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Title: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Knitterly on October 23, 2012, 09:58:07 AM
The other thread on trick or treating leads me to a related question, but I don't want to derail that thread. 

Do you think it's rude or weird to take your kid out if they can't actually *say* "trick or treat"?  LK can say "treat", but she doesn't talk to new people as a general rule (I can't even get her to say hello or goodbye).  That said, I never went ToT-ing as a kid, so at 30*cough* this is my very first time ToT-ing, too, and I'm actually really excited to take her out.  But the closer we get to halloween the more I wonder if I really should. 

She will be walking beside me, so I we are only going to do about 5 or 6 houses, since that will take us plenty long enough.  And I'll let her stand with her bag instead of carrying her.  But I'm still a little unsure.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Wittyone on October 23, 2012, 10:00:30 AM
I think it's adorable to see children that small trick or treating.  It wouldn't bother me at all that she didn't say it.  I'd be happy to give her candy just because she came to the door and held up her bag so I could squee at her.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: lowspark on October 23, 2012, 10:02:45 AM
We get itty bitty kids all the time. They are adorable! They don't need to say anything at all, although the parents are usually prompting them and trying to get them to say ToT. Go for it. And take pictures. What's she gonna be?
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: MorgnsGrl on October 23, 2012, 10:06:08 AM
I think it's fine! You could say "trick or treat" for her, and encourage her to try saying it with you, but don't give her a hard time about it. I love little, little kids ToTing, it's adorable. I've also had tiny kids say, "Candy, please!" instead of "Trick or treat!" and it's fine with me.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Thipu1 on October 23, 2012, 10:09:05 AM
No problem with very young children.  There are few things more adorable than a four-year-old Dracula at the door. 

One of the best I remember was a Mom dressed as a flower holding her infant who was dressed as a bee.  It was sweet and hilarious.

You know that the candy will probably be eaten by the parents but, what the hay!  The only person who's not likely to understand what's happening and not enjoy the experience will be the little one. 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: SiotehCat on October 23, 2012, 10:10:07 AM
Saying "trick or treat" is not important to me. If she were there in costume, with a smile, holding out her bag, I would be glad to give her some. I even give to babies in costumes.


If she were standing behind you, being shy and not really enjoying herself, then I would think that you should wait till next year.


How old is she? Is she old enough that you can prepare her? Saying trick or treat is usually not the only thing said. Sometimes, people giving out candy will ask about costumes and say things in that general area. Is that going to be too overwhelming for her?
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: WillyNilly on October 23, 2012, 10:10:57 AM
For me the "appropriate age" for kids ToT'ing is when they can walk not when they will speak "trick or treat" to strangers.  While I like seeing itty bitty babies in silly costumes, I dislike giving then candy since its quite clear I'm giving their fully grown adult parents candy not the kids.  But a little tyke walking and holding a sack?  Bring 'em on!

Of course I do still try to trick them (the cutest thing ever was the look on an about 4 year old's face when I pretended I was going to put my cat in his treat bag "and here's a pet for you!")
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Knitterly on October 23, 2012, 10:17:06 AM
She is 13.5 months and can walk beside me holding my hand.  I don't know whether she will decide to say anything or not.  She *can*, but she might not want to.  She doesn't usually play shy with strangers in general except for the talking thing.  Her costume is just so stinking cute.  I mean, really, really cute!

I love the really young ones that come to my door, too.  I just haven't seen kids under 2 trick or treating unless they are with siblings.

She will get to eat a little of the candy, especially the chocolate.  I have no problem with her having little pieces of chocolate bars or the soft chewy candies.  A chip or two a day is also fine.  It'll be the hard candies she won't be able to do yet.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Jones on October 23, 2012, 10:18:57 AM
My kids would totally take the cat, WillyNilly. I like that idea; maybe I should pretend to hand out my costumed chihuahuas this year  ;D

Last year I walked Jean Bean around the neighborhood, and brought Boo Bear in his stroller; however, Boo was unimpressed and fell asleep. Some parents insisted on giving an extra treat for him "when he wakes up". Others didn't. No biggie. This year I hope to join a group of kids, instead of just my two, and Boo tends to mimic so I am hoping for a few ToTs by the end of the night.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: rashea on October 23, 2012, 10:21:33 AM
I think your plan is perfect. Especially since you're not going to try to take her to 1000 houses. Keeping it with neighbors and friends will help. And if she can say something, that's great, but if not, people will understand and still think she's cute.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: camlan on October 23, 2012, 10:22:42 AM
If she can say "treat" she'll be doing better than a lot of the little ones. And if she gets too shy and just stands there, well, that's what most of the very little kids do. It's never bothered me.

Most of the parents do try to get the kids to say "thank you," but with the tiny ones, it's hit or miss. Usually, the parents will say "thank you" and that's fine. The kids are obviously at the just-starting-to-learn-about-manners stage and I think most people realize that. Perhaps it is because the people who are willing to hand out candy to total strangers are aware that some kids just get shy, and that really little kids are still learning all about TOT.

Five or six houses sounds just about right for a little one. Take her around, let people admire her costume, and then try to get the candy before she eats it all.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: O'Dell on October 23, 2012, 10:24:11 AM
Yes take her. There are some people that don't like very little ones ToTing but then some people don't like ToTing at all and that doesn't stop people. ;)

I'm another one that likes seeing the babies and toddlers all dressed up and wide-eyed at the whole thing.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: magicdomino on October 23, 2012, 10:41:41 AM
I'll give candy to anyone in a costume, regardless of age or speaking ability.  Really good costumes get two. 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Twik on October 23, 2012, 11:39:18 AM
Do you think it's rude or weird to take your kid out if they can't actually *say* "trick or treat"?

Of course not. The cute factor of a baby or toddler in costume is hard to beat.

Goodness knows, saying "Trick or Treat" does not do anything tangible for the candy giver.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Hmmmmm on October 23, 2012, 12:41:37 PM
For me the "appropriate age" for kids ToT'ing is when they can walk not when they will speak "trick or treat" to strangers.  While I like seeing itty bitty babies in silly costumes, I dislike giving then candy since its quite clear I'm giving their fully grown adult parents candy not the kids.  But a little tyke walking and holding a sack?  Bring 'em on!

Of course I do still try to trick them (the cutest thing ever was the look on an about 4 year old's face when I pretended I was going to put my cat in his treat bag "and here's a pet for you!")

I agree with all of this.  I know our neighbors love seeing the little neighbors all dressed up.  I usually have some lollipops for the 3 and under crowd.

But I honestly don't know what I'm supposed to do when an adult comes to my door with a 4 month old and a trick or treat bag.  I have a neighbor who ignores the bag and says "Oh, how sweet.  Thanks for stopping bye so we could enjoy the costume.  Have a great night." and closes the door without offering candy. 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Yvaine on October 23, 2012, 12:44:24 PM
For me the "appropriate age" for kids ToT'ing is when they can walk not when they will speak "trick or treat" to strangers.  While I like seeing itty bitty babies in silly costumes, I dislike giving then candy since its quite clear I'm giving their fully grown adult parents candy not the kids.  But a little tyke walking and holding a sack?  Bring 'em on!

Of course I do still try to trick them (the cutest thing ever was the look on an about 4 year old's face when I pretended I was going to put my cat in his treat bag "and here's a pet for you!")

I agree with all of this.  I know our neighbors love seeing the little neighbors all dressed up.  I usually have some lollipops for the 3 and under crowd.

But I honestly don't know what I'm supposed to do when an adult comes to my door with a 4 month old and a trick or treat bag.  I have a neighbor who ignores the bag and says "Oh, how sweet.  Thanks for stopping bye so we could enjoy the costume.  Have a great night." and closes the door without offering candy.

I guess I just don't diswant--to coin a term--an adult getting "undeserved" candy enough to do this. They're being festive, and heck, I'm an adult and I'm going to eat some of it too.  ;D
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Hmmmmm on October 23, 2012, 01:06:02 PM
For me the "appropriate age" for kids ToT'ing is when they can walk not when they will speak "trick or treat" to strangers.  While I like seeing itty bitty babies in silly costumes, I dislike giving then candy since its quite clear I'm giving their fully grown adult parents candy not the kids.  But a little tyke walking and holding a sack?  Bring 'em on!

Of course I do still try to trick them (the cutest thing ever was the look on an about 4 year old's face when I pretended I was going to put my cat in his treat bag "and here's a pet for you!")

I agree with all of this.  I know our neighbors love seeing the little neighbors all dressed up.  I usually have some lollipops for the 3 and under crowd.

But I honestly don't know what I'm supposed to do when an adult comes to my door with a 4 month old and a trick or treat bag.  I have a neighbor who ignores the bag and says "Oh, how sweet.  Thanks for stopping bye so we could enjoy the costume.  Have a great night." and closes the door without offering candy.

I guess I just don't diswant--to coin a term--an adult getting "undeserved" candy enough to do this. They're being festive, and heck, I'm an adult and I'm going to eat some of it too.  ;D

I think we are a little jaded.  We lived on a street that attracted car loads of people driving over from other neighborhoods.  One year we went through 5 of the 90 ct airheads in less than 3 hours giving out one piece each.  So yeah having a 20 something guy or girl standing there with a huge bag of candy that you know is not for the 4 month old make me go "Really?" And of course another man just ticked me off when I heard him say he goes out and collects the candy from neighbors and then uses it to hand out to the trick or treaters coming to his house. 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Sharnita on October 23, 2012, 01:08:14 PM
If I knew there were little ones in the neighborhood who I suspected were too young for "real" candy I might get some bags of teddy grams or animal crackers.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: lowspark on October 23, 2012, 01:12:53 PM
I'm guessing that when a parent tours the neighborhood on Halloween with their too-young-to-eat-candy infant, it's not to garner a bunch of free sweets, but because they are so excited about the idea of taking the tot trick-or-treating and they to show off how cute their baby is. I think collecting candy is just so much a part of the ritual that it would be weird or at least cumbersome to knock on people's door and then say, "I just wanted everyone to see little Johnny dressed up in his adorable costume but don't really want any candy."

I don't know about other families, but when my kids were of the right age for ToTing, they still didn't eat all that candy. I ate a little, they ate a bunch, and the rest went with me to work* to get it out of the house. They used to collect a ton of the stuff and we sure didn't need to eat all of it.

So I never fool myself that the candy I deposit in each kid's bag will be exclusively for that child. Some may disagree with me but in my experience, trick-or-treating is way more about the fun of the costume and knocking on doors and having people drop tidbits into your bag as payment for bleating "trick or treat!". The candy is a secondary by-product of the fun.

So yeah, I really have no problem handing out the treats to whomever knocks on the door, whether it's the parents of a 4 month old or a 16 year old who is outside the accepted norm of trick-or-treating age.

*ETA: ...went with me to work where I put it in the kitchen for my co-workers to eat. Which they did. Very quickly. Reading over what I'd originally written it could have been interpreted as me keeping the stuff at my desk and munching on it while I deprived my offspring from enjoying it. I just wanted someone else, anyone else, aside from us to eat the bulk of it.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Jules1980 on October 23, 2012, 01:33:04 PM
I admit, I took BabyJ TorTing at just 2 and half months old.  It was just to some friends and family, not a neighborhood tour or anything.  And it was totally to just show off my adorable little baby in her bunny suit.  The costume cost around 19 dollars (and made a great wintertime sleeper after Halloween).  A bag of candy would have cost around 3 dollars and had more candy in it than she got from TorTing.  I think most parents with a little bitty one feel the same way.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: O'Dell on October 23, 2012, 01:50:38 PM
Eh...I give candy to everyone...itty bitty to adult. For one thing, I don't want candy lingering around. I'll just eat it.   :-[

And for another, the teen pregnancy rate here is so high, I can't be sure that some of the mom's with infants have aged out of trick-or-treating themselves.  :-\ And it's a small price to pay to see the little cuties dressed up.

And finally, if an adult is so desperate for sugar that they "beg" for candy from strangers, who an I to begrudge them that? One year, I noticed one particularly tall ToT'er. He towered over the others in his group and he wasn't even standing on my steps with them! I said "Oh you're a big trick-or-treater" with wink thinking he was maybe an older teen after a growth spurt. He said "yeah. this is my last year. I'm 21." The laugh I got from that was totally worth the candy he got. :P
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Jules1980 on October 23, 2012, 02:37:06 PM
I love to see anyone in costumes.  I didn't like it when I lived in the city and had gangs of teens with no costumes coming to the door at 10 at night, but if you put on a costume or paint your face or make some effort, you are going to get candy from me.  I don't care if its an itty bitty or blue haired granny or anyone in between.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Tabby Uprising on October 23, 2012, 09:29:49 PM
I am the Candy Queen! I love Halloween and I'm stockpiling goodies in giddy anticipation of the big night.  All ages welcome at my house - and thanks for the animal cracker tip e-hellions, might be a good idea to throw some of those into my cauldron of chocolate.

Knitterly, I have a son just a bit younger than your DD.  He's not much of a talker, but he's got the walking thing down pat.  DH and I were wondering about whether or not we'd ToT with him this year.  On the one hand, he can't have the candy, but on the other hand, we are new to the neighborhood and thought it could be a nice way to introduce ourselves.  We'd only do 5-6 houses like you were thinking of doing.

Our current idea though, is that we will all be outside (until Baby Upstarts bedtime) handing out candy.  He can toddle around in his costume and gape at the other costumed kids parading through the streets.  He's also in that phase where he loves dropping items into buckets so maybe he can actually help pass out candy  ;D
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: KenveeB on October 23, 2012, 10:22:21 PM
Anyone who shows up to my door in costume gets candy. Awesome costumes get more candy, proportional to how awesome they are. :)  I don't care if they're big enough to walk or say "trick or treat." Bring on the adorable baby costumes!
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: camlan on October 24, 2012, 08:45:55 AM
I admit, I took BabyJ TorTing at just 2 and half months old.  It was just to some friends and family, not a neighborhood tour or anything.  And it was totally to just show off my adorable little baby in her bunny suit.  The costume cost around 19 dollars (and made a great wintertime sleeper after Halloween).  A bag of candy would have cost around 3 dollars and had more candy in it than she got from TorTing.  I think most parents with a little bitty one feel the same way.

This happens in my neighborhood. The woman across the street brought over her 3 month old, just to show off the costume. And she was a very cute lady bug. I think they visited 3 or 4 other houses, where the homeowners know the parents and child.

Or I've seen tiny babies dressed up when the parents are taking around their older siblings. In both cases, the babies don't have treat bags.  There's one family I see every year, where the parents dress up like garden gnomes. Last year, they had a new baby and dressed her up like a little flower. Neither parents or baby came up the porch stairs to collect candy. They did have to put up with a lot of "Ooohs" and "Aaaaahs," though. That baby was really very cute.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: HermioneGranger on October 24, 2012, 09:11:37 AM
We don't believe in trick or treating until you're old enough to eat the candy.  So, we're not taking the baby out this year.  Maybe next year. 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: TootsNYC on October 24, 2012, 09:14:30 AM


If she were standing behind you, being shy and not really enjoying herself, then I would think that you should wait till next year.


If I thought you should wait until next year, it wouldn't be because *I* was upset or that I thought you were outside the bounds of etiquette.

It would be because I would feel a little sorry for your unhappy kid, and for you, that it wasn't as rewarding an experience.

HOWEVER, I know enough about kids now to know that she could act shy and SEEM to not enjoy herself, and then three days later to chatter about it so happily.

So I don't care how old they are. Part of trick-or-treating is for me. For ME to get to see the kids who live near me, no matter how shy they are. And if they hide behind Mom or Dad at my house, *I* still get to say hello to Mom & Dad, and I get to say hello to *them*, and admire their costume, and give them candy. And in 3 months, when I wave to them outside, they might suddenly remember that I was that nice lady from Halloween, and wave back!!

Or, even if I never see them again until next Halloween, they might be braver, or might remember me, or *I* might remember them. Or even if I never see them again, wherever they DO go for trick-or-treating next year, this year's experience will be part of the continuity the kid is building.

Trick-or-treating, to me, is about building community. And my "community" includes shy or nonverbal children.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on October 24, 2012, 09:25:38 AM
I'm planning on taking PirateBabe ToT'ing this year, but not to many houses.   Hopefully DH will be home in a reasonable amount of time so that, if he gets tired I can just drop him off with DH while I take the other two back out.   

He can walk, just not far, so I'm going to push him in the stroller between houses, then let him walk up to doors. 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: snowdragon on October 24, 2012, 12:23:36 PM
 I think part of the ritual is the trick or treat saying, that said, if the parent, another child or anyone says it for the kid whose too young, all's good with me.
my favorite pai was the teen aged boy who took out his sister with Down Syndrome - who said "She doesn't talk to say "Trick or Treat", so can I?"  He not only said it for her, he sang the whole "trick or treat" rhyme. He was adorable, she was beaming, I gave the two of them most of what was in my bowl and told him he was my new hero. :)
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: kareng57 on October 25, 2012, 10:25:52 PM
For me the "appropriate age" for kids ToT'ing is when they can walk not when they will speak "trick or treat" to strangers.  While I like seeing itty bitty babies in silly costumes, I dislike giving then candy since its quite clear I'm giving their fully grown adult parents candy not the kids.  But a little tyke walking and holding a sack?  Bring 'em on!

Of course I do still try to trick them (the cutest thing ever was the look on an about 4 year old's face when I pretended I was going to put my cat in his treat bag "and here's a pet for you!")

I agree with all of this.  I know our neighbors love seeing the little neighbors all dressed up.  I usually have some lollipops for the 3 and under crowd.

But I honestly don't know what I'm supposed to do when an adult comes to my door with a 4 month old and a trick or treat bag.  I have a neighbor who ignores the bag and says "Oh, how sweet.  Thanks for stopping bye so we could enjoy the costume.  Have a great night." and closes the door without offering candy.


I think your neighbour is just fine.  A baby this young is obviously not going to be eating any treats, and many people consider Halloween treats to be for children, not adults.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: HermioneGranger on October 26, 2012, 08:46:17 AM
For me the "appropriate age" for kids ToT'ing is when they can walk not when they will speak "trick or treat" to strangers.  While I like seeing itty bitty babies in silly costumes, I dislike giving then candy since its quite clear I'm giving their fully grown adult parents candy not the kids.  But a little tyke walking and holding a sack?  Bring 'em on!

Of course I do still try to trick them (the cutest thing ever was the look on an about 4 year old's face when I pretended I was going to put my cat in his treat bag "and here's a pet for you!")

I agree with all of this.  I know our neighbors love seeing the little neighbors all dressed up.  I usually have some lollipops for the 3 and under crowd.

But I honestly don't know what I'm supposed to do when an adult comes to my door with a 4 month old and a trick or treat bag.  I have a neighbor who ignores the bag and says "Oh, how sweet.  Thanks for stopping bye so we could enjoy the costume.  Have a great night." and closes the door without offering candy.


I think your neighbour is just fine.  A baby this young is obviously not going to be eating any treats, and many people consider Halloween treats to be for children, not adults.

We have a neighbor that expected candy a few years ago for their infant twins.  Who had no teeth yet.  I would have loved to say that, but it would have started a war.  We just chalked it up as yet another example of their entitlement. 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Jones on October 26, 2012, 08:53:25 AM
Lollypops are a great teether...gush about it while giving out the Dum Dums.

The parents will be grateful as their children happily suck the candy through the pain.

Then the fun begins as the sugar hyped younglings race about all night.  >:D
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Yvaine on October 26, 2012, 09:31:52 AM
He not only said it for her, he sang the whole "trick or treat" rhyme.

There's a rhyme? Is this the one with "smell my feet, give me something good to eat"? If not, then I've never even heard of it!  ;D
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: snowdragon on October 26, 2012, 10:44:51 AM
He not only said it for her, he sang the whole "trick or treat" rhyme.

There's a rhyme? Is this the one with "smell my feet, give me something good to eat"? If not, then I've never even heard of it!  ;D

That's the one.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Outdoor Girl on October 26, 2012, 10:54:38 AM
I get the biggest kick out of the little ones, whether or not they say trick or treat.  I have no problem handing over candy to the adult who brought their adorable 6 month old in costume for me to see, whether or not the adult was in costume.

Your plan to only go to 5 or 6 houses, mainly just to show off how cute she is?  Totally fine.  Doing a complete tour of the neighbourhood,  collecting 3 bags of candy that she won't eat on her own?  Not so much.  I had one women, no costume, going around with two bags one year, collecting candy 'for her twins who were home sick'.  I normally give out two or three of the snack sized chocolate bars or candies.  I put one in each bag so I didn't have to argue with her and sent her on her way.  Even if her story was true, seriously?  Buy them their own candy.  The whole point is so that I get to reward the kids for showing me their costumes.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on October 27, 2012, 04:36:35 PM
I love to dress up to take the boys out ToT'ing. I don't expect candy, though I have had it offered to me.  Sometimes I accept, sometimes I don't, depending on how desperate I am for chocolate.  LOL. 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: pearls n purls on October 27, 2012, 05:16:19 PM
I also love to see the little ones dressed up.

You might want to have her "practice" before you go out.  Last Halloween, a tiny boy walked right in when I opened the door.  I'm sure he's not used to just standing on the doorstep after ringing the bell.

Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Outdoor Girl on October 27, 2012, 05:17:32 PM
I also love to see the little ones dressed up.

You might want to have her "practice" before you go out.  Last Halloween, a tiny boy walked right in when I opened the door.  I'm sure he's not used to just standing on the doorstep after ringing the bell.

That's hilarious!
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Green Bean on October 28, 2012, 12:35:33 AM
I, too, love to see the little ones in their itty bitty costumes. Cool homemade ones and little people are the fun ones.
I took my older daughter our her first Halloween at just 6 weeks, to just a few friendly neighbors. I didn't expect candy and probably didn't even have a bag. Some offered candy, though.

As I think about it further, though, it's never too early to take a child that will enjoy it. A few years ago I decorated my 39 wk belly as a pumpkin while I took the older one ToT. You'd be surprised how many people offered me candy for "coming in costume".
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: ClaireC79 on October 28, 2012, 04:24:24 AM
I loved a photo I saw recently, a woman had a baby in a black baby carrier on her front - she'd stuck legs to the carrier and wore a white dress with black lines on it - the baby was the spider and she was his web
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Knitterly on October 28, 2012, 10:16:37 AM
I loved a photo I saw recently, a woman had a baby in a black baby carrier on her front - she'd stuck legs to the carrier and wore a white dress with black lines on it - the baby was the spider and she was his web

That's exactly what LK and I did last year while we handed out candy at the door.  I also painted additional spiderweb lines on my face and put little spiders in my hair.  It was great!   ;D 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Peregrine on October 29, 2012, 06:47:38 PM
Heck, I took my little guy trick or treating to the two neighbors last year, he was a nine month old viking....complete with horns and a dagger that he was happily teething on.  I let him have a kit kat bar for his halloween treat which he enjoyed with complete abandon....so it's not out of the realm of reason that a little one will eat the candy.  I just let him have a piece every couple of days, and since we only went to two houses there wasn't much to eat.

He is 22 months old for this Halloween and while my little Steampunk toddler can walk up and down steps by himself and press doorbells he genuinely is unable to speak intelligably beyond Mama, Dada, Kitty, Doggy and Ducky.....So no "Trick or Treats" from him.  I just happen to think he is the cutest thing ever in his little ascot and tophat complete with home made goggles and I like to show him off....He's a total flirt and will wave to everyone and dispense the biggest grin.  I don't really think I'm doing anything wrong by taking him out.  I will, of course, thank everyone on his behalf and have him wave.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Knitterly on October 31, 2012, 09:36:05 PM
So we did take her out and ended up doing way more houses than we expected to.  She really got into it - although a few times she thought we were actually going to visit people and tried going into their homes.

Pretty much everyone thought she was adorable and I now know a few neighbours on a first name basis that I did not know before.

I'm really glad I did it.  A lot of the neighbours seemed to anticipate the smaller kids and had a separate batch of treats appropriate for littler kids (things like welchs fruit snacks - which she LOVES - and juice boxes).  Someone even had mum-mum (http://www.mummums.com/) snacks for the babies, so obviously they seemed to expect it.  I loved that idea so much that I've tucked it away in my mind for next year.

We tried doing an indoor trick or treat thing at the mall, but that didn't work out.  It was supposed to run from 5pm-7pm for children up to 10 years old.  Unfortunately, according to several store employees, kids started trick or treating there at 4pm and they felt obliged to hand out candy.  So when we got there at 5:10pm, almost every store was all out of candy.  Very disappointing.  Too many screaming and badly behaved (older) kids there, too.  :(

The neighbourhood thing was lots of fun, in spite of the rain.  I found that most of the other kids on the street were well-behaved and considerate of the smaller ones. 

It was my own first time trick or treating, too.  Very fun!! :)
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: NyaChan on November 01, 2012, 08:00:33 AM
My mom loves the little trick or treaters, especially since the older kids (13+ ish) have that air of being over it.  I called last night and she was telling me that the little ones are always so appreciative and surprised that people will give them candy, but the older ones often just expect it as their due for showing up.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Jones on November 01, 2012, 08:22:10 AM
Boo Bear was so excited....one of the neighbors gave him a rubber ducky in lieu of candy.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: O'Dell on November 01, 2012, 10:14:24 AM
So we did take her out and ended up doing way more houses than we expected to.  She really got into it - although a few times she thought we were actually going to visit people and tried going into their homes.


One little guy did that at my house. hehe

My second trick-or-treater was a little girl...maybe 2.5 or 3yo?...with a manic gleam in her eye. She was too excited say anything. She was my favorite of the night.

My second favorite was a teen. I put candy in his friends bags but he held out his hand and I didn't see a bag. As I put candy in his hand I asked him if he was eating all his candy as he went along. He had a system: put the candy in his pockets, when his pockets were full empty his pockets into his backpack. I guess he thought he was going to look cool by keeping his hands free while he swaggered along...Trick-or-treating.  ???  ;D
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: AngelicGamer on November 01, 2012, 11:08:12 AM
I'm glad you took her out.  I saw a lot of little kids in pumpkins last night - it's cold here, so it was to keep them warm.  Also there was a Mario family out last night - mom and dad were Mario and Peach, two of the kids were Luigi and Wario, and the baby in the stroller was a Koopa.  Reason for Luigi instead of the Wario counterpart - "I don't like that game!" before running off into the afternoon. 

I do think my favorites were the group of teens, dressed normally but for the zombie make-up.  I opened the door to give candy and they all went "braiiiins" at the same time.  After a moment, one of them said "or candy".  They got extra candy for that.  :D
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Outdoor Girl on November 01, 2012, 11:10:59 AM
I do think my favorites were the group of teens, dressed normally but for the zombie make-up.  I opened the door to give candy and they all went "braiiiins" at the same time.  After a moment, one of them said "or candy".  They got extra candy for that.  :D

I sometimes get annoyed at teenagers continuing to go out ToT but this^?  I'd get a kick out of it.  They used some creativity about it!

I had a few teenaged boys who threw on some dark clothes and a mask and that was it.  C'mon, dude!  Put a little effort into it.
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: CluelessBride on November 01, 2012, 12:19:39 PM
I do think my favorites were the group of teens, dressed normally but for the zombie make-up.  I opened the door to give candy and they all went "braiiiins" at the same time.  After a moment, one of them said "or candy".  They got extra candy for that.  :D

I sometimes get annoyed at teenagers continuing to go out ToT but this^?  I'd get a kick out of it.  They used some creativity about it!

I had a few teenaged boys who threw on some dark clothes and a mask and that was it.  C'mon, dude!  Put a little effort into it.

At least they were teenagers.  We had a man show up covered in a black sheet and a full facial mask.  He walked hunched over, but you could tell he was tall so I assumed it was a teenager.  Until he reached out his hand for candy.  I know it's difficult to tell age by looking only at hands, but the man's hands looked more like my grandfather's (80)  than my father's (54).  No way he was under 40, and he was quite likely a senior citizen.  He was trick-or-treating with a similarly dressed girl/woman, but she was wearing gloves so I couldn't get a read on her age - but she was "adult" sized (so not like a small child).  I suppose he could have been accompanying his teenage daughter trick-or-treating, but I thought it was a bit weird he expected candy.  And I'm suspicious that the woman was his age.

If an older couple showed up decked out creatively for Halloween, I'd find it hysterical. But attempting to conceal your age with a sheet and a boring mask just seems to scream "I think I deserve free candy - give it to me!". 

Not that it matters - no clue who they are and the both got candy.  :P
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: AngelicGamer on November 01, 2012, 04:45:58 PM
I do think my favorites were the group of teens, dressed normally but for the zombie make-up.  I opened the door to give candy and they all went "braiiiins" at the same time.  After a moment, one of them said "or candy".  They got extra candy for that.  :D

I sometimes get annoyed at teenagers continuing to go out ToT but this^?  I'd get a kick out of it.  They used some creativity about it!

I had a few teenaged boys who threw on some dark clothes and a mask and that was it.  C'mon, dude!  Put a little effort into it.

Yeah - the teenagers in the area put a lot of effort into costumes this year.  They were the best of the lot.  There was one that scared me because he hadn't knocked when I saw him and he was dressed all in black but the white ski mask.  He apologized and hit something inside his costume that made him light up so people driving could see him. 

So yes, I was extremely happy with all of them.  :) 
Title: Re: s/o Trick or treating
Post by: Marisol on November 02, 2012, 04:21:16 PM
I'm okay with teens and babies trick or treating so long as everyone is in costume.  I don't overly like it when a family comes up and mom, dad, and three kids all collect candy for their five buckets.  That seems a bit "grabby".  Especially when I know they never pass out candy (they live across the street).  If childless adults come up I don't mind giving out candy if they are in costume and say "trick or treat".  I hate that in my area kids (who are old enough) have forgotten to say those words.  So few actually say trick or treat and that was always a big part of the fun.

 
I had one women, no costume, going around with two bags one year, collecting candy 'for her twins who were home sick'.  I normally give out two or three of the snack sized chocolate bars or candies.  I put one in each bag so I didn't have to argue with her and sent her on her way.  Even if her story was true, seriously?  Buy them their own candy.  The whole point is so that I get to reward the kids for showing me their costumes.

Here I side with the mother (assuming she does have sick kids at home).  Halloween candy can't just be bought.  You have to go door to door to get the crazy variety of stuff that makes up a batch of Halloween candy.  There is no mix you can buy that really simulates the variety you get when trick or treating.  And for that, I totally understand why she would go out for her sick kids instead of buying candy.