinks that they are giving shocks will stop at what they are told is a mild level of pain or a higher level of pain - and how high will they turn he fake dial while their supposed subject carries on about how painful the "shocK" is).  That one I can respect.

Telling me that *SS Pious Pretentious* doesn't have to pay taxes, follow driving rules, or pay a living wage to all their employees.....well, I'm going to have to pray about whether or not I believe them.  For several weeks, possibly.

I'm not cynical.  I feel that  am a realist.  Well, maybe a slightly cynical realist.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Girlie on October 03, 2012, 06:29:41 PM
Ah, the joy of customer service. I have soooo many of these.

As a bank teller:
1. The customer who wanted me to take $500 out of his account that was ALREADY overdrawn by $220. Why? He wanted to buy some more things for his car. No, it wasn't messed up. He wanted a new stereo. He had already paid for the new paint job and tires (that's where he had overdrafted his account in the first place).
2. The customer who was overdrawn by almost $600 and wanted to take out a loan with our bank in order to pay us back the money she owed us. Yes. Because we are SO likely to give money to someone who has been negative in their checking account with us for over a month.

As a cashier/customer service person for a national grocer:
1. For those who don't know, WIC is a form of government assistance meant specifically for pregnant women and children. Only specific amounts of very specific foods are allowed to be purchased with WIC. For example, you can buy bread, but it has to be wheat bread, and only certain size packages. Only particular cereals, and only in precise amounts.
Anyway, I actually had more than one person who demanded that I "change" their government-issued WIC form OR the sizes of the bread/cereal packages so that they could get what they wanted. Because what you all don't know is that I'm secretly the Queen of the World and I can do things like that.
2. Then there was the guy who got angry with me because I wouldn't ring up his dog's kibble as "people food" so that he could buy it with his food stamps.

That grocery store job was the worst, though. I live in central Georgia, and the thing that non-southerners should understand about winter weather in our area is that GA snow does NOT equal, say PA snow, or Chicago snow. We very rarely get snow - we get ice, with a thin layer of snow on top of it. No one I know owns snow chains. Buildings in this area are built to a different code, and many of the older ones simply cannot handle the weight of snow on their roofs. It's just so rare here...

Anyway, I was scheduled to work one evening at the store, and snow was in the forecast. Sure enough, it started snowing, and the younger teenagers started being sent home (fear of angry parents). At about 7:00pm, it was pitch black. At around 8:00pm, one of my co-workers mentioned that management was refusing to let her go home. Keep in mind, she was newer, she was young, but an adult nonetheless. HOWEVER, she also didn't own a car. And cab services in our area won't run in snow. She lived four miles away, and normally walked to work. She was scheduled until 11:30pm. Management knew they could boss her, though, and she was too timid to say no.
Well, it made me mad. Plus, by that point, I had worked there for four years, and though I wasn't in the union, I knew what the union booklet said about almost every subject. So I told them I was going home. And I was taking her home, and we were leaving. Right now. It's was about 9:00 at that point, and I was scheduled until 10:30. I took her home, and then, crawling very slowly, made it almost home when my cell phone rang at 10:00. It was my manager. Demanding that I come back to finish my shift. I told her it wasn't possible, the roads were already getting treacherous, and I was almost home.
The next two months, I was "punished" by having my hours severely restricted. I don't regret it, though.
I am so glad I don't work there anymore.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: PeterM on October 04, 2012, 01:53:34 AM
Ah, outrageous fanfic demands...  ::)  I once got one from someone who had already asked me three times to update a story I plainly labeled as being on "semi-permanent hiatus".  I answered the first update request very politely, and ignored the other two.  I got an email from this person threatening, "Update NOW, or I'll try to have your story removed from this site!  It's not FAIR to leave readers on pins and needles! 

I once had a fanfic that stalled for several months. I had two parts done but not the last part. I got an email from what seemed like a very nice girl explaining that she really, really needed me to finish the story.  She needed it so much that she felt compelled to tell me that if I didn't finish it quickly she would be forced - forced! - to behead Mandy Sue, her cousin's beloved stuffed bunny.

Folks, I am not one to give in to threats or coercion of any sort, but lemme tell ya, that really cleared up my writer's block. Of course, now I've gone ten years without updating my last stories. I still get the occasional question about them, but no one's willing to go the extra mile to get me to actually finish them.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on October 04, 2012, 05:50:31 AM
I've gotten plenty of will you write requests.  I used to just turn them down, but now I turn them down with a nice why don't you try to write it statement.  Because truly, if its your plot idea, you likely won't love it when someone else writes it unless you communicate with them a lot on the minor plot points.  The one time I tried, I got lots of 'oh, but I wanted minor characterA to die and minor characterB and C to get together.'

Ugh. I've been asked to read and edit the stories of people I don't know but read my stories.  I told them no nicely, as often I could tell from their writing that there would be a LOT of grammar editing.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: o_gal on October 04, 2012, 07:02:42 AM
Don't even get me started on the random strangers who seem to think I'll just drop everything and spend hours of my free time and my materials drawing their wife/husband/dog/cat/monkey/houseplant for free just because they're so gosh-darn special.

If you want a drawing from me, my minimum price is $200.00. And no, I will not make an exception for you.

Missing Missy - http://www.27bslash6.com/missy.html
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LadyClaire on October 04, 2012, 07:33:49 AM
Man alive! You people have had some terrible bosses. How do these people function? What actually goes through their minds. Can you just imagine what it would be like to be married or related to these people.

Yep. They're probably like that towards their family members, too. My Dad would threaten to drop me from the health or car insurance if I didn't do whatever unreasonable thing it was he wanted done. When I got old enough to pay for those things myself and have my own policies, he tried to get me fired from my job if I didn't do what he wanted (we worked for the same university, but in totally different departments. Needless to say he did not succeed).
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: iridaceae on October 04, 2012, 08:15:28 AM
last time I checked, having a family is NOT a good excuse to do something for one employee over another.
That was the reason, many decades ago, why it was acceptable to pay a man more than a woman for exactly the same job.  He was supporting his family.  She just spent her income on fripperies like clothes and makeup and magazines. ::)  Or else she just worked to "have something to do" instead of lying on the sofa eating bon-bons and watching soap operas.  Because some man was really supporting her, you know, either her husband or her father.  Self-supporting single women were myths. ::)

Back in 2007 my dad and I took a tour of Guatemala and Copan, Honduras. We were talking with our tour guide one day and she said in Guatemala if a man and a woman go after the same job the woman is more likely to get it since it is assumed that she has to use the money on the family and the man will just drink it away.

Not coincidentally we were told a few days later that membership in non-Catholic churches who don't allow their members to drink is increasing in Guatemala.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Lauren7891 on October 04, 2012, 10:06:20 AM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Amara on October 04, 2012, 10:29:47 AM
I don't know why that story of that bride strikes me much harder this morning than it would at other times. But it does.

If I was planning a wedding now and read that I would promptly cancel all plans, grab my fiance, and notify our families and friends that our wedding would be taking place on [date] at courthouse so please come if you can, wear what you want, and join us for wedding dinner (our treat!) at Good-But-Cheap place we like. And that's it.

That story just seems the epitome of the wedding-related craziness we read about on e-Hell. And I think it's getting worse. It makes me want to hide my head and never come out in society again.;
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: 2littlemonkeys on October 04, 2012, 10:30:40 AM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787

That's just...wow.  The nicest thing I can say is that at least she's very up front about it.  The only thing I expected from my maids is that they showed up for the rehearsal and wedding. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jones on October 04, 2012, 10:43:20 AM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787
Wow.   I wonder how many brideslaves she ended up with?
 :o

Hopefully she lost a bunch of people who thought they were friends...seriously, if I have to travel for work I am lucky (lucky!) to get more than a week's notice. If someone told me--in such a b*chy way, too--- they needed my schedule from Jan 31-August 31 next year I'd have to decline any and all invitations to do or be anything for that person in the future.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BB-VA on October 04, 2012, 11:00:17 AM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787
Wow.   I wonder how many brideslaves she ended up with?
 :o

There can be absurd requests on both sides.  Say Yes to the Dress Bridesmaids can be a real education.  I really don't understand why, when there is an unreasonable demand on either side, that the demandee doesn't just walk away.  Or, in extreme cases, just smack the demander upside the head.

http://youtu.be/Efruo8pdTLA

http://youtu.be/RCaArpzk9IM

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on October 04, 2012, 01:07:34 PM
Evilsiamesecat thinks it would be  fabulous if ALL 10 prospective bridesmaids declined to participate in this wedding.   >:D
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Girlie on October 04, 2012, 01:31:32 PM
I think the most disturbing thing is not the one bride who is showing out so badly, but rather the unfortunate number of commentors who support her behavior.  :-\
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Outdoor Girl on October 04, 2012, 01:39:02 PM
Sharp contrast to my friend that I stood up for.  Shortly after I agreed to be a bridesmaid, my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer.  I had my dress but I didn't make any of the showers or parties.  The bride didn't call me until a little over a week before the wedding to find out if I was even going to be there!  She had someone else lined up to wear my dress, just in case, so she just wanted to know and she could pull a quick switcheroo, if needed.

My Mom had a little rally and I was able to be at the wedding.  I think the stubborn old bat (I say with great affection) made it look better than it was to convince me to go.

She must have been frantic but never said a word to me.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Sirius on October 04, 2012, 01:56:41 PM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787

That's just...wow.  The nicest thing I can say is that at least she's very up front about it.  The only thing I expected from my maids is that they showed up for the rehearsal and wedding.

Mine wore their own clothes, and I didn't even care if they matched (they didn't - one wore lavender and the other wore gold.)  But they were there to stand up with me, and that's all that mattered.  The only person I rode herd on about how they were dressed was my dad, because, left to himself, he'd have shown up in a stained shirt and pants that were too short.  He wore a nice suit jacket, new slacks (that he complained about having to buy), a white dress shirt and a tie, and he looked very nice.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: 2littlemonkeys on October 04, 2012, 03:35:52 PM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787
Wow.   I wonder how many brideslaves she ended up with?
 :o

There can be absurd requests on both sides.  Say Yes to the Dress Bridesmaids can be a real education.  I really don't understand why, when there is an unreasonable demand on either side, that the demandee doesn't just walk away.  Or, in extreme cases, just smack the demander upside the head.

http://youtu.be/Efruo8pdTLA

http://youtu.be/RCaArpzk9IM

 :o

My solution for the first one is to let the MOH come in any dress she likes.  As a guest.  Who are these people?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: blueyzca01 on October 04, 2012, 05:33:24 PM
Nobody that I want to know.

Every now and then, I'm convinced that some of these stories have got to be made up.  Then I'm proven wrong
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 04, 2012, 05:35:20 PM
Nobody that I want to know.

Every now and then, I'm convinced that some of these stories have got to be made up.  Then I'm proven wrong

I am constantly astounded by the human condition. Things you think people would never do but sure enough they have.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Iris on October 04, 2012, 05:56:12 PM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787
Wow.   I wonder how many brideslaves she ended up with?
 :o

There can be absurd requests on both sides.  Say Yes to the Dress Bridesmaids can be a real education.  I really don't understand why, when there is an unreasonable demand on either side, that the demandee doesn't just walk away.  Or, in extreme cases, just smack the demander upside the head.

http://youtu.be/Efruo8pdTLA

http://youtu.be/RCaArpzk9IM

 :o

My solution for the first one is to let the MOH come in any dress she likes.  As a guest.  Who are these people?

Given how the bride's mother was reacting I'm guessing that that MOH doesn't have any friends left AT the wedding at all. Holy Moly she had some issues. Second most important person after the bride? Obviously the groom is chopped liver to this woman.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: gingerzing on October 05, 2012, 06:35:28 AM
Have a new one that just happened this week.  And it is a two-fer in one story.  Silly requests on two sides of the story.
BG/My office decorates for Halloween.  On Halloween day, they encourage employees with children to come trick-o-treating (this has widened to grandkids and even a few friends of employees...it is not public, but invited folks.  None of this is the problem.)
BG#2/My Co-worker Sue just bought a house this summer.  The neighborhood has lots of kids.  She has decided to be THAT neighborhood lady who gets dressed up and hands out full size candy bars.  AND who decorates her house. 

For about 6-7 years, Sue has been getting Halloween decorations and we have used them in our hallway.  And while we have always stored them in one of the closets, they are hers.  Oddly enough, this year she wants to use her decorations for her house.  However, this year our office is having every hallway decorate as teams.  And another hallmate Betty (who has had odd issues with Sue for things like Sue being 10 years younger than me-I am about 10 years younger than Betty) assumed that we would be using the decorations
So Sue came up to me this week on her way to retrieve her decorations and asked me if I had told Betty that Sue's decorations would not be available this year.  Errrr, no.  Sue wanted to know why not.  I informed her that they weren't my decorations.  (And kept to myself that we are all over the age of 5 or 13 and could speak for ourselves) 
Sue then caught sight of Betty and told her that "Hey, I am going to be using my decorations for my house this year since I will be getting Trick-o-Treaters." 
Betty gave a strange look and asked why.   ::)  Betty had just assumed that all the decorations we had been using, Sue had bought for the office with her own money and they were basically there forever. 

So double up on this one. 
Sue for thinking that I had to broach the subject to Betty rather than just a simple statement
And Betty for thinking that Sue would just buy new stuff for her house (or decorate after we were done at the office...which wouldn't work either)

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kiara on October 05, 2012, 07:55:51 AM
Ah, outrageous fanfic demands...  ::)  I once got one from someone who had already asked me three times to update a story I plainly labeled as being on "semi-permanent hiatus".  I answered the first update request very politely, and ignored the other two.  I got an email from this person threatening, "Update NOW, or I'll try to have your story removed from this site!  It's not FAIR to leave readers on pins and needles!  I'm busy too, but I don't leave my stories unfinished!!"  Bad spellings omitted here.  I replied with, "Okay, go ahead.  I've got your threatening email saved right here, and I've broken no site rules.  If I log in and find my story gone, I'll be emailing them a copy of your threat, along with an explanation.  Do not contact me again."

My story is still up, and I've never heard from her again.  ;D

Speaking as a reader, good gravy.  Yes, I get....annoyed isn't the right word, maybe frustrated is....when a story I love goes on hiatus.  Usually with no notice.  (And I can think of about 4 right now that I wish would update already) However, like an ADULT, all I usually do is send a review saying I love the story and hope it continues.  We all have lives, and I'm sure for most people updating their Avengers fanfic is pretty far down on the list o'priorities.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Gwywnnydd on October 05, 2012, 10:27:45 AM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787

At least she didn't require matching Brazilians?

Yeah, I'm reaching here...
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: audhs on October 05, 2012, 02:14:24 PM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787

At least she didn't require matching Brazilians?

Yeah, I'm reaching here...

I wouldn't be so sure that they weren't one of the non optional activities.  ;D
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Twik on October 05, 2012, 03:06:43 PM
(blinks) - the states the parties will be in?

She may not be interested if you're poor at the start, but by golly you will be by the end.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 05, 2012, 03:34:38 PM
Long background Sorry. My best friend P had moved form the UK to Melbourne to be with her BF. About a week before I was off to Turkey for a month I get a phone call from her saying it is all over between them and he was not the man she thought he was. I told her to get back to London STAT where all her friends were and we would look after her. I was going to cancel my trip but she said she really wanted me to go and would feel terrible if I did. She was going to stay at my place while I was away so I set it up for her. I ironed the sheets and I loathe ironing sheets. Cleared out a closet for her things. Got a bottle of her favourite champagne and gave my flatmate Matt 20 quid to get some flowers for the room for the day she arrived. Everything was immaculate and I wanted everything to be perfect for when she arrived.

So sitting by the pool in Turkey I get a phone call from Matt saying Simon (a friend of my from Uni who I had only recently got back in contact with) was happily ensconced in my room after getting kicked out of his flat. WHAT?! He had told my flatmates I had said he could stay. Well that is news to me. Cue one very angry phone call to Simon telling him to get out of my room and that P was arriving in a couple of days and I had set the room up so it would be perfect for when she arrived. Acts of violence were mentioned. He tried to say he was leaving for Spain in a few days and he didn't think I would mind. I then called Matt and told him to throw the bludger out in the street which he duly did. For some reason Simon had to leave his motorbike behind and he had parked it on the road in such a way it was blocking the driveway so not having the keys my flatmates had to pretty much carry it and put it in the garage. P calls me when she arrives and I tell her I had the room all set up and the stunt Simon had pulled. She told me the room was a mess. He had left his dirty clothes everywhere, mud all over the floor and on the bed. The champagne had been polished off and the closet was filled with all his junk. Angry doesn't even begin to describe how I felt. 
End BG

So about 6 months after this debacle I get an email from Simon saying he is sending someone around to collect his things and then asks if I could arrange to courier, yes courier, his motorbike to Spain. For me to pay for it and that he would pay me back. Like heck I would! Not only would the shipping be extortionate there would be zero chance of ever seeing any money out of him so I told him if he wanted his stupid motorbike he would have to come back and get it himself. He never did. To the best of my knowledge it spent 6 years sitting in the garage.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Lady Snowdon on October 05, 2012, 07:14:44 PM
Boy, do I ever have stories for this thread!

First one.  I was working for an airline about 30 hours a week, and decided to get a part time job with one of the retail stores in the airport to boost my income a bit.  One day I was just feeling like total crap, and I left my airline job early and called in sick to my retail job.  Or at least, I tried to.  When I reached my manager, she told me I wasn't allowed to call in sick.  I told her I didn't care, I wasn't coming in for my shift.  She informed me "Other Store Manager has already thrown up twice, and she's still here!" like this was something to be proud of!  I said, "I'm sorry, I know this leaves you short handed but I'm not coming in".  Her response was "Then I'll have to write you up!".  Yes, because I was so scared of being fired from my 10 hr per week, minimum wage paying part time.   ::)  I did in fact get written up, and submitted my two weeks notice shortly afterward.  My Store Manager was in shock was to why I wanted to leave "such a great place to work!".

Second.  I was working for Bruegger's Bagels right out of college while trying to find a "real" job.  I was hired as a night shift supervisor, and told I would be trained.  After two days of "training", I was given the task of closing with the two newest people, who had never closed before.  After failing miserably (because I didn't understand the procedures and thus couldn't teach them very well), my manager had a very serious talk with me about how I couldn't be a shift supervisor anymore, because I wasn't living up to expectations.  He told me that, in order to keep my higher wage, I would need to radically change my schedule and start coming in every morning at 5:30 am - remember, I was hired as the NIGHT shift supervisor - in order to "prove his faith in me".  I did come in as scheduled, but that did inspire me to start job searching pretty hard!

Last one (for the time being).  A friend of mine was in Boston for a year for a job, and shortly after arriving she needed to get to the airport.  She called me and another friend in a three way call, and as we were talking said, "I don't know how to get to the airport.  Tell me how to get there!".  I spent probably 45 mins on the phone randomly giving her directions (turn here!  Can you make a left...do it!  Take that fork!).  We ended up getting her to the airport, how I don't know, but it remains quite possibly the most ridiculous request I've ever heard. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Winterlight on October 06, 2012, 04:57:09 PM
At one point I was working as a switchboard operator for a housing agency dealing with low-income housing in the US. I got a call from someone who wanted me to help them buy a summer home- in India.

Yeah, that didn't happen.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: FauxFoodist on October 06, 2012, 05:43:31 PM
I've told this story before, but it fits here.

I got a call from another department in the hospital asking for work load figures for a particular time period for my section.  Since I kept those on an Excel spreadsheet and updated them monthly I e-mailed the department a copy. 

Then I got a call back and was told,  "This needs to be typed up on letterhead." 

I said, "Go ahead." 

"We have a short suspense!"  Meaning they needed to do it fast. 

I said, "Then you'd better get started on it."

"You mean you aren't going to do this for us?"

I said, "No, I'm not.  I provided you with my work load figures, as you asked, but I'm not going to do your work for you."

Besides, I knew what would happen:  I'd type it up, and it'd be bounced back to me six times for changes, and the other department would get all the credit for my work.  So I was going to stop it before it got started.

Believe me, I knew what would happen because I had been through it.  I typed up a list of approved abbreviations as a favor to my boss, and I was still getting that paper boomerang back three years later.  Seriously.  People would call me up and demand to know why I had put X abbreviation on there instead of Y abbreviation, and I'd tell them, "Hey, I'm just the typist.  You need to talk to Colonel Painintheneck, who's the project officer."  I did notice, however, that once I started referring people to him I got a lot fewer phone calls.

Your story always reminded me of an absurd statement (not so much a request or demand) that also belongs in the Professional Darwinism thread.

I worked for a commercial real estate brokerage and supported about five departments so the breakdown of which area paid what percentage was something like 40% sales/leasing, 40% property management, 20% finance.  Well, I, one day, received a bunch of work from the staff at an apartment community we were managing stating that they were directed to give it to me to do.  I was puzzled so I asked my office manager if I were now also supposed to be supporting the apartment communities with THEIR office work because I couldn't see the brokers being a) fine with me supporting those who don't work in our office (I supported our branch specifically) and b) fine with out-of-office work taking a higher priority than work in the office.  She inquired with the property management director (who was already on thin ice because he was a newly-hired hothead who was so much alienating the staff in and out of the office that they were resigning).  He said that if they were going to pay 40% of my salary, then he was going to use my time as he saw fit (I understood his reasoning but really didn't see that flying with the rest of the office).  Well, she then asked me to determine exactly how much each area really used my time, I sent her the percentages and their amount they had to pay for got cut down to 12.5% (which was just enough time to do the stuff I'd regularly been doing for them each month).  Yeah, not only did that crap not happen again (trying to give me out-of-office work), but the property management director also didn't last very long afterwards (seriously, I think he lasted just a few months).

Another place I used to work employed both me and my mother (I got her her job).  She went on vacation one week, but everyone knew she was just taking time off and not actually going anywhere.  During that time, our manager had a meeting that needed to take place, and he had the audacity to say to me, "Sorry, but this meeting is mandatory so you need to tell her that she has to interrupt her vacation to attend" (this was after I told him she was on vacation so she wouldn't be available to attend).  I then looked at him and said, "Fine, but, next time, I'm telling her not to let anyone know she didn't go anywhere so you won't know she's in town so physically able to return to work when you say so."  That got to him, and he immediately backpedaled and said she didn't have to attend the meeting.

Same company -- another person, knowing my mother and I lived together, tried to give me paperwork to give to her.  I already hated this company and tried as much as I could to keep work and home life separate so my feeling was, outside of office hours, I did not let work permeate our lives.  I refused the paperwork and told her that I wasn't responsible for providing another employee paperwork outside of my working hours just because we lived in the same place.  That person then asked me how was my mother supposed to get the paperwork (my mother worked the graveyard shift at the time).  I told that person it was her responsibility to get the paperwork to my mother, not mine.  Yeah, she didn't like that answer, but, since I wasn't getting paid for delivering something outside of my work schedule (we were almost never authorized overtime), she couldn't force me to do it.  After that, people knew never to try to force me to make THEIR jobs easier by passing on stuff (like work information) to her when I'd see her at home (we had other employees who were relatives or married, and I never did that to them either as I felt it wasn't fair to them -- that stupid job was stressful enough without making them take it into their personal lives).
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: FauxFoodist on October 06, 2012, 06:19:53 PM
Forgot one.

Every year, the residents have a week-long event with different activities -- one of which is provide lunch or breakfast to everyone in the department.  As a result, the lead resident asked me how many people work each day in my area.  I gave her the count then she asked me if I knew how many people worked during the day, evening and night shifts.  I then gave her the hours of each shift and how may on each of those blocks.  She then asked me how many people worked at any given hour.  I told her that, with the hours of each shift, she could determine how many people were scheduled to work each hour.  On the tip of her tongue (I could see it on her face as she was just about to ask the question), she was going to ask me to figure out that number, but she stopped because I believe I just gave her THE LOOK -- the one that says I can't believe how incredibly lazy and entitled you are that this is YOUR task, I gave you the info you need and you can't be bothered to do the simple math to answer your own question???  She closed her mouth, thanked me for the info and walked away.  I still shake my head at that (that crop of residents acted incredibly entitled so I really was glad when their year ended).
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: weeblewobble on October 06, 2012, 08:47:40 PM
CAUTION: Discussion of animal bodily functions.

(Let me know if I should highlight/hide potentially offensive terms and I will be happy to.)

There is a common/green space area in the middle of my parents' neighborhood.  It's small, maybe one square block and has been designated by the HOA as "OK" for the residents to use to walk their leashed dogs as long as the owners pick up after the dogs.  (The HOA even provides a little dispenser with plastic "pick-up" bags and a trash can, which I think is nice.)

One of the homeowners living right across the street from the green space has decided this is NOT OK with him.  My mom was walking her dog a few months ago and he came running out of his house yelling, "You can't do that!"  Mom, confused, thought maybe he thought that she was leaving the dog's droppings behind, so she said, "Oh, he doesn't have to go.  But if he does, I'll clean it up."

"No!" the guy yelled.  "You can walk your dog here!  My children play on this grass.  And even if you clean up the droppings, the dog's still peeing in the grass and I don't want my children stepping in that!  They get it all over their shoes and track it onto the carpets!  You're the third person I've had to tell today! Why does everybody think it's OK to just let their dogs pee EVERYWHERE?"

"So you don't want the dog owners to use the area the HOA has approved for dogwalking because there's a chance your children could step on spots of dried dog urine while wearing their shoes?"  Mom said. 

"YES!" the guy cried.  "It's disgusting!"

Mom gave him absolute dead-expression face and said, "You need to take this up with the HOA."

And of course, while Dog Pee Guy was wailing about he shouldn't HAVE to take it up with HOA, the dog owners should just do what he tells them, Mom's dog lifted his leg on a nearby tree.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: CrochetFanatic on October 06, 2012, 08:50:03 PM
Hahaha!  I guess we know what the dog thinks of all that.  ;D
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Iris on October 06, 2012, 09:17:27 PM
^Bahahahaha Impeccable timing, dog. PLEASE tell me that it is a highly trained dog and had received a secret hand signal from your mom.

He was that worked up over his children stepping on dried dog urine in their shoes? Hope no-one ever tells him where his tap water has been... >:D
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: jedikaiti on October 07, 2012, 03:35:21 PM
Man alive! You people have had some terrible bosses. How do these people function? What actually goes through their minds. Can you just imagine what it would be like to be married or related to these people.

Yep. They're probably like that towards their family members, too. My Dad would threaten to drop me from the health or car insurance if I didn't do whatever unreasonable thing it was he wanted done. When I got old enough to pay for those things myself and have my own policies, he tried to get me fired from my job if I didn't do what he wanted (we worked for the same university, but in totally different departments. Needless to say he did not succeed).

How did he keep HIS job after that stunt???
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: jedikaiti on October 07, 2012, 03:38:12 PM
Just saw this one today... This bride is full of unreasonable demands: http://gawker.com/5948725/reasons-why-you-cannot-be-a-bridesmaid?post=53208787

That's just...wow.  The nicest thing I can say is that at least she's very up front about it.  The only thing I expected from my maids is that they showed up for the rehearsal and wedding.

Mom asked me about MOB responsibilities for my wedding. I said, "Show up. Wear a dress. Bring Dad." So, you know, what she was doing anyway. I'd have said the same thing to my MOH, too, but as soon as I told her there was a wedding on the radar, she said "Can I throw you a bridal shower? Please?"
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: jedikaiti on October 07, 2012, 03:43:12 PM
Evilsiamesecat thinks it would be  fabulous if ALL 10 prospective bridesmaids declined to participate in this wedding.   >:D

I'd be tempted to reply to all stating that I intended to have a life and a job during that time period, and must therefore decline. I'd also be tempted to send her links to websites for modeling agencies that could perhaps rent her some bridesmaids who would be happy to be wherever she wanted them, whenever she wanted them, for a small fee.

Maybe I should start a rent-a-bridesmaid service.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: NyaChan on October 07, 2012, 03:56:19 PM
Sad thing is that at least some of them probably just went with it.  My own best friend from college has 2 sisters planning a wedding right now.  She shared that they are already acting bridezilla-like with the weddings scheduled 1 and 2 years away from now.  When I mentioned that it is a good thing that she's always known how to stand up for herself, her response was "Oh but I'm a bridesmaid/MOH.  My job is to just say 'Yes. Ma'am' and give them whatever they want."  I had no response to that.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 07, 2012, 04:19:57 PM
last time I checked, having a family is NOT a good excuse to do something for one employee over another.
That was the reason, many decades ago, why it was acceptable to pay a man more than a woman for exactly the same job.  He was supporting his family.  She just spent her income on fripperies like clothes and makeup and magazines. ::)  Or else she just worked to "have something to do" instead of lying on the sofa eating bon-bons and watching soap operas.  Because some man was really supporting her, you know, either her husband or her father.  Self-supporting single women were myths. ::)
In the early 1970s, a divorced mother of three who taught with my mother, found out that a single man on the faculty was being paid a 'head of household' bonus. When she inquired about why she was NOT, she was told that single male teachers needed that bonus so they could afford to court their future wife, but she did not need it although she was supporting 4 people on her salary. If she was having trouble making ends meet, well, she shouldn't have divorced, should she?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 07, 2012, 04:23:47 PM
2. Some deer crossing signs are on tricky curves or near busy intersections so should be placed where one can see better and where there is less trafiic.
It always amazes me that there are city folks who think that the deer actually read and obey deer crossing signs.
Ranks right up there with those who believe that there's some way to keep livestock from producing smelly manure.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 07, 2012, 04:29:07 PM
They complained about the noise and said that the launch pad was inadequate for a helicopter's needs. 
I'm always astounded at how small a place can be used for a helicopter to land. My hat is off to the pilots.
I used to live right under the approach path to a major medical center. Aside from developing a particular sensitivity to the sound of incoming choppers, a la Radar O'Reilly, it wasn't very bothersome. I actually got pretty good at hearing the distant approach, and then not hearing as they went right over my apartment.  ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 07, 2012, 04:59:10 PM
Most people who asked for my work load figures were very happy with my spreadsheet.

My former boss's boss proudly proclaimed that he could not understand text or figures unless they were in some sort of spreadsheet or table. He once rejected several hours of our department's work (three people) because he just couldn't understand it. My boss called a break, during which I created a table and cut and pasted all the text into it. When he came back in, he was astounded: NOW he could see what we meant!
He drove the AAs crazy with ordering them to use Excel spreadsheets for all sorts of data, with more columns and rows than could be presented on a piece of paper without using a font the size of superscripts... because portrait orientation was the only thing he'd accept. No, they couldn't put it in landscape, because ...well, we never understood why (basically, he didn't LIKE turning the paper on its side to see it). He was mad that, after they all complied, he couldn't read the spreadsheets because the fonts were so small. Somehow, they were supposed to put an infinite number of columns and rows on a portrait-oriented sheet, using a font of 10 or larger. And he really expected them to do it. How? Well, that wasn't his concern, they were the AAs, they were supposed to know how to format a document.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 07, 2012, 05:06:00 PM
They complained about the noise and said that the launch pad was inadequate for a helicopter's needs. 
I'm always astounded at how small a place can be used for a helicopter to land. My hat is off to the pilots.
I used to live right under the approach path to a major medical center. Aside from developing a particular sensitivity to the sound of incoming choppers, a la Radar O'Reilly, it wasn't very bothersome. I actually got pretty good at hearing the distant approach, and then not hearing as they went right over my apartment.  ::)

around here they use helicopters for frost protection. It is massively expensive so the orchardists only use it if it is a severe threat so maybe once or twice a year and every time some moaning minny writes into the papers about how their cat was upset or they couldn't sleep. Ok it is a pain but would you rather whole crops are wiped out and the local economy utterly poked just so you can get some shuteye?

My parents had some new people by a property down the road from them and within weeks the woman was going around the district try to get petitions to shut down the bird scarers that protect the grape vines and trying to ban trucks from the quarry driving past her house. Yeah good luck with that.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 07, 2012, 05:09:46 PM
Don't even get me started on the random strangers who seem to think I'll just drop everything and spend hours of my free time and my materials drawing their wife/husband/dog/cat/monkey/houseplant for free just because they're so gosh-darn special.

If you want a drawing from me, my minimum price is $200.00. And no, I will not make an exception for you.

My quilt guild just had a show. A man came up to the ticket sale desk and said he wanted to buy a quilt. A big one.

 One lady at the table said, 'Are you aware that for the bed-sized quilts in this show, there's hundreds of dollars of materials in them? Not to mention dozens and dozens of hours of working time?'
'I just want to buy a cheap one,' he replied. Apparently he thought that if he explained that, someone would sell him a quilt for 10% of what she spent on the materials....
I told the ladies (out of his earshot) that they should have told him to go to Walmart.

At my sister's church, a man suggested that the ladies of the church should make quilts for the needy. One of the ladies suggested that, instead, they could make a top-quality quilt and raffle it off to buy blankets for the needy. He just couldn't figure out why the women wouldn't want to donate hours and hours of time and hundreds of dollars of materials, to give a quilt to someone instead of a $35 blanket.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: RegionMom on October 07, 2012, 05:47:49 PM
My church held a charity auction for several groups to receive donations, some even out of the country.  After a bidding war on a lively patterned and boldly colorful quilt, I WON!  And it is now on display in DD's room. 

Yeah, I could have bought something at local StuffMart, but it would not give me warm fuzzies when I see it, or receive compliments from DD's friends.  And it would not have helped others get clean running water.   :-*


back OT-

Would any of you consider a color request from a school for a dance to be absurd?  Say, student council says everyone should wear white or black to the Homecoming Dance?  With two weeks prior notice to buy said dress?  (And shoes, and alterations)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: NyaChan on October 07, 2012, 05:49:44 PM
With two weeks notice, I would say that is unreasonable and very bad planning.  If that was the plan the whole time along, then it is just another theme, though I don't think compliance or non-compliance should have any effect on the students who attend.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Giggity on October 08, 2012, 07:10:48 AM
Would any of you consider a color request from a school for a dance to be absurd?  Say, student council says everyone should wear white or black to the Homecoming Dance?  With two weeks prior notice to buy said dress?  (And shoes, and alterations)

I don't care when it shows up. That is flat-out ludicrous.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Margo on October 08, 2012, 08:13:59 AM
Would any of you consider a color request from a school for a dance to be absurd?  Say, student council says everyone should wear white or black to the Homecoming Dance?  With two weeks prior notice to buy said dress?  (And shoes, and alterations)

I don't care when it shows up. That is flat-out ludicrous.
Yes, it's absurd. Especially at such short notice.

If you want to have a theme of any kind, it needs to be there when the invitations (or equivalent) first go out, and for something such as homecoming which (as I understand it - we don't have this in the UK) is supposed to be for eveyone, you need to make sure that your theme is optional, or yu interpret it very broadlty so you are not disadvnataging theose with lower budgets or more restricted resources.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LadyClaire on October 08, 2012, 08:43:58 AM
Man alive! You people have had some terrible bosses. How do these people function? What actually goes through their minds. Can you just imagine what it would be like to be married or related to these people.

Yep. They're probably like that towards their family members, too. My Dad would threaten to drop me from the health or car insurance if I didn't do whatever unreasonable thing it was he wanted done. When I got old enough to pay for those things myself and have my own policies, he tried to get me fired from my job if I didn't do what he wanted (we worked for the same university, but in totally different departments. Needless to say he did not succeed).

How did he keep HIS job after that stunt???

The CEO/VP was very buddy-buddy with my father, and overlooked any number of things. It finally got to the point where my dad's craziness couldn't be overlooked anymore, and he was eventually fired after getting arrested for pulling a gun on someone. I transferred to a different campus after that whole mess.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LadyClaire on October 08, 2012, 08:48:51 AM
Would any of you consider a color request from a school for a dance to be absurd?  Say, student council says everyone should wear white or black to the Homecoming Dance?  With two weeks prior notice to buy said dress?  (And shoes, and alterations)

I don't care when it shows up. That is flat-out ludicrous.

Yep. Absolutely ridiculous. Especially with two weeks notice.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Thipu1 on October 08, 2012, 09:08:44 AM
These dances often have themes such as 'Blue Hawaii' or 'April in Paris'.  The theme is announced as soon as the date of the dance is set.

There will be people who gear their outfits to the theme but this should be strictly voluntary.  Announcing a dress code two weeks before the event is ridiculous.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: CakeBeret on October 08, 2012, 09:32:26 AM
This is the story of how I was uninvited from my own trip by a third party.

DH and I go to a tattoo artist about 2 hours away. We are both getting new tattoos, and DH's cousin Billy wants to get one as well. We made an appointment to go see our tattoo guy next month. We asked DH's sister Marie to watch our DS for the day (we will pay her) and I took time off work.

Billy and Marie are close, and apparently Billy told Marie it would be okay if she and DS came along with us. It's completely ridiculous to take a 2-year-old to an all-day tattooing appointment, even if you do have someone there to watch him. And we know that if DH and I are there, Marie won't actually watch DS much at all. There is also a logistics issue, so Marie going was pretty much impossible. [Billy didn't think things through, but he was just clueless.] So DH talked to Marie and explained why it really wouldn't work out. Since she wanted to go along to spend time with DH and Billy, they agreed that they will hang out all together another time. Everything was fine and dandy, until...

DH got a call from Joe, Marie's boyfriend. Joe lit into DH about how it's "just not right" to exclude Marie, how he shouldn't be using her (by paying her $10/hour and a free oil change?), and said that we need to find a way to include her. Remember that this is about logistics as much as the fact that Marie was going to be watching DS.

Finally Joe says, "Well, I'm sure CakeBeret won't mind then." Mind what, you ask? "She'll have to stay home with DS so Marie can go."

Oh no. Oh heck no. This is the trip that *I* planned. The trip that I took time off work for. The trip on which I'm supposed to be getting a tattoo. But Joe thinks I should spend my time off work staying home with DS so Marie can go and hang out. If Marie doesn't want to watch DS, that's fine, we can find another sitter, no problem. But I'm not staying home just so she can go on *my* trip.

DH replied, "You have got to be out of your [expletive] mind." Joe said no he wasn't, it was the only solution. DH hung up on him.

As it turns out, Marie is now furious with Joe for interfering, because she is perfectly fine with not going. She agrees that it's ridiculous to expect me to stay home. So we're proceeding according to plan and everyone except Joe is happy.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Seraphia on October 08, 2012, 10:17:10 AM
This is the story of how I was uninvited from my own trip by a third party.

DH and I go to a tattoo artist about 2 hours away. We are both getting new tattoos, and DH's cousin Billy wants to get one as well. We made an appointment to go see our tattoo guy next month. We asked DH's sister Marie to watch our DS for the day (we will pay her) and I took time off work.

Billy and Marie are close, and apparently Billy told Marie it would be okay if she and DS came along with us. It's completely ridiculous to take a 2-year-old to an all-day tattooing appointment, even if you do have someone there to watch him. And we know that if DH and I are there, Marie won't actually watch DS much at all. There is also a logistics issue, so Marie going was pretty much impossible. [Billy didn't think things through, but he was just clueless.] So DH talked to Marie and explained why it really wouldn't work out. Since she wanted to go along to spend time with DH and Billy, they agreed that they will hang out all together another time. Everything was fine and dandy, until...

DH got a call from Joe, Marie's boyfriend. Joe lit into DH about how it's "just not right" to exclude Marie, how he shouldn't be using her (by paying her $10/hour and a free oil change?), and said that we need to find a way to include her. Remember that this is about logistics as much as the fact that Marie was going to be watching DS.

Finally Joe says, "Well, I'm sure CakeBeret won't mind then." Mind what, you ask? "She'll have to stay home with DS so Marie can go."

Oh no. Oh heck no. This is the trip that *I* planned. The trip that I took time off work for. The trip on which I'm supposed to be getting a tattoo. But Joe thinks I should spend my time off work staying home with DS so Marie can go and hang out. If Marie doesn't want to watch DS, that's fine, we can find another sitter, no problem. But I'm not staying home just so she can go on *my* trip.

DH replied, "You have got to be out of your [expletive] mind." Joe said no he wasn't, it was the only solution. DH hung up on him.

As it turns out, Marie is now furious with Joe for interfering, because she is perfectly fine with not going. She agrees that it's ridiculous to expect me to stay home. So we're proceeding according to plan and everyone except Joe is happy.

I've written about this on here before, but someone tried to hijack a trip of mine once too.

A friend and I were going on a shopping trip with a gift card I had won. About a week before this trip was supposed to happen, I got a call from Friend.

"Hey, I was talking to Friend B about our shopping trip, and she needs some things from that store too. Could she come?" I said sure, the more the merrier.

A couple days go by. I get another call from Friend A.

"I talked to Friend B again, but she doesn't really want to drive all the way out there, and she can't pay me gas money. She was thinking you should just come out this way, is that ok? Also, instead of Friday, she wants to go Saturday."

Ummm...what? So, so many things wrong with that, not the least of which was that it would tack an extra 40 minutes on to my driving time for the "privilege" of having this second person inviting herself along on my dime. Not to mention that I had picked Friday because I had to work Saturday.

I told Friend A that she and Friend B were welcome to go on their own shopping trip, but I was taking my trip in my town, with my gift card, on the day I picked, whether they came or not. Friend B decided that the possibility of free things was worth the inconvenience of a free ride to a different town, came, and pouted when numerous free things, not covered by my one gift card, were not forthcoming.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: faithlessone on October 08, 2012, 10:42:25 AM
It really amazes me sometimes how self-centred and/or oblivious some people can be!!

I think the most absurd request I ever got was in my third year of university. I was the secretary of the Archaeology society, and it was my job to print up some flyers for the Fresher's Fair (an event in the first week of term where all the clubs and societies advertise for new members).

As this event is a massive deal at our uni, and it was the first time we'd had a stall, I got these flyers sorted out well in advance, during the summer holiday. I submitted a copy to our President about four weeks before the fair, and she sent back an email the same day saying that they looked great and I should get them done. So I got 1000 copies printed and stashed them away.

Then, literally on the morning of the fair, the President took a look at the flyers I was setting out, and said: "Actually, I think these would be better on blue paper. And could you change the circular bubbles to stars? And that font looks a bit grown up - maybe you could choose something a bit more fun? Oh, and even though I said A5, what I meant was A4."

With roughly an hour to go until the students descended.

Luckily, I wasn't duty bound to her or anything, so all I did was laugh, and tell her that she could do anything she wanted, but we were using mine first! ;D
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: RegionMom on October 08, 2012, 11:03:00 AM
Re: the homecoming dance request for black and white colors-

An announcement of the dress-up days is given two weeks in advance (think nerd day, school colors day, hero day, Disney day, crazy hat day, etc...) Most kids raid their parents' closet, and get creative.  This is not a rent costume thing, but just dress down fun since the kids wear assigned uniforms daily.

This year, the student council decided to add a color theme to the dance.  Some parents are saying, "they have to wear a uniform to school, this dance is a rare opportunity to show some personality.  And now we are told black and white?"

Plus, white after labor day?   :o   ;)

IF I can find a dress on sale, maybe.  But we bought two dresses (one in springtime with a friend out of town, and one as an impulse sale for her b-day with her grandma) knowing that school and holiday dances/parties were coming up, and both dresses were uber cute.  Neither are black or white. 

DS says he is going to get arm tat temporary sleeves and go goth.  All black.   >:D >:D

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Giggity on October 08, 2012, 11:04:26 AM
That's different. A day at school is not the same thing as an evening at a dance. The clothing type differs.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Gwywnnydd on October 08, 2012, 11:25:34 AM
DS says he is going to get arm tat temporary sleeves and go goth.  All black.   >:D >:D

I like the way your DS thinks =)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: NyaChan on October 08, 2012, 11:28:45 AM
DS says he is going to get arm tat temporary sleeves and go goth.  All black.   >:D >:D

I like the way your DS thinks =)

Cool :)  I love it when people follow the letter of the law but use creativity to make it fun.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: hermanne on October 08, 2012, 12:02:27 PM
DS says he is going to get arm tat temporary sleeves and go goth.  All black.   >:D >:D

I like the way your DS thinks =)

Cool :)  I love it when people follow the letter of the law but use creativity to make it fun.

I think I posted this before but it fits here.

When my dad was in high school they held a dance. The dress code was for the boys to wear jackets and ties, so some of the guys showed up in the most god-awful jackets and ties imaginable.

The school worded the dress code more carefully after that.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: TootsNYC on October 08, 2012, 02:09:05 PM
last time I checked, having a family is NOT a good excuse to do something for one employee over another.
That was the reason, many decades ago, why it was acceptable to pay a man more than a woman for exactly the same job.  He was supporting his family.  She just spent her income on fripperies like clothes and makeup and magazines. ::)  Or else she just worked to "have something to do" instead of lying on the sofa eating bon-bons and watching soap operas.  Because some man was really supporting her, you know, either her husband or her father.  Self-supporting single women were myths. ::)

It was less that she was spending it on fripperies and more than she was only 1 person and so her expenses were expected to be lower.
She was thought to be renting a flat, not purchasing a house; she only had to feed and clothe 1 person, not 4.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: jedikaiti on October 08, 2012, 02:21:49 PM
DS says he is going to get arm tat temporary sleeves and go goth.  All black.   >:D >:D

I like the way your DS thinks =)

Cool :)  I love it when people follow the letter of the law but use creativity to make it fun.

I think I posted this before but it fits here.

When my dad was in high school they held a dance. The dress code was for the boys to wear jackets and ties, so some of the guys showed up in the most god-awful jackets and ties imaginable.

The school worded the dress code more carefully after that.

I had an uncle who, as a student, was forever in trouble, and constantly at war with his principal. In one instance, the principal made a rule that if any male student wore pants that had belt loops on them, he had to wear a belt. My uncle, who hated wearing a belt, cut the loops off his jeans.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: weeblewobble on October 08, 2012, 05:12:21 PM
This is the story of how I was uninvited from my own trip by a third party.

DH and I go to a tattoo artist about 2 hours away. We are both getting new tattoos, and DH's cousin Billy wants to get one as well. We made an appointment to go see our tattoo guy next month. We asked DH's sister Marie to watch our DS for the day (we will pay her) and I took time off work.

Billy and Marie are close, and apparently Billy told Marie it would be okay if she and DS came along with us. It's completely ridiculous to take a 2-year-old to an all-day tattooing appointment, even if you do have someone there to watch him. And we know that if DH and I are there, Marie won't actually watch DS much at all. There is also a logistics issue, so Marie going was pretty much impossible. [Billy didn't think things through, but he was just clueless.] So DH talked to Marie and explained why it really wouldn't work out. Since she wanted to go along to spend time with DH and Billy, they agreed that they will hang out all together another time. Everything was fine and dandy, until...

DH got a call from Joe, Marie's boyfriend. Joe lit into DH about how it's "just not right" to exclude Marie, how he shouldn't be using her (by paying her $10/hour and a free oil change?), and said that we need to find a way to include her. Remember that this is about logistics as much as the fact that Marie was going to be watching DS.

Finally Joe says, "Well, I'm sure CakeBeret won't mind then." Mind what, you ask? "She'll have to stay home with DS so Marie can go."

Oh no. Oh heck no. This is the trip that *I* planned. The trip that I took time off work for. The trip on which I'm supposed to be getting a tattoo. But Joe thinks I should spend my time off work staying home with DS so Marie can go and hang out. If Marie doesn't want to watch DS, that's fine, we can find another sitter, no problem. But I'm not staying home just so she can go on *my* trip.

DH replied, "You have got to be out of your [expletive] mind." Joe said no he wasn't, it was the only solution. DH hung up on him.

As it turns out, Marie is now furious with Joe for interfering, because she is perfectly fine with not going. She agrees that it's ridiculous to expect me to stay home. So we're proceeding according to plan and everyone except Joe is happy.

While I certainly see while you were so ticked at Billy, I sympathize with Marie in this situation, too.  I once had a "friend" who was "outraged on my behalf" to the point that she took my cell phone and called up my then-boyfriend, now husband and cussed him out.   We'd had one argument (over his coming home for a dance at my high school) and of course, it was while I was hanging out with friends. He plead his case. I grudgingly understood that he wouldn't be able to make it.  We said goodbyes and I quietly went outside to get some air and calm down. (I didn't like drama queen antics and was trying very hard not to cause a scene.)

My friend snatched up my phone, called my BF and screamed at him that he was a horrible boyfriend, who treated me like #@$% and if he didn't drag his butt home to take me to this dance, then I was sure to be able to find some hotter guy who would.  I walked back into the house just as she was detailing her plan to set me up with this mythical hot guy who would sweep me off of my feet.  All I could say was, "Wait, what are you doing?  What the heck are you doing!" and she smiled triumphantly at me and hung up on him.

And she just didn't understand why I wasn't overwhelmed with gratitude. I spent a good three days trying to convince BF that I hadn't put her up to it.  "Friend" then told me that I should go on a date with a friend of hers, just to prove a point to DH and then got upset when I wouldn't.

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: turtleIScream on October 08, 2012, 06:01:45 PM
Several years ago, my husband was transferred for his job. The move was a perfect time to declutter and get rid of baby stuff that we'd been holding onto just in case (our daughter was 6, with little possibility of having a sibling.) We decided to donate items, with some things going to the church nursery, some to the local women's shelter, and others to the thrift store. We held out a few of our favorite items to give to my sister who was pregnant with her second child.

My in-laws helped us sort and transport the items to the various donation sites. We saw everything that left our house and were satisfied everything got to where it should be. Since my sister lived in our destination city, her stuff was stored in our garage to be delivered later. A few days after this, we came home, and found the stack destined for my sister's house significantly depleted. Come to find out, my in-laws saw these great items we weren't using anymore, and promised them to some friends of theirs. They reasoned that since they had bought some of the toys as gifts, they could reclaim them.

One, a gift is a gift. They had absolutely no claim to anything we owned.
Two, even if we accepted their logic, they didn't purchase the items in question!

In the end, we got the items back and they were safely delivered to my sister. My in-laws were not invited to help us with the actual move. Bonus, when our son was born 3 years later, my sister gladly offered to return our items!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: kherbert05 on October 08, 2012, 06:46:27 PM
My church held a charity auction for several groups to receive donations, some even out of the country.  After a bidding war on a lively patterned and boldly colorful quilt, I WON!  And it is now on display in DD's room. 

Yeah, I could have bought something at local StuffMart, but it would not give me warm fuzzies when I see it, or receive compliments from DD's friends.  And it would not have helped others get clean running water.   :-*


back OT-

Would any of you consider a color request from a school for a dance to be absurd?  Say, student council says everyone should wear white or black to the Homecoming Dance?  With two weeks prior notice to buy said dress?  (And shoes, and alterations)
I wouldn't think a color request was rude as long as it was announced with the date of the dance. It can be a fun theme. Just 2 weeks, when most people would have already purchased their outfits - that is unreasonable and the administration should have said no.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Yarnspinner on October 08, 2012, 07:19:13 PM
This may be a repeat; I don't THINK I have ever told this story, but I cannot be certain. 

My beloved boss, Stonecold, is all about "getting the money."  No matter the amount offered, she is always about running out to get grants, even if they don't apply to the library, even if they are not for the library, even if (if she wouldjust read the darn thing) they aren't about getting money at all.

So late one Thursday afternoon, she strolls into where I am sitting and hands me information on a grant she wants me to apply for.  Never mind that I have no experience writing grants, never mind that the grant is due at 9 a.m. on Monday morning (and the only way it's going to get there is if someone drives it), never mind that the grant requires me to get the signatures, backgrounds and permissions from several people some of whom I don't know and some of whom I know are out of town and won't be back for two weeks.

Stonecold graciously said that if I would gather the necessary information (names, numbers, population information, demographics, financial statements and so on) SHE would be able to assemble it all over the weekend and would drive it to the place making the grant herself.

I appealed to my then immediate supervisor who basically told me I had to do it.  I appealed  to a former supervisor who immediately threw herself into gathering all the demographic information and financials we would need.  HER staff, who were old pros at grant writing, threw together all the information and wrote it up while I sat down and created a gigantic proposal that would be worth the $25,000 being offered.  I called several groups who would. logically, have partnered with us (a requirement) and they all said "Is she insane?  She KNOWS we have to get in touch with the state chapter before doing anything like this."

My former supervisor called the government office offering the grant and, without saying where we were, explained the situation.  They laughed and said "Well, you are welcome to try."

Finally, I typed everything up that I could, assembled everything I could and answered all the grant questions that I or someone I worked with knew the answers to...and I gave it to Stonecold, reminding her that it all had to be in the main office two hours away on Monday morning. 

Yeah, it never got there.  I never got a response from her, never heard a word.  But that's two days of my life I will never get back.  And she hasn't learned...her latest was to task me with coming up with something "BIG, REALLY BIG" for the Big Read...two weeks before the event is to happen.

This woman still has a job when there are so many more competent, intelligent people looking for work.  It's so unfair.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: gingerzing on October 09, 2012, 12:21:58 PM
This is the story of how I was uninvited from my own trip by a third party.
<snip>

I've written about this on here before, but someone tried to hijack a trip of mine once too.

A friend and I were going on a shopping trip with a gift card I had won. About a week before this trip was supposed to happen, I got a call from Friend.

"Hey, I was talking to Friend B about our shopping trip, and she needs some things from that store too. Could she come?" I said sure, the more the merrier.
<snip>
I told Friend A that she and Friend B were welcome to go on their own shopping trip, but I was taking my trip in my town, with my gift card, on the day I picked, whether they came or not. Friend B decided that the possibility of free things was worth the inconvenience of a free ride to a different town, came, and pouted when numerous free things, not covered by my one gift card, were not forthcoming.

Minor question, but how on earth did Friend B think that she was getting free stuff from your gift card?  Did Friend B think "Oh, she has a gift card and I am invited...I must be getting stuff from her because she enjoys my presence."   :o
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Seraphia on October 09, 2012, 12:52:26 PM
This is the story of how I was uninvited from my own trip by a third party.
<snip>

I've written about this on here before, but someone tried to hijack a trip of mine once too.

A friend and I were going on a shopping trip with a gift card I had won. About a week before this trip was supposed to happen, I got a call from Friend.

"Hey, I was talking to Friend B about our shopping trip, and she needs some things from that store too. Could she come?" I said sure, the more the merrier.
<snip>
I told Friend A that she and Friend B were welcome to go on their own shopping trip, but I was taking my trip in my town, with my gift card, on the day I picked, whether they came or not. Friend B decided that the possibility of free things was worth the inconvenience of a free ride to a different town, came, and pouted when numerous free things, not covered by my one gift card, were not forthcoming.

Minor question, but how on earth did Friend B think that she was getting free stuff from your gift card?  Did Friend B think "Oh, she has a gift card and I am invited...I must be getting stuff from her because she enjoys my presence."   :o

No idea. I would have been willing to share the balance of the card, but she decided she didn't want anything from that store. She tried hinting that I should buy her something from a *different* store instead, since she didn't like the gift card store. Alas, I don't speak hint.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: CakeBeret on October 09, 2012, 01:28:38 PM
This is the story of how I was uninvited from my own trip by a third party.

DH and I go to a tattoo artist about 2 hours away. We are both getting new tattoos, and DH's cousin Billy wants to get one as well. We made an appointment to go see our tattoo guy next month. We asked DH's sister Marie to watch our DS for the day (we will pay her) and I took time off work.

Billy and Marie are close, and apparently Billy told Marie it would be okay if she and DS came along with us. It's completely ridiculous to take a 2-year-old to an all-day tattooing appointment, even if you do have someone there to watch him. And we know that if DH and I are there, Marie won't actually watch DS much at all. There is also a logistics issue, so Marie going was pretty much impossible. [Billy didn't think things through, but he was just clueless.] So DH talked to Marie and explained why it really wouldn't work out. Since she wanted to go along to spend time with DH and Billy, they agreed that they will hang out all together another time. Everything was fine and dandy, until...

DH got a call from Joe, Marie's boyfriend. Joe lit into DH about how it's "just not right" to exclude Marie, how he shouldn't be using her (by paying her $10/hour and a free oil change?), and said that we need to find a way to include her. Remember that this is about logistics as much as the fact that Marie was going to be watching DS.

Finally Joe says, "Well, I'm sure CakeBeret won't mind then." Mind what, you ask? "She'll have to stay home with DS so Marie can go."

Oh no. Oh heck no. This is the trip that *I* planned. The trip that I took time off work for. The trip on which I'm supposed to be getting a tattoo. But Joe thinks I should spend my time off work staying home with DS so Marie can go and hang out. If Marie doesn't want to watch DS, that's fine, we can find another sitter, no problem. But I'm not staying home just so she can go on *my* trip.

DH replied, "You have got to be out of your [expletive] mind." Joe said no he wasn't, it was the only solution. DH hung up on him.

As it turns out, Marie is now furious with Joe for interfering, because she is perfectly fine with not going. She agrees that it's ridiculous to expect me to stay home. So we're proceeding according to plan and everyone except Joe is happy.

While I certainly see while you were so ticked at Billy, I sympathize with Marie in this situation, too.  I once had a "friend" who was "outraged on my behalf" to the point that she took my cell phone and called up my then-boyfriend, now husband and cussed him out.   We'd had one argument (over his coming home for a dance at my high school) and of course, it was while I was hanging out with friends. He plead his case. I grudgingly understood that he wouldn't be able to make it.  We said goodbyes and I quietly went outside to get some air and calm down. (I didn't like drama queen antics and was trying very hard not to cause a scene.)

My friend snatched up my phone, called my BF and screamed at him that he was a horrible boyfriend, who treated me like #@$% and if he didn't drag his butt home to take me to this dance, then I was sure to be able to find some hotter guy who would.  I walked back into the house just as she was detailing her plan to set me up with this mythical hot guy who would sweep me off of my feet.  All I could say was, "Wait, what are you doing?  What the heck are you doing!" and she smiled triumphantly at me and hung up on him.

And she just didn't understand why I wasn't overwhelmed with gratitude. I spent a good three days trying to convince BF that I hadn't put her up to it.  "Friend" then told me that I should go on a date with a friend of hers, just to prove a point to DH and then got upset when I wouldn't.



I most definitely don't hold it against Marie. She was truly distressed that Joe had made a production on her behalf. I put a tiny bit of blame on Billy, and the rest squarely on Joe.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: SheltieMom on October 09, 2012, 03:54:25 PM
I made a quilt for my daughter when she was a toddler. It had hand-embroidered pictures, and was completely hand quilted. I spent more than 2 years working on it. I entered it in the Texas State Fair (and won a blue ribbon!). I had one person offer me $100 for it, and another ask me to donate it "to a family who lost everything in a house fire". I spent more than $100 on materials, and really can't imagine why another family would want a quilt with my daughter's name embroidered on it.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: camlan on October 09, 2012, 05:54:57 PM


At my sister's church, a man suggested that the ladies of the church should make quilts for the needy. One of the ladies suggested that, instead, they could make a top-quality quilt and raffle it off to buy blankets for the needy. He just couldn't figure out why the women wouldn't want to donate hours and hours of time and hundreds of dollars of materials, to give a quilt to someone instead of a $35 blanket.

I think some people believe that all quilts are made from cast-off clothing, like in the "olden days," and therefore the materials are free. And the quilters are just sewing in their spare time, as busywork, so no value gets attached to the handsewing, either. And it's just pieces of cloth sewed together. How complicated or time consuming could that possibly be?

Let me hasten to add that I am not one of those people.



Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 09, 2012, 08:49:33 PM
There will be an international quilt festival the first few days of November 2012 in Houston, Texas.  Thousands of people will be here from all over the world to look at "pieces of cloth that someone just sewed together in their spare time" and will pay good money to park their cars in downtown Houston (seriously - the price of a parking spot will more than triple in various places) within walking distance of the convention center.

Which will be FULL.  Seriously - the entire place will have a dining area, a sales area, and a display area of quilts ranging from made for quilt magazine contests which are being judged that week & announced during the festival to antiques a century or more old belonging to museums, collectors, and magazine & book publishers (the book or possibly the latest issue of the magazine will be for sale to one side of the exhibit). 

There will be fabric, batting, quilt frames of all kinds, needles, thread, machines, stencils, wooden thread racks, patterns, odds & ends that you wouldn't think about but make sense (nail files so your broken nail won't snag a stitch, hand lotion that leaves no marks on fabric, SILK & woool batting, gold & platinum hand quilting needles that won't tarnish or etch from the acids of your skin - I am not kidding, antiques related to sewing & quilting, and special chairs & desks).  As well as areas to make something to take home, teachers with workshops, and even a tv area with sports games for spouses who don't want to wander around a convention center that takes up an entire city block....

And there will be people complaining that they didn't get to SEE EVERYTHING after it starts late Wednesday and closes down Sunday around dinner time.......even if they've been there all day, every day, and TRIED to see everything.

I've worked there twice and I gave up on seeing everything - even if I'm there before hanging quilts and after taking down quilts & packing them for shipping to the next exhibit, storage, or "home" to the quilter.  But it sure is fun trying!

There will even be quilts for sale - but the prices usually start closer to $1000 USA than $100 - and the prize winners can go for a lot more than that.  Some of the quilts won't be for sale - but the maker will be happy to teach a class or two & sell you a pattern so that you can make YOUR version at home!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Doll Fiend on October 09, 2012, 08:53:31 PM
*Sigh* And now you made me wish I could go. And I don't quilt. Or at least haven't in years.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Acadianna on October 09, 2012, 09:28:48 PM
gold & platinum hand quilting needles that won't tarnish or etch from the acids of your skin - I am not kidding

For some of us, these kinds of needles really are a necessity.  My hands perspire a fair amount, especially when doing needlework (where the hand is often semi-closed, which can make the problem worse).  This causes a reaction with steel needles, leaving tarnish and even corrosion, which could ruin the fabric.  Many years ago, my mother, who was part owner of a needlepoint shop, recommended the gold needles, and I've used them ever since.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 09, 2012, 09:46:22 PM
gold & platinum hand quilting needles that won't tarnish or etch from the acids of your skin - I am not kidding

For some of us, these kinds of needles really are a necessity.  My hands perspire a fair amount, especially when doing needlework (where the hand is often semi-closed, which can make the problem worse).  This causes a reaction with steel needles, leaving tarnish and even corrosion, which could ruin the fabric.  Many years ago, my mother, who was part owner of a needlepoint shop, recommended the gold needles, and I've used them ever since.

I mentioned them because I had to find them when doing counted cross stitch - I have acid skin myself.

I wore off the gold plate on several while I was cross stitching.....wonder where I put them?  We've moved two or three times since the last time I did a lot of counted cross stitch (long story involving new baby, new house to unpack to, new house again, new job, and then getting house ready to sell.....and now I need to sort out THIS house again - it got away from me during a medical flare up).
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: SheltieMom on October 09, 2012, 10:13:10 PM
I would love to see that show! FYI, Hobby Lobby sells gold plated needles. I also found my favorite quilting needles there--short beading needles! They are very fine, and go through layers of cloth easily. My current project is a LeMoyne star, with split points. There are 32 layers of fabric at the center of the stars, and the fine needles are the best I've found.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: kajunchick on October 09, 2012, 10:20:05 PM
Is that quilt show an annual thing? Because I think I may have just planned next year's vacation!

Back on topic, we get some pretty absurd requests at work. I work for a water utility company, and one person called to complain that we sent her a late notice. Her payment was received a day late, but "we should have known that she always pays her bill!" Those notices are automatically generated if there is an unpaid balance on the account.

And then there was the woman who wanted to know why she didn't have any hot water...

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 10, 2012, 12:13:49 AM
I'm not into quilting or the like. My Mum is made keen on cross stitch and the info on the gold needles is really helpful so now I know what to get her for Xmas. Thanks folks.

As a small aside the only time I have ever seen the US version of Antiques Roadshow there was someone who brought in a blanket they had had hanging over the back of their sofa since Adam was a cowboy. It was duly pronounced the finest example of Native American craft and hugely significant and as well as its association with some famous event was pretty much valued in the millions but should be in a museum. It was great to see the recognition for the work that had gone into it.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: weeblewobble on October 10, 2012, 06:58:15 AM


At my sister's church, a man suggested that the ladies of the church should make quilts for the needy. One of the ladies suggested that, instead, they could make a top-quality quilt and raffle it off to buy blankets for the needy. He just couldn't figure out why the women wouldn't want to donate hours and hours of time and hundreds of dollars of materials, to give a quilt to someone instead of a $35 blanket.

I think some people believe that all quilts are made from cast-off clothing, like in the "olden days," and therefore the materials are free. And the quilters are just sewing in their spare time, as busywork, so no value gets attached to the handsewing, either. And it's just pieces of cloth sewed together. How complicated or time consuming could that possibly be?

Let me hasten to add that I am not one of those people.

This brought to mind my MIL's craft group at church.  The church holds a huge craft bazaar every year, raising thousands of dollars for the church's missionary efforts.  The craft ladies provide a good number of the crafts sold, working for months in advance.  There is one woman in the church, Portia, who cannot sew, paint, or do any sort of craft.  But she frequently comes to the craft group's meetings to "advise" the ladies on how she thinks their crafts should be made.  ("Oh, I don't like that color.  You should make it green instead." or "I don't like quilted items.  I don't think most people like quilted items.  You should knit something instead.")

The worst part was that the group holds a pricing meeting the week before the bizarre to determine how much they should charge for each item and then put price tags on.  Portia would come to the meeting.  The craft ladies, who knew a bit about handmade crafts and how much people (who appreciate the work that go into them) will pay for those items, would price them accordingly.  Nothing outrageous. $25 for a hand-quilted throw pillow.  $20 for elaborately painted glass Christmas ornaments.  $150 for a beautifully made two story Victorian dollhouse, complete with dolls and furnishings. 

For every item, Portia would hear the suggested price and sniff, "I wouldn't give $15 for that."

"That" being the large hand-embroidered, detailed wall hanging, that the ladies wanted to charge $50 for.

One year, Portia didn't feel the ladies were taking her advice into account, so she waited until the meeting was over, then went around the room "correcting" the price tags.  It caused a lot of confusion on the morning of the bazaar and lost the church quite a bit of money in potential sales.   

The pastor thinks Portia hung the moon, so going to him would do no good. MIL says they now keep the time and location of the pricing meeting a secret and then lock the craft storage room up so the price tags can't be "corrected."
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 10, 2012, 07:50:14 AM

Is that quilt show an annual thing? Because I think I may have just planned next year's vacation!


 Yes, it's annual - and "around the end of October" - but you might want to check out the dates for next year before booking a hotel, as the George R. Brown Convention Center's being booked has caused it to run a week earlier or later, at times.

http://quilts.com/home/index.php

++++++++++++

The comment about the people & their water bills reminds me of the people calling about car insurance claims.....there was the guy who commented "we should have solved this by now" when he'd never reported the accident - even when telling us that he was being taken to court over it.  He also forgot to tell us what county in that state or what the court date was - apparently our psychic powers just were supposed to solve that, too.

Turned out that he bought his policy from us AFTER the accident he was being taken to court over, so the lawyer showed up to tell the judge (in proper legalese) that our insurance company was not involved as the event had happened before we had a contract with the defendant. 

Apparently HE didn't think it was absurd for us to resolve a claim for an accident that was never reported and had happened a couple of months before he bought a policy with our insurance company - but we did.

I guess we had a GOOD lawyer in that area, because he somehow managed to track down which courtroom to be in on the right day & time...
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: PurpleFrog on October 10, 2012, 08:39:10 AM
Re: the homecoming dance request for black and white colors-

An announcement of the dress-up days is given two weeks in advance (think nerd day, school colors day, hero day, Disney day, crazy hat day, etc...) Most kids raid their parents' closet, and get creative.  This is not a rent costume thing, but just dress down fun since the kids wear assigned uniforms daily.

This year, the student council decided to add a color theme to the dance.  Some parents are saying, "they have to wear a uniform to school, this dance is a rare opportunity to show some personality.  And now we are told black and white?"

Plus, white after labor day?   :o   ;)

IF I can find a dress on sale, maybe.  But we bought two dresses (one in springtime with a friend out of town, and one as an impulse sale for her b-day with her grandma) knowing that school and holiday dances/parties were coming up, and both dresses were uber cute.  Neither are black or white. 

DS says he is going to get arm tat temporary sleeves and go goth.  All black.   >:D >:D
 

He could always wear this.  >:D >:D
 http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B007UOPTLY/ref=aw_d_iv_kids?is=l

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Gwywnnydd on October 10, 2012, 10:19:47 AM
gold & platinum hand quilting needles that won't tarnish or etch from the acids of your skin - I am not kidding

For some of us, these kinds of needles really are a necessity.  My hands perspire a fair amount, especially when doing needlework (where the hand is often semi-closed, which can make the problem worse).  This causes a reaction with steel needles, leaving tarnish and even corrosion, which could ruin the fabric.  Many years ago, my mother, who was part owner of a needlepoint shop, recommended the gold needles, and I've used them ever since.

I mentioned them because I had to find them when doing counted cross stitch

Now I know what those are for, I will be getting some before my next cross stitch project! I ended up etching three needles over the course of the last project...
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Luci on October 10, 2012, 11:47:09 AM
gold & platinum hand quilting needles that won't tarnish or etch from the acids of your skin - I am not kidding

For some of us, these kinds of needles really are a necessity.  My hands perspire a fair amount, especially when doing needlework (where the hand is often semi-closed, which can make the problem worse).  This causes a reaction with steel needles, leaving tarnish and even corrosion, which could ruin the fabric.  Many years ago, my mother, who was part owner of a needlepoint shop, recommended the gold needles, and I've used them ever since.

I mentioned them because I had to find them when doing counted cross stitch

Now I know what those are for, I will be getting some before my next cross stitch project! I ended up etching three needles over the course of the last project...

I used to do a lot of needlecrafts - quilting, crochet, cross stitch, needlepoint.

If your hands get so sweaty/oily, how do you keep the fabric/yarn/floss clean while working with it?

I've had to stop a few times when my hands just got icky. (Stopped forever because of arthritis, which makes me pretty clumsy.)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: lady_disdain on October 10, 2012, 03:42:05 PM
How thick are the embroidery needles? Would sterling silver work? Silver shouldn't etch either but it may be too soft for needles.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 10, 2012, 04:03:07 PM
Some quilting & embroidery needles can be about as thick as coarse horsehair & shorter than one of the joints in your finger - others can be the size of a fishbone & longer than a finger - depends on the thread being used to do the stitching.  Doll needles used for sculpting the body to shape can be longer than the palm of your hand - depends on the size of the doll.

I got "free" gold plated needles the first time in a magazine for counted cross stitch - and it worked so well that I bought several more of them over the years, until I got pg & found that embroidery work and small babies & toddlers didn't mix well, for me.  Now that he's older, my vision & my wrists aren't what they used to be.......
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Giggity on October 10, 2012, 04:14:48 PM
Aaaaah, the gold needles! So much love for those.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 10, 2012, 04:56:46 PM
Aaaaah, the gold needles! So much love for those.

I went looking for magazines in the rack to buy with the gold needles - for some reason, many of them had been opened & the little needle packet was missing.

Snarky & Evil love gold plated needles almost as much as they like Bunny FooFoos with dark chocolate bunnies (which is a great deal of *like*, if you know those two).  They were most unhappy at having to go buy just gold plated needles without a free magazine full of patterns & projects to go with it.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: CrochetFanatic on October 10, 2012, 05:30:46 PM
VorFemme, that stinks.  I think the people who did that deserve to be in the Special Snowflakes thread!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 10, 2012, 06:19:42 PM
VorFemme, that stinks.  I think the people who did that deserve to be in the Special Snowflakes thread!

It wasn't recent (did I mention getting older stinks?  wrists & vision aren't what they used to be 20 plus years ago when I did counted cross stitch with one strand of floss on 22-count fabric to make a doll sized "quilt" for Ambrosia Hino's doll house.  I still have the quilt, rug, & other cross stitched bits - the house got given away in a military move (both the Barbie scale one and the smaller scale one a few years later - no ROOM at the new house for the old toys sometimes).  Not to mention that teenagers aren't as into doll houses as younger kids or Mom & Grandma!  The kids play with them and we older people "play" by making new stuff to go into the doll house.....some of which is too delicate for the kid to play with so it gets "saved" for when they are older.....but I digress.

Snarky and Evil had plenty to say about the really special snowflakes who wanted gold plated needles but didn't BUY the magazines at the time.  Irate did not begin to cover their emotional state.

Forget the Maleficent costume - Evil turned into the dragon at that point & was ready to breath flame......
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: rain on October 10, 2012, 07:56:39 PM
can we get back on topic please (but if someone wants to start a thread about quilting & how to start I'd be interested)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: SamiHami on October 10, 2012, 08:06:26 PM

Is that quilt show an annual thing? Because I think I may have just planned next year's vacation!


 Yes, it's annual - and "around the end of October" - but you might want to check out the dates for next year before booking a hotel, as the George R. Brown Convention Center's being booked has caused it to run a week earlier or later, at times.

http://quilts.com/home/index.php

++++++++++++

The comment about the people & their water bills reminds me of the people calling about car insurance claims.....there was the guy who commented "we should have solved this by now" when he'd never reported the accident - even when telling us that he was being taken to court over it.  He also forgot to tell us what county in that state or what the court date was - apparently our psychic powers just were supposed to solve that, too.

Turned out that he bought his policy from us AFTER the accident he was being taken to court over, so the lawyer showed up to tell the judge (in proper legalese) that our insurance company was not involved as the event had happened before we had a contract with the defendant. 

Apparently HE didn't think it was absurd for us to resolve a claim for an accident that was never reported and had happened a couple of months before he bought a policy with our insurance company - but we did

I guess we had a GOOD lawyer in that area, because he somehow managed to track down which courtroom to be in on the right day & time...

I worked for an insurance company when I was younger. We once had an insured call the office from the scene of an accident and demand someone come down there right that moment to give him a check. ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 10, 2012, 08:11:05 PM

Is that quilt show an annual thing? Because I think I may have just planned next year's vacation!


 Yes, it's annual - and "around the end of October" - but you might want to check out the dates for next year before booking a hotel, as the George R. Brown Convention Center's being booked has caused it to run a week earlier or later, at times.

http://quilts.com/home/index.php

++++++++++++

The comment about the people & their water bills reminds me of the people calling about car insurance claims.....there was the guy who commented "we should have solved this by now" when he'd never reported the accident - even when telling us that he was being taken to court over it.  He also forgot to tell us what county in that state or what the court date was - apparently our psychic powers just were supposed to solve that, too.

Turned out that he bought his policy from us AFTER the accident he was being taken to court over, so the lawyer showed up to tell the judge (in proper legalese) that our insurance company was not involved as the event had happened before we had a contract with the defendant. 

Apparently HE didn't think it was absurd for us to resolve a claim for an accident that was never reported and had happened a couple of months before he bought a policy with our insurance company - but we did

I guess we had a GOOD lawyer in that area, because he somehow managed to track down which courtroom to be in on the right day & time...

I worked for an insurance company when I was younger. We once had an insured call the office from the scene of an accident and demand someone come down there right that moment to give him a check. ::)

My friend had her car vandalised and we caught the guys doing it and they were arrested. Try as I might I could not explain the concept of an excess to her. She had chosen to have a $500 excess and pay cheaper insurance and was most aggrieved she had to pay for the first $500. She even went to the police station expecting them to pay her back for it.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Clareish on October 10, 2012, 09:29:45 PM
I was at a large theme park a couple of weeks ago, with my nephew, and we were just playing in a playground area. I had been playing with my smartphone, and was just putting it away, when an adult woman comes up to me, with her arm outstretched towards my phone, and says "I just need to make a call."

Sure, why not have a stranger take my new phone worth a few hundred dollars?

I managed to put it back in my pocket, and she looked incredulous as I said "No, I'm sorry, I don't lend out my phone, but I'm sure there is public phones around here somewhere." I then turned away.

Honestly, I can understand it being an emergency or something, but she acted like it was the most natural thing in the world that she would just take my phone. No "could you call a taxi for me?" or anything of that nature.

She didn't even say please.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 10, 2012, 10:05:30 PM
Counted cross stitch SS - I was sitting someplace with a basket of supplies, stitching away (I am a Gemini - I don't make up my mind what I want to stitch, knit, read, or watch tv until the last minute and have been known to change my mind while doing it - I had a spare project or three with me).  Someone came up to me and wanted to go poking through my basket (I'd made an organizer liner & a quilted "lid" to give people the idea that it was NOT open access to the general public) for "something to do".

I sat on Snarky and told them that I didn't have any beginner's projects with me to teach them how to do the stitching....and as the "other" project that I would admit to having with me was a Christmas present for a relative, I didn't want anyone else "helping me" who wasn't a close relative of the intended recipient.  They only got a little huffy - they got called for "their turn" with whatever was going on - no time to get more than a little huffy.

And I started sliding the basket under my chair, if there was space for it to fit - while working on a NEW project - a "portfolio" type of tote with room for several compact projects that was a lot more obviously "mine".  It also fit between my hip and the side of the chair where I was sitting (in a doctor's office or wherever) - keeping other people out of it was easier.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: greencat on October 11, 2012, 04:08:48 AM
Quote tree snipped!  I hope I snipped it right...


I had an uncle who, as a student, was forever in trouble, and constantly at war with his principal. In one instance, the principal made a rule that if any male student wore pants that had belt loops on them, he had to wear a belt. My uncle, who hated wearing a belt, cut the loops off his jeans.

I did that to one pair of slacks I had for work.  First, where I was working, a belt would often snag on a piece of equipment when I had to lean over it - which was daily.  I actually pulled the equipment off the track/support/stand/whatever a bit one day trying to escape.  Most of my other pants were designed without belt loops.  Second, that particular pair of pants had evidently come with a very narrow belt, which had gone away by the time I found the pants on the clearance rack, and I didn't own any belts narrow enough to fit through the loops - I could barely fit a finger through, and I have tiny delicate hands.  A minute with a pair of scissors solved the problem quite nicely :)

I had a boss make a fairly absurd request.  I was the office assistant at a sleep apnea testing lab, and not getting paid very much - I wasn't even full time, and my hours were at constant risk for getting cut.  During the three hours between when the office staff left for the day and  the technicians came in at night, and on weekend days, the phones were forwarded to my boss so he could deal with last-minute cancellations.  One weekend I ended up getting calls from patients all weekend, because the boss and my direct supervisor were both out of town (and expecting to be out of cellphone service).  I was not pleased.  My boss thought it was a great idea for me to be the one to forward the office phones to my cellphone when no one was in the office from then on.  I told him it was a fabulous idea if he wanted to start paying for my cellphone plan and start paying me time and a half when I was "on call."  He back-pedaled after that.  An employee that got hired in another department shortly before my time with the miserable company ended was a bit puzzled when I was so adamant that my personal property not be used for any work-related uses - no, I wasn't going to call patients on my personal cellphone when our office phones were experiencing an outage, because the last time I did that, they would call me on my cellphone instead of calling the office number - at all hours of the day and over the weekend.  She kind of got it when she was complaining about the fact that the boss was backpedaling on getting her a company car and expecting her to drive her own vehicle to market the company, while only compensating her for gas and not mileage.

Then there was the holiday issue.  The stated winter holiday schedule was we got Christmas and New Year's Day off - and if those happened to fall on a weekend, we got the following Monday off as well.  Well, New Year's Day fell on Sunday.  I went to stay with my parents for the day and I wasn't planning on coming back until late the following evening.  My boss called me at 9 PM New Year's Day and demanded that I be in the following morning at the usual time - he'd decided to open the office.  I told him that wouldn't be possible, although I agreed to come in the afternoon for a few hours.  Of course, when my paycheck came around, that meant that I got paid for a half day of work instead of a full day of holiday pay...I was pretty angry.

He was a very poor boss for many reasons - those were just some of the most absurd requests.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: weeblewobble on October 11, 2012, 06:41:41 AM
Counted cross stitch SS - I was sitting someplace with a basket of supplies, stitching away (I am a Gemini - I don't make up my mind what I want to stitch, knit, read, or watch tv until the last minute and have been known to change my mind while doing it - I had a spare project or three with me).  Someone came up to me and wanted to go poking through my basket (I'd made an organizer liner & a quilted "lid" to give people the idea that it was NOT open access to the general public) for "something to do".

I sat on Snarky and told them that I didn't have any beginner's projects with me to teach them how to do the stitching....and as the "other" project that I would admit to having with me was a Christmas present for a relative, I didn't want anyone else "helping me" who wasn't a close relative of the intended recipient.  They only got a little huffy - they got called for "their turn" with whatever was going on - no time to get more than a little huffy.

And I started sliding the basket under my chair, if there was space for it to fit - while working on a NEW project - a "portfolio" type of tote with room for several compact projects that was a lot more obviously "mine".  It also fit between my hip and the side of the chair where I was sitting (in a doctor's office or wherever) - keeping other people out of it was easier.

I stopped doing cross-stitch a while ago (don't seem to have the time anymore).  But when I did, friends and family frequently asked 'Is that for me?" when they saw me making something.  Without any hint of the project being for them, they were basically just asking for the item in my hands.  And when I said no, that I had other plans for it, they got really huffy.   "Well, when ARE you going to make me something?"

It got pretty annoying.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jones on October 11, 2012, 09:04:29 AM
I had to make a dreaded trip to the DMV this week to get a new driver's license. I checked all the requirements online, made a phone call, gathered up all my documents into an envelope and took myself to the DMV. Why all the precautions? Because our local office is notorious for sending people for any extra documents. My SIL, for example, had an experience wherein they refused to take her notarized rental agreement as proof of residence.

So I make it to the DMV and park myself at the end of a line that makes a circle around the room. There are 12-15 people in front of me, if you count those who had finished the written test and were waiting in a separate "front of the line" line. The counter was manned with three personnel, all appeared to be working as quickly as they could. One had a woman who had to dig through her purse regularly for needed information and documentation. Yes, those of us in long and boring line were paying close attention to the counter, as there was little else to do and apparently the court building blocked cell phone internet (mine didn't work anyway)...

At the end of the lady's transaction, when all the documents had been checked, vision testing was done and her photo taken, the DMV worker asked her for the fee. There is a huge sign hanging behind the counter with all the fees on it, the sign is not something easily missed, and the print was large enough to read from the back of the line. The lady started arguing with the DMV worker that she should have to pay. The worker eventually had to look the lady in the eye and say "I am sorry but I cannot give you something for nothing." The lady became irate and stomped out, complaining about whyever she would bring MONEY to the freakin' DMV of all places.

She later returned with a check written for a higher amount and became upset the DMV wasn't set up with a till that could give out change (all cash went directly into a safe that could only be opened once a day). She either had to go get another check for the exact amount or donate the extra to the organ donor's fund.

The fee that caused all the drama? USA $13, slightly more than three gallons of gas locally.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on October 11, 2012, 10:29:12 AM

Is that quilt show an annual thing? Because I think I may have just planned next year's vacation!


 Yes, it's annual - and "around the end of October" - but you might want to check out the dates for next year before booking a hotel, as the George R. Brown Convention Center's being booked has caused it to run a week earlier or later, at times.

http://quilts.com/home/index.php

++++++++++++

The comment about the people & their water bills reminds me of the people calling about car insurance claims.....there was the guy who commented "we should have solved this by now" when he'd never reported the accident - even when telling us that he was being taken to court over it.  He also forgot to tell us what county in that state or what the court date was - apparently our psychic powers just were supposed to solve that, too.

Turned out that he bought his policy from us AFTER the accident he was being taken to court over, so the lawyer showed up to tell the judge (in proper legalese) that our insurance company was not involved as the event had happened before we had a contract with the defendant. 

Apparently HE didn't think it was absurd for us to resolve a claim for an accident that was never reported and had happened a couple of months before he bought a policy with our insurance company - but we did

I guess we had a GOOD lawyer in that area, because he somehow managed to track down which courtroom to be in on the right day & time...

I worked for an insurance company when I was younger. We once had an insured call the office from the scene of an accident and demand someone come down there right that moment to give him a check. ::)

My friend had her car vandalised and we caught the guys doing it and they were arrested. Try as I might I could not explain the concept of an excess to her. She had chosen to have a $500 excess and pay cheaper insurance and was most aggrieved she had to pay for the first $500. She even went to the police station expecting them to pay her back for it.

Amazing.  I've been in that sitaution, except it was a deer.  Which ran right into the side of my car, in broad daylight.  And to top it off, I was dumb and didn't have rental coverqe though my insurance, even though I thought I did.  UGH. So I had to not only pay the $500 deductible, but the cost of the car rental. 

Not so much an absurd request, although it COULD turn into one.  On the subject of insurance, i have a friend who's convinced that rental insurance is a scam, and not necesary for tenants, since their possessions are covered by the LANDLORD'S policy.  Um sorry, no. they are not, unless its actions caused by the landlord's negligence that damage your stuff.  So if ever there is anything that happens where she's living, she's in for a rude awakening!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: RegionMom on October 11, 2012, 11:36:55 AM
Ah, the DMV.

We took DD, aged 15, there recently, to get her learner's permit.  We had all the legal stuff, checked the list on-line, and off we went.

They did not like her personal bank statement as proof of residence, nor her school grade card with her address, nor a piece of college recruitment mail, as proof of address.  The lady actually asked, "Don't you have a water or electric bill in her name?"
(How many minors receive family household bills in their name?)

She finally agreed what we had was ok.

But wait, there's more!

She is a summer b-day, so we were careful that the VoE (Verification of Enrollment) form was good for the summer, with her late July b-day.  If it is done in June and July, the form says it is good for 90 days from issuance. 

What is does NOT say is, "valid 90 days from issuance, unless school has begun again and it is August/September, then you need to go back and get another form."  Never mind that our private school started later.  Never mind that we had a paid tuition bill for the upcoming semester. 

The supervisor would not accept the form, saying that we were reading words into the "valid 90 days from issuance."

But there were no other words to be read!   

We were actually told that in August, we were out of luck. 

I guess any student wanting a permit is August is out of luck?!?!

I was not yet ready for her to start driving, so I did not mind that my baby did get her permit that day, but it was frustratingly crazy.



Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pioneer on October 11, 2012, 11:38:36 AM
I had a job.  I got laid off from the job.  I was offered, and accepted, a different position with the same company, a few months later.  A temporary assignment, with less pay, no benefits, but when you need a job, you need a job.

One day working at my new job, my former supervisor approached and asked, "Do you know Marcia?  We are rehiring for the position we let you go from, and Marcia has applied."  I was stunned and responded, "Are you telling me that you are HIRING someone else to fill the position you FIRED me from, and you are asking ME to provide a reference?"
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: gingerzing on October 11, 2012, 12:02:37 PM
I had a job.  I got laid off from the job.  I was offered, and accepted, a different position with the same company, a few months later.  A temporary assignment, with less pay, no benefits, but when you need a job, you need a job.

One day working at my new job, my former supervisor approached and asked, "Do you know Marcia?  We are rehiring for the position we let you go from, and Marcia has applied."  I was stunned and responded, "Are you telling me that you are HIRING someone else to fill the position you FIRED me from, and you are asking ME to provide a reference?"

Ouch.  My eyes rolled too hard. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: HorseFreak on October 11, 2012, 06:38:19 PM
Ah, the DMV.

We took DD, aged 15, there recently, to get her learner's permit.  We had all the legal stuff, checked the list on-line, and off we went.

They did not like her personal bank statement as proof of residence, nor her school grade card with her address, nor a piece of college recruitment mail, as proof of address.  The lady actually asked, "Don't you have a water or electric bill in her name?"
(How many minors receive family household bills in their name?)

She finally agreed what we had was ok.

But wait, there's more!

She is a summer b-day, so we were careful that the VoE (Verification of Enrollment) form was good for the summer, with her late July b-day.  If it is done in June and July, the form says it is good for 90 days from issuance. 

What is does NOT say is, "valid 90 days from issuance, unless school has begun again and it is August/September, then you need to go back and get another form."  Never mind that our private school started later.  Never mind that we had a paid tuition bill for the upcoming semester. 

The supervisor would not accept the form, saying that we were reading words into the "valid 90 days from issuance."

But there were no other words to be read!   

We were actually told that in August, we were out of luck. 

I guess any student wanting a permit is August is out of luck?!?!

I was not yet ready for her to start driving, so I did not mind that my baby did get her permit that day, but it was frustratingly crazy.


When I was 16 I went to get my permit on my birthday (learner's permit age is 16). I was turned away by a polite lady at the DMV saying it was actually the policy that you had to be 16 + ONE DAY since they didn't know when you actually turned 16 that day. I waited in line for 45 minutes in a terrible section of a crowded city to hear that bizarre rule? There was no mention of this in the handbook and this was before everything was on the internet.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: violinp on October 11, 2012, 08:35:43 PM
I had a job.  I got laid off from the job.  I was offered, and accepted, a different position with the same company, a few months later.  A temporary assignment, with less pay, no benefits, but when you need a job, you need a job.

One day working at my new job, my former supervisor approached and asked, "Do you know Marcia?  We are rehiring for the position we let you go from, and Marcia has applied."  I was stunned and responded, "Are you telling me that you are HIRING someone else to fill the position you FIRED me from, and you are asking ME to provide a reference?"

Ouch.  My eyes rolled too hard.

Mine too.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: pearls n purls on October 11, 2012, 08:50:47 PM
A receptionist at work had a caller ask if she had a credit card. Confused, the receptionist replied that she did.  The caller then demanded that the receptionist give her the credit card number and became quite irate when she wouldn't.  I really don't see how that scam could work, but we were all amused by the nerve of the caller.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jaelle on October 11, 2012, 08:56:26 PM
I had a job.  I got laid off from the job.  I was offered, and accepted, a different position with the same company, a few months later.  A temporary assignment, with less pay, no benefits, but when you need a job, you need a job.

One day working at my new job, my former supervisor approached and asked, "Do you know Marcia?  We are rehiring for the position we let you go from, and Marcia has applied."  I was stunned and responded, "Are you telling me that you are HIRING someone else to fill the position you FIRED me from, and you are asking ME to provide a reference?"

Ouch.  My eyes rolled too hard.

Mine too.

Ditto. What did she say??
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kimblee on October 16, 2012, 04:51:11 PM
gold & platinum hand quilting needles that won't tarnish or etch from the acids of your skin - I am not kidding

For some of us, these kinds of needles really are a necessity.  My hands perspire a fair amount, especially when doing needlework (where the hand is often semi-closed, which can make the problem worse).  This causes a reaction with steel needles, leaving tarnish and even corrosion, which could ruin the fabric.  Many years ago, my mother, who was part owner of a needlepoint shop, recommended the gold needles, and I've used them ever since.

I can use just about any needle, but I had a set of gold plated needles that I adored. Not because I needed them, but because they're SO pretty.

And I agree... I wanna go to a quilt festival.  :(
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: nuit93 on October 16, 2012, 06:11:26 PM
My mom couldn't understand why I wouldn't take on a full-time unpaid internship ("because it's what all your sister's friends did post-college!") on top of a full time paying job.  Yeah, well, sis's friends also had parents who bought them cars and paid their bills, and who didn't have to work to pay for school.  Oh, yeah, and I was also 'lazy' for not working 40 hours a week and still getting straight A's while being a commuter student.   :o

So fast forward to a little later when I'm established in a full time job.  A now-ex friend is pissed that I won't consider him as a roommate.  Why?  Because he has no job, refuses to get a job even though he's fully capable (he just kept re-applying for unemployment until it ran out, got a part time job until he got himself fired, then re-applied, all while living on his parents' couch), and couldn't guarantee that he could come up with his share of the rent.  Oh, but *I'M* the bad person for discriminating against someone who's too special to get a job.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LazyDaisy on October 16, 2012, 06:42:48 PM
I just overheard my co-irker on another of his entertaining personal calls where he was berating a customer rep at his fitness gym for charging him for his membership dues. You see, he has a back injury and just had surgery and he can't go to the gym for the next year at least, but he wants to keep his membership, just not pay for it until he can go again. His dues are locked in at a particular rate because he signed his contract years ago and it isn't offered to new customers. From what I overheard (can't help it, really) they sound like they're being extremely generous by offering to cancel the remainder of the contract instead of holding him to it for the full amount. Sorry snowflake, you can keep your prime rate by continuing to pay the lower dues even if you aren't using the membership, or you can pay nothing by canceling the membership -- but you can't do both. It doesn't sound like he's going to accept their offer. I hope they just go ahead and cancel his membership and tell him to stuff it.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 16, 2012, 06:44:15 PM
gold & platinum hand quilting needles that won't tarnish or etch from the acids of your skin - I am not kidding

For some of us, these kinds of needles really are a necessity.  My hands perspire a fair amount, especially when doing needlework (where the hand is often semi-closed, which can make the problem worse).  This causes a reaction with steel needles, leaving tarnish and even corrosion, which could ruin the fabric.  Many years ago, my mother, who was part owner of a needlepoint shop, recommended the gold needles, and I've used them ever since.

I can use just about any needle, but I had a set of gold plated needles that I adored. Not because I needed them, but because they're SO pretty.

And I agree... I wanna go to a quilt festival.  :(

I also found the gold needles easier to find on beige carpet!  Or chocolate brown couches!  Or if pinned into my clothing for short term storage - even without any floss in them - the gold glinted more brightly.

There is a quilt festival in Atlanta, Georgia - I think later this week (I'm in Houston - nowhere near Atlanta) and one in Houston, Texas in early November - www.quilts.com - I am not affiliated with them, just worked as casual labor hanging quilts, taking quilts down & packing them, and so forth two of the last three years (my first grandchild came a month early in 2010 and disrupted my plans to work that year - being so cute & all, I forgave him).
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: tiff019 on October 16, 2012, 07:46:30 PM
I just overheard my co-irker on another of his entertaining personal calls where he was berating a customer rep at his fitness gym for charging him for his membership dues. You see, he has a back injury and just had surgery and he can't go to the gym for the next year at least, but he wants to keep his membership, just not pay for it until he can go again. His dues are locked in at a particular rate because he signed his contract years ago and it isn't offered to new customers. From what I overheard (can't help it, really) they sound like they're being extremely generous by offering to cancel the remainder of the contract instead of holding him to it for the full amount. Sorry snowflake, you can keep your prime rate by continuing to pay the lower dues even if you aren't using the membership, or you can pay nothing by canceling the membership -- but you can't do both. It doesn't sound like he's going to accept their offer. I hope they just go ahead and cancel his membership and tell him to stuff it.

For what it's worth - some gyms do have a medical exemption where you can essentially put your membership on hold (often for a small monthly fee - my old gym was $10 a month) with a doctor's note so you can keep your prime rate/contract but not have to pay fully while you are out of commission. That totally doesn't excuse him if he was rude to the person on the other end of the line though.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 16, 2012, 08:05:37 PM
I just overheard my co-irker on another of his entertaining personal calls where he was berating a customer rep at his fitness gym for charging him for his membership dues. You see, he has a back injury and just had surgery and he can't go to the gym for the next year at least, but he wants to keep his membership, just not pay for it until he can go again. His dues are locked in at a particular rate because he signed his contract years ago and it isn't offered to new customers. From what I overheard (can't help it, really) they sound like they're being extremely generous by offering to cancel the remainder of the contract instead of holding him to it for the full amount. Sorry snowflake, you can keep your prime rate by continuing to pay the lower dues even if you aren't using the membership, or you can pay nothing by canceling the membership -- but you can't do both. It doesn't sound like he's going to accept their offer. I hope they just go ahead and cancel his membership and tell him to stuff it.

For what it's worth - some gyms do have a medical exemption where you can essentially put your membership on hold (often for a small monthly fee - my old gym was $10 a month) with a doctor's note so you can keep your prime rate/contract but not have to pay fully while you are out of commission. That totally doesn't excuse him if he was rude to the person on the other end of the line though.

I had one that had a "moving out of the area" exemption (military base in town - it probably got used a lot) but by the time we moved back near where a branch might be, it was out of business.

Darn....
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BabyMama on October 17, 2012, 07:35:00 AM
I'm about to cancel my gym membership and have been looking online to make sure I go about it the right way. Now, I see that some gyms do have some kind of money-squeezing racket going--but the glut of stories from people who complain they cancelled and then were charged for an additional thirty days, what a scam is crazy. It says right on the gym's Web site that you need to give them 30 days' notice (which is great actually, I thought it was 90.) Do they think you don't have to pay for those final 30 days?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LadyClaire on October 17, 2012, 09:20:01 AM
I organize a large two-day symposium each year at work. One day, a potential attendee had some questions regarding the event. I was in a meeting that typically lasts 2-3 hours, so I wasn't there to answer his questions. One of my co-workers was able to help him, but he was still not satisfied, and demanded that I either be fetched from the meeting or he be given my personal cell phone number so he could call me that way.

He was very irate when my co-worker refused to give him my cell phone number. His question, by the way, was about which hotel he should book into..and that information is available on the event website, which is where he got my work number from.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: staceym on October 17, 2012, 10:16:50 AM
He was very irate when my co-worker refused to give him my cell phone number.

oh man, as a receptionist..cell phones can be the bain of my existence. 

People can't wait 5 minutes anymore to talk to someone. 

Me:  I'm sorry he just stepped away from the office, but will be back in about 5 minutes, would you like to leave a message

Caller:  oh, does he have a cellphone, what's his number"



or another favorite

Me:  No I'm sorry he is on a call right at the moment, would you like his voice mail

Caller:  No, I'll just call his cellphone

mind boggles sometimes  :o - because yep, the person's cell phone starts ringing while they are sitting at their workstation talking on their desk phone.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on October 17, 2012, 10:40:55 AM
I just overheard my co-irker on another of his entertaining personal calls where he was berating a customer rep at his fitness gym for charging him for his membership dues. You see, he has a back injury and just had surgery and he can't go to the gym for the next year at least, but he wants to keep his membership, just not pay for it until he can go again. His dues are locked in at a particular rate because he signed his contract years ago and it isn't offered to new customers. From what I overheard (can't help it, really) they sound like they're being extremely generous by offering to cancel the remainder of the contract instead of holding him to it for the full amount. Sorry snowflake, you can keep your prime rate by continuing to pay the lower dues even if you aren't using the membership, or you can pay nothing by canceling the membership -- but you can't do both. It doesn't sound like he's going to accept their offer. I hope they just go ahead and cancel his membership and tell him to stuff it.

If I didn't know any better, I'd say my former CW Useless had taken up residence at YOUR job. He was the same way, but about EVERYTHING and spend hours each day on the phone.  He always wanted SOMETHING for his perceived inconvenience, or asked the same question 10 different ways, hoping for the answer he wanted.

He was impatient too; if say he had ordered something or was waiting for a part for say his car, along those lines, if they told him it would be in in *about* three days, on the third morning, he'd be calling wanting to know if it had come in, and if not, why not.

And don't get me started on him waiting for callbacks.  he'd call a dr.'s office with a billing question (he seemed to have many of those) and would need to speak to someone right then and now.  he'd ask if someone esle could help him (usually not) and then would leave whoever a voicemail.  And would call back in a couple of hours if he hadn't received a call back from them.

Finally, and I don't know why it even took this long, he was let go. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LazyDaisy on October 17, 2012, 10:44:48 AM
I just overheard my co-irker on another of his entertaining personal calls where he was berating a customer rep at his fitness gym for charging him for his membership dues. You see, he has a back injury and just had surgery and he can't go to the gym for the next year at least, but he wants to keep his membership, just not pay for it until he can go again. His dues are locked in at a particular rate because he signed his contract years ago and it isn't offered to new customers. From what I overheard (can't help it, really) they sound like they're being extremely generous by offering to cancel the remainder of the contract instead of holding him to it for the full amount. Sorry snowflake, you can keep your prime rate by continuing to pay the lower dues even if you aren't using the membership, or you can pay nothing by canceling the membership -- but you can't do both. It doesn't sound like he's going to accept their offer. I hope they just go ahead and cancel his membership and tell him to stuff it.

For what it's worth - some gyms do have a medical exemption where you can essentially put your membership on hold (often for a small monthly fee - my old gym was $10 a month) with a doctor's note so you can keep your prime rate/contract but not have to pay fully while you are out of commission. That totally doesn't excuse him if he was rude to the person on the other end of the line though.

But that's the kicker -- he doesn't want to pay anything he just wants them to hold it for him for possibly over a year...he's not sure...and then he'll start paying again when he wants to go again. He can't even say for sure if he'll ever use it again because of his back injury -- which strangely doesn't seem to prevent him from playing drums in a rock band. From his responses it sounded like they were being reasonable and may have even offered that option. He belongs to a well known national chain of gyms that runs special offers all the time and we get reimbursed by our employer up to $100 a year for gym memberships so in my mind he's being an extra special snowflake.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BusyBee on October 17, 2012, 10:48:29 AM
I also found the gold needles easier to find on beige carpet!  Or chocolate brown couches!  Or if pinned into my clothing for short term storage - even without any floss in them - the gold glinted more brightly.
There, right there, you sold me.  I've been reading this thread and thinking how nice it would be, but now I must have gold needles today. :)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LazyDaisy on October 17, 2012, 10:51:05 AM
I just overheard my co-irker on another of his entertaining personal calls where he was berating a customer rep at his fitness gym for charging him for his membership dues. You see, he has a back injury and just had surgery and he can't go to the gym for the next year at least, but he wants to keep his membership, just not pay for it until he can go again. His dues are locked in at a particular rate because he signed his contract years ago and it isn't offered to new customers. From what I overheard (can't help it, really) they sound like they're being extremely generous by offering to cancel the remainder of the contract instead of holding him to it for the full amount. Sorry snowflake, you can keep your prime rate by continuing to pay the lower dues even if you aren't using the membership, or you can pay nothing by canceling the membership -- but you can't do both. It doesn't sound like he's going to accept their offer. I hope they just go ahead and cancel his membership and tell him to stuff it.

If I didn't know any better, I'd say my former CW Useless had taken up residence at YOUR job. He was the same way, but about EVERYTHING and spend hours each day on the phone.  He always wanted SOMETHING for his perceived inconvenience, or asked the same question 10 different ways, hoping for the answer he wanted.

He was impatient too; if say he had ordered something or was waiting for a part for say his car, along those lines, if they told him it would be in in *about* three days, on the third morning, he'd be calling wanting to know if it had come in, and if not, why not.

And don't get me started on him waiting for callbacks.  he'd call a dr.'s office with a billing question (he seemed to have many of those) and would need to speak to someone right then and now.  he'd ask if someone esle could help him (usually not) and then would leave whoever a voicemail.  And would call back in a couple of hours if he hadn't received a call back from them.

Finally, and I don't know why it even took this long, he was let go.
If your old CW also threatened to sue various businesses for (gasp) daring to charge him for their products or services or also spent time talking to random government agencies to complain about being discriminated against because said businesses were "rude" to him (he's white) then yes, I've got him now. Please take him back.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: turtleIScream on October 17, 2012, 01:32:25 PM
I'm about to cancel my gym membership and have been looking online to make sure I go about it the right way. Now, I see that some gyms do have some kind of money-squeezing racket going--but the glut of stories from people who complain they cancelled and then were charged for an additional thirty days, what a scam is crazy. It says right on the gym's Web site that you need to give them 30 days' notice (which is great actually, I thought it was 90.) Do they think you don't have to pay for those final 30 days?

I might give them a pass on this one, depending on the circumstances. We had a cell phone contract for two years. With one month left, we tried to find out what we needed to do to end the service. We absolutely could not cancel even one day before the end of contract without hefty fees, but we had to give 30 days notice of our intent to cancel, then our request would be processed within 2-4 weeks. So our 2 year contract was enforceable for 26 months, and there wasn't a darn thing we could do about it. If your gym pulls something similar, I totally understand customers' frustrations.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on October 17, 2012, 04:54:03 PM
I just overheard my co-irker on another of his entertaining personal calls where he was berating a customer rep at his fitness gym for charging him for his membership dues. You see, he has a back injury and just had surgery and he can't go to the gym for the next year at least, but he wants to keep his membership, just not pay for it until he can go again. His dues are locked in at a particular rate because he signed his contract years ago and it isn't offered to new customers. From what I overheard (can't help it, really) they sound like they're being extremely generous by offering to cancel the remainder of the contract instead of holding him to it for the full amount. Sorry snowflake, you can keep your prime rate by continuing to pay the lower dues even if you aren't using the membership, or you can pay nothing by canceling the membership -- but you can't do both. It doesn't sound like he's going to accept their offer. I hope they just go ahead and cancel his membership and tell him to stuff it.

If I didn't know any better, I'd say my former CW Useless had taken up residence at YOUR job. He was the same way, but about EVERYTHING and spend hours each day on the phone.  He always wanted SOMETHING for his perceived inconvenience, or asked the same question 10 different ways, hoping for the answer he wanted.

He was impatient too; if say he had ordered something or was waiting for a part for say his car, along those lines, if they told him it would be in in *about* three days, on the third morning, he'd be calling wanting to know if it had come in, and if not, why not.

And don't get me started on him waiting for callbacks.  he'd call a dr.'s office with a billing question (he seemed to have many of those) and would need to speak to someone right then and now.  he'd ask if someone esle could help him (usually not) and then would leave whoever a voicemail.  And would call back in a couple of hours if he hadn't received a call back from them.

Finally, and I don't know why it even took this long, he was let go.
If your old CW also threatened to sue various businesses for (gasp) daring to charge him for their products or services or also spent time talking to random government agencies to complain about being discriminated against because said businesses were "rude" to him (he's white) then yes, I've got him now. Please take him back.

No, perhaps not Useless but maybe a cousin? And even if it was, my answer would be no, it took years to get him gone, and no one wants him back :) My one favorite was when he called a large national chain, to complain about his dishwasher.  Said chain had sold and installed the dishwasher, and according to Useless, who was the all-knowing about everything, it wasn't done correctly 2 or 3 years before, so it "sagged" and was out of balance.  And insisted it was an error in the installation. Repair said ok we'll send someone out, and take a look.  But that wasn't good enough. Useless insisted he was not paying for the service call, since he was SURE it was their fault.  Service said we will only charge you if its not our error, and not having seen it, how would they know that?  useless went around and around calling over nad over.  Still don't know what the outcome was.  He never talked about any of it, we only knew since he was so darn loud!

He'd also ask, upon calling for an appt for his car, how much it might be.  Mind you, the car hadn't even been looked at but maybe was making a noise, and he expecgted the mechanic to not only diagnose the problem based on the noise, but also know how much it would cost to fix! 

I don't miss him at all.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: EMuir on October 17, 2012, 05:31:04 PM
Speaking of gym fees, my company has a deal with a local gym for our employees.  Basically the gym gives employees a reduced rate for a yearly membership and the company takes the monthly amount off our paycheques.  One of the high mucky mucks signed up for this in May.  It's now October and he hasn't even gone to the gym to register.  Now he wants a refund of the monthly fees he's been paying since May because he didn't actually go to the gym.  The sad part is that the benefit may be toast for all of us because he's insisting our HR department call the gym and ask them if they'll refund, even though our contract with the gym clearly states that it isn't possible.  Sigh.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LazyDaisy on October 17, 2012, 06:19:46 PM
Co-irker has upped the entertainment factor today by talking to his auto insurance company because, allegedly, he backed into someone in a parking lot, but it was totally the other drivers fault because he carefully looked behind him both directions and no one was there, but then when he backed out he hit her... broadside in the passenger door...and her car is red so he would have totally seen her if she had been there when he looked. Not really a request or demand unless you count he is demanding his insurance co believes his version. I wish my car came with a cloaking device. I always wonder who manufactures these cars that "come out of nowhere."
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Zen on October 17, 2012, 06:45:22 PM
My invisible car was a Chevy. It was killed one winter night when it was t-boned by a guy who insisted that he shouldn't be cited by the cops for running the red, or for driving without insurance "because he didn't see my car". Which apparently made him running the red and getting into an accident my fault.  ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: nuit93 on October 17, 2012, 07:19:52 PM
Co-irker has upped the entertainment factor today by talking to his auto insurance company because, allegedly, he backed into someone in a parking lot, but it was totally the other drivers fault because he carefully looked behind him both directions and no one was there, but then when he backed out he hit her... broadside in the passenger door...and her car is red so he would have totally seen her if she had been there when he looked. Not really a request or demand unless you count he is demanding his insurance co believes his version. I wish my car came with a cloaking device. I always wonder who manufactures these cars that "come out of nowhere."

If you work in Seattle, I might know who your CW hit...
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: VorFemme on October 17, 2012, 10:43:33 PM
I was a witness for a guy who made a left turn into the left lane (I was right behind him) only to have someone make a right turn out of a parking lot into the right lane (more or less next to him) and then try to get into the left lane THROUGH his big pickup (Ute, to those in Oz) to get into the left turn lane to go into another parking lot barely a half block down the road (and the car more or less bounced off the side of the pick up twice because the 70+ year old driver insisted that the pickup sped up and "came out of nowhere").

I talked to the police officer AFTER he took the accident report from the other two - and I got a phone call from the pickup driver - the elderly gentleman got the ticket (and he was the one trying to cross a five lane street ALMOST at a diagonal to get from parking lot A to parking lot B in the shortest amount of space & time).  So - the correct person got cited - based on what I saw (and I was a trained insurance adjuster, at the time...well, in training, anyway)......
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: kkl123 on October 18, 2012, 12:13:45 AM
Friend is a computer geek for a bi-coastal company; boss is an engineer (???).  Boss decreed that all of certain computer stuff be handled by computers on the other coast; friend pointed out that the lag time for this would basically shut down research on this coast -- electrons move at the speed of light, but even that's sluggish over large distances.  Boss's solution?  Friend should build a booster machine to speed up the speed of light.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: starry diadem on October 18, 2012, 01:29:00 AM
Friend is a computer geek for a bi-coastal company; boss is an engineer (???).  Boss decreed that all of certain computer stuff be handled by computers on the other coast; friend pointed out that the lag time for this would basically shut down research on this coast -- electrons move at the speed of light, but even that's sluggish over large distances.  Boss's solution?  Friend should build a booster machine to speed up the speed of light.

Yes, I get that Boss's suggestion is beyond absurd, but that's hurting my brain.  The speed of light is something like 186,282 miles a second and it's a constant - it can't be sluggish or faster: it just *is* - in a vacuum, at least.  What's the coast to coast distance in the US?  2,000 miles? 3,000?  There is no lag time.  In light speed times, there is no distance to lag over, it's so infinitesimally small.  Whatever IT network bottleneck is causing the lag, I'm having difficulty seeing that it's so monumental that it can affect light speed.

I must be missing something here.   It's a long time since I studied science...

Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Slartibartfast on October 18, 2012, 02:06:03 AM
There is a noticeable delay, though, depending on how much data you're sending and how far it has to go.  People who play multiplayer online games like World of Warcraft are familiar with "ping times" - how long it takes a piece of data to get from your computer to the server and back.  A good connection with a nearby server might be under ten milliseconds, while a connection across the ocean may be a few thousand.  In gaming, that makes the difference between being able to duck and literally not being able to see the giant fireball until it's too late because you computer didn't know it was there yet  :-\  If the data being sent was particularly complex, and/or there was a lot of back-and-forth, the difference wiuld be noticeable.

(The culprit isn't the speed of light - it's the patchy nature of the internet.  Fiberoptic lines do run at the speed of light, but fiberoptic cable is far from universal!)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: starry diadem on October 18, 2012, 04:09:57 AM
There is a noticeable delay, though, depending on how much data you're sending and how far it has to go.  People who play multiplayer online games like World of Warcraft are familiar with "ping times" - how long it takes a piece of data to get from your computer to the server and back.  A good connection with a nearby server might be under ten milliseconds, while a connection across the ocean may be a few thousand.  In gaming, that makes the difference between being able to duck and literally not being able to see the giant fireball until it's too late because you computer didn't know it was there yet  :-\  If the data being sent was particularly complex, and/or there was a lot of back-and-forth, the difference wiuld be noticeable.

(The culprit isn't the speed of light - it's the patchy nature of the internet.  Fiberoptic lines do run at the speed of light, but fiberoptic cable is far from universal!)

Yes, that was really my point.  Whatever the problem is with data transmission over the net or over closed corporate networks, the culprit isn't the speed of light which really doesn't have any sort of lag.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: siamesecat2965 on October 18, 2012, 08:37:52 AM
Co-irker has upped the entertainment factor today by talking to his auto insurance company because, allegedly, he backed into someone in a parking lot, but it was totally the other drivers fault because he carefully looked behind him both directions and no one was there, but then when he backed out he hit her... broadside in the passenger door...and her car is red so he would have totally seen her if she had been there when he looked. Not really a request or demand unless you count he is demanding his insurance co believes his version. I wish my car came with a cloaking device. I always wonder who manufactures these cars that "come out of nowhere."

I swear he and Useless are related.  Useless is also the keeper, appointment maker, and all around boss of his entire family. I donít know how any of them can even use the bathroom alone!  One memorable incident, which I may have recounted elsewhere before, has to do with his son, who is in his second year of college, and a friendís Macbook. Son apparently spilled some liquid, most likely by accident, on a friendís Macbook. Friend takes it to the Apple store, and it will cost about $800 to fix. I donít know if he had any kind of protection plan or not, but son calls Useless and Useless gets busy trying to find a ďsolutionĒ that doesnít involve son taking any responsibility for his actions, or any money coming out of Uselessí or sonís pocket.

Useless first calls Apple CS, and I think gets nowhere.  His argument is that a. it shouldnít cost THAT much to fix a laptop. Mind you, we are in NJ and son is in MI, so he has no idea whatís wrong with it. and b. they have spent sooooo much money with Apple canít they do something or give him some kind of break. CS tells Useless he must speak directly to the store manager where the laptop was taken. Again, since Useless doesnít actually share, I only heard his side of things, but apparently the store manager, I guess after one or two go arounds with him, refused to take Uselessí calls anymore.  I canít say that I blame him.  Son caused damage to friendís laptop, he should have to pay for it. end of story.  If there was some kind of protection plan, he should pay whatever cost is involved, if not, he should pay the full cost of the repair.  Sadly, I donít know the final outcome but Iím guess since the manager wanted nothing to do with him, they didnít budge.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Virg on October 18, 2012, 10:06:01 AM
starry diadem wrote:

"Whatever the problem is with data transmission over the net or over closed corporate networks, the culprit isn't the speed of light which really doesn't have any sort of lag."

There's lag over distance even in a fully switched network.  The speed of light travel time over 3000 miles works out to about ten milliseconds, and that can turn noticeable if the data you're sending is very fragmented.  It doesn't make the boss's request any less ridiculous, but it does happen.

Virg
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: LazyDaisy on October 18, 2012, 10:34:23 AM
Co-irker has upped the entertainment factor today by talking to his auto insurance company because, allegedly, he backed into someone in a parking lot, but it was totally the other drivers fault because he carefully looked behind him both directions and no one was there, but then when he backed out he hit her... broadside in the passenger door...and her car is red so he would have totally seen her if she had been there when he looked. Not really a request or demand unless you count he is demanding his insurance co believes his version. I wish my car came with a cloaking device. I always wonder who manufactures these cars that "come out of nowhere."

If you work in Seattle, I might know who your CW hit...
sadly no -- Los Angeles area. Those darn invisible cars are everywhere... ::)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: gingerzing on October 18, 2012, 11:01:43 AM
One of the ad agencies that we work with emailed and asked me for high res images of two pictures on one of our websites.  Unfortunately, only one had a high res image. 
Here's the kicker, the reason that I have these particular images is because this same agency sends me the images for this particular site.  And I have complained for a few years that I need high res images to get them on the site.  (Which they only send to me about 2/3 of the time)


Yes,  so not only is it their fault for me not having a high res image of the picture, but they are the ones who originally gave me the dang images to work with in the first place.   (Yeah, really not sure how that one works out)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Acadianna on October 18, 2012, 07:32:58 PM
Here's my favorite.  This happened years ago, when Texas still used the TAKS test as the annual state assessment.  Students in special education often have "accomodations" during the tests for various reasons.  One accomodation, for the writing test, consists of having a teacher transcribe a student's essay (usually because of handwriting/fine motor issues).

One of my students had the "transcribe" accomodation, so I carefully read the instructions -- which directed me to transcribe the essay "without reading it."

Now it may be that others have the ability to disengage their brains so as not to process whatever text they're copying, but mine has never managed to work that way!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Kaypeep on October 18, 2012, 08:23:29 PM
Our company works with an outside agency that handles creative projects for us.  They work on a daily basis with 5 of us, and outside of our normal monthly projects they often get special projects thrown at them at the last minute.  They are miracle workers handling such a workload and never missing a deadline.  They are also saints for putting up with my SS co-worker, Stan.  Stan often works from home and takes off a lot of religious holidays. So in one week he may be in on Monday, out of Tuesday, working from home on Wednesday, etc... Basically, he's all over the place.  He keeps giving explicit instructions to the agency to NOT send him ANY emails while he's out of the office.  He wants them to hold his emails and send them when he's working again.

This makes NO sense.  Not only is it unreasonable to expect them to hold emails for him when they are juggling upwards of 20 projects at a time, what difference does it make when they are sent?  If he's back in on Thursday, that's when he can reply.  Doesn't matter if it was sent Tuesday night or Thursday morning!  PLUS, why should the agency have to also track what days he's in the office or not? 

I've heard him call them to complain, and my friend who works at the agency has told me his request drives them up the wall.  I've told them to contact our director about it because he's out of line with this, PLUS he berates the rep and yells at her for sending emails when he tells them not to.  Sorry, but the request is unreasonable and there's absolutely no negative consequence, it's just his personal preference.  Let him use OUTLOOK to manage his emails, not make 4 people at the agency manage it themselves.  It's insane!!!!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Pippen on October 18, 2012, 08:46:54 PM
I'll say! What is wrong with him? Someone needs to be sitting him down and telling him to pull his head in.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Viscountess on October 18, 2012, 11:22:27 PM
I had a parent completely lose it on myself and a coworker because Mandarin club was cancelled that day.  The school I work at offers Mandarin club every Monday, but it was cancelled that week because the club leader had a family emergency.  The parent demanded that we call the club leader and force him to return so his daughter could attend the club.  Club Leader was 7 hours away and tending to his mother who was just in a horrible car crash; he wanted us to somehow drag him back to lead an hour long club.  Yeah, didn't happen.  When that plan obviously failed, he said one of us should take over and run the club.  No one else on staff knew Mandarin.  His daughter knew more Mandarin than we did.  Basically, he expected us to spend 5 minutes learning an entirely new language off google translator and know enough to teach a club that has been studying said language for almost 3 months.  Needless to say, no Mandarin club that week. 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: cabbageweevil on October 19, 2012, 02:22:26 AM
O/T; but, from Lady Stein's "Mandarin" story, and Chinese taught by people with no knowledge of it -- a World War II prisoner-of-war tale. Happened in an officers' POW camp in Germany. One of the miseries of that situation, for many, was prolonged acute boredom: per the Geneva Convention, it was not allowed to put officer POWs to work.  Prisoners turned eagerly to learning and teaching all manner of subjects, to give themselves something to do.

A British prisoner -- to alleviate boredom and maybe have a bit of fun -- came up with a prank: he'd offer to teach Chinese, though in fact he knew not a word of the language. He got one "customer", a Polish fellow-prisoner. Basically, the British guy made up words which he thought were sort-of Chinese-sounding; and based the grammar on his memories of Latin from his schooldays, plus some made-up refinements of his own.

All went well at first; but the Pole rapidly turned out to have a formidable talent for languages, and to be a very quick learner. The Brit found himself increasingly run ragged in inventing, and remembering, more and more nonsense "Chinese", to keep just ahead of his frighteningly talented and eager pupil. In the end, it became altogether too much for the "teacher"; he spent many weeks desperately trying, in the confined space which they were in, to avoid the pupil.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: artk2002 on October 19, 2012, 10:30:52 AM
This makes NO sense.  Not only is it unreasonable to expect them to hold emails for him when they are juggling upwards of 20 projects at a time, what difference does it make when they are sent?  If he's back in on Thursday, that's when he can reply.  Doesn't matter if it was sent Tuesday night or Thursday morning!  PLUS, why should the agency have to also track what days he's in the office or not? 

Makes perfect sense to me, as long as you think like an SS. It gives him "plausible deniability" when someone complains about his not getting things done. "I replied as soon as I got the e-mail" can be his excuse. If the agency sends an e-mail while he's out, he has to admit that he wasn't working and his taking the time off is what is delaying things. He's trying to shift the burden of any delay onto the agency, rather than accepting it where it belongs -- on himself.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 19, 2012, 10:35:44 PM
I stopped doing cross-stitch a while ago (don't seem to have the time anymore).  But when I did, friends and family frequently asked 'Is that for me?" when they saw me making something.  Without any hint of the project being for them, they were basically just asking for the item in my hands.  And when I said no, that I had other plans for it, they got really huffy.   "Well, when ARE you going to make me something?"

It got pretty annoying.
I'm sure it would be very annoying, if they meant it!
But this reminded me of a happy family memory. My oldest aunt was making a Cathedral Windows quilt. This involves a lot of handwork, so she was carrying it with her to all the family gatherings. Each of her SILs would joke that she was making it for HER. My aunt would just smile. This went on for a couple of years.
Then, one day, a large box arrived at our house. My mother opened it, and it was the Cathedral Windows quilt. She sat down on the porch steps with the quilt in her lap, and cried.
Mom still uses the quilt on her bed.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: BarensMom on October 20, 2012, 08:16:01 AM
I stopped doing cross-stitch a while ago (don't seem to have the time anymore).  But when I did, friends and family frequently asked 'Is that for me?" when they saw me making something.  Without any hint of the project being for them, they were basically just asking for the item in my hands.  And when I said no, that I had other plans for it, they got really huffy.   "Well, when ARE you going to make me something?"

It got pretty annoying.
I'm sure it would be very annoying, if they meant it!
But this reminded me of a happy family memory. My oldest aunt was making a Cathedral Windows quilt. This involves a lot of handwork, so she was carrying it with her to all the family gatherings. Each of her SILs would joke that she was making it for HER. My aunt would just smile. This went on for a couple of years.
Then, one day, a large box arrived at our house. My mother opened it, and it was the Cathedral Windows quilt. She sat down on the porch steps with the quilt in her lap, and cried.
Mom still uses the quilt on her bed.

What a lovely story.  A word of warning, though:  Make sure that your mom specifies in writing who inherits the quilt.

My grandmother used to quilt by hand.  After she died, my mother took many of the quilts and kept them at her house.  After mom died, my sisters were looking for Grandma's quilts and only found 6-7, when there should have been 20.  Due to my brother's behavior when the remaining quilts were laid out, my sisters suspect that brother, his horrid wife, or his witch of a daughter were coming to Mom's while she was in the hospital and taking them out 1-2 at a time.  I know for a fact that the daughter took at least 3 out of the house before Mom's illness.

Each and every quilt that was laid out, my brother would try to claim as "Mom said (wife or daughter) could have that."  My sisters put a stop to it, saying, "We and our children are just as much entitled to the quilts as your family, so we're taking these."

Neither Brother or his family bother to keep in touch with us anymore.  Wonder why?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 20, 2012, 12:15:58 PM
Barensmom,
I have two sisters. Two of us have no children; the third has kids who aren't particularly interested in decorating with quilts. The three of us have already survived the downsizing from the house where we grew up to a townhouse, and from the townhouse to assisted living, without any quarrels. The closest we came was when one sister and I wanted the embroidered bedspread our GGM had made for our mother when she was a girl, and the handmade items from our grandmother's trousseau. I told my sister I'd be happy with either group, and she should choose which group she wanted. She took the bedspread. And she puts it on my bed whenever I go to visit.
I realize that some families turn nasty, but we've agreed that we're not willing to burn family relationships over things...
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: AmethystAnne on October 20, 2012, 01:27:07 PM
^ ^ ^

Joselyn, you've got a lovely family.

Cathedral windows quilts are beautiful, and mostly hand-stitched.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: camlan on October 20, 2012, 05:19:04 PM
I've seen Cathedral Window quilts and they are beautiful.

I've read the instructions for making them--they are intricate and involve a lot of handsewing. I'd love one, but I don't think I have the patience to make one.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Dazi on October 20, 2012, 08:07:36 PM
The "you stole my chair" reminded me of this gem...

I once worked in an office where my chair was one of those wooden barstools with no back and no cushioning.  It was horrid on a regular basis, but shear agony after I suffered a back injury.  I couldn't get my cheap bacon-fed knave manager to replace it, HR refused to get involved.  I finally got so (Oh, I'm a pottymouth extraordinaire!) fed up, I went and bought my own chair.

My manager threw quite the hissy fit because I now had a nicer chair than him.  He tried swapping them.  I swapped them back and told him he stole my personal property and if he did it again I would file theft charges against him.  He was just astounded that I would be offended that he borrowed my chair.

I actually labeled the underside of the seat with "this chair is the personal property of Dazi, purchased xx/xx/xxxx from Office Depot" and I kept the receipt.  When I left that job, I took my chair with me.  The manager had security stop and demanded that I leave it as it was company property.  Security happily let me leave with my chair when I had them flip the chair to read the quite old label and a copy of the receipt and warranty in my name.  Boy was he livid pissed.

So glad I quit that job.  BTW, this was the same manager that demanded I cut my wedding/honeymoon short.  He was such a wingadingdingy.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 20, 2012, 08:27:30 PM
I've seen Cathedral Window quilts and they are beautiful.

I've read the instructions for making them--they are intricate and involve a lot of handsewing. I'd love one, but I don't think I have the patience to make one.
There are instructions for doing a lot of the work on machine. But turning the windows is pretty much a hand task, which is why Aunt Lula carried it around, in pieces, for a couple of years. ;)
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Luci on October 20, 2012, 09:46:42 PM
The "you stole my chair" reminded me of this gem...

I once worked in an office where my chair was one of those wooden barstools with no back and no cushioning.  It was horrid on a regular basis, but shear agony after I suffered a back injury.  I couldn't get my cheap bacon-fed knave manager to replace it, HR refused to get involved.  I finally got so (Oh, I'm a pottymouth extraordinaire!) fed up, I went and bought my own chair.

My manager threw quite the hissy fit because I now had a nicer chair than him.  He tried swapping them.  I swapped them back and told him he stole my personal property and if he did it again I would file theft charges against him.  He was just astounded that I would be offended that he borrowed my chair.

I actually labeled the underside of the seat with "this chair is the personal property of Dazi, purchased xx/xx/xxxx from Office Depot" and I kept the receipt.  When I left that job, I took my chair with me.  The manager had security stop and demanded that I leave it as it was company property.  Security happily let me leave with my chair when I had them flip the chair to read the quite old label and a copy of the receipt and warranty in my name.  Boy was he livid pissed.

So glad I quit that job.  BTW, this was the same manager that demanded I cut my wedding/honeymoon short.  He was such a wingadingdingy.

Hmmmm. Sounds as if you are still a tad upset about that. I am sure you were gracious and calm and clearly spoken at all the confrontations, and congratulate you on planning ahead and knowing that security would stop you. I hope you are still enjoying that chair as you write to us on eHell!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Minmom3 on October 20, 2012, 09:47:00 PM
I stopped doing cross-stitch a while ago (don't seem to have the time anymore).  But when I did, friends and family frequently asked 'Is that for me?" when they saw me making something.  Without any hint of the project being for them, they were basically just asking for the item in my hands.  And when I said no, that I had other plans for it, they got really huffy.   "Well, when ARE you going to make me something?"

It got pretty annoying.
I'm sure it would be very annoying, if they meant it!
But this reminded me of a happy family memory. My oldest aunt was making a Cathedral Windows quilt. This involves a lot of handwork, so she was carrying it with her to all the family gatherings. Each of her SILs would joke that she was making it for HER. My aunt would just smile. This went on for a couple of years.
Then, one day, a large box arrived at our house. My mother opened it, and it was the Cathedral Windows quilt. She sat down on the porch steps with the quilt in her lap, and cried.
Mom still uses the quilt on her bed.

Was your Mom the ONLY one who didn't pester your Aunt?  Quilts take a Long Time.  I'm on my 3rd baby quilt (much delayed, the little girl turns 4 in January...) for my best friend's daughter.  Daughter has just announced her 5th pregnancy.  Grandma (my best friend) asked me if I would be making a quilt for #4 and #5.  ... ... ...  I reminded her that when I started the quilt for #3, that I said this was the last one, I didn't care how many children her daughter went on to have.  3 baby quilts in one family was my limit.  It's not that her daughter isn't grateful, at all.  She is VERY grateful.  But 3 quilts is enough, it's time for me to make quilts for other people! 
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on October 20, 2012, 10:20:28 PM
This is the story of how I was uninvited from my own trip by a third party.

DH and I go to a tattoo artist about 2 hours away. We are both getting new tattoos, and DH's cousin Billy wants to get one as well. We made an appointment to go see our tattoo guy next month. We asked DH's sister Marie to watch our DS for the day (we will pay her) and I took time off work.

Billy and Marie are close, and apparently Billy told Marie it would be okay if she and DS came along with us. It's completely ridiculous to take a 2-year-old to an all-day tattooing appointment, even if you do have someone there to watch him. And we know that if DH and I are there, Marie won't actually watch DS much at all. There is also a logistics issue, so Marie going was pretty much impossible. [Billy didn't think things through, but he was just clueless.] So DH talked to Marie and explained why it really wouldn't work out. Since she wanted to go along to spend time with DH and Billy, they agreed that they will hang out all together another time. Everything was fine and dandy, until...

DH got a call from Joe, Marie's boyfriend. Joe lit into DH about how it's "just not right" to exclude Marie, how he shouldn't be using her (by paying her $10/hour and a free oil change?), and said that we need to find a way to include her. Remember that this is about logistics as much as the fact that Marie was going to be watching DS.

Finally Joe says, "Well, I'm sure CakeBeret won't mind then." Mind what, you ask? "She'll have to stay home with DS so Marie can go."

Oh no. Oh heck no. This is the trip that *I* planned. The trip that I took time off work for. The trip on which I'm supposed to be getting a tattoo. But Joe thinks I should spend my time off work staying home with DS so Marie can go and hang out. If Marie doesn't want to watch DS, that's fine, we can find another sitter, no problem. But I'm not staying home just so she can go on *my* trip.

DH replied, "You have got to be out of your [expletive] mind." Joe said no he wasn't, it was the only solution. DH hung up on him.

As it turns out, Marie is now furious with Joe for interfering, because she is perfectly fine with not going. She agrees that it's ridiculous to expect me to stay home. So we're proceeding according to plan and everyone except Joe is happy.

Once upon a time, I did end up babysitting someone else's toddler in the parlor while they got inked.  What happened was that DH had entered a chess tourney that took place somewhere in a park in San Diego.  So I wouldn't get bored, he invited some friends along I could hang out with and they brought their cute but very shrieky 2 year old.  We had fun for most of the day, then they decided that since they were in the city (we all lived at Camp Pendleton, about a 1/2hr-45 minute drive north) they'd get their ink worked on.  Since I was riding with them, I kinda ended up stuck sitting for their kid and trying to either settle her down or chase her around the small parlor while her folks got inked or watched each other get inked. 

They also tried to talk me into getting inked. At the time I wasn't interested. Had no design in mind, didn't have the money, and I will admit, was a total chicken about the needle aspect of it.  These "friends" said "Oh just pick something!" I said "No, I want it to mean something."  Finally they gave up, but oh, suddenly sitting and watching chess sounded far more interesting.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Jocelyn on October 20, 2012, 11:01:15 PM


Was your Mom the ONLY one who didn't pester your Aunt?   
No, Mom and all the aunts were a part of the joke. I don't think any of them ever imagined that my aunt would consider giving the quilt away. My family kids around a lot. It was partially a way of expressing their admiration for the work, and partially a way to tease the other SILs 'She's making it for me, you know.' 'No, she's making it for ME!'
When this aunt married my mother's oldest brother, Mom was still a little girl. She was the only daughter, so they were particularly close. I think that's why Mom got the quilt- my aunt was closer to her than to the other SILs, having known her so much longer.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: twiggy on October 21, 2012, 02:21:30 PM
I remember a story from xh. We had been separated for over a year, but the divorce wasn't final yet because of custody issues. And he was working for his step-father, under the table, so he reported super low income levels to get out of paying child support.

One day he called me and said that his sister was heading over to my place to get my zoo membership card. Not even asking, just telling me that she would be there in about 15 min and needed the card. I, of course, said no. Mind you, we had been separated for over a year now, so my current membership would have been paid for entirely by me. Also, I wasn't even home at the moment. To top it off, members need to present their card and ID so that people don't just hand off their cards to other people to get them into the zoo for free. xh then told me that if I wasn't home, I would have to drive to the zoo (45min away), and give his sister my card and driver's license. Yeah, there's no way that was going to happen.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Snooks on October 21, 2012, 02:39:10 PM
I remember a story from xh. We had been separated for over a year, but the divorce wasn't final yet because of custody issues. And he was working for his step-father, under the table, so he reported super low income levels to get out of paying child support.

One day he called me and said that his sister was heading over to my place to get my zoo membership card. Not even asking, just telling me that she would be there in about 15 min and needed the card. I, of course, said no. Mind you, we had been separated for over a year now, so my current membership would have been paid for entirely by me. Also, I wasn't even home at the moment. To top it off, members need to present their card and ID so that people don't just hand off their cards to other people to get them into the zoo for free. xh then told me that if I wasn't home, I would have to drive to the zoo (45min away), and give his sister my card and driver's license. Yeah, there's no way that was going to happen.

And your face presumably, unless your SIL could pass for you that plan was never going to work!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: twiggy on October 21, 2012, 03:21:54 PM
I remember a story from xh. We had been separated for over a year, but the divorce wasn't final yet because of custody issues. And he was working for his step-father, under the table, so he reported super low income levels to get out of paying child support.

One day he called me and said that his sister was heading over to my place to get my zoo membership card. Not even asking, just telling me that she would be there in about 15 min and needed the card. I, of course, said no. Mind you, we had been separated for over a year now, so my current membership would have been paid for entirely by me. Also, I wasn't even home at the moment. To top it off, members need to present their card and ID so that people don't just hand off their cards to other people to get them into the zoo for free. xh then told me that if I wasn't home, I would have to drive to the zoo (45min away), and give his sister my card and driver's license. Yeah, there's no way that was going to happen.

And your face presumably, unless your SIL could pass for you that plan was never going to work!

XSIL and I look nothing alike. She's a tall Irish redhead with curly hair, freckles, and fair skin. I'm a short Native American with straight, almost black hair and a darker skintone. Not to mention she has a lot more piercings than I. And tattoos, but those wouldn't show in the DL pic
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: nuit93 on October 21, 2012, 05:49:55 PM
I have another one from about a decade ago.  A bit of backstory, my mother's second husband (who technically was my stepfather from the time I was 9 until 19 but he never really deserved the title) had something of a violent temper and was prone to irrational rage.  So, naturally, they divorced (finally).

He had visitation rights with my sister once a week, and part of the agreement was that mom would pick her up afterwards.  I went along because I wasn't working that evening, and due to his behavior on past visits mom had been advised not to pick her up alone--bring a witness.  :o  We got there about five minutes early so we waited in the minivan until it was precisely the time to pick her up, figuring that he'd just use that last five minutes to spend with his child.  Ya know, like rational people would.

Nope--instead he came out raging, yelling about how we were infringing on his rights as a father, assorted insults and four-letter words, you name it.  We had to roll the window up before he could reach in and hurt one of us, and he banged so hard on the window that I thought he'd break it.  He storms back inside, but not before grabbing the antenna of the van and bending it to a 90-degree angle.  We call the police.

He comes out a few moments later telling us that HE had called the police to report this "harassment".  Mom calmly informed him that we had too, and he got a brief look on his face of realization that he might actually be in trouble, so he bent that antenna back.  It's still damaged.


We finally got my sister and headed home, and got an estimate for fixing the antenna of the van.  A week later we get a call from mom's ex-husband.  To this day I remember that conversation.

Him: "Now, *mom's name*, I'm sorry things had to go the way they did, but I can take care of it.  All you need to let me do is take the van-"
Mom: "No.  It's my van, in my name, what makes you think I'd take a vehicle that YOU damaged to take to be fixed?"
Him: "I was TRYING to be nice and helpful about this, but if you're going to be such a c-word (he didn't use the edited version) about this then you can just forget about my help!".

She did eventually get a restraining order against him...which ended up being pointless since the one time he violated it, the cops refused to do anything about it.
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on October 21, 2012, 05:52:26 PM
 :o That's scary!
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: nuit93 on October 21, 2012, 06:08:25 PM
Oh believe me, at the time it all happened (until the cops arrived) I was terrified. 

After he had that conversation with mom, I was so flabbergasted I couldn't help but laugh.  Who even THINKS that could be okay?
Title: Re: Absurd requests/demands
Post by: RegionMom on October 21, 2012, 08:21:22 PM
Update on the black and white suggested dress code for homecoming dance with two weeks notice:

DD and I shopped a bit, but did not find a dress that was not too short (and since she is only 5'2'' you can imagine how short that would be on a taller girl!) so she decided to wear a dress she bought this summer with her grandmother.  It was a beautiful rich color, and she definitely popped.   8)

DS was talked out of going goth by a conservative friend who got a group together for a nice restaurant dinner.

The dance had black lights or something to make the whites glow, but it was only along the floor so some nail polish glowed, and apparently one chaperoning mom's white blouse was startling white...as she went around the edges moving chairs and such.

A good time was had by all, and I saved money!   ;D

(It seems that the student council is almost all guys, and they did not consider shopping time...if next year has a dress theme, I am sure they will be warned ahead of time to give the girls time!)